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  • Heck no you don't. You're the mom so raise her as you see fit.
  • no!!! you don't oyur her mom you do wat you thinks best!!
  • No. I think your mom owes you an apology. She is your daughter & your responsibility. If you allow little things like that now, she will be expecting more as she gets older & he defense would be justified. "well you let me wear this when I was 15, why can't I wear this one. I'm ALMOST an adult." You are the one under the microscope if she looks like that because she is still a child no matter how mature she may be. Good for you! Keep it up & tell your mom to not fuel the fire.
  • NO! you are the mom who is raising your daughter to be a nice decent person. you are the one who sets the rules.
  • My mom got mad at me because I railed her about not going to church. She and I didn't speak for 3 months.. it was the most peaceful three months of my life. Enjoy the peace and quiet. You are the mother of the 15 year old and you are entitled to your opinion. Personally, if more parents took such an active role in determining good standards for their childrens attire, there would be less trouble among teens.
  • No. The way girls dress these days is way too sexy. Let your mom not talk to you. It will be good because you'll get some peace of mind!
  • No of coarse not you had your daughters best intrests at heart and i think your mother should realise that.
  • Yes, you should apologize to your daughter. You do not need to use that word with her. What she will translate in her mind will sound different than what you said. Something like "You're a slut because you want to wear that short shirt." As a mother, you should be able to choose a more gentle and sophisticated way to speak to your daughter. For example, "No, you may not wear that shirt because it is simply too revealing." and you might add, "You are such a beautiful and smart girl. You don't need to call attention to yourself like that."
  • No, your mom is WAY over the line. It's not her business to tell you how to raise your daughter, and she needs to lay off. However, to be fair, it might not be a bad idea for you to talk a bit more with your daughter about what clothing is acceptable. If she is asking to wear short skirts, she may need a realistic idea of what messages clothing conveys, and a bit of practical help seems like it would be a good idea. Not just to shoot down her ideas, but to find out why she liked that skirt, and what alternatives she might like while staying within the bounds of reasonable clothing. It can be really hard to tell what messages you're sending when you're first figuring out the whole clothing-message idea.
  • No but you need to sit down and talk WITH her and explain you thoughte and LISTEN to what she has to say..You don't need to "give in " but be conciderate and hear what your daughter is saying. If you treat her like a person, she will listen and hear you easier.
  • No you do not. Despite the fact that your mother raised you, she is not raising your child. In fact, if your mother is not speaking to you because you are parenting your child the way she wants, then she is acting like a child herself. As far as your daughter, you are the adult, she is the child. If it looked slutty, it looked slutty. Kids nowadays do not understand things when you phrase it like you would if talking to a kid from an earlier generation. The word "slutty" is in common use among kids, even those younger than 15. Trust me, your daughter already knows that word, and exactly what it means.
  • No you don't owe anyone an apology for loving your daughter and looking out for her. I wish there were more Mom's like you out there.
  • no, you owe no one an apology. you're a mom, and looking out for your daughter. if I were in your shoes, I'd have done the same. times have changed a lot since I was that age....it's really apalling to me that parents let their young kids where some of the things they do. am I getting old?
  • No, you are the parent and if you feel that certain clothes she wants to wear may make her look slutty, that's your business, not your Mom's. You sound like someone who wants to protect your daughter from the cruel labels that other people can put on a person. Good job for doing what you're supposed to be doing....protecting your child. By the way, my 15 year old daughter agrees with my opinion. Again....GOOD JOB!!!
  • No, you're her dad. That's your duty.
  • I would have told her that she looks like a slut and let her make her own decision because by just telling her not to do it she might be tempted to do it just to be a rebel. if you use logic and reasoning with her and teach her to make her own good decisions rather than to blindly follow you she will be better off later in life
  • You don't need to be sorry for not allowing her to wear that shirt, but you should tell her that you are aware the reason she wants to wear it is because it's what's in style and she's pressured to be like other girls, and NOT because you think she actually IS a slut. Teenagers really have their ways of misinterpreting what you say! You know what you meant, I know what you meant, but I betcha anything the girl probably either thought you were calling her a slut, or incapable of making good decisions about clothing. :D
  • Yes. Your daughter will probably never forget that you used the word slut when referencing her. That's what you owe an apology for. You can set rules about her clothes, but it should be a conversation, where you at least hear her thoughts and she can hear yours. Because you hurt her, she now thinks you were being mean and has no idea where you are coming from, no idea that you are only trying to protect her out of love.
  • No, your mom owes you one for interfering with your parenting. If she had had a problem with what you said to your daughter, she should have brought it up to you later, just between the two of you, no daughter involved. And she should have given good reasons for her feelings and you could have given yours. But since she did it her way, she was wrong to interfere. It is YOUR duty to see that your daughter is raised with good values and reflects the family as YOU see fit, not another person, even your mother. Sure, listen to advice from your mother but feel free to reject it when necessary.
  • no i think u were honest with ur daugther one thing that ur mother has to understand is that when u are honest with ur kids ur kids will be more open and respect u
  • I think you should have told your daughter that it was "inappropriate" instead of "slutty". That's just not a word a mother should use with her 15 year old daughter (or daughter of any age). But I also don't think your Mom is right in refusing to speak with you.
  • i think if you actually used the word 'slutty' then yes. my dad has hinted, if i'm around boys or wearing something he doesn't approve of, what i 'look' like and it makes me feel awful. but otherwise, no. if my mum told me something was too short or too tight or whatever i would take notice and although i might not agree i would respect her for telling me.
  • I'm sure you could have used different words...I would apologize to her and let her know what is appropriate and what isn't appropriate so you don't have that problem again.
  • YOUR RIGHT , NO APOLOGIES ARE DUE EXCEPT TO YU FROM YOUR MOTHER. YOU NEED TO LET YOUR DAUGHTER KNOW THE TYPE OF ATTENTION SHE WILL GET FROM WEARING SUGGESTIVE CLOTHING AS WELL AS THE TYPE OF GUYS SHE'LL ATRACT. IM 22YRS OLD SO THIS ISNT COMING FROM A ONE SIDED OPINION(PARENT) ITS COMING FROM SOMEONE WHO CAN UNDERSTAND YOUR DAUGHTERS MIND SET AS WELL AS YOURS. SHE MAY BE JUST TRYING TO FOLLOW THE FAD OR IT COULD BE A PROBLEM. YOUNG KIDS NOW ADAYS ARE GROWING UP TOO FAST AND. YOU MAY WANT TO TAKE A LOOK AT HER FRIENDS AND HER FRIENDS HOME LIFES. SOME YOUNG WOMEN THINK THE ONLY WAY TO GET ATTENTION IS TOO DRESS "SLUTTY" OR TO DO INAPROPIATE THINGS FOR THERE AGE. YOU NEED TO TALK TO HER AND ASK WHY SHE WOULD WANT TO WEAR THAT AND LET HER KNOW YOUR REASONING FOR WHAT YOU SAID AND DID. SOME MAY NOT AGREE WITH YOUR TERMINOLOGY BUT I LIKE IT PEOPLE SEEING HER ON THE STREETS WOULD USE WORDS LIKE THAT OR WORSE TELL SHE NEEDS TO BE PREPARED FOR EVERYONES OPINIONS TO BE VIOCES SOME GOD SOME BAD WHEN DRESSING "SLUTTY".
  • I do think that you owe her an apology. I would not like being called a slut. There are a lot of girls these days that wear short short skirts because they are the "in" thing, not because they are sluts or want to be one. When i was younger i used to wear "slutty" stuff but now i don't, i grew out of it, and i ams rue they will as well. maybe use that is "not appropriate" for school. She would just be asking for trouble from the boys at school depending on the crowd they huyng out with;
  • I'm 16 so maybe my viewpoint might be helpful. I agree that younger girls wearing mini-skirts is sometimes a bad thing, and I can see 15 still being an age where you should keep a check on that sort of thing. Though I know how much it hurts or how upsetting it is to have either of my parents say something hurtful or disrespectful. I think it's perfectly fine for you to tell your daughter she can't wear the mini-skirt, but you do owe her an apology for how you handled it. I would be pretty hurt if my mom said anything about me being slutty. Even if teenagers dont always act it, what our parents think and say does affect our self-respect a lot.
  • No. If possible, it may be time to unleash all your worldly wisdom onto her in order to save her alot of pain. Try to relax, have a cuppa, what ever. Maybe dad or grandma could also have a talk with her, (one on one, not all three of yous ganging up against her!) Take it slow and choose your words carefully. Do try to remember she is a young girl growing up and trying to make her way in the world. If you say the wrong thing then she won't relate, she won't listen and the lesson won't be learnt. Good luck.
  • No you did the right thing. I personally find it disgusting for girls that young to be wearing clothes so reveling in public. however you probably could have explained it differently than just saying it would look slutty. thats just my view tho = P
  • wow, yes you owe her an apology thats terrable, that makes you a terrable mother and you could drive her to suicide!!!!how would you feel if she called you a slut cuz of something your wearing? Do you understand the definition of slut? because wearing a short skirt doesn't make you one.. wow.. mothers these days...
  • Your mother owes you an appology for butting in where she has no business. I am willing to bet that she didn't allow anyone to interfere with you when you were 15 and she was trying to be a good mother. Shame on her. I don't know if you owe your daughter an appology or not. You do have a right and a responsibility to make unpopular choices for her, in her best interest. There may have been a nicer way to put it, but you are the mom. She needs to accept this and respect it...and you.
  • I have a different view from everyone. Do you allow her to wear it outside of school? If so, then you owe her an apology. If you let her wear it outside of school, but make a distinction that in school it is slutty, you are setting a double standard. If you don't let her wear it outside of school, where did she get it?
  • THANK YOU i wish i had moms like you at my school! your mom owes u an apology if one is needed.
  • No, she'll thank you later on.
  • apoligize if you were mean about it but not for ur choice. it was the right one!!! i wish more parents were like that!!!
  • I think you did the right thing and your mom needs to butt out of how you discipline or correct or guide your daughter. I think mom owes you an apology and your daughter owes your mom an apology. You need to just hold your ground, girlfriend!
  • God no!! you're the mum here, and what you say goes!! Stick with your decision, and tell your mother to butt out of your parenting decisions! good on you for telling her no, you don't want your 15 yr old walking around looking slutty, that's how little girls get into trouble!!! Don't you dare apologise, that's like admitting you're in the wrong!
  • No way. You are right. Tell your mother to mind her own business.
  • No. I think your mother is the one who owes you an apology.
  • Yes. Don't call your daughter a slut - that makes you a bitch. I can use your vocabulary too. She can dress how she wants, that's none of your business.
  • No, you did a fantastic thing for your daughter. This world needs more Moms like you.
  • if you were kinda mean about it i would apologize. but tell her that just because u apologized doesnt mean that she can still wear the short shirt. your mom will obviously get over it. it sounds to me that ur mom is acting selfish and it sounds like she spoils your daughter. that could be one of the problems. cause she might know that she can just go right to grandma and think she'll get away with it.
  • Well, maybe you do. Not that you were wrong for telling her not to wear such a revealing skirt, but that you used the word slut, when referring to her. I would feel pretty offended. I'd say sorry for using that word, but still stick to my decision to not let her wear the skirt.
  • It's a strange phenomenum. Parents who were formerly "strict" when you were a kid become super tolerant when they become grandparents. You do NOT owe your daughter any apology. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!
  • No! Your mom owes YOU an apology if aything! What a bad influence on your daughter for her to defend that kind of clothing! However, if you were a bit offensive when you spoke to your daughter, you need to reevaluate how you handle these situations in the future. You ahev no right to CALL your daughter a slut. I hope what you did was tell her that you did not approve of that type of clothing, you raised a classy daughter who had more self-esteem than to parade around half naked. You should have explained that giving off the wrong impression to others is only going to get her a reputation as a promiscuous girl & that she would not attract the right kind of boys OR the right kind of friends & will only incite gossip about herself. If you actually CALLED her a slut, you probably pushed her away, weirded her out, and she'll probably just wear it anyway behind your back. If you explained yourself rationally and treated her with respect, she'll be more likely to respect your wishes and see your point.
  • Apology is ment for doing something wrong... u didnt do anything wrong. You have proven urself as a parent by not allowing ur daughter to look slutty thus u must be praised and encouraged rather than being neglected. U must not allow any1 to come in the way of ur parenting which is for the good of ur child. U shouldnt allow any1, even ur mom to come in between ur childs intrests which is to look decent......
  • yes you do, you never wont to put down your child for it will forever ruin your relationship with her it may be she is going through a faze if you try to stop her she will remain in that faze
  • fuck no i am 17 yrs old i goto a high skewl in florida and they dont inforce dress code and all we have is little slut its not they way you want you daughter to be raised i usto do that until i got the wrong attention from the guy and when you have guys callin the housde for your daughter and all they want is sex ur mother will understand y u said no and as far as your mother goes tell her it is your child and when u were growing up she goto raise you how she wanted now let you rasie your daughter they way you want and if i were you i would take all her skirts and shorts that you dont approve of and cut them up right infrount of her and only let her go shopping for bottems with you!!!
  • You can apologize, but stand firm on NO wearing short shirts to school. They would probably send her home from school anyway. Aren't they against the dress code? Does she know what a reputation is, and how awful it is to have a bad one? Maybe you need to explain that to her also. :) Best of luck to you. Raising kids these days is so hard!
  • explain to said mum and later on to daughter that you think daughter is beautiful but looks older than she is and you dont want her to be looked at as a piece of meat or sexually atractive to older men so its all for the best. my mum said it to me and it made me realise, as a teenager who looked older then her age, that you should respect yourself
  • NO. She is 15, YOU make the rules.
  • Grandparents mean well but they really but in alot. Your mother had her chance to raise her daughter and now you have to raise yours and do what you think is best. Perhaps you used the term because your mother had gotten on your nerves. When your mother isn't around, explain to your daughter why you said what you said and next time, your daughter may not try you. Besides, there are so many creeps out there and you would never forgive yourself if you allowed her to wear that and something happened to her.
  • It's very mean to tell your daughter she looks slutty. Rather say that she's beautiful and a short skirt will make the boys get the idea that she's easy, and they will not respect her. Say it NICELY. Girls are very sensitive. They're just trying to figure out where they fit in - you were there too once. I have a 15-year-old daughter. If you say sorry, she'll respect you and you'll heal her injured feelings. Be clever! I'd advise a compromise about the skirt. Suggest a shorter skirt - not as short as she wants, but shorter - let her feel you care about her enough to meet her halfway.
  • No you do not - but your mom owes you one. She is your teenaged daughter and you are protecting her and teaching her values. Your mom should be proud of you.
  • no you dont ur the responsible and experienced one and u took charge and ur daughter needs to realize that u said that for her own good so ur a mom theres nothing u can do about it
  • That's sad, you think your mother would support you in making sure her granddaughter is dressed appropriately for school. She probably wouldn't have let you go that way. Interesting she has chosen a teenager approach to handling it by not talking to you. Anyway, you are the parent, your mother had her chance at parenting, she doesn't need to parent you about your parenting; it's not like you were endangering your daughter, you were only trying to help her. The youth these days really dress scantily, you're just looking out for her best interest.
  • Yu don't owe her an apolopy. Its obvious that you only want what is best for her.
  • In a way you do if you straight up told her that she would look slutty. What you could have done was just tell her that you would rather her not wear the skirt becuase it is too short for school or at least wear leggings under it. But if you told her that she would look slutty then yeah you need to apologize because that is somthing that sticks with a girl forever, my mom said that to me once and that was 5 years ago. It makes them feel unloved and worthless. Kitty1
  • I myself am the same age and I tried the same exact thing! My mom told me no because it was pretty short and yeah that I would look like a slut. Me being a teenager got mad and stormed off yelling I hate you, you never let me do anything but deep down she was right. I didn't want to portray myself like that!I think you most certianitly do not owe your daughter and apology because you were just being a good parent and putting your foot down while also looking out of what was her best interest. And actually she's lucky that you were looking out for her and told her that because High School is a harsh world and rumors start and it can ruin all the fun that comes along with being a teen.
  • Don't ever feel you have to apologize for trying to be a good parent and attempt to make the right decisions as a parent. You did good!
  • you are her mother but why is your mother telling you how to raise your own child?
  • Never apologize for raising your daughter right, you did a good thing I think.... Your mom can have her opinion, but she needs to realize......and respect that you make the rules . How would your mom feel if someone tried to tell her how to raise you when you were young?
  • No you sholdnt apologize. You were right. Although that's your mother that is still your daughter and she dont have to raise her , you do. I know how mothers can be sometimes but like i said i mean its okay for you to tell your daughter what she can and cannot wear. especially with all these fresh men around here looking for young girls with less clothes. I dnt know what background you came from but its best you know what direction to lead your daughter in the correct direction. Ya Heard Me??? LOL
  • let her find out y itz rong ny her self. then shell apriciate how much u luv her
  • its up 2 u really but i wore a short skirt 2 high skwl wen i was in yr 7!! cara x
  • no u dont u do what u think is best for ur daughter and u shouldnt have to apologize or explain urself to anyone
  • Yes!!!! you need to apologize to her. dont let her where the skirt. but no teenage girl needs to be told she looks like a slut by her own mother. thats wrong and it hurts alot
  • Your the momma. What you say, goes.
  • okies ... im 16 years old and i see how supposely teenage girls view... or something? but look, don't appauligize to her. if you think she would look slutty then its true it might hurt but to be blunt its true. even if it looks "nice" it still lokks like your trying to let everyone see you have "curves or maybe even tires (if you know what i mean)....(phat)... but like my mother always says in the near future she'll grow up to be a nice young sophisticated lady and she will thank you. so what if its clothes? well as much nice and sweet you are people judge by appearance. i get it if maybe she wears baggy cklothes or something (cause i sure do) but small little clothes that look like you bought it in the little kids section ha she won't live to be treated on how she would like to be.. not in this time.
  • No, tell mother to butt out.
  • Why would you tell anyone they look like a slut? What is a slut, your idea of someone in a short skirt? There is no such thing as a slut - all this rubbish is based upon other peoples ideas of how someone should behave. One persons slut is another persons liberated free thinking individual, not bound by societies rules. Each to his/her own my friend, we cant go thru life thinking how we live is right and everyone who doesnt do the same is wrong. I happen to agree with you on the skirt, but the condemnation of others in your choice of words is unfortunate and delivers messages that pepetuate the ridiculous distinctions people make in judging others. Most 15 years old girls want to wear short skirts, and most dads hate it. You'd probably get much further with her if you explained that she would get unwanted attention as well as wanted attention and that it would probably be better if she didnt open herself up to that. Reason with her and explain to her, i imagine you'd get a lot less rebellion if you did.
  • As long as she is living under your roof, as a parent you have the responsibility to require certain behaviours of your children within limits regardless of age. In this case if you feel your daughters dressing was inappropriate for your standards then by all means you are within your authority to say what she can and what she cannot wear. You owe no apology to anyone. I do believe you could have used a better term than "slutty" however in your objection to her dress.
  • I feel that what you say to your children, especially girls, especially teen-aged girls, heightens their awareness to not just what you're saying, but the opposite of that as well. While I agree that this is your daughter and you have the right to raise her as you see fit, I understand your mother's concerns. There are always sweeter ways of getting your point across. Maybe this is what your mom might have been trying to point out to you. Maybe you could have tried: "Classy ladies wear clothes that show their personality. Is this really the image you want to exhibit?" I personally think that unless you want her to, when she has a teenage daughter, say her daughter looks like a slut, then you will certainly apologize. Please remember that you are supposed to be important enough in your child's life that they listen to what you say. Saying things like this might just make them stop listening and you can imagine where your importance in their life goes or what happens to it. I'm sure both understand you saying no, just not how you chose to say it.
  • first off its ur daughter, and ur mom already had her part being the boss now its urs...if you want ur child to look like a slut go ahead, but if u dnt well u tell her no in this case u did and i do agree u dnt want ur daughter to have a reputation of a slut, because tht can cause u mega trouble...and u dnt ow her an apology u can tell her she can be a mom with her child but for now ur the mom..
  • sounds like your mom did a good job raising you so she should butt out and let YOU raise your's!!!!! u owe neither an apology but your mother is a 'bad enabler' of your daughter.....she joins ur daughter in defying your authority.... how would that of set with your mom had her mom butted in with u like that..... grandparents are good but not when they try to 'override' their grandchildrens PARENTS...
  • Would your mother wear it?
  • As your daughter's mother, you have the last word. Tell your mother you appreciate her imput, but it will be your decision what your daughter will do. I am certain your mother wasn't told, by her mother, how to raise you, otherwise you wouldn't think the way you do. I would not tell my daughter she would look slutty. I would tell her that was my decision, period.
  • no,but i hope you realise the stricter your are with your kids the more they'll rebel,and i'm sure your daughter got changed as soon as she was out of your sight lol.
  • thats mean not to talk to you cause of that
  • i think shes the one being mean by not talking to you
  • your mom will get over it, maybe you should apologize to your daughter for that

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