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  • I wouldnt spend much at all. I know it sounds cheap. But if her choice to accept your proposal is at all dependent on the price or glamor of the ring, you dont need to waste your time with her in the first place. Any woman that unreasonable... you know? A quality woman wouldnt care and shouldnt. Prove you love me by going as far into debt as possible, wasting away these past months of savings, to buy me some heavy metal and crystallized carbon, so that superficially I can look better to other people. Seriously, how superficial do you want a woman to be? If she is reasonable and logical, she would appreciate your love and your love alone, and your proposition for a life-long commitment. Spend your ring-savings on a home. A woman who is rational wouldnt ask for a big ring in the first place. And a woman who is emotional would find the romance in love and marriage, not in the size of a ring. Anyone who wants the ring is selfish and hedonistic. Give her a cracker-jack box ring. If she says yes, you have yourself a real catch
  • She is a quality woman. She wouldn't care what i got her. I love her and love buying her expensive gifts. she has no idea how much i'm spending on the ring. I sorta feel good after i buy her something spectacular. Is that normal?
  • it doesnt matter how much the ring cost, what ,matter is will she accept and if she does are u realy willing to spend the rest of your life with her
  • oh come on.. it does'nt matter whatever price it cost.. as long as you really love him and he/she in return also love you.. it is not money matters.. it is love that involve in both of you so why are you hesitate in that engagement ring.. just show to him/her your true love.. .. just keep loving... ^^
  • Are you mad or something, £7000 on a engagement ring. You want to get your head checked mate, that disgusts me that you have even thought about spending that much on a ring. I can think of better things to spend or even invest £7000 in. At the end of the day its what you feel inside for the other person that counts, Not a nicely shaped lump of metal. And im pretty sure you know the answer to your own question. May I ask how much you plan spending on the wedding ring?
  • The general rule of thumb is 3 months of your wage. But really, if your girlfrien loves you, the engagement ring should be a moot point. Good luck and congratulations.
  • Thanks for your responses..... I was only asking because thats how much i paid for the 2.5k ring i got her.... She was surprised and happy at the same time..... She said yes on August 10th of this year..... money isn't the problem..... i have enough to live well.... I just didn't know what i should be spending on a ring.... and, she made a comment that i shouldn't have bought it for so much.....
  • Thebyannhill, That's the answer i was looking for, thanks. according to the rule, I didn't overspend.
  • It all depends on what you want to do and what you feel comfortable with spending. My engagement ring isn't even worth 1/10th of the one your bought your girlfriend, and I treasure it and wear it proudly. It's not the ring, it's the love that matters and the commitment. Even when he was shopping for the ring, he knew I could care less how big the diamond was or how flashy it is. It's a simple, elegant, beautiful symbol of our love for each other and our commitment to a life together as one.
  • yes it would be for me, an engagement ring is personal so if you know your girl well enough to propose then you will know what to get and know how much to spend.:-)+
  • That's at least $6,500 too much. The thing about a percentage of a mans pay is simply insane. Too much good can be done with money otherwise locked into a ring she could drop in the toilet. It's just metal and stone.
  • I wouldnt want a ring that cost that much. I would be afraid to wear it.
  • If you can comfortably afford to spend that much, I guess it isn't. Personally, I wouldn't want a ring that cost that much..the majority of that kind of money would be better spent elsewhere, or even put into a savings account. You can buy a very nice ring for a fraction of that.
  • That would depend on how much money you have to spend. I could think of better things to spend £7,000 or $'s on,unless you are looking for an investment for the future,if this is the case then take advice on what stone to buy. My wife has a real Pearl necklace which I bought for our Pearl Wedding Anniversary,I paid £1,750 for it in '94,its current value is around £3,500,so it has a good investment value......but shes scared to death to wear it outside the house. WYW
  • Do you realize how many hungry children could be fed with $7,000.00 ????
  • spend as much as you want but i suggest that you pay that 4 your wedding ring! but spend wat you want! cara x
  • Yes, way to much, unless you are materialistic, which you are, otherwise you wouldnt have asked this question. In one of your answers to your own question, you said..... ****I was only asking because thats how much i paid for the 2.5k ring i got her.... She was surprised and happy at the same time..... She said yes on August 10th of this year**** I am really confused, in one of your answer/comments, you said..... "she has no idea how much i'm spending on the ring". Then in another you said.... "and, she made a comment that i shouldn't have bought it for so much" ***Which is it? It’s often said that a man should spend twice his monthly salary on a ring, ****Jewelers recommend that you spend two months salary, Do you suppose they have your best interests at heart? Not!
  • I can think of a lot of ways to spend that much money on something other than a ring. But if you have money to throw away and cost is no object, I guess it's fine. But it certainly doesn't take that much to show someone you honor and respect them and want to ask them to marry them. I'd feel guilty, though wearing something that cost that much and think my fiance was wasting money instead of being smart and loving.
  • are we talking seven thousand zambian dollars - or seven thousand Swiss francs ? : ) If the first - no. If the second - it's up to you : )
  • What can you comfortably afford? If $7k is within your budget and you don't have to scrimp on other things, I'd say that is up to you entirely and no one else's business. But I wouldn't go into hock for it. Remember, you can get a small ring now and later, when you're more flush, you can always upgrade that ring as an anniversary gift. It's the marriage that is going to matter, not the trappings! :)
  • It's not too much if she's a perfect 11.
  • They say that a guy should spend 3 months salary on the engagement ring.
  • Don't judge me..... The way I feel about the ring is that it is a symbol of my love to her. I could've spent less I realize that, but, that’s the amount I chose to spend and I feel I made a sound decision. Trust me; I am very frugal about most of my spending except when it comes to her. By the way "-Sweet T is on Cloud Nine XOXO F.B.B.". Obviously I told her how much I spent on the ring when she asked. Don't try to instigate something that’s not there. Buying an expensive engagement ring has nothing to do with being materialistic. I have no love for material possessions. Plus the ring is for her, not me, how am I materialistic? People.... I asked a simple question..... I don't need your negative comments...... Relax, I got my answer..... Jezz, some of you need to take a breath.....
  • Well if you only make like 5 grand a year, then yes. Rule of thumb, as far as what I have heard is 3 months salary. So compare it to that. I also think that it shouldnt be about how much it was. When I went to pick out the ring, I didnt have a price in mind. I just wanted to have the most beautiful ring possible, for the most beautiful person in the World. It shouldnt matter if that ring cost 50 bucks or 50 thousand, I knew I was going to get the one that I knew she would love, and the one I thought was the best. An engagement isnt about the ring you know, most women dont even remember what the ring looks like the moment it happens, but they will remember what you said and that it ended with a "Will you marry me". THAT is the most important part. It seems like by stating exactly how much it was, that you are materialistic and she probably is too since she had to know how much it cost. Good luck.
  • I think it depends on how much you are making. Right now with my crappy jobs i would never afford that. If you have the money and a lover spend on him/her to forward your love.
  • i do not think that the price matters surprise her take her out to dinner then just pop into a jewelry store and let her pick it out after all she will be the one wearing it for the rest of her life.
  • If my husband had spent that much I'd be a little mad. Get something nice, something she'll like, and spend the money you save on the honeymoon!
  • yes that is way too much for the ring. Spend it on the wedding/honeymoon. good luck.
  • depends on your budget. a close friend of mine spent 12 grand on a diamond ring for his fiancee.. and wow is it magnificent! goodluck with your shopping!
  • I like "caffey4" answer for the most part. I didn't buy the ring because it was expensive. I baught it because it was beautiful, just like my fiancee. I stated how much it cost not because i wanted to flaunt it. I just wanted to see if maybe I should've kept looking for a cheaper ring. If you knew me, you would know that I'm a very open guy, and that's why me and my fiancee are best friends. I don't keep secrets or anything from her. So, naturaly i told her how much it cost; In which she said i might have spent too much. Her statement stayed in the back of my thoughts. That's how i ended up posting this question on here. Everyone who answered without making judgements on my character, Thank You! Everyone else, learn not to be judgemental and you'll have a happier life, relax. "Don't make something bigger than it really is! Receive it as it is!" Thank you everyone.... I appreciate all of your answers.
  • 15 hours salary but not less than a sixpack of imported beer.
  • 7 thousand is fine if you can afford 7 thousand for a ring. If you spend that on a ring at the expense of other more important things like housing food or basic needs..then it is too much. Take care of the important things in life and spend what you can afford on the less important things(believe it or not an engagement ring does fit in the "less important" catagory) :)
  • I'd never spend that much, personally. To each their own, but I'd also not wear something that cost that much. The number one cause of divorce in the first year and a half is financial woes. Don't buy something that will put you there. If you're making 100,000 a year and you've got $60,000 under your mattress, you can probably spent 7k on a bit of jewelry without flinching. Not that you must or that you should, but you can. If you make much less? not so much.
  • I have heard that 3 months salary is the benchmark for spending on an engagement ring.
  • I personally think it’s *way* too much. I spent seven *hundred* dollars on my now-wife’s bridal set, and even eleven years later she’s still always telling me how beautiful it is.
  • i couldnt accept that expensive a ring. your fiance is very lucky though. must be lovely. In my opinion, if my fiance had 7000 dollars sitting there and was thinking of spending it on a ring, i would rather it go towards the wedding ceremony, because that is the most memorable day of your life. And one that you share with everyone you love. you can do so much and make things so spectacular. or you could buy the things you need to start a life together. This is why im 100 percent happy with the ring i have. but its your choice and like i said, shes very lucky.
  • yeah mine was smaller for the amount we paid for it but i only wanted it for the fact it was in the spot light and it was a new ring they had just got in but after a little while i got tired of it just make sure you are both happy with it and if you pent that much on it now you may have no room in the future to upgrade it..
  • if you can aford seven thousand go for it.
  • You don't even need to buy a diamond ring, which is paid for by the blood and limbs of innocent Africans. A plain band or another stone is just as good or better.
  • well, that depends on her taste. Me, I'd make my man take it back and get a less expensive one. I'd be afraid I'd lose it or chip a stone or something. But if she's into that kind of thing and you can afford it, more power to you.

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