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  • You guys are well over the legal age. His parents should have no say in what you do. If you want to keep the baby, keep the baby. This is hard, but talk with him.
  • Choose life. Have the baby and give it up for adoption. Some couple somewhere will be so grateful for your sacrifice. Please don't abort it. Get an ultrasound and look at it's fingers and toes. Listen to it's heartbeat. Don't abort it.
  • If you want to keep the baby that is your decision. No one can force you to have an abortion. I personally would never have an abortion.
  • It's your body woman and you should decide don't even consider taking anybody elses opinion your 25 for goodness sake, like i said make your own choice i would prefer life.
  • Your boyfriend needs to "man up" and make his own life decisions. I hope you and he don't give a rat's ass what his parents want and you both make the decisions on your own. Just knowing that they would want their own grandchild killed makes me think they are very selfish people. What do your parents and family think about this?
  • Had one and I have not been able to get prego since... Think really hard before you do it. I always think, now he/she would be # years old. Hard, good luck.
  • there is nothing wrong with abortion.
  • He's 21. He doesn't need his parents approval for anything. you're 25, you do what you feel is best for you. Really, think long and hard about you. Not him or his parents. Only consider you and the pregnancy. No one cn force you to do anything.
  • Your body...your choice...nobody has the right to pressure you one way or another...when I was pregnant with my first, my mother was pressuring me to abort....she is now 31 years old and my best friend as well as my baby girl....but that was my choice....and I am thankful everyday I made the choice I made....
  • His parents have absolutely NO say so in this. You want to keep it keep it. If they want you to abort, just tell them that is fine when the baby is born they will never see their grandchild, since they didn't want it anyway, and they will change their tune. When they realize they sound like complete fucktards and putting their 2 cents where it doesn't belong, and where it was not wanted they will stop. Hell, I'd just tell them in no smaller words to fuck off mind your own business, its none of theirs. I wouldnt care who they were if they were telling me to kill my baby. Selfish assholes.
  • His parents can't "force" anything. The decision belongs to YOU, alone, together, whatever. It's your call. NOT his parents. It's your body. It's your baby. It's your choice. Go with your gut. You know what feels right in your heart. Good luck.
  • i am the one that posted this question. the problem really is that he is totally taking his parents side because he "values" their opinion. he says that we are not ready and can not give a child everything we would want to. i have not told my family yet and that is all out of fear. if i went off my original gut feeling i would be having this baby. im scared, timid and have no clue what to do.
  • Either way YOU decide is something you will have to live with the rest of your life-his parents don't. So no matter which you choose, think about it long and hard.Having a child is for life not just while its a cute baby or even a child. For the rest of your life you will be responsible for another life. Its not an easy descision. You and your boyfriend need to talk about it, but the final descision is yours.
  • I think you are both of the age of majority. Do what you think is right. I will tell you that I have known a number of people who have had abortions and they all regretted it later.
  • don't let anyone else talk you into having an abortion. I'm not trying to preach or anything but If you do that will be one mistake you will NEVER forget. I would dump him and settle for the smiles and laughs of a little one.
  • Parents can't force people over the age of 21 to do anything unless those children let them. You two decided to have sex and make this baby and it's up to the two of you to decide what you will do. Take responsibility for what you have each willingly participated doing. And he isn't your husband. You decide what you want. Don't let other people run your life for you.
  • Abortion is only for people who know without a shadow of a doubt that they do not want the baby. Do not let anybody tell you to have an abortion if you do not want one. My sister had seven pregnancies and two abortions, and she always wonders if things would have been different. She gave her first two up for adoption, and then had abortions for the next two. The next one was taken from her by the courts, and she finally got out of her addiction and raised the last two. She is now a happy grandmother of five.
  • You are an adult...you do what YOU feel best about.
  • It's your body. Only you can decide what to do. If you want the baby, then keep it. Fight for it and get a lawyer if you have to.
  • Take some time away from everyone and make your own decision. YOU are the one who will be living with the decision, regardless. YOU will be looking yourself in the mirror for the rest of your life. You are 25 years old. Many millions of women, that age and younger, have successfully borne and raised children, with and without the assistance of men. Many millions of women have opted to have abortions if they felt having a baby wasn't right for them at the time. If you want the baby and your boyfriend doesn't, you'll have to make up your mind to raise the child without him, as millions of women do. There's a lot of support out there for you, whichever decision you make. But no one can make this choice for you.
  • People who choose or suggest that another should kill ones baby ... are not good people! Do not kill for the sake of others by their selfish opinions and requests to suit themselves ... You will hate them and yourself for your negative decision to do so ... if forced by others to Kill that precious life inside of you ... Ask yourself this >>> Is a mans love and his families approval ... worth a precious life >>> NO! A mans true love ... would share this special gift without any question or thought of termination. This baby is a part of you ... by killing it ... you will kill a piece of you that will never return ... By giving this child its life ... you will, without any doubt >>> love her or him more than anything or anyone in your lifetime ... Please do not do it ... (give her or him to me or someone else who will be happy to save life) ... it's far better to find another home than kill. Give the child a shot at what we have all been gifted with >>> LIFE! Don't kill this feeling ... Goodluck!
  • The baby is forever, the bf may not be.
  • He's not a minor. No one can force him to do anything. It's time for him to man up.
  • A baby gone from life will never return and you will never see it grow into a child, or feel it's butterfly kisses on your face or hear it say *i love you mummy* . A baby gone from life will never look upon your face, but you will very likely spend the rest of your life thinking about that baby's face and wishing you had looked upon it. . Do not allow anyone to influence your decision to take your baby's life and for the record, you are an adult ~ no-one can force you to abort your baby.
  • This guy is acting like a wimp and a wuss, letting his parents dictate to him. You can be sure if you marry him, he will always put his parents first unless you put your foot down now. For goodness sakes, don't listen to this pair of arsewipes who are his parents, and give your little baby a chance at life instead. For all you know, your boyfriend might just respect the fact that you are standing up for what you believe in. If not, there are always other boyfriends. Your baby is unique though and could be the only one you'll ever have.
  • Bottom line..his parents can't force anything, they have no say at all. Sounds like he is still a little boy being controlled by his parents. I would do what I wanted and to heck with them all. I would keep my baby and get rid of the boyfriend, from the sound of it, he's not through "being raised" yet. But that's just me.
  • 25 and 21 are old enough to make your own decisions. Tell the parent's to go jump in the lake.
  • Keep the baby! his parents should stay out of your and his business, and they have no right no ask you to kill your baby. Tell your bf that you are keeping it and if he he cant do anything about it,he can either support your choice or get out of your and your babies lives!
  • you're the female, it's your body, do what YOU want.
  • In my opinion, this is completely your call. You should listen to your BF, but you do not have to do what he says. His parents are irrelevant. You should also talk to anyone else you trust. Including your parents, who you apparently haven't talked to. If you go ahead and he disclaims responsibility, their support will be invaluable. But, I repeat. Your body, your decision. Take advice, not orders.
  • Whichever the reason, it is a little late for him to change his mind. It looks like you are the one who has now to take the decision alone. But you could (or even) should not count with your boyfriend's further support. Consider also the other aspects: who will pay, who will take care? Whether you keep the baby or not, possibly you should drop your boyfriend, as long as he does not change his mind back. I see this as a huge betrayal. What I would do myself, would depend on the circonstances.
  • If his parents are so overbearing, you might have to avoid visiting them because they will only upset you. If your boyfriend can't stand up to them now, how is he going to be if they give you a hard time about other things?
  • I am in the exact same situation as you are in, but I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 22. His parents are adamant on abortion while my parents are excited and more understanding. Every time he talks to his parents, he becomes negative about the situation and leans more towards abortion. However, after I talk to him, he warms up to the situation again. It's hard because his parents are great people and he still lives at home, so he relies on them a little bit for now and is in college. I know they will warm up to the idea eventually but right now it is hard! It's nice to know that I'm not alone in this situation, and I want you to know you're not alone either! Keep your child if you want to! I still think it should be BOTH parent's decision though, but ultimately it will be yours! He's just scared right now. Now man is ever ready to have their first child (what my dad told me), and he will eventually come around as well. When he starts to see your body change, and his parents start to see your body changing, their minds will change too and the excitement will start to kick in!! Good luck and be strong!! -Magda
  • Keep it and tell his parents to but out you are old enough to make your own decisions!!
  • There is no way his parents should have any say in this. Nether of you are children. Tell him fatherhood is just part of being a man and this is something him and his parents are just going to have to accept. x
  • There is no way his parents should have any say in this. Nether of you are children. Tell him fatherhood is just part of being a man and this is something him and his parents are just going to have to accept. x
  • Since you're well over legal age, technically, his parents' opinion does not matter. It seems as if your bf allows them to influence him too easily (since he didn't seem to favor the abortion option until they insisted on it). He should be concerned about you right now, not about what they think. Someone like that probably won't make a good boyfriend or father. Ultimately, this is your decision. If you are torn, you should visit your nearest family planning or women's health clinic so you can discuss your options with a counselor.
  • Well you are 25 no one can FORCE you to have an abortion. but realize if he doesn't want a baby at 21 then you should respect his wishes. Honestly he should have the right to not want to be in baby's life. I feel sorry for men
  • His parents cannot force you to do anything -- no one can force you to have an abortion. The two of you need to make the decision without interference from your parents. You are, or darn well should be, adults.
  • Stick with your original idea. Your first instinct is the best. Don't put your baby on trial for something you and your bf did. Your baby is the innocent bystander in all this--and is dependent on you for survival. Ask your boyfriend's parents to remember the time when they were pregnant with their son. I'm willing to bet that today they could not have ever imagined not going through with his birth. Your bf needs to man-up to his responsibilities.

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