ANSWERS: 39
  • I can't speak for other people, but I know tha I sure as hell could not live without sex. Married or not. +5
  • Many women apparently think so...
  • It can work, but only if both people aren't particularly interested in sex to begin with. If one has very low desire and the other one has average to high levels, then it's not going to be a happy, long-lasting relationship. On a purely biological, survival level, a person can live without sex, but not happily. As the old saying goes, "Sex is like air: not particularly important until you're not getting any."
  • Well, if you're not getting it, then you DO know how it can be. Or have I misunderstood what "that" is again?
  • Yes my granny had cancer and could no longer have sex because of where the cancer was located and left her with a tube in her side and thye could not and they lived together over 30 years that way with no sex. In sickness and in health for better or worse. People need to think about what they are saying when they get married.
  • They can probably live without sex with each other. One or the other may cheat or masturbate. Its possible sex may become boring with the both of them after a while. Yes they can live without it because they won't die from not having sex. The people that believe they can are thinking that their love and feelings for each other can have more meaning than sex.
  • Well, marriage can be about other things than lust or procreation. It can be about companionship, or it could be an economic decision. There are probably other things it can be, too. I think our society is obsessed with sex, I think we have very unnatural and unhealthy attitudes toward sex. Sex might not be as important as many of us think.
  • It's called love. One or the other partner may be unable/incapable because of illness. If you love, you manage. If you don't love, you cheat. Simple. Happy Tuesday! :)
  • Different people have different wants. Some people may want sex every day, other, never. So yes, it can work, it just takes the right sort of people -- though that sentence can be applied to almost any sort of relationship.
  • Yes, you can. Sex is only one facet of a relationship, and one that can be lost in time or through a disease or injury. But that doesn't mean you love them less. Marriage is about companionship, not sex.
  • I do not remember the name for it but yes, there is a group of people whom are quite happy without sex. They find each other and even marry. From one answer I read, sometimes the wife cannot have sex for some reason or another. This is one of the reasons back in time a man had more than one wife. The Requirement was the man had to continue to care and provide for the first wife. If the man could no longer have sex, he would generally permit his wife to have a lover to take care of her needs. It should be the norm yet today; honesty in life/relationship/love/marriage would be with much less difficulties. Oh and for you Bible experts out there this is totally Biblical.
  • To some people, sex isn't that important, and may be due to their experiences growing up. Perhaps there were instances of sexual abuse. Perhaps they were lonely and didn't get involved in a relationship until later in life (all the while they got used to living without sex). Perhaps they have the beliefs that sex is a dirty, shameful thing.
  • To some, it isin't all that important. I lived without it for a long time... It was a sad thing that I accepted to accomidate someone who really didn't love me in the end and didn't have the balls to admit it before becomming too invested and getting out before he hurt me, which he did... By waiting for something he percieves as "better" to come along and leave me for her. Im happy now and screwing like a bunny again! I prefer it like this. Human contact is a beautiful thing when you are with someone who likes you for who you are.
  • How about two handicapped people that fall in love? Paralyzed from the waist down?
  • Some people enjoy each other's company and hold a high respect for one another enough where they don't see it nessecary. Maybe they are not comforable see themselves naked in front of the other; self-conscious about themselves, I guess. Alot of people can be very modest about things like that.
  • Yeah, I did....and I'm not married anymore.
  • I'm sure they can, it sounds a remarkably dull marriage to me. At the end of the day physical intimacy, in my opinion, is the main thing that differentiates friendship from a relationship (by that I mean partners or marriage etc). I've had some very close friends with whom I would be comfortable sharing anything.
  • I believe so but that's really not a relationship I'd want to be a part of. That's what friends are for.
  • Yes, where physical impediments arise and sex is no longer an option, a loving and enduring companionship can evolve and be sufficient.
  • Most assuredly. There are any number of older couples who are unable ( usually for some physical reason ) to have coitus ( the physical act of penetration ), yet who have very loving and stable relationships. When I was younger, such a thing would have seemed inconcievable to me, but as you get older, the sex act often becomes less important. What will always be important in any relationship is affection, love and physical intimacy ( whether that includes penetration or not ).
  • I have friends who love eachother dearly and have no sex at all, ever, it's never happened. They married eachother because they *love* eachother, not because they wanted to have sex. You ask this question, and you get plenty of affirmative answers, and yet every one you respond to that you still can't believe it?
  • um... my brother said the virgin queen.
  • They can, but I wouldn't. I would invite her to divorce court before living like that.
  • i think that sex is an important part of any marriage i would never marry anyone other than for love . and lets be honest isn't one of the reasons we marry someone because we fancy them and want to make love and be close to them ..... if thats gone what are you left with ..
  • Sure. I can live without dessert too but who would want to do that forever. Seriously, it's a physical connection that I need. I don't think I would be as happy or feel as connected without sex. When I turn 80, I hope I don't have to do it but while I'm young it's necessary.
  • I'm sure that it is possible, but I wouldn't want to do that, because I cant't get enough of my wife.
  • it is pretty sad when it comes to that and must be painful for one or both sides
  • I know someone who was married to a guy for 8 years and never, ever had sex during the entire marriage! I couldn't fathom that either; I was floored when she told me she was divorcing him because she was too young to live like a nun!
  • I am not for sure ... maybe gettting some sex somewhere else or are content with masturbation ... ? I had an aunt and her husband ... they had seperate bedrooms and lived together "SUPPOSEDLY" without sex for over thirty years ....
  • Sure a married couple can live without sex. However if the couple are younger than say 70, you bet your a$$ one or both parties is cheating. lol That's just not kosher. My great grandmother has a boyfriend and they are in their 80's. Their relationship is mostly for the companionship and that is understandable at an older age but a younger couple? You have to keep your partner happy, interested, fill their needs for desire. If you don't..what do you have? Good Luck to those who aren't having sex.
  • Well I think the spark just dies sometimes in marriage and once one or the other partners lose their looks the other loves them beyond reason but isn't sexually attracted to them anymore... I guess that could be a factor in a married couple staying faithfully together and not having sex... I imagine that this could only last so long though...
  • Anyone that is going to be married to this guy will love having sex. It's a very important part of a relationship to me, and I couldn't imagine living my whole life with one person who's not going to have sex with me. I hate to say it, but if that happened, I would need a divorce.
  • I think some could. Some people are just looking for companionship and others love that person no matter what. Like... hypothetically speaking, let's say some guy with a girlfriend has to go to war and during that time, he's wounded in battle and comes back home paralyzed from the waist down. His girlfriend still feels strongly about spending the rest of her life with him and they get married anyway. If she totally just abandoned him just because she couldn't really have sex with him then obviously she didn't care for him at all. It's something like that for some people and they're still happy together even if they can't engage in intercourse.
  • Chastity. "The most unnatural of all the sexual perversions." - Aldous Huxley.
  • It's easy to do because sex isn't about marriage, and neither does having great sex with someone make a marriage. Marriage is about being with someone you deeply love and the companionship you have with each other, the intimacy you share, the common goals you are both working towards, raising a family, whatever the family decides. And as people age, they have different priorities. Many couples as they age, grow in love but have sex less as they have other things that occupy their lives and time. Even in my own marriage of nearly 36 years, sometimes we go at it like rabbits and sometimes we do it only occasionally, depending on what else we're occupied with or how we feel, all sorts of things come into play. But we love each other more than when we were married. The love is strong, but it's different than before, deeper and made up of ALL the special times we've had together and keep experiencing. If we make love 4-5 times a week or 1-2 month or even less, it's not a reflection of our love for each other waning or getting deeper, it's just life. I know a few couples that once they raised their family, they just didn't think sex was that big a priority. But I'm sure that many of them do have intimacy and personal time together. You can see it in their eyes the love they have for each other. What works for one couple doesn't have to apply for all couples. People find and do what makes them happy, even as a couple.
  • I could go without sex with the person im with for the rest of my life. They dont mean i dont love him. I just dont love the sex with him.
  • yes...marriage is not only about sex!! :) cheers
  • well yes and no,yes because marriage is not all about sex and no because its healthy to have sex with you partner this will reduce chances of having sex outside your marriage.
  • Plenty of couples do, especially older people. Marriage is about many things, not just sex. Even in the most sex-filled marriages most of our time is spent on other things. My husband and I love each other and enjoy each other's company but we seldom have sex any more and for that we see other people.

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