ANSWERS: 16
  • Wow first of all have you even told him yet? What were the circumstances of the cheating and how far did you go? Was it his friend, somone he knew? What were your personal reasons, were you just selfish or is there something more? Those are all factors. How long have you been married to your husband?
  • Have you read these answers? http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1381364
  • First of all - you must really love your husband if you cheated on him!!! As if he is going to believe anything you have to say to do with being in love with him from here on... You've broken the trust, and once it's broken, it's gone forever. He will never forget this, I hope you realise this???
  • Your trust level with him is now 0. You have nothing. The only way to earn it back is to have him willing. If he's unwilling to allow it then there's nothing you can do. If he is willing, the best thing to do is go to therapy with him. Do not lie about anything, no matter how small or insignificant it may be. If he has questions, you answer them honestly. That last part is the hardest, but if you really want to save your marriage that will be the only way to get it done.
  • He will never believe you love him. He will never believe anything you say. I hope he does leave you.
  • First of all if you really loved him you wouldn't have cheated on him. So you saying you really love him and want to prove it is CRAP! You should of thought about how much you loved him before you cheated on him! If I were him you would have been gone the first time you told me. Maybe you can gain SOME of his trust back. But he will never truly feel 100% love from you and he will never give you his full trust again! If he had cheated on you would you take him back?
  • ok well if you "really loved Him" then you wouldnt have cheated. im not tring to be mean but you arnt in love with him, you are in love with the security. you probable live in a house, make good money and have it made being with him and if he left you, you would have nothing. you need to grow a pair and tell him. honesty is the best thing when you have done WRONG!!!
  • You can never prove to anyone that you will never hurt them. So, take that out of the equation, first of all. That type of thinking has gotten you here. You seem to now care about the results. All you can do is not cheat again. What were the circumstances that caused it? How are you so sure you want your husband or do you fear the rejection? Maybe you just don't want to be left alone.
  • see hears the thing... everyones sorry after..... to l8 now ... if he leaves u ... its your fault..... honestly coming from a guys prespective..... and a young one at that....id say break down and cry on his shoulder and cling to him and dont let go and have a very long conversation....ive always felt raw emotion is the strongest way of showing your love
  • You have to be really honest here. What caused you to cheat? How do you know you won't do it again? You cannot promise what you haven't been able to do in the past. If he is willing to move on, you should too. You're marriage isn't necessarily over. But you can't prove anything anymore. The fact is, there are no guarantees.
  • Well it should have never happened in the first place. Trust just went out the window.
  • Prove to yourself first.
  • Here are some things you can do: - Stop talking to the person you cheated with. - Don't put yourself into situations where you will be tempted to cheat. - Don't cheat EVER again.
  • He is going to feel: *Cuckolded *humiliated *deceived *like the world is caving in and he can't trust anyone or anything *like he was the last to know and everyone's looking at him *compared, in bed *passed over for something 'better' *dirty - like he dipped his wick in sloppy seconds (sorry to be so blunt about it) *like it could be that every second he ever felt safe or married or in love with you and the whole time you were together and everything nice you ever said to him was quite possibly based on a lie, because hey, why should he trust a single damn thing you've ever said? Wake up, proving you'll 'never do it again' is the least of your worries.
  • just stop doing it and dont tell him if you dont want to
  • Most likely he's never going to be able to really forgive you. And chances are you will hurt him again

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