ANSWERS: 47
  • you can't really forgive someone that has done that to you. maybe ifit happenned once. but not multiple times. that's a horrible thing to do. if i was you. i would never forgive her.
  • Gosh I am being harsh but I don't think you should forgive her. Maybe you can forgive her but I wouldn't suggest that you take her back. You can only be walked on for so long.
  • This is not about forgiveness. This is about why you are still with her. Why are you still with her? Dear friend, you really ought to respect yourself and leave the relationship, and if you have then forget about her. If anything you should feel sorry for such a wretch.
  • You don't!
  • So heres my story, i didnt have enough room in the question box. I started dating this girl the beginning of my senior year and we hung out every day for 9 months. after 9 months, we started fighting more and more. One night she went out with a friend and called me the next day saying she didnt want to be with me anymore, she left me for another guy. two days later she calls me crying saying it was the biggest mistake she ever made, we talked and decided to stay together, at least till prom. We were still fighting and it was the day before prom where she left me again, i ended up not going to my senior prom and spending it with this other girl at the beach. I didnt talk to her for a month, she messaged me on my birthday saying she wanted to see me. We hooked up, multiple times. It ended up being that we started dating again. We dated till school got out and things were perfect, we didnt fight and everything seemed fine.... I heard rumors that she was flirting with a ex, but she denied it and i had no proof. We broke up again, this time for 6 months. During this time i was having a really hard time dealing with this, i ended up getting a sleeping desorder caused by stress and now i dont sleep (thats why this post is at 2 am haha). I confined in one of my friends, every last embarassing thing i felt, imagine pouring your soul out when your a 18 year old guy..... theres a lot. Then one week, he didnt talk to me all week, we had ALL of our classes together and i asked him "whats up" and he said nothing, but he started being a huge dick to me. I found out that he had invited my ex over, got her drunk and they sex. My ex was puking all that night from drinking all that night but i still blame her for it. This guy btw is a fuck, he played mind games with me, denying what happened and telling me it never happened. So i never 100% knew what happened. I started drinking heavily and smoking weed everyday, i've tryed psychologists, help lines .... everything. I was to the point where if i could have a gun, i would have shot myself..... I didnt talk to my ex for 4 months. I had nightmares, dreams.... whatever you want to call them. I say they were nightmares because in my dreams i was happy, i was with her again and we were sleeping in my bed with nothing to worry about, then i wake up.... You cant imagine how painful that is. Its confusing too, because you wake up expecting someone to be there and ... there not. I've seen this kind of thing with married couples who are together for years... but not my age. Here's the kicker. So one night i was really drunk and i called her to make sure she was okay, i had heard that she had recently broken up with a guy that i use to wrestle with and that she was getting into smoking weed, which isn't her. We talked for 4 hours.... while i was drunk haha. I ended up going to her house at 2 am and we hung out at a park. The police showed up at the park and had her call her parents ... at 3am with her ex boyfriend.
  • You forgive her for yourself by just feeling it inside, forgive yourself for staying with her those multiple times, and then you just move on with your life...without her.
  • first take care of yourself, she used you and threw you away in a very mean way. Take control of your emotions and don't do the same mistakes again. After that you can start thinking about forgiveness, maybe...
  • You move on and find a nice girl. :D Good luck, you deserve better.
  • If you're enlightened you will forgive the girl... you also will feel sorry for her because people like that have it coming one day... what goes around comes around! So get on with your life without her!
  • You simply dont 4give, and its difficult to 4 get also. Move on
  • You run for the door and dump her fast! Many women are looking for good men!
  • You don't... She doesn't deserve it... Well, actually you should try, but I don't beleive that it is something that you can make yourself do... I would just leave her and move on.
  • You don't forgive, you run like hell and find some rspect for yourself and another girlfriend who would love you for who you are. Not all girls are like that...
  • i think the question should start with "How to DUMP..." not "How to forgive..."
  • You don't. You kick that bitch to the curb.
  • Stop forgiving and taking her back. Forget it. She obviously doesn't care for or love you. Why keep trying with her?
  • You should not forgive her! That girl is probably just using you for some odd reason and is probably a hoe.
  • Don't forgive move on, leave her
  • wtf is wrong with you?
  • I think you should close the door on this girl or maybe slam it and run.
  • GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP. I know its hard, I know you still feel a connection with her that's impossible to deny, but you will be so much more happy in the long run if you end it. Think about it - what if you guys do get back together and get married? Her younger indiscretions will always hang over you. Besides, it's obvious she does not respect you.
  • I would say to myself and her GOODBYE!!
  • ..you can't..she keeps you around only because she knows you have such strong feelings that you will always be there..show her that you are human too and make some of your own mistakes..you'll see how fast she dumps you..she has no respect for you..and neither does your best friend for that matter..move on..there are so so so many girls out there that can and will make you as happy as you can make them and you know it!
  • you don't you drop her and your sorry ex best friend like a hot rock
  • You should probably figure out if forgiving her is worth all the hurt she put you through. And remember, forgiving her doesn't mean you have to stay in the relationship. You can always forgive someone and decide you don't want them in your life anymore. Be strong. This girl sounds toxic.
  • leave her and dont look back....i had a kinda similar case. not exactly like this. you'll feel better in the long run. Trust me i know its hard at first. But you will thank yourself in the future....i have after i broke up with my gf. just leave her and dont look back or have regrets. You need to find someone who respects you....and you will just believe in yourself
  • You can forgive her and move on at the same time.
  • I wouldn't. Question is, why do you want to?
  • You dump them and move on. It's not good to hold a grudge, but personally, just let time do the work in this case. I don't see any reason you need to put effort into reviving this friendship with the girl period.
  • I'm sorry to say this, but she's not your girlfriend anymore, so instead of forgiving her, just move on.
  • Forgive her..write a letter to her tellign her you forgive her, and mean it, but don't give it to her...only do it for yourself. And don't give her anymore chances. Move on.
  • You don't. I wouldn't at least. I would just forget her and move on.
  • F her.. move on.. you can do better.
  • forgive her by evicting her from your life.
  • why would you want to?
  • Forgiveness is easy. You just forgive. This girl obviously has not changed her behavior in quite some time - and you must love her to forgive her repeatedly. I think you need to forgive her for not being the right girl for you. If you care enough to stick around this long, maybe you can offer her your friendship. Eventually her deceitfulness will catch up with her, and she'll probably really need a friend.
  • Sounds like you need to worry more about YOU being stupid. There are more fish out there in the sea.
  • Dont even try, Find someone else. Anyone can make one mistake, Only person she cares about is herself. She is just a walking talking selfish Biatchh! You dont deserve that and she doesn't deserve you.
  • I'd say, forgive her for your own well being but run, and fast!
  • Bitch. Don't.
  • by letting her find someone else to be her backup.
  • Shes not worth your time, at all, period, you deserve better.
  • How do you forgive YOURSELF for staying with someone who would do that to you?
  • How many senior proms have you HAD?
  • Im a girl...and just fucking kill her! i would lol...that bitch.
  • before or after your lobotomy?
  • why dont you tell her how you feel, you obviously love her alot, i know someone in this position, or similar and i'd say the same to him she needs to see how much shes hurting you, she needs a good metaphorical kick up the arse and trust me, she will change, also trust is key, if she knows you dont she's likely to do it again

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