ANSWERS: 29
  • If all you're looking for are "hot cheerleader" girls, than you're missing out, dude.
  • Your theory holds more true in HS and college (or that age). The closer you get to thirty, the more the women look for stable, reasonable people to go out with.
  • You're probably right. Don't worry about it. Your life is long and they are now having the best time of their lives. In ten years, you'll be on top while they'll be in their one-room shacks with beer guts and 3-pack-a-day coughs.
  • "Getting laid" will only bring temporary and mostly physical satisfaction. Most satisfying, stable relationships go beyond that. There are other things you must look in someone and sometimes if you take the time to do so it brings greater rewards in the end. He who laughs last...
  • When all these other ppl grow up and hopefully mature, then you will be the one they jealous of. They will be burnt out wannabees and you will have a wonderful life. Trust me, after high school the cheerleaders aren't crap in the real world. A lot of the steoriotyping will end, but not all. That is where you raise yourself above it and come out ahead. And honey if all you are worried about is getting a piece than I don't think you are one of the "nice" guys. Not sure, but most "nice" guys care more about more than just getting laid...Good luck with that one!!!;)
  • I know a real nerdy guy who wasn't bad looking but he was a real absolute A+ student Nerd. He was about 32 when he said that it was kind of strange but he didn't get popular until after college and then couldn't beat of the women with a stick. I was kind of like that until 25 or so. Wasn't any problem with females. I was divorced at 35 and absolutely no problems then either. Us stable guys are sought after when the females finally grow up.
  • The "bad ones" only last a little while! Its the "nice guys" that we like to settle down with! If you're looking to get laid then I guess you should try being a little tougher but dont plan on marrying the girl that you go laid with! Now, if you want to settle down with a girl, then your time will come and you'll get the good stuff with other good stuff also (the actual girl)! You'll have a relashionship in other words, not just sex! Just be patient! Good luck!!!
  • Dude! Quality over quantity! What's the go to woah timespan like? Two weeks and its over. Turn around in five years time and take a squizz at the a-holes: Deadbeats with infectious diseases and parental rights issues. These "hot" cheerleaders aren't the only women out there, what about all the rest of them screaming for attention? Instead of looking outward, try looking inward. What makes you attractive? What do you find attractive? Sure, there's the physical side of things, but what about conversation? Appreciation? The ability to just "hang out" and discuss ideas? Do you want a show-pony for a missus, or a real woman? Just recently a friend of mine introduced me to his "Hot new Missus". He boasted about her being a D-cup, hottest thing on two wheels. Well, when we met her, she was as thick as two short planks, had not an ounce of grace and couldn't talk about anything but nails and eyelash curlers (and after thirty minutes of that, *my* eyelashes were curling!). The point is that nice guys do get laid, they just don't tell the world about it.
  • Thats not true, nice guys just dont take advantage of girls. My favorite saying is... "Nice guys dont finish last, they just are running a different race." At one point I was deciding if I would continue to be what people would consider a "nice" guy or become one of those jerks. I stuck with it and now I have the best girl in the world. Haha funny thing I guess is she is a cheerleader as well. Stay strong and you will make one girl very happy, more then if you change.
  • In answer to your questions about the druggy/a$$holes and the cheerleaders: if the cheerleaders are "doing" the druggy/a$$holes, it's because they are druggy/a$$holes, too. Is that what you want? Look for girls like yourself - they're looking for you and wondering the same things you are. Good luck, friend. *SMILES*
  • yea it's basically high school and college girls are more into one dimensional fun ( hot and cool guys) after that women (not girls) look for the more stable guys with good jobs, money, and other signs of having a real life. most of them figure it out when thier "cool" boyfriend cheats on them, mooches them to brokeness, goes to rehab for a year or overdoses or steals something for drugs, or maybey even just never quits drugs and it becomes obviuos what's more important between the girl and the drugs)...anyways eventually most of them figure out it's great for a little bit, but really doesn't work out to anything good in the long run. some take longer than others, but usually they all come around. if you gotta nice house, car, and job, between 25 and 30 you will have YOUR PICK of the women, unless your really a dick or something, but even then it would still probably happen.....yea women mature sexually and figure out what they want in thier 20's somewhere usally, maybey even early 30's although ima 20 year old boy i havent BEEN there, i have just seen it alot.
  • In some cases, yes... The girls go for the bad guys, sometimes thinking they can straighten them out and "fix" whatever problems they have. It doesn't always work. HOWEVER, Please keep being true to yourself (nice guy and all). You will find the right one, or the right one will find you. My cousin (gorgeous) found a nice guy in college, and married him. And stop looking for the "hot" chicks... Even if it's not a "bad" guy, they're usually taken early on. Find someone that's right for you, regardless of what other people think of her looks. Trust me... Some VERY unatrractive people have the best personalities, and they DO "get better looking" as you get to know them. Think of those actresses in the movies you think of as not particularly pretty, but VERY shortly into it, as you get to know their characters, you DO find them attractive. The same is true in real life. And it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks... ONLY you. Stop worrying so much about it and it will happen in time. Good luck. ;-)
  • A lot of women do want aholes, but I think an old fashioned gentleman is the way to go. You want a girl that values those kinds of qualities, not "bad ones" ;) plain and simple.
  • Maybe you should stop paying attention to the "hot cheerleaders". Cheerleaders are not the only girls out there. I am in high school and I am with a decent guy. He just so happens to be on the rugby team, but that's not why I'm with him. I love him and appreciate him for who he is. I also care a whole lot about him. He is a really nice guy. He's one of the nicest guys I know, actually. He doesn't do drugs and he's not an asshole at all. He actually respects women, and he isn't desperate. I love him so much, and I definitely don't consider him one of the "bad ones". So, yeah, please do not base your opinions of girls on what "hot cheerleaders" do because not all girls happen to be cheerleaders. Getting laid shouldn't be your mission in life, either. Well, I don't think it should be anyway. You might disagree, but yeah, that's what I think. If your only goal is to get into a girl's pants by using "nice guy tactics", then I really don't consider you to be one of the nice guys at all. My definition of a "nice guy" might be different from your definition of a "nice guy". If I've misunderstood anything, please correct me.
  • I just want to point out to everyone that my post is purely observational, I said "all the druggy/assholes have the hotleader gfs." Not "WHY DONT I HAVE A HOT CHEERLEADER GF ITS NOT FAIR!?" I think some people are misinterpreting me here lol. My words are completely unequivocal, there is no ulterior meaning behind them...
  • I was there myself in HS, don't worry, when college comes around, and the adult world, you'll be able to pick and choose what ind of friends you can have, and the best part of that, is that all that 'crap' about there being someone out there for everyone, well, it becomes real and people will surprise you, and bst of all you will surprise yourself in yur success with the opposite sec, that truly is inevitable. Mind you, I'm a 20 yr old single guy, I've been around the block so to speak, and when you get there, you realize that what you're after isn't a girlfriend and sex and all that, rather , connections with people, and that is where all the fun is, and best of all, in all of that, you will find someone, or someone will find you, the hardest part is getting there, and let me just say, hang in there, life after high school is nothing like you ever expect it to be, its a whole lot better, but you do have to work harder to make it that way, you'll see when you get there.
  • A genuinely 'nice' guy, doesn't need to put others down in order to make himself seem superior to those 'lesser' guys. Assumed superiority in a guy (or anyone for that matter) is a turn off. It's contrived and transparent.... A nice guy is a nice guy when he is simply being a decent human being. Not looking for a medal ( ie getting laid) by manipulation and comparing himself to others. He's his own man. And decides independently of anyone else's behaviour what it means to be a good person.
  • 1) "Nice guys don't get laid.. they get married." Source: http://ultimatenyg.blogspot.com/2007/01/nice-guys-dont-get-laid-they-get.html 2) "The book fails to include the view of a single woman on her perceptions about dating. It never mentions that nice guys who are funny, witty and asertive, take to bed much more women that those which are categorized as jerks. The problem for the large majority of the so called "nice guys" is that they fail to recognize that their sole motivation for being "nice" is to take a woman to bed. So they try to sell themselves as harmless and honest or use the strategy of "best friend" to get close while being undercover. Women on the other hand have a great sense of intuition to feel that those guys who portray themselves as "nice" are just a bunch of sex starved hipocrits, who use a lame strategy to get into their panties and most probably if they lack imagination and self assurance they must be lousy in bed. So the dilemma is not between being nice or a jerk, the real issue is how to express what we want and if the answer is NO, how to move to the next relationship with your self steem untouched." Source and further information: http://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/customer-reviews/0963582607/ref=cm_rev_prev/701-9654292-3469134?ie=UTF8&customer-reviews.sort%5Fby=-SubmissionDate&n=916520&s=books&customer-reviews.start=1 3) " I will admit that there ARE some women who have a thing for bad boys, and that our culture glorifies them, and makes the good guy look like an unmasculine, soppy loser. This is definitely a problem. However, there are a lot of reasons BESIDES this cultural phenomenon that you, the nice guy, may not be getting yours. 1. You're not ACTUALLY a nice guy. 2. You're only a nice guy SO you can get laid (see #1). 3. You ARE a nice guy, but you have some other date-repelling flaw. A few of these are as follows: a You are physically unattractive b You don't get out much.....well, ever. c You really REALLY like Star Trek d You spend a lot of time complaining about how nice guys never get laid *side note* Think about those women on Ricki Lake/Maury/etc. who say that they're so hot, that men are intimidated by them, and won't ask them out. And you're watching, thinking "You may be cute, but they're not asking you out because you're full of yourself." Yeah. It's like that. 4. You spend a lot of time with long-time woman friends, hoping that eventually they'll fall madly in love with you. Instead of going out to meet women who haven't already deemed you unattractive. (yes. they have.)" Source and further information: http://thistimealone.blogspot.com/2004/11/why-nice-guys-dont-get-laid.html 3) "The decision is to be liked by everyone OR loved by a few. "Nice guys" are the guys who chose to be liked by everyone...but this comes at the cost of being loved." Source and further information: http://malaysia.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070428023307AAOqe36 4) "So what do women see in bad boys? Two words, RISK and INDEPENDENCE. Since women are not prepared to be responsible for being "bad" themselves (risk taking /adventure seeking), they find it very attractive when they find men who are "bad". These are men who are (or seem to be) prepared to take risks and have adventures and along the way, will encourage the women to be bad themselves. That's a great deal of the appeal of a bad boy. Even if the woman is bad, she's still morally better than he is. And that's very attractive to her. She can be as bad as she wants, and she knows the guy will be badder. The other thing is that bad boys are perceived as guys who have more "wild fun" than "nice guys". And they show women more fun. Bad boys like their lives. Women find their energy and self-confidence strongly attractive. When women find these traits in a nice guy (which is rare), they usually marry him. When they find it in a bad boy, they usually just sleep with him. If you want plenty of casual sex, consider taking on the aura of a "bad boy". Or in more common terms, become a bad boy. Then put yourself in an environment where women are looking for guys like you, and you'll find many vying for your attention. (NB: This is why most "nice guys" don't get casual sex. And when "nice guys" are out on the town, they make it even easier for bad boys to get casual sex because nice guys help make the bad boys stand out in a crowd.)" Source and further information: http://www.altpenis.com/penis_news/20010617204100data_trunc_sys.shtml 5) "Why Do Women Show Absolutely No Romantic Interest In A Nice Guy (Like Me) Even Though They All Claim To Want To Meet A Nice Guy (Like Me)?" "The problem with being nice is TRYING to be nice, instead of just LETTING it happen. You can't come across as an *obvious* a nice guy -- you just have to drop enough hints around women so that you SEEM like one. Never, *EVER* broadcast your nice guy potential to women like it's something that you're proud of!" Source and further information: http://www.fastseduction.com/alpha/001-HowToBeANiceGuyAndStillGetLaid.shtml
  • Don't sweat it. The "druggie" guys have "druggie", shallow girls with nice bodies. You shouldn't be looking there if you want something that means anything.
  • Off cause nice guys get laid!!! these druggy assholes only get the hot girls as you call them, because they probably want some free drugs for free sex. Dont worry honey, there are loadsa nice girls out there, you just have to look. Stop looking at these silly slappers and look at the girls who want to do something with there lives to better it.
  • Hey dude! You gotta be nice but you also gotta be assertive! Don't let the assholes intimidate you, the truth of the matter is that "nice" is much more powerful than "nasty" Speak up man! You like a chick? ask her out, if she says no! forget her and try another one, you'd be surprised at the positive changes that this simple change in attitude can bring to your life. Good luck dude!
  • If you are only interested in getting laid, maybe you're on the wrong track. But if you are interested in being a good person and respecting women and finding a lasting relationship that really means something, you're doing well. Nice guys are more apt to find real love and and have a better chance at setting a good foundation for a lasting relationship. There is nothing wrong with being a good person and having people's respect for not using others or causing pain to other people with many casual relationships. The man I married was a virgin, as was I and he was almost 23 when we were married.
  • It's not entirely true, but it certainly feels like it at times. only 1 in 4 women like nice guys, and of that group, 1 in 4 of them believe guys can be 'too' nice. So, nice guys are at a serious disadvantage. But they do get laid, just not as much as the druggy assholes. Commitment, or pussy? decisions, decisions.
  • This is the truth bub. Nice guys do get laid, but not as much. Here's why. Bad boys, druggies, assholes, etc. exude confidence and INDIFFERENCE. Indifference meaning they seem to have this aura that suggests they can live with or without the chick, it really has no effect on them. Girls like that. The " I really don't give a shit" attitude indicates independence and self control. Eventually the chick realizes this isn't confidence, independence OR self control, but just pure fucking apathy. The "nice guy" does not stimulate a woman because it leads them to believe that he will not be as capable of securing her safety as the asshole. The asshole will more than likely beat the living shit out of someone if he threatens the woman. The nice guy will try to deal with it amicably. They want someone that is capable of causing damage but chooses not to. It's a primitive evolutionary thing. Advice? Don't be cruel but don't be kind. Find the happy medium, relax and roll with it. Too much focus on a woman will turn her off.
  • no actually its quite the contrary lol but really in high school girls are dumb and only go for one type but in college where i am now girls look for guys that have a brain between thoes ears and nice guys are always better than assholes in my book good luck
  • Teenage-hood and young adulthood are times when girls try things out and get with all the douchebag guys and usually get it out of their system. Then once they start growing up and wanting more than that, they'll realize what the word 'quality' means. Just be patient.
  • In the end, it's not the quantity that counts. It's the quality of girl. Do you really want a girl who'll sleep with every asshole or druggie? Probably not. As you get older you'll find that some women are attracted to success. Some are attracted to stability. Some are looking for a soulmate. Figure out what you want to be. ...There's a big difference between what a highschool girl wants, and what a woman wants.
  • Chill, half the guys haven't been laid yet, even if they say they have. Take your time.
  • Don't you see the difference, Your adding on to those guys getting the girls. Druggy assholes? Well your labeling them as a person..and also making them different, as well as interesting.. would you rather date a stoner or a nice guy? Whats a nice guy? obviously nice, but other guys are nice too.. nice guys are just norrmally "just nice" not much else there.. or they are too shy to really show anything else. In short, the other guys are more interesting which brings the girls attention.

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