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  • nah, just snap out of it and get a life.. at least your dog still loves ya... what more could anyone ask for.
  • Who is going to honestly say "Sure, go ahead, no one cares"? No one, you moron. Don't be selfish. Second, the world is darkest before the dawn.
  • I really don't want to answer this question for fear of being responsible for something, however. Nobody should ever kill themselves for any reason. Not for religous nonsense, but seriously there is always a chance that your life will improve, and the idea of quitting when anything can happen is just a bad choice. You don't know how things are going to turn, you really don't. No matter how shit you think your life is, in an instant it can change.
  • No...life can seem useless at times, but things get better. There are people out there that love you...you just don't know it.
  • Atleast stick around for your dog....they need you as much as you need to stay on this earth.
  • I think back to the real life account of man who set his young son on fire to get back at his ex-wife. The boy "David" struggled through horrible surgeries and disparately fought to survive. As far as I can see things, you are a survivor and should continue to live. People you like you are an inspiration for others because you have to work extra hard at being a good person inside because sadly so many people put too much emphasis physical appearance.
  • How about volunteering in your local hospital, in the Burn Center? If you have a job, that means you are capable of going out into the world and being useful, productive and self-supporting. Whether you know it or not, that could be very inspirational to someone. I think if you can try to look outward and see where/how you can be of help to someone else, it might give you the perspective you need to value yourself because you will see yourself in the eyes of someone to whom you have given something special..your time, your attention and your caring. Good luck, m'dear..I think you could be of great help to others! :)
  • well i believe you shouldnt...theres so much to do in this world!!! youll find hapiness someday..like if you cant find it around the metro where people are mostly hostile, maybe you can find it somewhere else.explore and you will see..the world is so wide...not just around your house,or the workplace or around town...just try to explore^_^
  • OK, my friend. I don't normally answer the "I'm going to kill myself" questions but for you I will. I don't believe there is a god. That means no heaven, no second chance and no future after death. It is final. This is the only life you have. If you throw it away, it's over - end of story. You'll raise the gun to your head and pull the trigger. You'll make the local paper but most people won't even read it. You'll leave the world the same way you came. Pretty much unnoticed. Life will go on without you. It always goes on. Always. The world will get along without you. It would get along with out me and without anyone else out there. At issue though is you and only you. Things haven't been how you would like them to be. You are very unhappy. I understand how you feel. Whatever you have been doing in your life hasn't been what you probably should have been doing if this is where it has taken you. Life is a mixture of random occurences and choices you make. You can't control everything, just your own decisions and actions. You need to make decisions that put you in a positive position to benefit from those random occurences. You could liken that to "If you don't buy a ticket, you can't win". If you shut yourself into your house and never go out how would you ever expect to meet good friends who will help you enjoy your life? You could kill yourself today but you will never know if tommorow you would have met the woman who would save your spirit. Maybe it wouldn't happen tomorrow... the day after maybe? Who knows? If your unhappy with your job find something else. It doesn't have to be your dream job but a new environment is uplifting, everything would be new and interesting for you. You know your dog depends on you for everything. Hook a leash on him and take him to the park every day. Your scars might not be beautiful but I've always seen them as being a testament to the miracle of the human body. There are guys coming back from Iraq without limbs. They can wallow in self pity or accept it and drive on. I've met some very amazing people. They still have thier lives and aren't going to throw them away. It's all you have. Life is very much like the lottery, if you buy a ticket you could win but if you simply don't buy the ticket because you don't see the possibiliy then 100% you will lose. If the life you've made for yourself has brought you to this point then you need to start building a new one. If you want to talk, I'm here.
  • Imagine all the sunrises your would miss out on
  • I think you hate your life because life hasn't been good to you. You've endured more than your fair share of pain and loneliness and I wish things had been better for you. I really am so sorry. Your pain inside is so bad that you must wonder,,,,*Is this all there is?* Well, there's more. Wouldn't you like to be an inspiration to others? Other burn patients feel the same as you....how about making it your mission to build up their confidence and letting them know, you understand. Give hope to them and believe me they will listen to you.....you know their pain. You want to feel welcome? Have more friends than you can count? People hate to see you go? Go visit a Burn Center and volunteer a few hours .....they will beg you to stay. But you have to go in there with the job of wanting to make them feel better. At the same time....they'll help you find your way too. Good Luck.
  • Get some confidence and make your life what you want it to be! I had a friend in highschool who had half his face destroyed in a dirtbike accident. He had tons of friends and let a very active life. Still competed with his dirtbike and everything. Society sees attitude a mile away, they only notice your face from a foot away and that's only if your attitude doesn't cover it up. Get out there and do what you want with your life, don't end it just because you don't like how things are going right now!
  • What one looks like should never have an impact on a thought or decision to end ones life ... The fact that you have the gift of life is much more than many have lost ... You need to find positive within your situation and use any recovery to help others who are in similar situations or worse ... If you can bring yourself back ... Imagine how good you will feel knowing you are able to help others find positive thoughts and help enable the tracks of their lives find recovery ... Your Scars are only skin deep ... its your person underneath that should radiate who you are ... You do have friends ... I am your friend regardless of our distance ... You are my friend and you are the friend of many others here too ... Your job ... you can change again with positive thought and application ... use your bad experiences and moments as a positive to guide others, (children and others with disabilities or sickness) who really need your help ... If you seek the right places such as rehab centres or hospitals etc ... then perhaps employed as a social worker or nurse you will be happier? ... Consider further education to make it happen ... or at least to help change your employment direction ... Scars will not prevent a degree or training from achievement and success ... Don't consider death as option to improve life ... There is no return for a wrong decision made ... think of the many who have died from sickness who were not ready to leave as they loved their life so much ... Think of their crying and sadness before their final death to understand how permanent and final death really is ... Remember! "where there is life ... there is always hope" ... when you choose death ... you have lost everything ... I watched Australian 60 minutes a few Sundays ago ... to see an interview with a 25 year old man (Nick Vujicic) who was born without arms and legs ... He has a job traveling the globe speaking to motivate others with similar conditions ... Besides his dissapointment by his loss, I can only imagine the hell when growing up at school ... yet he was the most positive and happy man I have ever seen ... I believe if he can pull through his life without his arms and legs and come out laughing ... then surely we can all do the same ... Do not give up on yourself ... sad today yes ... but with life only ... you are able to fight to find a happiness that awaits you somewhere with friends you may not have yet met ... You may not see them at the moment ... but there are people who care. Fight for the kids that did not have the same chance ... Read his story >>> Nick Vujicic http://www.slideshare.net/vijay2623/living-inspiration-no-arms-no-legs-no-worries-187733 http://www.religionnewsblog.com/17383/nick-vujicic My honest opinion ... Goodluck my friend! He would choose life ... regardless
  • My own view is that unless you feel free to choose to die, you can't really choose to live. They come together. People react when you start talking about killing yourself, that's understandable: mostly we cling to life and the idea that someone might want to end theirs is shocking -- people want to talk you out of it, or try to make you feel better. But the fact is, if you're miserable, you're miserable. If you're depressed, you're depressed. If life is horrible for you, then that's the truth for you right now. I think it's best to confront that truth and just let it sink in for a bit -- it sounds like you've been doing that, which is important. So you sit there for a while, as miserable as Hell, trying to decide what to do. That's what *should* happen in your case. And you've heard all the talk, and you have all the same thoughts that everyone else has: "you could do good for others!", "it will get better!", "suicide is selfish!", and so on. Maybe there's truth in them, maybe not... but they don't change how you feel about life. You're still miserable. Life can be very hard, no question about it. Nobody else has the right to tell you that you *must* suffer through it. Bottom line: it's your CHOICE. That word is the key to everything -- after all the viewpoints have been examined, both pro and con, after you've had time to sit with your own feelings and thoughts, after you've done your best to make the pain go away, in the end it still comes down to one word: choose. If you get to that point, and you make an authentic choice to live, despite the pain and suffering, something unexpected can happen. Having made peace with Hell, from the brink of death, the person who chooses to go ahead and live anyway has a power that others rarely understand. Sometimes it's called "the Warrior Spirit": in a sense, your life is already over, but your body didn't die. What do you do with a life that's over if your body doesn't die? I suggest you be yourself. With nothing left to lose, it's the only choice that has integrity, in my opinion. Only then can someone find out how good life really can be.
  • God loves you. Instead of asking what the world has to offer you, why not look at what you have to offer the world. http://www.uky.edu/PR/News/Archives/2004/May2004/040520_phoenix_film.htm http://news.uky.edu/news/display_article.php?artid=3456
  • I have no family either. My father is not present in my life and my mother is dead according to me. I stopped going to family reunions when I was in the ninth grade. I have no friends. I am a recluse. I have no dog. I also survived suicide three times. If you really hated your job, just leave and find a new one. There are many positions available, and many places are looking for hire. But this place is a great place to make some online friends!! Try: http://www.myspace.com http://www.facebook.com http://www.bebo.com http://www.hi5.com I like to talk to my online friends and they respond back. They leave me really good and endearing messages. I also had bad skin growing up. It was hard enough to grow up with bad skin. It was so hard but I had to pull myself and try to get through the day. There are some really good makeup brands that can help. Try the department store brands. They are expensive but they work well unlike the drugstore types. You get what you paid for. I don't get stares or bad jokes anymore. Luckily my skin is near perfect. Life can be unexpected and can throw you off. The point is, life is not always bad and is not always a curse. Something good will happen and everything in the end will be fine. So don't kill yourself. You'll be making a big mistake. Your life can be changed: -quit your current job -find some online friends -try to find your family and spend some time with them. Despite everything, they had raised you and still cares. They gave you food, water, and a shelter. Most people don't have that. -you can schedule an appointment with a doctor who specialize in reconstructive surgery. The scars will eventually fade. All you have to do is believe and have faith within yourself and know that you can rise up above any tragedy that you are experiencing right now.
  • No, I think you need counseling and a support group. I like the idea of volunteering at a burn center. You could really be of help to others as you are a survivor. Life is what you make of it. I think you can turn your life around and be very happy.
  • I'm so sorry Art. That explains alot to me about you. I'm sorry that what I may have to say may not make you happy or you'll laugh at it. You have your little dog. You have some friends on AB surely. Resist this temptation, you have so much more lying before you...so many beautiful sunrises that are yours to appreciate. Don't do it, please don't do it.
  • no because your dog needs you! who would feed it/walk it? it would miss you loads if you killed yourself, and it wouldnt have anywhere to live. and im sure people would be upset.
  • Killing yourself is never the answer, you may think no one cares or likes you but trust me you'll make a bigger impact than you think you will. My cousins husband shot himself in the head and even though I barely knew him I felt close to him and when he did that I was totally destroyed and I thought to myself, if he can do it, I can to. If you kill yourself, you might give others the mindset that what you did was the right answer to their problems. Life can get better. It just takes time.
  • You have something. You have YOU! You DO NOT need OTHER people to fill up the empty void inside yourself. You can become interested in yourself as much as you can become interested in others, can't you. So here is my advice to you. You can wallow in self-pity and just be happy being unhappy, or You can get up, brush yourself off and begin to... Find something to become INTERESTED in, besides feeling like shit. WHERE YOUR ATTENTION GOES, ENERGY FLOWS!!!
  • uhmm do what you think will make you happy i mean i sure not everybody hates you but if your unhappy...idk why you should have to live. i don't think theres really meaning to life so....maybe b4 you make any rash decisions you should randomly move and tell no one where your going...and try that out
  • I am so sorry that you have no family or friends. But you have your dog and he has you. He needs you and depends on you. There is so much more in life than being beautiful. Beauty is only skin deep. God made you and he loves you. There are probably people out there that love you and you don't even realize that they do. Please stay on AB and talk to us, and don't do anything drastic. Are there any support groups in your area for burn victims? That might help! I am sure that if you do not do anything that would hurt yourself, you will be happy that you didn't. Please stay on here so that we know you are still around and alive! We love you and are concerned.
  • this worldly life doesn't worth any thing the Hereafter is better and more enduring so, love god and ask him to guide you to the truth pray to him and ask him to guide you the true relgion and don't take partners or equals with god (the one) if you lose this life, please try not to lose the life after deith... belive me you will find the hapiness if you know that this life doesn't worth any thing
  • Let me tell you a story... A man was walking to the grocery one day and he heard a dog whining. awoo awoo.. He looked and saw an old man sitting on his porch, casually reading a paper and the crying dog lying next to him. So the man stopped and asked the old gentleman, "excuse me sir, I think there is something wrong with your dog." The old man put his paper down and replied, "Son, there is NOTHING wrong with my dog!" So the man kept walking. 45 minutes later, on his way back from the store, he heard the same cries he had heard earlier. Awoo, awoo, awoo cried the dog. The man stopped again and exclaimed, "EXCUSE ME! SIR! YOUR DOG! HE MUST BE HURT!!" The old man, calmly put down his paper, looked over at the whimpering dog and said, "Son, let me explain something to you. For the past 7 years, I've been coming out to sit on this porch to read my paper. Everyday, this dog follows me and lies down on that exact same spot. However, recently, one of the heads fell off a nail in the floorboard and keeps jabbing him in the hip." The man looked puzzled and asked, "well why doesn't that damn dog just move over?" Old man shook his head in wonder, " I don't know. Maybe it just doesn't hurt him badly enough."
  • To be, or not to be: that is the question: Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, Or to take arms against a sea of troubles, And by opposing end them? To die: to sleep; No more; and by a sleep to say we end The heart-ache and the thousand natural shocks That flesh is heir to, 'tis a consummation Devoutly to be wish'd. To die, to sleep; To sleep: perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub; For in that sleep of death what dreams may come When we have shuffled off this mortal coil, Must give us pause: there's the respect That makes calamity of so long life; For who would bear the whips and scorns of time, The oppressor's wrong, the proud man's contumely, The pangs of despised love, the law's delay, The insolence of office and the spurns That patient merit of the unworthy takes, When he himself might his quietus make With a bare bodkin? who would fardels bear, To grunt and sweat under a weary life, But that the dread of something after death, The undiscover'd country from whose bourn No traveller returns, puzzles the will And makes us rather bear those ills we have Than fly to others that we know not of? Thus conscience does make cowards of us all; And thus the native hue of resolution Is sicklied o'er with the pale cast of thought, And enterprises of great pith and moment With this regard their currents turn awry, And lose the name of action. - Soft you now! The fair Ophelia! Nymph, in thy orisons Be all my sins remember'd.
  • Listen to this song. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GUcXI2BIUOQ
  • Dear "Art" ~ I'm hoping you get this as I see your Post was dated August 08 and today is the 17thFeb09. I was searching the net for "no family no friends" and came upon you. I am an older woman divorced,and you sound younger, but I have been thru what u describe, and go thru cycles of depression and despair. I too had a wonderful little dog who passed away last year, and I'm still tryin' to brush myself off and get moving forward. I too have facial and body 'issues', and no family left. To others, putting these things out there is often off-putting--not everyone understands though they may be sincerely concerned. Would love to talk thru email or whatever this forum is--as I say, I stumbled across it, but will register as a Member now. I hope to hear from you and hope so much that you are well. Please make contact if you can if only to let us know you are well. With love, Ruth Lynn
  • With eyes upraised His master's look to scan. The joy, the solace And the aid of man. The rich man's guardian And the poor man's friend. The only creature Faithful to the end.
  • JUST THE FACT THAT YOU WOKE UP THIS MORNING IS MEANINGFUL TO ME. Although things seem bad for you it is worse for so many others. i just lost my sons father and it was very tragic and unexpected and i wish that i could have him back and here you are questioning life, when it is your time you will go, but until then love yourself inspite of everything!
  • Hi "Art" ! again, wish you'd update so we know you're ok! Found this yesterday and thought I'd pass it on: "Live as if You Like Yourself, and it may Happen." ~Marge Piercy and from Jinjee: I have been reaching for more happiness and faith~and it has been working wonders for my overall stress and health levels! Here is a note I made to myself a week or so ago: "I hereby promise myself that I will take care of myself. This means that I will focus on my faith. I have faith that everything really is good, my life is good, I am good. I have faith that there is nothing to fear, that we are growing, that we are meant to be here. I have faith that I am doing my best. I have faith in each moment!" Another thing that will help~ Eat Well! Eat whole foods, even organic...fresh foods will change you from the inside out...really. with much love, Ruth Lynn
  • No don't. You have a dog, thank goodness. You're situation seems pretty sad and grim but it is true about how you have to feel good inside in order to feel better outside. It's hard to be facially marked but, as a former person who felt ugly, to the point that people in school used to say "she's so UGLY" there are people in this world who can look past that. Turns out I wasn't ugly but merely busted; I didn't really take care to look nice. But I digress, hang in there; you never know what's coming around the corner. Please.
  • No there will be new medical tech. I ahve been throw it but I can not encourage anyone to take their life.
  • I don't really have family either. I do have a number of friends, but I used to not have them either. Someone once told me that in order to have friends, you must first be one. I took that advice to heart and became the very best friend that I could be. I have two friends whose friendship has lasted in excess of 35 years. Suicide is such an easy path. It just takes away all the pain, and you don't have to worry about anything else ever again. Or is it? Or do you? Death being the great unknown, you have no idea really if you are simply trading one miserable existence for another possibly worse one. I cannot give advice in this situation. No one can feel another's pain, and it is obvious that you are suffering deep pain from your perceived losses. I can tell you that if you want to change your life, change your life. Only you hold that power. It won't be easy and it may at times seem easier to just give it all up, but if you decide to make your life better, and it can be better, than you have to make the first move. I wish you strength...
  • Don't kill yourself and you have friends! They are here right now when you invite us in. Can we know your dogs name? WShat kind is he/she?
  • no, just get some help instead

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