Do you think a first marriage should be "until death do us part"?
by 
LittleMissSunshine
ANSWERS: 74
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I think that should be the intent of all marriages.
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I don't think any marriage should be the "til death do we part" thing..just gonna increase the murder rate. :)
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Well its suppose to be, but nowa days i think not.
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Yes!First in Everything is memorable ,for me!So the marriage be...
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Of course it should be. Why do it otherwise.
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Yes..but only if It becomes realy hard to get married. (You prove that you realy love each other .. ect) But barring that; I think something horrible might happen if people who hated each other stayed married forever.
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it should! unfortunately though...today...people get married like its a new fashion statement!
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...Remember the whole King Henry the 8th deal? :s . . . I think marriage SHOULD be till death do us part, unless your considering murder, in which case opt for divorce...
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you can only try....
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It should be up to the couple involved.
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I think there are exceptions to every rule. Abuse cheating and such I think are perfectly credible grounds for divorce. However when some stupid little thing goes wrong, or if you just "fall out of love"- that's no reason to split what you should try your hardest to restore.
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Yes. Well, if it ain't "till death do us part" then there is absolutely no point, is there? What are you doing? Making a big statement to all your friends and family that you'll stay together till you don't want to anymore? Woop-e-doo! Paaarrty!
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No, not anymore...we are likely to live forever in the future. I should be more like "until one of our parents, friends or neighbours will do us apart". More realistic... Or, you say until one of us kills the other...lol
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I really don't think so after meeting so many people who have gone through terrible problems in marriage.Even though we believe in rebirths, the same person would like to not get married to the same person ever again.Marriages are supposed to be for 7 lives!
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That's what I promised 42 years ago and I keep my promises.
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I wonder why you specified "first marriage"? Maybe the first one should be a "trial run!" I think whatever number marriage it is, if the couple wishes to make that promise, they should do so, and keep it to the best of their ability.
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I think all of them should be. All three of mine have been, and I'm still holding my breath on the third one, for 34 years so far.
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No, not if you fall out of love...
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everyone should start marriage life with such thinking but it depends on mutual understanding, love, respect, ability, mentality etc.
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Its usually until debt do us part.
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Yes. 2nd chances are never better than No. 1.
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Yes except for 3 exceptions: 1. Affairs - Immorality 2. Abuse 3. Drug use with no intent to stop Doesn't mean you have to get divorced but it's safer to be away from thses things, and usually if they are doing one then they are probally doing another as well! Marriage should be to death do us part, as God intended, so people should really date smart and give marriage alot of thought and respect it's boundaries when they do take that step. People think that not getting married makes it ok to have sex and act married but not have it's boundaries, but God doesn't look at it that way. He makes it clear that doing those things is a form of immorality and sin. If you take a look around the consequences of the actions and mistakes are everywhere, and not worth it.
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Yes I do.
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The question should say "marriage"--not "first marriage". That implies that there will be a second or third...etc. I think when someone gets married, the intention is til death do us part...for better or for worse. Unfortunately, some think of marriage as a game. If it works out, fine...if not, I can only always end it.
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Yep. Didn't work for me, though. Couldn't handle husband's infidelity. Life will never be the same, especially after so many years together...(17)and 2 kids. If you are considering divorce. THINK REAL HARD. The grass rarely greener on the other side. It is a mess. Holidays suck. Kids are confused & torn. You will always feel incomplete. PS: I am happily remarried, but it doesn't fix the prior broken heart.
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Should be, but it's rare that it happens.
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Marriage is an honorable institution which should last a life time. Only death should nullify it.
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I do, but unfortuantely it is a "practice run" for most people.
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Yes. I think that you marry the one you wish to stay with. I waited a long time before I was sure of the person I wanted to marry. I will stay married until I die because I put thought into who I will and who I am married to.
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of course. if a person decides to be wed to another they should love each other enough to be married until death do them part
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If possible, yes, but no human being should have to stay in an abusive relationship.
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I think any marriage should be the one and only if possible, so yes, it is a contract for life. I made that decision, said my "I will" and still feel that way 35 years later. I wouldn't have made that commitment unless I was serious and sure.
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Yes but the way you worded it makes it sound like you are trying to give cause to kill someone...
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i believe in only doing it one time. and im not going to do it until i find the woman i want to spend and share my life with and die with. Ive found her and when we get married i plan on it being till death do us part. Then our souls can meet in heaven or where ever you see fit and we'll be eternially happy together :)
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It would sure make people think more about their choice.
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It worked for my parents, my wife's parents, and so far for us. I don't see a problem with it.
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Are you suggesting murder ? : ))
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I used to think that way. Not now, depends on how situation I want me and my spouse to be happy. If things doesn't work after our hard works we might have to rethink and move on.
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Yes, I very much believe in that. I also believe the first marriage should be the only marriage.
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I should imagine that when a person gets married for the first time, they're not thinking there'll be a second, third, fourth...
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I think a good marriage should be until death do you part. If it's not a good marriage, I think divorce is a very good idea.
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If the marrage is working yes, leaving over stupid shit is a problem with society you are suposed to stick by your spouse even when it gets rough, but if its abusive or toxic then its better to cut your losses and run.
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"Until death" is the intention - and would be ideal. At the time it isnt considered a "first" marriage - but a forever one. Unfortunately it doesnt work out that way for many different reasons.
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First of all when you marry you should not put the word 'first' in front of marriage anyway. When you get married thats what you want, to be with that person till the end of time.
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unless someone cheats and you can't work it out or someone is repeatedly abusive in the relationship, yes.
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that's the way it SHOULD be, but sometimes there are things that get in the way of having a good marriage and they have to split up.
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I think a first marriage should not be seen as a "first" marriage in the first place -- kind of sets the tone....
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Yes.
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No my ex almost killed me. That would have been till death do us part. I,ve moved on and I,m very happy(:
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Only if you're the few lucky ones in today's world.
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I think any marriage should be that way. Unfortunately, people jump into things too fast, and give up WAY too easy. I think if they made it free to get married, and 10's of thousands to divorce, you'd see marriages last.
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In instances where a marriage is clearer abusive or without feeling or an unwanted state of being by either person, then no. Unless these people are hoping to achieve Martyrdom. Or simply get a greater payoff in remaining in their current situation than changing it.
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No, I have aunts and uncles living their remaining years in misery in rotten marriages just because that is their belief.
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I think no marriage should be "untill death do us a part" because if the marriage dose not work people should part ways and everybody should have his/her life.
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Yea you should at least try.
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Not if it is abusive.
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Old fashioned I might be, but yes I do believe so.
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mine would have been had my wife not been an abusive cheating deadweight. but now she is her boyfriends problem and if he was not such a disrespectful 30 year old child I would feel sorry for him.
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if that is not your intent then do not get married.
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Yes.
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It's a nice thought but reality often steps in. I don't believe you should stay in a marriage if you've been cheated on as an example - so even if you firmly believe in the vows you made, the reality of it is that you may not be able to keep them. I believed in 'till death do us part' - my ex husband believed in 'till death do us part and I can do whatever I like with whoever I like (but I'll stay within the marriage/marital home)' :-)
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Yes, those days people used to live together till their death and still they are living together in some parts. In india, most of the married people live together till their death only and they still living happly with their families.
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Why not? If need be, death is pretty easy to induce.
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If it was accurate, there would be no first in front.
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so long as you know a secure burial site:)
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why else would you want to get married (unless tax reasons)
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ALL marriages are SUPPOSSED to be "until death do us part."
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Sure, I introduce my wife as my "first wife" and I think the "until death do we part" keeps her in line. At least it's worked for 43+ years.
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Not Anymore ... I believe that in this day and age of Cheating, Deception, Lies, Abuse etc .... that "Till Death Do We Part" should be left OUT of the vows ... especially with a 60 - 65% DIVORCE Rate in AMERICA ... +5
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Yes I think it should be. +5
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Yes I believe in that for sure
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As long as you both shall love.
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all marriages should be that way unless the relationship is violent and or cheaters etc ..i have only had one hubby all my life!! married has to be worked on to stay workable ..as they say just like a car ,ya need to maintain it for it to run smoothly ..ya cant say ok he or she loves me, then act like a creep ,ya need to stay loving like you were when dating ..change then marriage fails
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