ANSWERS: 33
  • We can be friends Mr.BTK! Perhaps you may want to be more friendly to other people and be nice to others as well. Help them out once in a while, and show how compassionate you are.
  • be nice, and most of all, you have to be outgoing and try not to be shy and heldback, also, try to talk to everybody, you will find someone who likes your personality
  • Sounds like you have clinical depression. Maybe you should go see a doctor to help you out.
  • I get where you're coming from... I have friends but nobody close to me. Not the kind of friends that call you to hang out or phone you just to talk. We hang out at school but that's about it. I'm not an incredibly social person though i wish i could be a little more. I don't really like people. It's completely normal I assure you. Some people are less tolerant of others than others. Hope that made sense :p
  • you are not alone, i have no friends either and for the most part, i can't stand people
  • You probably need personal time alone, sometimes I feel that way where all I want to do is just hangout with Answer Bag. :)
  • All you have to do is let go of the fact that you think you are supposed to have a lot of friends and like people, and nothing will be wrong with you. They say the higher your IQ is, the fewer friends you have. I agree with this because a lot of intelligent people on AB have mentioned not having many friends or liking people. You've come up with a lot of really good questions and answers and creativity is obviously linked to intelligence. Creative people have to deal with a dull reality because they have a higher vision in mind that makes more sense ideally. A lot of people in reality are dull, lame, and fake because they don't realize what they are living in compared to a better way of life that they could never fathom. They don't mind the world and hope that it's simply scripted. That's why you feel like you have no friends because there aren't enough people that think like you. Just share what you have with who you can. Answerbag is a great place to do this because everyone on it is interested. I've told everyone I know about answerbag and NOBODY feels the same way any of us ABers do. Nobody cares. Nobody wants to know the truth on things. Yet I love answerbag and many people on here are my kind of people, including you. I can't have any discussions like this with my surrounding environment, especially my family. I'm pretty sure I know how you feel but it'll be alright because you'll be so happy when you meet people you really like since it's so rare.
  • I'm the same way. I find that I haven't found anyone with the same interests as myself, and that in general, I prefer being alone or just with one other person. I've come to terms with the fact that being alone is better for me, because it doesn't cause me stress by trying to be something I'm not. I read, write, draw, hang out on the computer, write, do all sorts of things alone that I love that I couldn't be doing if I was always surrounded by people. The most social situations I find myself in are during class, and even then I prefer to do projects and learn alone. I just think that some of us are introverts, and some are extroverts. I'm friendly to everyone I meet, but don't have any desire to party or be in huge crowds of people. I enjoy my solitude and time alone, and find that there's nothing wrong with not having many friends. =)
  • My Dad once said to have friends you need to be friendly. Ask yourself, would I want to be a friend to me? Then ask someone close to you what traits you could improve to be approachable. Get out a little, smile and say "hi", do a few outside activities to get you around some new people. Do a mouthwash and deodorant check and you are off to a decent start.
  • I totally feel the same way. I have had all my best friends in my life abandon me and i have been seriously inhibited by this. right now, i don't really have any friends and so i know how you feel. I hope we get through it! :)
  • How stupid to assume that intelligence leads to a dwindled social life. Stop attempting to deceive yourself into thinking that your loneliness is due to your brilliance! How completely self righteous and arrogant; maybe that's why you don't have friends. " I need to dumb myself down." Oh God! Truly no one is that unique, and though I'm sorry to hear that you have trouble making friends I'm more sorry to hear that you attribute that reason to you superiority and "uniqueness". Trust me; any superbly unique and intelligent soul would not need to visit answerbag.com for solutions to their problems. See that we all have defining and wonderful attributes, but never forget that we share far more in common than we believe. When you realize we are all equal and worthy of one another's time, then you'll begin to notice a change in your social life. For now; knock yourself off your self-made pedestal and stand where you belong.
  • You don't like anyone.
  • If you don't like anyone...it is hard for them to like you. People like to be liked. Try to like others. :-)
  • Please, don't blame yourself. We've been taught how to not tolerate others with our impersonal and plastic world of email, hyper-cyber-crap and voiceless, imageless, tactless, forms of "being". I can promise you this, if you will make an effort to ask 10 people each day that you do not know, 1 unique question each without repeating a single question, within 1 week, you will feel more alive than you have felt in a decade.
  • maybe your a debby downer!!!
  • First of all do you like yourself?
  • .....it;s hard to know where to begin really, there are just so many things to choose from.
  • You're sane.
  • Not a thing, Some people can be annoying. It is best to choose your friends slowly.
  • If you want friends be a friend
  • perhaps u are being over sensitive and being very ego centric, mainly over-focussing on youself and your feelings. if u looked around, many people are like you and there is nothing wrong to be not in the "in" crowd, cos in reality, not many of those cliches exists, and even if they do, they might not be how you imagined it to be. sometimes reality and perception are just not congruent.
  • You're weird
  • Maybe you are judging people instead of accepting them.
  • Lonelyness and depression, make friends and talk to people.
  • You realize there is something wrong-- and you are reaching out to others through AB. You are taking the right first steps in your growth. The more you get involved in healthful activities, the more you will open up and realize your potential and opportunities. Friendships are a good thing.
  • Maybe i need to dumb myself down a bit and act like a crazy, fake, squealing, bullshitting bitch like everyone else. But thanx what you sed really makes sense and i feel alot better now :D
  • Yeah I know that feeling. I have one really good friend who I have a ton in common with but he has depression problems and doesn't want to hang out that often, my other best friend is a good friend but she's rather immature and just had a baby and beyond that I have my school friends but they all seem silly and immature to me. I'm not your typical teenager. I've never even been to a real party, drank or done drugs etc. and I'm 17. Maybe a little too serious. Adults and children love me but I guess I'm just a bit of an oddball to the teenager world. It bothers me sometimes when somebody teases me or my parents ask me about my lack of friends but mostly I've just learned to accept that I'm not like other teens and have no desire to be. For the most part I don't like most teens so I can't expect them to like me. I'm sure I'll get my share of friends when I'm older.
  • Most people are plastic and have no "real" friends. My last friend died back in January and i'm not going to try to make any new "phoney" friends like most people have. Don't look for friends, they will come naturally.
  • Yeah I know how you feel, for the past two years I've been feeling like that.I have what you would call school friends to, I'm some sort of an introvert, although I can be outgoing.I'm getting homeschooled which doesn't help,although I do have one really good friend, but he has a lot of friends, he recently asked me if I had any other friends and I just dodged the question even though it made me feel like crap.All my childhood friends and early friends moved, or we either drifted apart.And not to long ago one of my best friends who I knew for years died and a very young age, he of course had many friends.Thats just how life is I guess.
  • Don't sweat it, the world's geared up for extroverts these days most of whome can't see past their own bullshit.
  • Your name is Bernie Madoff.
  • You could have depression. You should go talk to a psychiatrist, they really can help. Or at least mention it to your doctor and see what he/she thinks of it if you aren't ready to talk to a psychiatrist.
  • nothing, theyre the ones with something wrong with them if they dont want to be your friend

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