ANSWERS: 70
  • mine was purely feeling, then i made the decision to do something about it.
  • I think when you truly love someone you "feel" it in every fiber of your body.
  • In my case it was an honest feeling. Now i am married and have 2 kids !
  • It's more than a feeling, when it's real love. The person makes a conscious decision to "jump" in love (not "fall", since we do have control over it).
  • The emotion of love is controled by peptides and hormones in the brain, the feeling you associate with love is purely a chemical reaction. Your senses trigger these peptides which inturn trigger hormones and chemicals that influence your feelings and emotions. Whether you decide to fall in love or not may result in a concious decision pertaining to the person you are attracted to, the level of attraction they have for you, etc. etc. - That's what I said when I discovered this.
  • i believe love starts as a feeling, but in the end you decide whether or not to embrace said feeling
  • I think its a feeling... sometimes you love someone you don't even want to love.
  • The best feeling When it happens ....... you will be blown away
  • "Falling in love" is more about feelings, the excitement you feel over nothing more than physical attraction. I am yet to see someone who fell in love with a guy because he was missing an eye. Everything's physical. You love her because she has beautiful eyes, a nice bod, has good taste in clothes, fun to be with. But when you really love someone, it's an honest decision that you make, and continue to make, every single day. It's when you decide to continue loving your son even if he calls you the worst parent in the world. It's when you still love your husband even if he's a drunkard. It's when you love someone even if he doesn't love you back.
  • I think it is really a bit of both. If you think about it you decide the people that you know and to have the feeling of love you would have to know the person on some level so that feeling can grow.
  • I don't think its possible to choose to love someone no matter if its romantic love, affection, family love etc. Its a bond God gave us to keep us together as people.
  • It's just something that happens, whether you like it or not. You can't make yourself love someone if you don't, and you can't kill your feelings for someone you truly love.
  • I do not think that truly loving a person could ever be a decision. It has to be a feeling since it is an emotion and by definition decisions are not supposed to be emotive
  • Feeling with an informed decision.
  • Love is a feeling. Commitment is a decision.
  • It is both. It often starts with a feeling, but if it is to grow, it will require a decision and a commitment, which will also, eventually, produce feelings (and not all of them - but most, pleasant).
  • it is a honest feeling.
  • First 6 to 24 months are 90% feeling and 10% decision. Anything after that--reverse the numbers.
  • I think It is a combination of both ! I think you feel love but to manage to stay in a relationship you have to make a decision to be committed and work hard at it.
  • In my opinion it is a "feeling" and it is unlike another other. The only decision is where do we go from there, depending on circumstances?
  • LOVE IS NOT A DECISION... IMEAN LOOK AT ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE WORLD WHO WISH THEY DIDNT LOVE A CERTAIN PERSON BECAUSE IT HURTS THEM. LOVE IS A FEELING YOU CANNOT CONTROL. WHEN IS COME IT COMES AND IT STAYS UNTIL IT DECIDES TO LEAVE...IS NEVER UP TO YOU.
  • Its an honest feeling, although not always a welcome one. I only seem to love people who are bad for me. But yes, I agree with the comments here that commitment is a decision and you need to make a decision to work at it every day!
  • You have very little control over who you fall in love with - it is like the decision about that is made elsewhere - if it were not so then so many people wouldn't end up in so many disasterous affairs. If they could see past the 'love' they would maybe see that the object of their desire is all wrong for them. Then there are the lucky ones for whom it all turns out right!
  • In the beginning it's mostly feeling, but then as you confront the betters and worses, you can't sustain that elated glowing feeling all the time and love is sustained by decision.
  • In the beginning it's a feeling, but as you confront the for betters and worses, you can't maintain that glowing elation continually, decision then sustains love.
  • it's a feeling first then a decision whether or not to accept that feeling.
  • chemistry! Someone may have all the looks and qualities that you want in a partner but if the 'chemistry' is not right ... it will go nowhere.
  • its an honest and pure feeling, and yeah nevets is right sometimes you find youself loving someone who you don't even want to love :p thats what you can call an honest feeling of LOVE!
  • I believe that loving someone is both. Love has many different types, and English really fails to differentiate. I can love someone and feel it without taking action. I have loved those that I wish I did not love. Certainly, I was not deciding to. However, love is also actions and those are decisions. We can decide to love someone emotionally, too, but it is hard and takes work.
  • I did not make a decision to love my husband, it was just something that I felt when I met him. You know the anvil that falls on the Coyote in those Road Runner cartoons, it was kind of like that. So I'd have to go with honest feeling.
  • you can't choose who you love. and if you love, i'm sure it's honest. you can't just pick someone and decide to love them.
  • I personally believe that love is not a feeling at all, but an action. Attraction - feeling lust - feeling affection - feeling But love is something you do. Emotion without acting on it is not love.
  • You can never decide to love someone, you just do. It's an honest feeling that you build up over time of caring for another.
  • I believe its a honest feeling.
  • If it's true love then I guess it should be likea gradual build up that you aren't really aware of,then bangs you over the head like boom ko'ed...
  • It's an honest feeling. When you love someone, you can feel it constantly, and you just know when you're really in love.
  • I think it is a decision. After I discovered that my ex wife was cheating on me, I was heartbroken and actually tried to win her back. After a while, I thought about all she had put me through and said "no more", and I cut the ties. My current relationship, I decided that I would take a chance on her. I do not say that feelings are not in some way involved, but I do believe that you decide to love somebody or you decide not to love somebody.
  • I believe the feelings of love are just a small part of what love really is, and if you were to go just on feelings, you'd be missing the other 85% of what it is.
  • it is a feeling. honest when u feel it in every way. and i believe that usually there is only one person with whom you feel a true honest love even if u don't get to be with him. And if later on, u love someone else, it isn't the same feeling as u had with the other one.
  • i think its a feeling. but i wouldnt say you love him or her,sometimes people think they "love" somebody but it might not be true love.
  • A feeling that sometimes you cannot decide what it is all about. or what to do about
  • when you love someone i think it just happens.. u care for that person and then you love them..where youd die for them so i think its more then a "feeling" its like your fate to love that person.
  • i believe that it could be both. sometimes we truly love someone but we have decided to allow ourself to love. so many times we have probally passed our true love because we have decided not to open up and allow that feeling. i hope this makes sense.
  • I think it's a feeling that you can't control. You can try to ignore it, but in the end, it doesn't work. You can decide not to love someone, but you won't be able to act on that decision.
  • Loving someone is a feeling but getting married and Living the rest of your life with them is your dicision.
  • I think it is more of a feeling than a decision.
  • the choice of whether or not you fall in love with someone is only a choice in the very early stages of the relationship.once you have allowed yourself to flow with it and you do fall in love,then you are hooked,its not like you can say i m going to break off and not be in love anymore.you can break off,thats easy,but getting out of love is a whole different story.once the heart has found what it wants,it refuses to listen to the brain.
  • Falling in love is a consicous decision that you make. Some people are just off limits (i.e. married, in a serious relationship, etc.) and you have to guard your heart by setting up certain boundaries. If someone is unavailable, you make the consious decision to not let it go any further. However, when someone is available and you are too; then you make the decision to take it further. The actual effects of falling in love is an honest feeling.
  • It is Both because when you get that feeling within you, you still have to react and make that decision to give the emotions and feelings to that particular person
  • ummmmmmmmmm lol itz a honest feeling,u cant jst decide u love some one.u feel it
  • it is just a feeling. when you are with them you feel time slow down just a little. when you are with them you dont hear or see anything else but him/her. its just a feeling you know when your in love
  • Good question. I think it is an honest feeling. Something inside them must draw you to have a passionate love for them. Of course sometime you have to get use to a person, but don't bend over backward to much because you might be going against your standards.
  • It's an honest feeling and then you decide if they're worth loving.
  • "love with your heart but don't leave your mind too far behind." By this I mean, loving someone is an honest feeling produced by your heart and as time rolls on your mind helps to make the decisions on whether you continue to act on that feeling.
  • LOVING SOMEONE IS A HONEST FEELING. I JUST BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND AND I DIDNT KNOW HOW I FELT ABOUT HIM UNTIL IT WAS OVER.. LOVE TAKES OVER YOUR MIND AND BODY... BEING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE IS SO HARD WHEN THEY DONT LOVE YOU BACK.
  • it is a little bit of both
  • Love is an honest feeling. You can decide to pretend you have an honest feeling.
  • Loving someone is an honest feeling, no matter how much you fight it.
  • I think its alot honest feeling and a little bit decision...after all..to maintain a loving relationship you have to make the decision to do so!
  • It's an honest feeling. At least, for me it always has been.
  • For me it's a feeling, because i love my partner although at the moment im uphappy, n if it was a decison then couldn't i decide not to love him?
  • I think that loving someone is an honest feeling. You don't just wake up one day and say "I think I love .....". It doesn't work like that. You have to actually spend time with that person, get to know them and find out if this is the person you want to give your heart to. If it feels right, go for it, but if you have second thoughts, hold back until you are sure.
  • I think it's an honest feeling because I don't say hey I like this person so I'll make a decision that I love him because he's so nice or whatever. I think you just have that feeling because you really do care for someone so much.
  • neither. you don't decide to love someone, it just happens...but it isn't only a feeling either, it's something deeper than that...a connection that no one can replace..
  • Both. But more a decision than a feeling. Think of all the relationships that would have ended if everything was based on feelings instead of dedication or pure determination of loving someone. To be honest, many people don't deserve the love we give them, and in turn, we don't deserve the love we receive. But because someone decided that we're worth loving, worth the pain and heartache that comes with loving someone no matter who we are or how we are, we are simply.....loved. If loving someone is more of just a feeling than a decision, then it may be more of just a liking than actual love. Not saying that you can't like someone you love, just....real love is loving someone regardless if you like them or not.
  • Falling in love is an honest beautiful feeling. I have been there, done that (like they say). Unfortunately, it didn't work out for me. Now I am trying to LOVE someone. Let's say I made that decision or choice because he "seems" he has most of what I am looking for in order to settle down once and for all... He loves me very much, I can’t say I’m in love with him – but he is such a possessive man, he is not helping me fall in love… Can a person fall in love by decision? I am trying to find out…
  • I guess everybody is different, but for me its an honest feeling.
  • Loving someone is an honest felling.
  • I believe it is a mixture of both. If you decide to act on those feelings though thats what counts. =]

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