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  • I'm 15, turning 16, I don't have a boyfriend. In my humble opinion, you should chill. There are more important things to worry about, such as education and family, maybe even a job. You have so many more years to worry about a significant other. Take it slow.
  • Well Im 14, almost 15 and I never had a girlfirend, all you do is act yourself, and the right guy will relize you and would want to be with you. Take your time with things like this, dont worrie.
  • Do you really need a boyfriend at 13.I guess if you feel bad just think that they're not going to be marrying this boy, at 13 there is not such thing as a male-female relationship.This is an adult thing! just have some guy friends thats the best option :) I am not saying these things to be mean but nothing good comes from 13 year old trying to have a serious BF. Just enjoy being 13 and have good friends
  • Don't worry about it. It's not that big a deal. If it makes you feel any better, I'm seventeen and I've never even been close to having any kind of meaningful relationship. You'll find that people like us are more common than you thought.
  • I am 23yrs old and I've never had a boyfriend. I have been asked but turned them down because they all had kids. I want a relationship not children. Not to mention I look like I'm 12 since I'm only 4'11". So I have been asked by young boys for my number. But that's just wrong. You are definitely not alone.
  • You are so young, and I really think you need to be happy with yourself before you pursue any type of relationship. They always say it's better to be single and alone then with the wrong person. Just keep working on your life, your friendships, and simply breathing in and out. When you're not even looking, bam! There he'll be.
  • You could try to make yourself look cuter or more approachable. The thing is, you might not be ready. And, if you aren't ready, the signals aren't going to be there. You won't be approachable so boys won't approach you. When you truly are ready for a boyfriend, I bet you will have many knockin' at your door.
  • Just don't rush it. When the time is right, you'll find someone worthwhile. Absolutely do not change yourself or doll yourself up just to attract guys. A guy should want to be with you for the way you are naturally, not just for your body. I used to get asked out a lot in middle and high school because I was very pretty and voluptuous but honestly, at that age, most guys aren't thinking about your personality when they ask you out. Once in a while you'll find a guy that wants you for you but all of my boyfriends during that time period wanted me for my looks only. Also, don't just set your sights on the hot, popular guys. While they may have a pretty face, you may or may not have a lot in common with them. Sure, they're hot but what makes a relationship truly enjoyable is a connection. My fiancee used to be "the dork" in high school and while he may not be handsome by media standards, I love him with all of my heart and I can connect with him so easily.
  • You really are way too young to worry about this stuff. You have your whole life ahead of you to lose sleep over guys. Give yourself a break and enjoy being a kid for the next 2 years or so. If you start sweating this stuff now, you'll have grey hair by the time you're 18. I'm 41 and still haven't found the right guy. There is so much fun you could be missing out on if all you do is fret over this. Seriously, focus on developing yourself, your hobbies, school. Don't worry about boys now.
  • Hun, you're only 13. At your age, i didn't have a boyfriend, don't even think about a boyfriend...wait till high school at least, they'll come around, trust me....I was very involved in sports at your age, so i didn't have time for one, but they came around by the time i hit high school...and also, maybe try outside of your town, sometimes it takes a while for the boys to see what they're missing :)
  • Don't worry about that. Most relationships at young teen years or younger don't work out anyway, so don't worry about trying to get in one. There are other things to do than be with someone. Enjoy life and what is out there to do. Someone will notice you eventually. If they don't, maybe try and ask someone if you notice them first. But later on. I am 28 and just stopped dating at 19. I was single for 8 years until I met my girlfriend over a year ago. It's not that big of a deal to be single at any age.
  • You're 13. I'm 15 and still haven't even had my first kiss. Just wait a couple of years or until you're mature enough for a relationship. :)
  • It's awful, isn't it? I'm almost 14 & never had a boyfriend. I'm very lonely, but I try to forget it. I guess I'm just one of those people that needs to be loved, because I don't feel like I'm special to ANYONE. Honey, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
  • you know what? I feel like this lots and im 16! Its okay to feel upset when your friends get boyfriends, maybe your not ready for a boyfriend or maybe its not even worth getting a boyfriend at that age. Even at my age I havnt had a serious boyfriend and im kinda glad because I see my friends getting very upset or mad at their boyfriends and I dont have that problem!
  • wow i haven't been 13 for 6 years now and kids are already gettin whinier. you all think you have it soo hard and noone else has it worse, you all piss and moan when your parents won't buy you slutty clothing when you all shouldn't be wearing that shit anyway till like high school and then you all throw a tantrum when you can't get a cell phone when you're all pretty damn lucky cuz these days you all get cell phones when you're 4. just cuz teen is in thirteen doesn't mean you're not a kid anymore, so what i'm trying to say is you're still young it's not the frickin end of the world, another thing too kids your age make relationships sound like marriage, seriously you all need to get over yourselves
  • I hate to be so honest darling but 13 is no age to have a boyfriend. I was a dignified teenager and waited till 17 for my first kiss. My first boyfriend cam along when I was just 18. Don't rush growing up, you will regret it. Being grown up is no fun and just because your friends are doing it, and TV says it's right, it doesn't mean it's right as it will just leave to pre-mature pregnancy. Have fun with girls like you and take your time to learn who you are before you let some guy try and figure you out. You need to know who you are first and for that you need a few more years of growing up.
  • actually no i'm not selfish. and really i didn't rip on her i said to her DIRECTLY it's not the end of the world, go back and read the context in which i said MOST of my answer in. maybe if you were in school instead of doing acid at woodstock you might have learned a little more about the enlish language ma'am. and by your attitude i can tell your kids must call the shots around your household
  • Not many people have a boyfriend at the age of 13. I didn't. Or a girlfriend for that matter. Let me put it to you like this. It'll be worth the wait. I've waited years for a true boyfriend and the waiting has paid off. All of my friends had had partners and such long before I did. I was jealous, but now that I have found my significant other, they are the ones that envy ME. Don't be worried :) The temptation is (when you're this age and you feel like nobody is noticing you) to go out with the first person that asks you. Shop around and make sure it's actually what you want and not what you feel will make you feel like you're getting somewhere. I really hope it turns out well for you.
  • I felt like that when I was 13. And my first official boyfriend didn't come till I was 17. You are not alone and there's no hurry. It'll happen at the right time.
  • See my answer to another 13yo at http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2219881 (and all the answers there.)
  • im a thirteen year old guy and im in year eight all my friends have had heaps of girlfriends or just a few. But I feel really intimidated when they ask me how many girlfriends I've had or even if I've had one so I just have to lie! I mean i dont see whats wrong with me i mean im hot and everything but no body seems to like me i am not stressing about it but ive just always wanted a good close relasionship with a girl. Buf lots of girls luv my personality and find me funny but anyway ur not the only one but all u hav to do is make a really good friendship and maybe flirt with him a few times to giv him a hint a he mite just ask u out
  • I was just like you in my teen years. And you know what... the grass in not always greener on the other side. All of the popular girls that I knew in school ended up having sex a lot earlier than I did. While I was planning on going to school in England when I graduated from high school, they were minding the kids that they had their senior year. They are early bloomers and us late bloomers bloom the best. Find a hobby or something you are good at. Surround yourself with the right people who can support the essence of who you really are as a person, and I guarantee you, you will grow into a very happy and well adjusted lady. Leave those slacker boys to the those other girls. I guarantee you a month or a few years from now most of them will not be around.
  • Just chill at 13 i'm sure there relationships are'nt serious(i hope that did'nt seem partrinising) i'm sure you just be yourself you'll find a bf in your own time,so dont worry about it.
  • Go out and find someone. Your problem is you are 'waiting' for something to happen. And there is no rule that says you can't find love at 13. My brother and his wife met at that age. Of course, it took me until I was 20 to find my fiancee (3 years and counting!)
  • hey im a lesbian(and 14)....my fist gf this year....i was in 8th (im about to be freshman this year) and she was well, in the 6th.....she was very immature (of course) and i dumped her b-cuz of that (and she used me) but im still in the look for searching for a more matured teenaged girl.... www.myspace.com/dominicanbabii65!!!!
  • I think you are still too young to have the mental capacity of being in a relationship with a guy. I do understand yout jealousy of your other friends luck with getting boyfriends, because I used to feel the same way when I was younger. I think you need to focus more on yourself, loving yourself and seeing why your time of having a boyfriend has not come. Enjoy your teen years and try not to be too mortified about your situation.
  • Of course people feel like that. But it's nothing to worry about. I didn't get my first kiss until I was 14, first boyfriend at 16, and first semi-serious one at 17. And I'm serious, EVERYONE I knew had gone out with someone by 6th grade, and I hadn't even admitted to liking anyone yet. It was pretty confusing, as I'd always had the most friends, and the biggest personality, and I'd always thought of myself of being as pretty or prettier than my friends. So I didn't see why they had someone and I never did. But later on boys (and girls as well) would tell me I was the most intimidating person to approach and that probably hurt my chances in the past. But all that doesn't really matter in the end, because now I have a bf who is better looking than any of the ones my friends EVER had growing up, and we probably have a deeper relationship because we knew each other for years before becoming a couple, and went through a lot of phases together. So the point is just to take it slow. It doesn't matter if your friends have something you don't. You'll eventually get it, everyone that wants it does. It's not you, it's just the circumstances and timing of the people around you. And trust me, you don't want to go out with people that young anyway. It's not important at your age, because you have all the time in the world. If you're going to worry about it, wait until high school. And then you'll see that it isn't the biggest thing in the world tohave a boyfriend. When the timings right, you'll get one, but don't fret about it until then.
  • You're 13. Be happy you don't have to deal with us stupid icky boys. We're more hassle than were worth at that age anyways, and you'll miss the rest of the fun during those years if you are worried about something not important like that.
  • you have the rest of your life to deal with men, enjoy life now without the stress.
  • I'm 12 and in year 7 and all my mates have had boyfriends. I have had 2 "boyfriends" but I started to get called "stiff" because I was too nervous to meet them out of school, kiss them or even talk to them. I soon got dumped off both of them but only after I was laughed at for bein stiff.When my mates had boyfriends they were always holding their hand around school and getting off with them outside of school. To be honest I don't know why I'm like this...
  • I definately did when I was your age. It'll pass. Trust me. Be yourself, you'll attract someone special. :)
  • ah dont worry. life is a long road, and you gotta ride down it slowly. cherish your childhood, a boyfriend will find you. dont go looking for him or it'll seem as if you'll never find one. like everyones been saying, just wait. it'll come. i promise.
  • Ok, i'm 13 and have had two "boyfriends" in the past two years, but I am totally single and loving it right now, anyway, the that is works with guys, is that if you see them having fun, just walk into a group of like 6 of them and start talking and messing with them, itss soo much funn :-D but totally, don't worry bout it we both have plenty of time to find the rite man <333
  • I've definitely been there before. I didn't have my first boyfriend till I was 15. And people tell me I'm so pretty I should be on America's Next Top Model... Honestly, it's probably nothing to do with you or me, it's those icky boys who have the problem! =)
  • ya a have and it will come to u and the only way u can really try and get one is just b nice to all the guys and give them little winks everynow and then
  • 13 is a bit young to have a boyfriend. Most boys your age wouldn't have even started puberty yet. Wait a few years for everyone's hormones kick in.
  • Well..I can relate kinda sorta...I am 19 now and I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 18. So yea, it may take a while to get noticed but,..13 is still kinda young to be thinking about "serious" relationships. Gain some friends and maybe throughout the years they might want to become more than just friends.
  • sweetie, you're only 13. boys should not even be on your mind. but i know they look cute and you think you know about relationships and what to do but you don't. it may sound mean but it's the truth. i remember being 13 and wanting a boyfriend. ask yourself this: y do i want 1 and if i do get 1, what are we going to do? trust me, you're going to grow up faster than you can blink. it may seem like everyone is telling you what to do and noone understands but sometimes it's better to listen to adults. someday, you'll be old enough to date and when you do, it'll be better because you'll be older and more experienced.
  • woo, let me tell ya, i never had a boyfriend, ever! and here was my best friend who dated everyguy in our grade and other grades and she always knew what she was doing if you catch my drift, but i would have crushes and none of them liked me back and i felt ugly and worthless, one day, (i was 16 and now 17) this guy told me i was the most beautiful girl he had ever seen. told me i was amazing. i know it seems crazy to you now because i hated hearing it when i was your age, but there is someone out there for everyone, there really is. just hold your head up, you have your whole life ahead of you for dating stuff, just enjoy being a kid.
  • Just find someone to hang out with, even nerds!
  • you might feel like you're not being noticed but you might be very noticed. I never thought I was ever noticed by boys but I was talking to my guy friends about boyfriends/girlfriends the other day and they were shocked that I only ever had 2 (Im 17). they were like I'm sure any guy in our school would go out with you they're just afraid to talk to you. I was like woah... so you might be noticed and just not know it. try asking someone out instead of waiting around for someone to ask you out.
  • Eh, boys of that age are stupid -- I felt sort of ugly because no one seemed to like me at that age -- but I wouldn't worry, they all start realizing you exist by the time they're at least 15 or 16.
  • lol you're only 13! remember girls mature faster than boys, so many boys in your class aren't even thinking about girls yet! wait a few more years and you'll get noticed for sure. Concentrate on becoming a great young lady! practice your communication skills, take care of yourself, make friends and just relax!
  • I know this isn't what you want to hear, but at thirteen you shouldn't have had a boyfriend yet. Take your time. Make friends with boys first. Get to know who you are. Get to know who they are and what you want in a boy. Don't rush to get your heart broken the first time. It'll come, but the longer you wait (within reason) the better the chance that your first relationship will be successful and happy. Those girls that are so far ahead of you will be even farther ahead in ten years. They'll be the ones sitting at a table at the local fast food joint, talking on the cell phone about how their ex-husbands didn't pay the child support on their two kids (with different dads) again. Their hearts will have been broken so many times that you'll wonder if they have one anymore. They'll be driving some old beater and living in a trailer. You will be just getting settled in a lasting relationship. Look around at your peers. I know it may seem like you are all roughly alike in school. Trust me, the prison population of the next twenty years is in school with you. The deadbeat dads and deadbeat moms of the future are sitting next to you. The bank president of the future is sitting in class with you. The funeral director who will bury your parents is somewhere in that room. Show them all respect, because some of them will be signing off on your mortgage some day. But don't let the future ex-cons and future denizen's of Jerry Springer side track you. With luck, maybe you'll be the one signing off on your classmates car loan.
  • I know how you feel... you just have to be yourself and someday you'll find someone. I didn't even get my first boyfriend until I was in college. Don't worry about it... your time will come and when it happens you'll be happy.
  • Dont even worry about social stadis at 13. At 12 I was one of the biggest losers. By 14 I was one of the cool kids!
  • I don't know about boyfriends and such. But I do know it's asking for trouble coming on the internet as a 13 year old girl talking about getting a guy. Be careful.
  • Okay, well i know when your thirteen the only thing you could ever hope for is a boyfriend. But Truely, i think you should talk to your crush and then play hard to get. I have been single for a long time now, and basically, when I like i guy, i flirt my way into his heart. and im only 14. i think you should talk to alot of guys and then see if any of them like you. I would say some sweet stuff to them. But it kinda is better to be single though, because you can do alot more. For example, you can flirt with anyone you want, you dont have to worry about an over protective boyfriend and you can just be free. and when you do have a boyfriend, you can kiss makeout and everything. and feel loved. but even if you dont have a boyfriend, you can still be loved by everyone else. I wouldnt just stand there and wait. put yourself out there. Let them know your availble.
  • You're only 13. In my book, you're actually the normal one, not your friends. I'm not putting your friends down, but it's better at your young age to focus on other more important things, like yourself (building your confidence through your achievements), your education, your family, etc. Don't worry! Boyfriends can come later. Focus on yourself first and treating yourself in the best possible way first. You deserve it.
  • At 13 you don't want a boyfriend. When I was 13 the guys who were dating were complete jerks who will probably father more children than they can count and will be saying "Do you want fries with your Bigmac" for the rest of your life or they will be very immature. When I was 13 I was guilted into dating a guy who was kind of my friend. Here was our relationship Him: You're fat Me: Uh huh, thanks. Him: You're friends are stupid Me: Uh sure, whatever. He didn't know how to act around girls. It was like when you are in elementary cool and the kids would make fun of whoever they liked. If you wait you will get a better guy, and not be riduculed for whoever you dated. It's 3 years later, and I am still made fun of for 'dating' that guy hehe.
  • I had the EXACT same problem, but I quickly got over it when I saw how my best friend's relationship was with her boyfriend. Seriously, when you are in middle school (which not bad, actually quite fun), boyfriends are overrated. I know every girl wants to be wanted, but you do NOT want to be wanted by boys who don't like you for who you are!!! Just wait a little longer, and it will just happen. Don't try to force it. You should just tolerate your friend's boyfriends and comfort them when they break up with their boyfriend and say that you are happy for them when they get back together. You don't need to get mad at them for having boyfriends. That is a battle in which no one wins anything. Remember: You pick your battles. This is not a battle in which you have to participate in, even though your friends do.
  • all you need to do is wait around, just be yourself. if a guy really likes you he will like you for you. don't change just to get attention. because as soon as you do that, you are setting yourself up for failure.
  • I am a girl and i know exactly how you feel.Once you get a boyfriend you feel like you are on a leash. its better being single.last year i was like this too. over the summer i met this one guy who is 14 and i am 13. he asked me to be his gf and i said yes eventhough i didnt have any feelings for him. i really regret it and i am going to break up with him. i think it is better to feel the way you do because once you find someone and hurry into a relationship and theres a chance you might not like it. i made that mistake. dont worry. the right person will notice you and like you for who you are. your time will come. you should just go with the flow and someone wil find you.
  • dont think about it,change your point of view from : i hate it i dont have a boyfriend to: yey i am single with no responsibilities! if that doesnt work try to change a bit, but dont become a different person, maybe instead oof the pretty one be the funny one, or instead of the mature one be the outgo`ing one, therefore people willwill notice you!
  • i know exactly how you feel. i have been down that road before, you just need to wait it out. (there probably is a guy that likes you. hes probably the shy guy.) at 13 having a boyfriend shouldn't be number one on your to do list anyway.
  • Youre 13. So what?
  • you are way too young to worry about such things... boys your age are shy around pretty girls, so if they keep away from you, you are hot
  • i think you should get out there girl & find the boy thats made 4 you. just go up 2 someone you fancy like mad and ask them out. cara x
  • Any one can fall in love at any age, you just have to wait your turn until God decides it's your time to. -Jessica Edgell soon to be Zeidler.
  • When I was 13 I had a boyfriend. I was so young, I didn't know what to do with him. We had nothing in common. Zero. That is because we were trying to do what everyone else thought 13 year old's should do. I'm not saying that having a boyfriend is wrong, its just better to start out with someone that you feel totally at ease with. Someone that likes you and respects you, or its gonna hurt way too bad and its not worth it.
  • Sweetheart..You dont want one there more trouble than there worth at 13..Just wait.. you will find someone when you get older.. you really dont want to start at 13 i wish i hadnt.
  • I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 19 and that relationship was meaningfull and lasted for two years, we loved eachother. And even then we had been friends with eachother for a few years before we started going out. Your way too young to have a boyfriend. Wait a couple of years until you find someone you really really love. you shouldn't settle for anything less.
  • I am the same way, i have not had a lot of boyfriends, like one. Trust me its best to wait. Chasing boys is stressful. Do your own thing and they will eventually come to you.
  • i believe in the whole too young thing but im going to answer yor question anyway cuze you asked it and u want a tru answeer right? yeahhhh. im answeringt his cuze im in the same boat except im 12. some of my friends hav already had bfs and many bfs to be exact. well maybe when ur around guys dont be as shy or conservaive. i dont mean like sit on their laps just make them notice you. like i was at a party and they had an air hockey table 2 guys were playing i just stood by the corner of the table but the key is when the puck was coming really fast and almost hit me i jumped behind the guy and gave like a simi hug not really though. then they notice u more. just hang with them talk with them and make them feel comfortable. start out as friends and maybe something will go from there.....
  • heyy. wehll... ime 14 and i thinnk i am a pretty nice purson..:] that hazznt stopped the boyz i went out with from dumping me ahnd playingg around wiff me though..:[ It is not all bad for you.. you havent felt the shame and hurt of being dumped for selfishly stupid reasons from guys. I bet when the guy you want comes along, you will stand out to him from others bekoz hee seeyz something special in you, dont worry.. the time will come..lawl
  • A lot of people haven't had a boyfriend at the age of 13, it's still very young. You don't need to have had a boyfriend to fit in or anything. Try not to worry about them, it happens, chances are that you haven't found someone yet because you are looking for someone who would be perfect for you or would work for you. So don't worry about this at all. I'm sure you will find someone that you can have a fun filled relationship with. Hope I helped. :)
  • I'm old enough to be your grandpa and if you were my grand daughter I would give you a big hug and tell you to not worry about it. You'll be OK when the time is right. Just because "the other girls are doin it" doesn't mean you have to jump off the Empire State Building with them. You could end up with Turd Boy who wants only one thing and then what? Your mom or dad would have to kill him, then you and you'll both be dead and it won't matter. ;) Mr Perfect will someday notice you sitting there like wall paper and you're whole head will feel like jello and then you won't have the first clue what to say, he'll blush and ask you to dance or whatever and then it'll be off to the races. Don't worry. It'll happen and there is NO RUSH to life. I'm STILL without a girlfriend and I sometimes wonder what's wrong with me, but I already know at this age. I quit rushing. Take your good old mother blues time. Consider it like practicing for your own funeral. You want to be late for that... Good luck kiddo.
  • I'm 14, I've had the same problem. But now, I have a whole new set of problems. Is she really good-looking enough. Is that the only reason I'm with her. Do I even care about her personality. Do I spend enough time with her. What will my mates think of her. But hey, I'm a guy and that's a whole other question anyways.
  • you're still a little girl you idiot! go play with your teddy bears, yeah?
  • i would just be patient, youre too young for a boyfriend anyways

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