Why do girls feel it is important to have a big diamond ring when they get engaged/married?
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ANSWERS: 50
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It makes up for the lack of other things, lol :o)
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Because they're greedy.
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Not all girls do!
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It's not important. The money could be better used on a down payment for the newly wed's first home together.
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For some girls a rock like that represents a pile of quick money at the pawn shop when the relationship goes south and they have to bail. It's an emergency escape pod.
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Women want commitment.They want to know that you won't love 'em and leave 'em - possibly holding the baby. A big rock is a big commitment. You may be able to blarney all the girls in the village, but you cannot buy them all diamonds. Govong s diamond is an investment, a commitment. That, at the bottom, is what girls want.
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Frankly 'girls ' shouldn't be getting married, 'women' should be. The last thing I wanted was a diamond, I don't even like them. We both paid for our own wedding rings and left it at that, the money was put to use for our honeymoon.
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i think the effort put into the way they ask means more than the ring. if the rock size is the most important thing then your there for the wrong reason.do you love there and they love you then ring should not matter.
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not for me...small diamond ring is ok.. ahh..i am working as a waitress (p/t job) and there's one time, this lady cant stop putting her left hand (of course w/ the big diamond ring) on her man's lap..ok, thats her man..i can say nothing bout that..but that really made me sick..haha..she did that like every single second...she used her left hand to pick up the glass (which was at her right side)..paid the bill w/ her left hand (isn't right hand is more appropriate?) and enough!!!!!!! yeah, need answer why girls (most..i.e. paris hilton w/ paris latsis fake big diamond ring) do like big diamond ring???????
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Don't look at this girl. I was happy to be engaged with a modest sized but very beautiful ring and am still happy with it.
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Some feel as if the man loves them more however I do not
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They feel more loved
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Not all girls do. When my husband proposed to me I was given a beautiful heirloom ring with a very small diamond. I still get compliments on it because it's so unique & although the diamond is modest it's still an incredibly beautiful ring.
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I think its ridiculous...its about the commitment to the other person, not how big the diamond is! Some people are just so shallow
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I think it's effin BS that a girl would think that the larger the rock, the more the guy loves them. I think that they feel it is important for when they show it off to their friends and family to get the oohs and aahhhs. Though, just because I feel this way, it is the way it is, and I will get her a big rock when I find the one. >8P
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An expensive ring is good because it shows that the guy is willing to invest in her and thinks she is worth every penny. I wouldn't want a big ring thou. It is hard to do my job with a bunch of hardware on my hand. Not all girls feel you need to get her a fancy ring, but if you can, you should.
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The key word in your question is 'girl'. Not woman.
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I never did. I think it's a huge waste of money, and find the whole diamond mining/slave labor connection reprehensible anyway, so I would never expect one. Knowing how my guy feels about that same thing, he would never buy one anyway.
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Girls think its important to have a big diamond because society has constructed the belief and some women do not challenge the idea like bigger is better is a foundation belief behind the ring which is a male concept that women take on as their value...want the big diamond as a sigh of power "I have a man the can afford this ring and more so shove off attitude.....wear a big diamond to stroke the males ego on being a good provider. Lets not forget the ring historically was owned by the man and still is viewed a male prosperity that a women wears. A man would not walk away for a 10,000.00 investment or a diamond ring
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Not to brag but.... I DID just get an engagment ring that almost made me faint! It happened last month and it was totally unnecessarily big and I told him so but he wanted to give it to me. After almost 4 years, HE felt it was important for me to have a beautiful ring because he said I deserved it. lol Truthfully, I am more happy that we are actually getting MARRIED! I would have been happy with just one of those diamonds.... or just the proposal itself would have been enough for me! :)
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I think its stupid I am a girl and i think big diamond rings are tacky I would rather have something small and sensible... its not the ring that matters its the feelings
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its not that we need the "big" its that since we like to feel special and loved we feel that if our man buys us a big ring he wants us to have the best.. or... he thinks of you so he buys you a big one because he thinks you deserve it...we all do...but it just depends on the girl you marry and well as long as you treat her right...its all that matters..but prove yourself...and she will prove to you thats it does not matter...money that is...
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"Girls" might feel that it's proof of their s/o's love."Women" couldn't care less about that stuff.
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wedding rings are exempt property in bankruptcy they probably cannot be (legally) taken by the IRS either
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"Hey, look at my huge diamond ring, it's bigger than yours, that means my future husband is richer and I'm going to have a happier life"
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Each person is different. It just depends on what you think is important. My big thing was I wanted a unique ring that showed creativity and love. So instead of the standard solitare that every woman has, he got a ring with a normal sized diamond (I think, 1/2 carat) but the BAND it incredibly unique, intricate and special. It's unlike any other ring I've seen before. So for me, it's more special that he took the time to find something so different as opposed to just getting a standard ring with a big ol' diamond on it.
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One word: Media. Back in Victorian times it was the norm for an engagement ring to be any precious or semi-precious stone or stones whatsoever. It didn't have to be a solitaire, either. The sentiment was still the same as it is today. Serious, excusivity with plans of matrimony.
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You won't like this answer but here goes in the real world. When I see a woman with a tiny stone, (under .20) I think, "dang, her man didn't value her enough to get her something nicer". This is the same man who owns a fancy pricey car that will part with in 5 years and yet he won't spend the money on a woman that is "the love of his life" . Usually, as the years go by, it's apparent what he values and what he doesn't. You put money where your heart is. It's human nature. I don't think you have to get an enormous stone, but remember, when people look at that ring, they are judging YOU, not her.
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I personally don't think that it's important for me to even have a ring once engaged/married. Though I do like rings... Also, I find large diamonds to be a bit tacky. I don't really like diamonds so much in general, but large ones I like even less, and especially those hideously raised ones. My ideal wedding band would be just that - a band, with a few stones (not diamonds) inlaid into it. Something delicate and under-stated, not gaudy.
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Are you judging by what they show on tv or by experience? From what I've seen a 'big diamond' isn't what is on a girls mind when the man she loves proposes to her. I know I was far more interested in my then boyfriend turned fiancee. He could have given me a cracker jack ring and I would have still been just as excited.
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because most people are materialistic and just looking to impress others.
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Perhaps the women would equate her value to the value of the ring.
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i didnt get married for the ring, i got married because i love my husband! it annoys me when i hear women telling their friends how much their ring is worth!!! who cares!!!!!!!!!!!
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I dont think they do - its the more the way they receive it! :D
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Because they are lemmings and..gee! "If that Jenny has it then I WANT IT TOO! Or you don't love me!" (Succession of crying fits until the boyfriend spends his life savings on a stupid ring that only lasts until the wedding.) Yeesh. I go for a plain band if I ever find a guy I'm willing to say yes to. There are starving people people! Wake up!
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cultural, societal and peer pressure...and no ability to think through the rationality of the decision and its ramifications on the finances of their fiance.
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Some girls are convinced that.. the more money you spend or the bigger the diamond is shows the amount or equal value of how much you care and love them. THE BIGGER THE DIAMOND = THE AMOUNT OF LOVE. OR maybe the sacrafice you make to afford the ring can be portrayed as MORE LOVE and CARE.
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I didn't want a huge diamond, I just wanted the ring period. In the end I ended up with a decent size diamond because my mom gave him my grandmother's ring, but I would have been just as happy if t had been tiny or diamond at all. I was just happy he finally asked!
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bragging rights to all their friends and enemies.
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Not this one ;)
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Not me! I told my husband I didn't want one. I personally think they are garish and ugly. Once you are married, all possessions and debts are community property and I didn't want to have to help pay for it. I have a rich friend who has a huge rock and she lives in terror that a thief will cut her finger off for it. She won't go out wearing it and worrying about it takes up a lot of her life. Why bother?
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Don't blame the women. They think that way because they have been programmed to think that way. It does not start or stop with diamonds. We are told (programmed) by the mass media that the bigger house, more expensive car, etc, are all outward signs of success. I look at people with huge homes, fancy cars, big diamond rings and rolex watches and just laugh at them. Value never lies in things. You should feel lucky that someone cares enough about you to be willing to gamble the rest of their lives, better or worse to be with you. It is a gamble too, more than 50% of all marriges fail, no matter the size of the ring.
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The bigger the ring, the bigger the commitment? Yeah right! Have you seen those celebrity engagement rings, and how long do those marriages and engagements last? Not long. As a woman speaking for herself, the ring size isn't what matters.
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I laugh at them for wasting money on things that do not matter... So a person with a large home and a fancy luxury vehicle has more value to you than a single mom working 2 jobs and driving a 10 year old car? People who place value on things instead of people is what is wrong with the country today. People wanting more and more and more and doing anything to get it.... "Twice as much ain't twice as good, and can't sustain like 1/2 could". - John Mayer
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Because, a nice ring shows that you won't be turning her out on the streetcorner to make some Ramen Noodle money. You know how men are judged by penis size? Women are judged by their ring size. The very first question out of a gaggle of women's mouths after you say "We got engaged!" is "LET ME SEE THE RING!" All of us want the best ring that our hubby-to-be can afford.
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To impress others especially women.
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Well, not every girl is like that. I'd be just as happy with a 25 cent gum ball ring as long as he was asking me with his whole heart and all his love. In fact, he's worried about not getting me a nice enough ring and I've tried to tell him this but he won't listen. Sometimes, it's the guy that wants a to get his girl a great ring so when she shows it off he looks good.
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It's a true commitment.
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showoffs lol
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Maybe because they are girls and not women. Stop dating children.
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