ANSWERS: 35
  • 18 is young, but I think whether you are ready for marriage or not should be meassured by maturity, not age.
  • Yes, you really should wait til at least 21. its only 3 years, and if you still feel the same nothing really lost.
  • Personally, yes i would have to say that you are a bit too young for marriage. Young adults are getting ready to start a new chapter in their lives that usually involve college and working, looking out for their furture through education and taking care of them selves, not getting married. That should be one of the last things running through and 18 yr, old mind, b.c of the fact that it's already overwhelming having to deal with maintaining good grades and staying focused on life goals, that adding a marriage in the mix could over-shadow your life goals of establishing yourself in a career, and you would have to put schooling on the back burner, and it's not easy just to pick up the pieces after you took a long break from that. I would say, take your time with schooling and stay focused on grades and work, because eduction will get you much further in life at 18 then marriage would at 18. It's just too young, and you would be much happier and less stressed with just having to deal with school/work then having to deal with a possible pregnancy, and having to juggle that wish school, would make it nearly impossible. I know some people make it work, but it's just wiser to wait after college to get into something as serious as marriage, because it take a lot or time and effort.
  • depends on if you feel, truly feel you're ready. Age is but a number.
  • I had just turned 18 when I got married in 1959. I had completed one year of college and then became pg. We had 3 children by the end of 1963 (no BC pills) and I nearly stumbled under the pressure of it all as my husband was never home. I was very responsible but insecure and immature. We divorced. Some people who are very best friends and who do not change much, are able to stay married eternally. There's no rule for everyone, but your life becomes very limited unless you have ample money so that it's not a problem.
  • I don't think it's too young -- yes you might decide it was a bad idea, but plenty of people get divorced regardless of age, you wouldn't be alone in that. People grow and change over time. At 18 you've got a lot of major growing and changing to do, so someone you might meet now might not be a suitable partner in 10 years, when you've both grown. But that happens to people who marry in their twenties, thirties and even older. Nobody stays the same, situations don't stay the same and in fact when things get stagnant that's when it's time to worry! The relationship might last five years, but they might be a fantastic five years with memories you'll cherish. However you might marry and grow old together, teenage sweethearts marrying and celebrating their golden wedding anniversary many years later is relatively rare, but not unheard of. So if you honestly believe it's the right decision for you and your partner, at this time, then I would say go for it.
  • Yes you're too young to get married, though you're not young too fall inlove.. If you're man willing to wait a little time, would'nt an 18 year younger girl enjoy the 1 happiest stage of her life..?
  • Yes. There is so much to do and see in this world...so many interesting people, so many potential partners. Don't limit yourself to one relationship yet....broaden your horizons, get more experience....be young and free. You don't have to hurry!
  • i think it just seems that in this culture it's so difficult to get by at such a young age. it's not really about what others think, or about the material, so much as that there's so much in life that people need to do on their own simply because it helps them mature and grow into their own skin. the good thing is that when you have somebody like a good boyfriend who's there, or a good fiance or whatever, it's like they're not always there right in your space, but they're close enough to catch you when you fall and encourage you twoards the future together so to speak. sometimes though in a young marriage, instead the idea is maybe they got married to young and they have second guesses. in my opinion, it's more about maturing and growing into yourself to be the best for you and your s.o and then for children one day. whatever you choose, good luck AG
  • Yes because I can tell just from reading your comments that you are not mature enough, inexperienced, stubborn and rebellious... characteristics common in 18 year olds, but not so good for making a marriage work.
  • I'm not going to say age has nothing to do with it, but I believe it is more about love.
  • No you are 18 and that gives you the right to do it if you want but I think you should marrie at the age of 25 it gives you enough time to check his or her back ground and then you deside .
  • Getting married is the easy part. Staying married to the same person for fifty, sixty, seventy plus years is the test. Wish you the best of luck.
  • In an ideal world, I think people would get married at 18 or even 16, but this world is far from ideal. I think 18 is too early to get married but I do acknowledge there are some people out there who have proven me wrong (and some others that have proven me right!) I think everyone needs to spend a few years living in their own place, doing their own work / housework, paying their own bills and just generally getting a thorough understanding of what it takes to keep the whole show on the road. Then they need to marry someone who has done the same. That way they'll have a good idea of what the other one gets up to and will appreciate them more. There's other things to consider too, but that'll do for starters. When I was twenty, I thought you shouldn't get married before you're thirty but these days I see flaws in that argument too. If someone says they want to marry young, my first reaction is that they have absolutely no idea what they're giving up / getting themselves into. I'd say that "95%" of the time I would be right. But I have no way of knowing if you are in the other "5%". And even if you did get in over your head and have a horrendous couple of years, maybe the lessons you learn would be dynamite for the rest of your life. That would be up to you and your spouse. Yes, I think 18 is too young. But if you do manage to make it work then I envision great, fun times for you and your family once you hit middle age..... - IF you get it right!
  • I was married @ 19 and my husband was 18. We're still married 8 years later. Pros - you grow with your s/o and they become your best friend Cons - you grow with your s/o and they become your best friend :)
  • It depends on your level of maturity. Getting married really won't be much different than just staying a couple but it can lock you into a relationship. I say, if you think you are ready for it and are mature enough to respect and treat someone kindly and share everything you have and are with them, go for it. What's far more important would be a decision to have a child. Marriage can be great but giving birth to a child is a far more significant decision.
  • I think you are young still in the sense that you can never be too sure on love. You can have the greatest love in your life so far but there are always obstacles that will come along your journey. idk...but if you do make it....you'll be the luckiest ever.. its really 50/50 that you'll be still together forever. To me you are too young because really you can never be sure about love.....especially that binding contract...for better or for worse when you havent even lived your lives out together yet.
  • Believe me, you don't have to prove me wrong. It doesn't make any difference to me what you do - one way or the other. It will make A HUGE difference to you and the rest of your life. What is your hurry? You might have a battle over something and you might break-up. Don't say "no". It happens all the time. A WHOLE LOT of things have to be talked about and LOTS of choices HAVE TO BE made. First and foremost: NUMBER 1: Both of your educations. When folks don't have the right education the challenges and problems are multiplied AND HUGE! For Heaven's sake: DON'T drop-out of school! Due to the current money problems and the economy - just figuring the cost of gasoline to put gas in the car is huge. The days of working 2 jobs and earning enough money to meet living costs (food, clothes, rent, electric, phone, Internet, auto insurance and repairs, etc.) are quickly going away. In the very near future college degrees or certificates from very good trade schools will be mandatory. In fact the days of a G.E.D. or a high school diploma are long gone. College degrees and trade school certificates are the normal educational requirements folks expect. Those days ARE HERE! What about children? Ask any adult. The very last burden, challenge and problem you need or want is to have a child or begin having children. If you and your spouse are working ALL the time, what kind of life are you going to be able to give your chil or children? What kind of jobs are you going to have? Working for $6 to $8, $9 or $10 an hour? Think again. You'll have ALL those expenses I just mentioned. THEN IF you have a baby, your costs will be A WHOLE LOT HIGHER! Who is going to handle or manage your money? How is your money going to be budgeted? I haven't even started to scratch the surface. What happens if one of you, both of you or the baby gets sick? How is that going to be taken care of? You have LOTS of things to talk about. YOU have lots of things to decide about. Until you at least talked things over between yourselves and with ALL of your parents and guardians, DON'T "jump-in with both feet". PLEASE take your time. Ask LOTS of folks LOTS of questions. BUT you're 18. You think you know everything!? Mark my words: Lots of young people say it or think this: "Life is a piece of cake!" "Life is EASY." Without knowing much of anything, some other very positive, "looks-at-life-through-rose-colored glasses" statement. As an adult experiencing some of life's problems, challenges and situations, to the best of my knowledge, NO ADULT EVER SAID: "LIFE IS EASY" OR "LIFE IS GOING TO BE EASY." OR "LIFE IS FAIR." LIFE IS NOT FAIR. Thanks for asking your question. I enjoyed giving you some things to think about - even if no one else or only a few people might try to let you know what is really going on. Very Truly Yours, "Uncle" or "Gran'pop" or as the grandchildren refer to me: "G.R." - "Gran'pop Ron" Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: My personal experiences which are also known to many, many folks as "THE College of Hard Knocks". BUT I prefer calling it "THE University of Hard Knocks"
  • I would say this. There is nothing morally wrong with getting married at 18. But I wouldn't recommend it. Rarely do two people that young know each other well enough to make the decision to spend the rest of their lives together. But on the occasion that hey are truly sure about their decision. And both of them are mature enough...if that's what they chose, then there is nothing wrong with that.
  • sorry didnt realize u were a girl... well, i dont think ur too young to get marred except that if you do, you are not gonna ever know what independce is see ur only 18, this is where INDEPENDENCE is suppose to start, this is where you are supposed to be able to go out and hang with other singles and flirt with guys and have the time of your life clubbing and partying if you get married, say goodbye to BEST 5 years of your life
  • Yes you are too young to get married - The reasons being - You have so much more to learn, about yourself, about others and about being in a relationship with someone. Being the other 50% of a marriage is more than Having a job, getting a house, paying bills, learning how to cook and having kids - it's giving when you don't want to, lending a hand when you need help yourself and it's understanding that it's NOT just about you anymore. At the age of 18 I knew it all - just to find out how much I didn't know (and still don't). Getting married at the fresh young age of 18 will hold you back from doing some things that you didn't even know you wanted to do yet. You can't toss years of wisdom into a 18 year old mind. You can't train someone to know what they want. Time is the one and only thing that will ever allow someone to grow up and out. You're only in the crawling stage of adulthood - you still have to learn how to walk and that stage comes around the ripe old age of 25 :)
  • that depends on you I know so many people that get married when here 18 and younger I know so many its not funny, but it really comes down to you if you love the dude r the gal enough to say I really want to spend the rest of my life with this person , I m ready to settle down and stay only with this person and confident enough that both your love is strong enough to stay with only with this person and you make this other person happy ,... go for it
  • Don't know what everyone else wrote, but one thing I remember someone telling me is... DON'T cause (if you plan on going to college/university) it's gonna cost you A LOT of money - tuition, books... the wedding, whatever you buy moving out, the bills. You won't be able to afford them at the same time, let alone balance your school life with spending time with your spouse. Something like that. Basically you won't be fully mature to handle it because there's more to it than you think. And, who knows, you might meet someone at college/uni! Sooo don't rush.
  • In general I'd say 18 is too young for marriage, but there are so many factors that can affect that. Of course many 40 year olds are too young for marriage! "Maturity" encompasses a lot of perceptions, like one's ability to stand on one's own feet, knowing how to argue respectfully, personal accountability, picking your battles, having your own values, having a well developed character, recognizing in yourself and your partner the passions and room for growth that make marriage a rewarding contract. It is certainly not impossible for an 18 year old to understand those concepts and integrate them, but it's rare.
  • I don’t know you personally, so I can’t really say, but no, as a general rule, you’re not too young. The question is whether or not you’re honestly willing to stick it out. It’s easy to say you’re going to commit to someone for the rest of your life (if not longer, e.g. Latter-day Saint temple weddings), but are both you and your prospective husband willing to do absolutely whatever it takes to make that marriage work? If not, you’ve got a big problem, no matter what your age.
  • There have already been alot of very good and well though out answers but here is my little addition. I dont think anyone should get married before their mid 20's in todays society. At the age of 18 you are still trying to decide who you are and as you age your wants, needs and desires will change. The person you think you love today may not be the person who fits you as an adult. Yes you legally are an adult at 18 but you have alot of life experience ahead of you. Take your time and enjoy the years of your youth, do the things you want to do before you have to settle down and juggle a carrer, marriage and kids. Marriage is hard enough without waking up 10 years from now and realizing the person your sleeping next to hasn't matured as much as you have.
  • You're not "too young to get married"...Do as you please. Sometimes experience is the best teacher. All I know from personal experience is that I married a 16 year old when I was 19...and needless to say, that lasted a whole 18 months. Apparently, she wanted someone else. Go figure. :) GOOD LUCK
  • I dont think there is a too young to get married really, I mean I will say that a divorce is more likely, but do what floats ur boat.
  • Depends on your level of maturity and the level of maturity of your relationship, and the other person. Those 18 yr olds that are still totally in hormonal flux and aren't ready to take care of themselves let alone someone else, are not ready. Those that can only see that they are 'on love' without facing the reality of the situation, and haven't given serious thought to the future with their prospective spouse, like jobs, children, relatives, religion, residence, spending habits, saving habits, all that, are just fooling themselves. But there are some 18 year olds that are capable of doing that. I've known a few, some married for decades and even I was only 18 when I married my almost 23 year old husband, but it was after knowing and talking and befriending each other for 4 years. And we've been married now for 35 years. So I know it's possible.
  • Well i think that it always depends on the person. As for the you will miss out on stuff i mean.. if your really lookin6 for the commitment and you don't necessarily find thin6s that everyone else finds an experience to be the same i say 6o for it. I mean.. this is comin6 from a 16 yr old. But i've had enou6h conversations with my 6randma and my mother about this particular situation that i understand the concepts of what happens. They always tell me that no one is ever truly ready to 6et married. my mother 6ot married at 25 and she told me that she 6rew up soo much more than she ever thou6ht she could. And most of my family members have 6otten married strai6ht out of hi6hschool. And my 6randmother was married at 16 (two weeks after she turned). And yes the currant financial crisis is very important. and you must continue your education. But if you are committed to makin6 the relationship and the financial problems play out and be mature enou6h to accept help when you need it and to not waste your money on thin6s. Then i believe very stron6ly that you should BEWARE of the consequences and be WARNED of the possible problems but no one should ever be allowed to tell you that your are too youn6 *at least at 18* to 6et married. I mean stop tellin6 people not to and start preparin6 them for it. I mean i know that most people are not prepared for that type of commitment at that youn6 of an a6e. But i know also that there are people who are mature enou6h to realize the problems and forbear them with pride and proper strati6ies that will make it possible. I also have a boyfriend who i plan on marryin6 but there also has been already a lot of plannin6 involved. And don't 6et me wron6 there will be no droppin6 out.. or 6ettin6 pre6nant.. we refrain from such acts. There really has to be an understandin6 and a maturity about it. and i cant say i have the maturity but i know that i can handle it.. and my 6randmother has told me many a time that the problem is that they dont want me to deal with the stress and problems. i asked her " so your sayin6 that I or someone else can't or shouldn't 6et married when they 6raduate?" she told me,"no, you can, you'll be prepared when you do. But i wouldn't advise it." and i respect her very much for her honesty. And her talkin6 to me like an adult. my parents probably don't suspect me 6ettin6 married after i 6raduate but i know that they do know that i am serious. and have told me many times that i am mature for my a6e. and i dislike bein6 treated as thou6h i don't know what i am talkin6 about and what i want. but i know that most of the people postin6 here are older but don't under estimate the youn6 person everyone is different and everyone has a different maturity level. (jud6e the person not the act.)
  • yes because when i was 18 i wanted to get married to my b/f of 4 years. When I was 22 i wanted to get married to my b/f of 2 years...I am now 25 and I feel I am finally mature enough to be married Basically things will change a lot in the next few years.
  • It will of course depend on how compatible you are with your partner and how mature you are. My daughter got married when she was 18 and got divorced in a year. I would only advise that you take a good look at yourself and your relationship and make sure you are getting married for the right reasons.
  • I can't argue with that at all. I have lots of happily married friends and family who were married in their teens.
  • You are an adult and are very capable of making your own decisions and if you feel that you are ready to marry someone, go for it.
  • my wife was barely 20 when we got married and we have been married almost 13 years.so i think if you r in-love and can support yourself go for it....

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