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  • The only thing you can do is put up with it or leave. You cannot change him or control him. You have no power to dictate to him that he respect you.
  • I say leave. He obviously does not treat you well and needs to learn. As you put this in the Abusive relationship and self esteem issues. Thats what this type of relationship does. It lowers you self esteem so you feel he is the only one. Leave him and find a better guy. I know there are way more guys that would treat you with respect then that and you would love them even more then this guy.
  • Face facts, you love an abusive, wicked bastard. You may love him but I doubt you are getting love in return. Does he smack you around too? Some people are just gluttons for punishment. Either put up and shut up or leave him. It's your choice, we can't help you.
  • Hi Anonymous, You have posted your question under the Abusive relationships category - and I agree completely with that designation. You are currently in an abusive relationship. Think about that for a moment. You are in an abusive relationship. When you love someone, do you want to hurt them? When you love someone, would you use disparaging words to describe them? Of course not. Therefore the first step is to acknowledge that whatever it is your boyfriend feels towards you, it isn't really love. Next, please take a moment to think about what it takes for a relationship to work. Remember that relationships require two people. If one person leaves the relationship, its over... it takes two people to have a healthy relationship. Trying to stay in a relationship that does not work is only going to harm you. Don't allow yourself to be hurt time and time again. Your relationship has to end because you are not being treated with the respect you deserve. You deserve better, much much better. I urge you not to settle for any abusive relationship. Best wishes.
  • If he is this bad now...what do you think he will be like 3 years from now? The pattern of abuse shows that it does not get less abusive over time, it gets worse. Leave before you become a headline. You are already a statistic.
  • shove a bar of soap in his foul mouth
  • If he does it in anger, you better leave him now. Otherwise, you could literally find yourself 10 years from now still married to him, sickly attached emotionally to him, and abused in many different ways. If he does it in a joking manner, it could be his way of teasing you. It's still not nice to do, but, if he's just joking around, ask him to stop. If he doesn't stop, you should leave because that means he actually wants to hurt you.
  • How can you love a person who disrespects you so much? I am not trying to be rude but I have to believe, you have not been in a good relationship, if you are willing to settle for this. What can you do? Leave him........... or put up with it.
  • You know what to do, being brave enough to do it is another subject. So think about it for a minute, times up! Now get away from him, call him on the phone and tell him, this kind of treatment is not okay!!! And be done with him. He will only get worse. You decide.
  • Firstly, have you confronted your boyfriend about this issue. Partners are generally not mind readers, and one persons (bad) humor may be quite offensive to another. It might be an idea to discuss this with him. Be honest with him and don't call him names. Just be factual. Explain how this behaviour makes you feel. If he truly loves you, he will be very hurt to hear how his actions and words are making you feel, and will try to improve. If on the other hand he shows no understanding or even want to listen to how you "feel", then the answer is pretty simple. He in underserving of you love. Let him go, and find a man who will cherish and respect you. Get rid of the things you dont want to make room for the things you do want. Good Luck
  • say to him why are u calling me a slut bicth and then and then u walk out of that house and dont comeback for 3 days he will be worried about u and then he will ask u where have u been and u dont say anything
  • HELLO!!!!!!! WAKE UP MY DEAR LADY....IF YOU LIKE LIFE, THEN GET A GRIP AND JOIN IT ! YOU MUST BE LACKING SELF CONFIDENCE. THIS IS THE YEAR 2007,O.K.IF YOU DON'T WANT TO FINISH, BECAUSE IT SEEMS LIKE YOU'LL PROBABLY STAY IN THIS HORRIBLE RELATIONSHIP.THEN DONT,YOU HAVE TO DEMAND A LITTLE SELF RESPECT FROM YOURSELF ,THEN YOULL BE ABLE TO SET YOURSELF FREE FROM THIS IDIOT. REMEMBER YOU ONLY GET GOOD TREATMENT FROM WHAT YOUR WIILLING TO ACCEPT. IF HE REALLY LOVED YOU HE WOULD NOT!!!!BE DOING THIS !!!! NO ONE WOULD
  • I was in a relationship like that, and very unhappy... i also said that i was in love with him to. But sweety...that relationship that your in now is not worth staying in. I thought about how unhappy i was with him and how he would treat me and call me names and cheat on me too. But the only reason that you don't want it to be over is because your probably scared that you wou't beable to find anyboddy else or that you'll end up with somebody else in that same situation that your in now. But when i got the courage to leave awhile later, i meet someone else and I've never been so happy in life. Once you leave you'll realize that whole time that you were with him... it was just a waste of your time and you can do way better than him. SO PLEASE JUST LEAVE HIM...YOU DESERVE BETTER AND YOU KNOW IT TOO!!!
  • He is abusing you. He does not love you. Is this how you want to live your life?
  • my boyfriend does to . belive me it comes to the point your going to get sooo sick of it and be done just like i am now. its not worth your time
  • tell him that you are leaving him... thats all you can do right now... don't you have some pride and some dignity... he will feel guilty about it... and try to come back to you.
  • Sounds like you like it. No matter how many ppl you ask for advice your not really going to listen to it and always fall back in abusive relationships. You feel the need for others to re-assure you of your own intentions of leaving but stop kidding yourself you will not. You love being treated like shit.
  • It sounds like you enjoy abuse. What other reason could you possibly have for loving him? So, since he likes abusing it's a match made in heaven.
  • i see all answers as being "one sided" in the poster's favor. indeed your BF has a bad choice of words. but you do understand what it means right? my question now is, is this true? does he have any basis for calling you such? let's all try to get things straight as much as possible.
  • 2-19-2017 You really need to raise your standards, and quickly.

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