ANSWERS: 100
  • In most cases, you won't get laid for a while, maybe a long while, specially if you have been a lonely person, one of those who can hardly make any friends.
  • seeing his face again
  • Breaking the routine. Not having that person that you once had to call when you were having a bum day. Yup yup sadness
  • The embarrassment of telling friends and family, some of whom will always want details.
  • Seeing that person with someone else, when you haven't allowed yourself to move on yet. I saw my ex of 2yrs on a date 3 weeks after we broke up. That sucked.
  • It's really tough when you live together, dividing up all the stuff you bought together, deciding what to do with your place, who gets the pets, etc.
  • Sleeping alone again.
  • Feeling empty and "out" of love.
  • The worst part about a break up is THE LOSS: thinking of all the time you invested with someone gone to waste. And then to think that you will have to at some point open yourself up again and possibly invest the same things with someone else... I mean whats really worst than that!
  • If you're used being with that person and you have a new relationship, sometimes you can't avoid to compare, and that's so unfair to the new guy. Most likely you will still appreciate the time being with your past bf, through that it's hard to move on.
  • being alone again and the thought of the wasted years. also if you still love them but you need to split up thats hurts a lot
  • Memories. Our minds have a tendency to remember only the best parts of a relationship that ends - especially when it was not our decision to end it. The best way to overcome the feelings of loss and to stop remembering is to create new memories or find a new interest (not necessarily a love interest) in a project that requires attention to detail and concentration. Anything related to the relationship should be removed from view where possible (pictures, gifts, etc.). Memories allow the brain to keep producing the "Love Drug." Removing items that trigger memories and getting involved in other chores focuses your mind on something else while you withdraw from the drug your brain has been producing while in the relationship. Endorphines (the elation love drug) subside and allows you to see that the break-up was the best part of the relationship... not the worst.
  • No more sex :(
  • The worst part is...THERE AIN'T ANY;
  • Trying to get all your cd's back.
  • If you're the one who's been left trying to work out why. Going over in your head all the things you might have done differently to keep your relationship alive. Waking up in the middle of the night, reaching out and him not being there. The loneliness.
  • missing his/her company.!
  • Memories.. good and bad and when you didnt see it coming at all.
  • Alimony
  • Thinking of all the money I wasted on her.
  • Often the whole "breaking up" especially if it was something like it ended due to cheating or another painful experience.
  • Having your mutual friends yell at you for the "mistake" you've made by letting him/her go, and convincing you that breaking up with them was a terrible thing to do, and that you are a terrible person for doing so.
  • If you knew it would have worked out better if you just did one little thing.
  • Loneliness
  • knowing you're not "worthy" enough for that person
  • The crazy ex calling in the middle of the night crying or screaming at ya! Dammit! I've got company!
  • seeing them everyday because you work with them reminding you of what you had and lost but hey life goes on :D
  • Our ego's are shot and the loneliness that follows
  • It's the heartache plain and simple. It feels like she stabbed a knife right through your heart and waking up it really does hurt plus the general level of sadness that accompanies it. I'm sorry if I brought you back to that difficult moment. I hope I haven't opened any deep emotional wounds because I dared to share. Comment & maybe I can help you:
  • The mornings, and the moment you get into bed alone.
  • Memories, and regrets of not being the best girlfriend that you could really be.
  • that somehow it all failed. Nobody enters a relationship imagining that it wouldn't work.
  • The chances of having make up sex become slimmer and slimmer.
  • Not being with that person anymore and missing them
  • The unanswered questions.... my guy just stopped texting etc after 7 years. Don't even know if dead or alive!!
  • At the end of any good relationship you not only lose the relationship you also usually lose your best friend.
  • Knowing that you are alone and you can't kiss, hold, hug that person anymore and what makes it worse is if you still see that person everyday.....
  • I may or may not have previously answered this. This might not be the expected answer, but I usually see break-ups as a positive thing. I guess it might have something to do with the fact that I've never been unexpectedly dumped or heart broken. I've always seen it coming, or was the "dumper". A break-up for me, is like...a vacation. A feeling of freedom. There are no longer expectations of you. No petty arguments or jealousy. Come to think of it, maybe I've just been dating the wrong type of guys.
  • the physical withdrawl of being near that person that you have loved and love still, the lack of communication , missing them wishing with everything that you are that it never happened , the ever lasting lonliness having a huge bed that y ou got used to shareing . the lack of his smile , remembering how he looked at you with utter devotion. missing his smell , the way he laughed . his jokes, him telling you what had happened to him at work that day. its all of that and more.
  • Usually the breakup itself. The time it takes to accept, whether dumper or dumpee can be painful until acceptance comes. Then it gets mundane again;-}
  • Feeling like ur losing the only one person that you will ever love. Not believing in love anymore.
  • When I date, I date guys that I really really like. Every boyfriend I've had, I've fallen in love with. I've always been the person broken up with (which was twice). I would have to say the worst part was wanting it to be forever, and then one day everything is gone. Both guys helped create false hopes that I actually believed. So, the worst part of a break up for me is knowing that it's over. Knowing that he doesn't want me. Knowing that I loved him and cared for him... and if he cared at all, it didn't seem like it... no matter how much he said he did. And that just crushed my heart because I loved him, and I obviously wasn't good enough.. even though I tried. However, the worst part of a breakup is going to be different for everyone.
  • knowing that after it is all over eventually you will have to get over it get into another relationship and have it happen all over again
  • The worst part is the feeling of having wasted those two years (or whatever time it was) and now you have nothing to look forward to. The hopes, dreams, plans, aspirations, that idyllic future that you had imagined (and believe me, it is definitely a fantasy) is no longer a part of your daily life. There's an emptiness about the normal day to day bs now, where before, you were working toward a goal. It can be a big ole downer, to say the least, until you can find something to focus your attentions on and look forward to again.
  • Still having feelings for someone especially when you know they did you wrong.
  • Knowing that a rebound relationship is inevitable, and that it will end up being awful.
  • Loss of benefits ;)
  • Probably having so many people asking you "What happened? You two were perfect for each other." Either that or wondering why we didn't split sooner.
  • Worrying that there will be no one else in your life that way.
  • Stil Feeling Exactly The Same For Him 2 Years LAter, And MAybe Even Stronger. Plus Realising Yourself Where You Went Wrong And Seeing How Easy It Could Have Been To Prevent It. Plus Seeing Them With Someone Else. The Worst Part FOr Me, Other Then The Above's Is Being 16, having liked this boy for going on 6 years and knowing no time soon your moving on from it. Being 16 and hooked on one guy is really reuioning my chance to be a teen and have fun! theres plenty of time for heartbreak in my future but for some reason it choose now! And yes i have done all i can to get over it but it seems impossible
  • All the might of been's and what if's.
  • The worst part I've ever had in ending a relationship is when he wouldn't let go and go away.
  • The looming certainty of increased masturbation.
  • having to see them that one last time to exchange the things you left at each others house. if living together having to move out.
  • Seeing the other having the better life and actually doing better than they were while being with you.
  • Seeing that person smile with someone else.
  • again a lot of attempts to find a new boy/girl friend.... :) LOL
  • The worst part of breaking up, is Folgers in your cup...
  • the memories you have and the hurt your heart carries and wondering if you could ever trust the opposite sex again. The pain the kids feel knowing mommy or daddy is gone.
  • reverting to manual dexterity is a bummer.
  • Not having that person in your life and having to learn to be single and alone
  • The awkwardness, the stuffy nose and sandpaper eyelids after crying...
  • you not only lose your lover..you lose your best friend.
  • Telling the person...
  • Seeing her happy with someone else.:-(
  • The time leading up to it.
  • getting ur stuff back, moving on
  • All hell breaks loose,just ask the soviets.
  • When you are in love the person, the yearning hoping the person will come back.
  • Still being in love, and hoping they'll come back to you.
  • seeing the person you love, loving somebody else
  • you have to get used to do everything without him/her
  • Waking up every morning & realizing that your ex is no longer laying next to you. I cry every morning before going to work. I pray for the day I wake up & I don't cry anymore!
  • realizing that you're the cause of their unhappiness
  • Ganing weight.
  • Over-masturbation
  • The fact of wasting so much time. It's better to have known love and lost it, then to never have been loved at all.
  • When you get used to someone, it is not easy to start all over again. We become attached to the other person and the prospect of being alone, the unexpected, is quite disturbing to most people.
  • mourning their absence in your life, the gut wrenching internal twist at the slightest memory of them
  • The worst part about breaking up is the uncertainty of being alone and having to start from scratch. Somehow you know that you and your partner are not right for each other. But can you find "better," whatever that means?
  • The awkward moments, like having to stand up next to him or her on a bus for half an hour. There's also all the people who mention the ex's name before they hear about the break up. And if you're the dumpee, the loss of self-esteem.
  • she had a nice butt
  • Seeing that the other person has clearly moved on rather quickly while you have not even began to come close. Very painful...
  • i think it would have to be the fact that you don't have that person there anymore, <if things were good between the two of you> and the fact that you probably will still think of them a lot at first. which always sucks, makes for some depressing moments.
  • Hmmm... feeling out of place when once you had a place. And trying to find that place over again. Its a trill of a ride in any case. :)
  • seeing the person after
  • Losing one of your best friends and learning to sleep alone again.
  • Memories on everything you own.
  • having to see that person somewhere while the wounds are still fresh
  • Disappointment and loss of what might have been. Just like mourning a death.
  • Not having any clothes to wear after she cut them all up with a pair of scissors. Having ruined credit after she went on a spending spree with my gold card 3 days before she broke up with me. Calling me up on the phone while she and her new boyfriend were having sex. Laughing at me and telling me that he is the best lover she has ever had and that I was the worst. Sending me e-mails of pictures of the two of them doing it, while she is flipping me the bird. There's more...The others are too painful to mention.
  • It takes a long while to get over the couple routine and make new plans for yourself that do not include your old partner.
  • Jerking off.
  • Waiting for time to do what it does best.....heal.
  • ah hell im just gonna say it cause it popped in my head The answer is not having foldgers in your cup. but seriously its when you tell/are told you are braking it off.
  • The first part.
  • To realize that the person who we chose to give all our delication, sincerity, trust, acceptance, sacrifice, and love, doesn't appreciate our intention as much as we assumed so. To realize that there is nothing wrong with us, that we've done my best, and that we are just not what the other person is naturally looking for no matter how much we tried. To realize that the other person, due to their own needs, is not happy to be with us anymore. Yet the other person admires the way we are and is happy with us, as a friend, the way we are. To realize that we all evolve over time and to realize that love doesn't always last forever as much as we all wanted to. To realize how much time we waste remaining stuck, living in the past, living like the dead. To realize how much open heart/open-mind/self-confidence/determination it requires to say, "we are just friends like we were in the beginning after all." To realize how bad we feel (like we are cheating on our ex) when we try to open ourselves up to others to love again. To realize how moving on from our first love is always the hardest. Ok. Now, let's live in the present, enjoy life at it's full potential, and go find the love who will appreciate our loves truly. Believe in Karma. What we love, set it free. The love, not the person, will naturaly come back to us if it was meant to be.
  • i think its when you don't think about it for the first time and you see something which makes you automatically think of them and you go to text or ring them to tell them about it then you remember... just nice knowing that when you finish work you'll have a text or voicemail waiting too...
  • Id think from my last breakup, no more nightly calls and when you see something that reminds you of them. The no sex for awhile never bugged me, while i do have a high sex drive i can put up with no sex for however long needed.
  • the songs on the radio seeing other couples

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