Complete emotional breakdowns seem to be the way to go....for me anyway. I'm sure there are better ways, but I don't know what they are.

First,I'll tell him/her what I feel then walk away from him/her.

Detached Attachment is the only way to go in life. You can enjoy someone's company, even feel 'close' to them, but you must realize that EVERYTHING in this life (including your body, mind and spirit) is BORROWED from our Creator, whoever that might be. When someone 'betrays' you, it means two things: 1. You have placed an expectation on this person and are trying to force them into your ideal. 2. You have established, in your mind, a sense of 'possesion' over this person; a sense that they somehow belong to you. If you don't feel this way, you'll never feel loss; you cant feel loss if you never posess. The way to break this emotional charge is to relax into letting go of those things over which you have no control (i.e. anything in another body/mind)

get even.

It depends on in what way did they betray you. For example, i will tell you what i have been through. I met my boyfriend about a year ago this past month, and of course he has been with other ladies before me. We are both in local motorcycle chapters, and i had met and made a couple of girlfriends at his chapter, having no clue that one of them had slept with him before we were even an item. In our chapters, we have to be nice to each and all of our brothers and sisters, and when I found out this, i was hurt , because a good deal of time had gone by before I found out about it. I had really became good friends with the girl that he had been with, and when he told me, i was hurt, and felt betrayed ,because it took him so long to tell me. When he finally did come clean about it, I went through several different emotions, mad,aggravated ,hurt, upset knowing that she had been with him, and trust me, it hurt, because i knew that I would see her again alot, due to the chapter. It took alot of thinking on my part, that there was nothing that i could do, that it was before I was even around, and what good was it for me to sit and have so much hatred in my heart? so, being the better person, I decided to let it go, but not without a talking to to her, and to him as well. I put my foot down, and told her that she was not going to ever get to be with him again, and that if i caught her even thinking about it, i would make certain that our chapters would know what was going on. Trust me, she didnt like that at all. Then I told him ,that i would not hold that against him, but he is not to expect me to like her as much as I did, or to ever trust her again. He stated that if he knew that he was going to be with me, that he would have never done it in the first place. You have to be the better person, and do what makes you happy. If that person hurt you badly, enough to where you feel that you cannot trust them, then you need to move on.

The general way we get over things is to allow them to heal with time. However, there are a variety of things which can make that process go haywire, and we get "stuck" with the trauma. The barriers to healing generally fall into two related categories: clinging and resistance. An example of clinging is someone who can't let go of their dead spouse, year after year they expend most of their day reminiscing, crying, talking to their spirit, etc. An example of resistance would be someone who refuses to confront the fact that they were raped: denying that it happened, or trying to convince themselves that they wanted it, etc. The reason clinging and resistance happen is because we get attached to our ideas of who we are, and the incident or trauma seems to threaten those ideas. For example, if I consider myself "tough", and have some traumatic experience where I feel vulnerable and afraid and run away, that "data point" threatens my tough self image, and I'll likely resist acknowledging it in order to preserve my sense of being a tough person. So the way to get over betrayal, or anything else, is to allow time to do its job -- but to be aware and observe your own mind and heart... checking regularly to see if you're caught in ill-advised clinging or resistance to support a fixed idea of who you are.

I don't know if you ever really get over it. It messes up your trust and you find yourself building little walls with everyone else. TIme alone makes it not hurt so much tho.

The thing that helps me is that Jesus was betrayed. So if he was betrayed, I can't expect better treatment. It happens to everyone and all you can do is learn from it.

I think of it as their problem, and i am grateful that it isn't me doing it to someone else

i would listen to soft music and cry probs lighthouse family 'high' should listen to it such a buitiful song

I may feel anger and hurt initially, but soon realize that it is 'not about me'. The betrayal is about the other person, and their inability to be loyal or committed to our friendship. I examine my own part in the situation, and can only work on that. The other person will have to figure out things for him or herself.

they dont ever get to be a part of my life again -

If the betrayal is severe enough then it's usually "Your dead too me" Then I get over it.

Have a "pity party" with myself Write songs/poems about how I feel (cathartic). Try to not hear the sad lyrics in songs Try to concentrate on comedians, comedies, and being free of the hurt. (NOTE: I don't drink or do drugs, and am not suicidal, so that keeps me SAFE. If you do or are, the Pity Party - actually the whole process - should be dry (no alcohol, no drugs)... Let yourself feel sorry for yourself for a while. If you're suicidal, call a crisis center and/or get help, please. I promise you - It DOES and WILL get better.) After a while, it all works FOR me, and I'm fine... There are still occasional pangs, but they ease up after time, too. You HAVE to think positively, though... It really speeds the process along.

Just wait, pretend it doesnt bother me, and then when they need me the most, shove right back in their face and totally screw them over. REVENGE

I do not get over it. Betrayal from a person close to you is worse than from a stranger.

I wish I knew how.

get back at them till there majorley pissed off then completely ignore them so they even get madder then laugh my ass off about it later.

when someone betrays me, i often find myself ironing my new pair of slacks over and over again

that has happened to me and it took me a while to get over it. A couple of months ago I had a huge crush on a guy. My "best friend" knew how much I liked him, but she began to flirt with him excessively in front of me. I remember crying and crying because I felt so betrayed by her. Today, its safe to say that I'm over the guy I used to like, so her (still) flrting with him doesn't bother me as much. But I'm not over how betrayed I felt. I trusted her once and now I don't. There is no excuse for someone who claims to be so close to you to betray you. It just comes to show they never had your best interest at heart. It's ok by how hurt you feel, just remember that karma is a B*tch, and in the end, those who deceived will be the most miserable.

Ask your self, if this person truely cares for you, would they have betrayed you? Do you really need this person in your life or are you holding on to them for the wrong reasons?

My closets and most reliable friend betrayed my trust once: My Mother. It took me some time to forgive her actions. I had to grow to understand why I couldn't comprehend her reasoning. Then I was recently faced with a similar decision and ended up making the very same choice. Getting over a betrayel you must first see the reason for the decision from all perspectives because until you are faced with a similar decision you really can't stand in judgment. Consider this when making your decision whether to forgive on not. Do you value this persons friendship enough to see beyond our basic human trait that we are all flawed.

You just let it go and don't let it eat away at you. I am sure they are not sitting there worrying about how their betrayal affected you so why should yout let it affect you. Forgive them and move on

Count it as another lesson learned and move on. :)

I talk my way through it with my best friend. I don't think I'm mean.... but yeah.... when you betray me, I will hurt... and it helps to vent to someone I can trust.

someone close to me once did betray me. we arent that close anymore because i built a wall between us

You don't..You cover it up with lifes band-aids and soon enough life goes on with a brand new scar.

Jesus said in Mathew 6:14 says "For if you forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you." In essence, if we would like others to forgive our shortcomings we have to be willing to freely forgive. Who of us is perfect?