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  • Sorry here, but you did the foolish thing and had sex as a teenager, the parents have the full choice here, you are in their household. Simple as that, you shouldn't have had sex in the first place.
  • Because you are to you younge to make that decision on your own! And i would want the best for my child. Not to be changing dipers while everyone is out having fun and making a life for themselves!
  • it is your decision not ours or anyone elses. The only thing we can do is give you guidance on the matter. Hopefully you will make the right decision and think rationally about everything. I wouldnt force you to keep it and i wouldnt force you to abort it. I would give you the facts and my opinion and you can make your decision based on what you want to do.
  • I believe it's 100% your decision. The parenting I needed to do was well before you were sexually mature, and I obviously didn't prepare you well enough to make your decision(s) about sex. It's your body and your decision.
  • Of course I would ask you to reconsider your feelings and ask you to give it a little time before doing anything until you thought the whole thing through. I would tell you that I support your decision and make sure that if your dead set on ending it that it is done in a safe manner. I would sit down and we work it out together, talking about the pro's and con's from both our point of views. But when it all comes down to it I will tell you that it is your body and your choice.
  • Many states have enacted, or are considering, laws that restrict teenagers' access to abortion by requiring parental involvement in the abortion decision. Such laws include: * Parental notification laws that require medical personnel to notify a minor's parent(s) of her intention to obtain an abortion; * Parental consent laws that require medical personnel to obtain written permission from the parent(s) before providing an abortion; * Almost all of the parental notification and consent laws have judicial bypass options that allow a teen who feels she cannot involve her parent(s) to get a judge's permission to proceed with her abortion. Some states allow a physician to waive parental involvement, and some allow professional counseling instead of parental involvement.
  • There would be some intense conversations between me and you. Not just one but many. Once I feel you understand the gravity of the situation I would back up your decision completely.
  • You are my teenage daughter and you drove my car, had an accident, hurt someone who may now never walk again. Why should I not expect you to live with the consequences of your bad choice? I know the analogy is not perfect (which analogy ever is?), but the similarity is this - you did something you shouldn't have done and you will be affected by it forever whichever way it goes , the law will make me responsible for the financial damage, I am a stakeholder in this situation, so why shouldn't I have a say in how it will be handled? If you believe it is your decision and yours only, get out of your parents' house and stand on your own 2 feet right now. You can't have it both ways.
  • Do I have that decision, yes. Because you are the child, and as the parent it is my responsibility to act as your surrogate frontal lobe in certain situations. Would I make that decision for you? Most likely no. There would be a great deal of conversations, research and most likely tears until the best possible decision is reached. First and foremost, I would show my love and support.
  • Being pregnant and having an unwanted child shows your immaturity, thats why/-
  • Its no humans decision to end the life of another. That is generally considered murder. And slaughtering babies is called infanticide, and has its own position on the totem pole of horrid acts. So why should slaughtering a caged baby be all the latest fad? Thats not even sporting. If you cant hear them scream, its okay?!?! Given that adoption is a simple and legitimate, to say nothing of ethically neutral alternative, it should not be deemphasized and neglected. I dont understand the "mothers" who think that just because they dont want the kid that they have to kill it. How is that reasoned, exactly? There are plenty of couples out there looking to adopt, and even if not the state will still take them in. Speaking of free will, it was the daughters choice to have sex and get pregnant in the first place. She bares responsibility. Responsible enough to commit the pleasurable act of procreation but too immature to actually procreate? I dont see it. The daughter gives up her right to her own body when she allows herself to get impregnated. What of the babies free will and rights? There was a time when we treated human beings with black skin as soulless property to do with as we pleased. Now we do it to our own flesh and blood. Just because something appears convenient at the time doesnt make it right. That is the nature of a selfish species, we rationalize what we want and live by what feels right; it gets us into trouble and just as easily gets us out. But that doesnt mean you wont one day feel guilt and remorse. The same women that take pride in their gender as being the inherently nurturing, maternally-instinctive, "divinely" virtuous gender; that fight for womens rights, equality, and even "supremacy" to some degree; are the same women that rationalize womens choice to kill. Its hypocritical, and thus has no place in civilized society.
  • 1. You are a minor and can not make medical decisions for yourself. 2. We should discuss this with the father of the child and his parents. It took two to do the horizontal tango and if the father wants the child, he should have an equal vote to keep it. 3. You used the term baby, so I am assuming you mean that you think it is a child in the womb. You don't have to keep the child, but you're not going to kill it. 4. I want you to learn that every action has consequences. You are facing a big one now. Again, I'm not saying you have to be a mother, but you're not getting out of this the "easy" way. You need to understand that a human life is far greater than your desire to stay in your size 6 jeans. 5. I do think I have the right. You don't have to like our decision, but you knew this going into it. We've had this hypothetical discussion before.
  • I dont believe that parents should make the daughter have the child. But also on the flip side by not having that child you may have just killed the next einstein or the next person that will cure some disease. You never know. However, you are still very young and your brain is still developing. You are incapable of making informed and responsible decisions as evidenced by your promiscuity. It is not glamourous having a child when you are 15 or 16 years old regardless of what the media tells you. There is alot of sacrifice you have to make. If you dont want to make that sacrifice you can have the kid and put it up for adoption. What are your alternatives? You dont want the child anyways right? You may not want the kid now but what about in a few years when your brain catched up with you? You will always wonder about that child. What he/she looks like, does he/she have your personality...etc./
  • This list is old but it's a good one: http://parentingteens.about.com/od/teenpregfact/a/abortion_laws.htm Note that while most states require parental notification and consent a minor may "bypass parent by obtaining a court approval." Legally I have no right to force you to do anything. I could deny consent but you could circumvent me by obtaining court approval. However, your attitude toward me may serve to greatly influence my disposition. If you come at me with the attitude that you're old enough to make your own decisions without my say then I may just decide that you're old enough to take care of yourself and ask you to leave. If you come at me seeking my help and advice I will do anything I can to help you through it no matter what you decide.
  • I would say that it is your body and your life, (and you're not a kid anymore), so whatever you may choose, I will try to help and support you.
  • Granted you are a minor, but it is still your body and it would be your decision. You're the one who would have to undergo the procedure, or endure nine grueling months of pregnancy. Forcing you to continue a pregnancy and give birth against your will would be, in my view, abhorrent. Forcing you to terminate a wanted pregnancy would be equally abhorrent. In any other serious medical situation, I would also take your wishes into account. I'd look suspiciously on anyone who would force another person into a medical procedure they didn't want or prevent them from a procedure they needed. I think it would also be an awful thing if, say, a child who wanted medical treatment for their cancer were prevented from it by their parents (for either religious reasons or for some natural/experimental/wacko treatment). So would forcing a child to have a surgery they didn't want - like, say, a cochlear implant or cosmetic surgery - that wasn't absolutely necessary. Guiding a teenager is one thing, stripping them of their rights is another. p.s. there is a serious problem with parental notifications and restrictions - much more often than we'd like to think, there is child abuse involved. In a case like that, it's actively harmful for the teenager to require her to contact her parents for her medical care. It may even endanger her life.
  • if ur old enough to have sex ur old enough to decide for urself. we're lucky (i think) as girls in this society (for now) that if u don't want the baby u don't have to have it!! just because ur old enough to have sex doesn't mean ur responsible enough to be a parent. and ur parents can't force u to do ANYTHING having to do with the baby. and why bring a baby into this world if it wouldn't have the best life possible? we have too many kids growing up with negligent parents .. so, mistakes happen but pregnancy isn't permanent .. parenting is!! do what u want!!
  • For me, I dont beleive I have that right. But I bet there are plenty of people around (as indicated in AB and elsewhere) that DO believe they have that right. In the end though, whether or not they have the (recognised culturally or legally..etc) "Right" is less important than what actually happens, weighing up and understanding all the different perspectives involved, and the consequences of decisions. If forcing a girl to carry a baby also meant destroying her sense of self-worth/identity, and relationships, then its almost like trading one existing life for an potential one.
  • I would thank you for coming and telling me and say that I will do my best to support whatever you decide is right for you. I would point out all your options and discuss the consequences of each option. Then we would have a rather large discussion on contraception because you obviously weren't listening the first time around.
  • because they want you to make the right decission. & overall they will be helping you support the baby.
  • Yes, I would force you to have the baby. Yes it is partially your decesion, however, you have already shown that you are not capible of making GOOD decesions, therefor, you will not be making this one. We would either help you raise it on your own, or we would raise it for you.
  • If you go to a Dr, It is your decision. He cant tell you parents and he has to do what you ask.
  • It's your decision, 100%. You made the decision to get yourself knocked-up, now you have to make the decision how to handle the consequences.
  • It's your decision and no one can force you, but as a good parent I would try till the last minute to convince you not to abort. I will admit that I was not the best parent or fail to teach you not to get pregnant but I am still your parent who care a lot about you and your child.
  • Dear daughter. Before you rush into anything, are you sure its yours?
  • First of all, I'd be happy that we had a good enough relationship that you felt you could confide in me. I don't think I have the right to force you to carry to term, but I would want to make sure that you had carefully thought through your decision. If, after a lot of discussion, you still wanted to have an abortion, I'd support you in any way that you wanted me to.
  • Because you are the child, and you must follow the word of your parents till you are a free adult. Then we are on even grounds. But with all honesty, I would let you abort if you wanted to, teenage pregnancy is a huge risk to your health and could narrow your future by a lot.
  • NO, I do not have the right to tell you to carry your baby to term. Let me tell you a little story. I got my girlfriend prgenant when she was 18 years old. We were going to get married as soon as we could afford it, but in this case we got married right away, which was the correct thing to do "back in the day" We were absolutely in love from the first day we seen each other. Her parents wanted to keep the baby and my wife, until I could get more money saved, which was about 6 months later. The day our baby was born was one of the happiest days of my life, I actually had tears in my eyes. There were no legal abortions when we were younger, if you wanted an abortion, you had to go to some back alley doctor who would do it for a hefty fee. We Never considered an abortion, it was out of the question! She is 45 years old now, and is always helping us do things we can no longer do. She works in the medical field and puts in many hours each week, because she loves to help people who cannot help themselves. We are so Proud of her and everything she has accomplished in her life. She is married to a wonderful man, who is like a son to me, who is a manager of a corporation in our little town. I just could not image life without her, and thank God everyday for her. I am very sorry that I made this answer so long, But I still believe the final decision is up to you and nobody else! God Bless You..
  • It is your decision but while you are a minor and living under your parents' roof, they are quite within their rights to say they won't pay for an abortion. They also have the right to know if you see a doctor to get an abortion.
  • cause your the one that decided to have sex with no protection
  • For the same reason a teenager can't do whatever else they want. You aren't an adult, and not legally entitled to make that decision. Not just a matter of parents believing they have the right. The LAW says they do! Shouldn't have had sex if you didn't want to deal with any consequences that result. Too many people base decisions on the fact that they can be fixed, or resolved with little or no consequences. Well until one is an adult, you don't have the right to decide to get rid of the consequences.
  • Sure kill the baby wtf who cares anyway murder on http://abortioncounter.com/
  • if it was my daughter i'd tell her she shouldnt have been havin sex and shes gonna learn from this
  • Yes nitwit!!! You decided to fu$k so the consequenses are no longer a right but a responsibility!!! I will pay for the child...and if you do not want it i will take it in your place!!! animal.
  • You had sex, got pregnant, and not you are going to give birth to knock some sense into you. You're not killing that baby, just put it up for adoption.
  • You had sex, got pregnant, and not you are going to give birth to knock some sense into you. You're not killing that baby, just put it up for adoption.
  • You had sex, got pregnant, and not you are going to give birth to knock some sense into you. You're not killing that baby, just put it up for adoption.
  • Yes. While living in my house, with me paying your bills and feeding you it's wholly my decision what you should do with your stupid error of judgement. You'll also be grounded until that child is at least 18 or you die. Whichever comes first.
  • You have the right to do wjat you want. As an adult, I have the right to tell you Im not going to help you raise it or pay for daycare. If you choose to keep it, its also your right to pay for it.
  • its probably not your decision if youre underage

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