I don't, and even if I could, I wouldn't. They are my kids also and it's my responsibility to help raise them. Not only financially but emotionally as well. Besides, I love the rug rats.

It just happens sometimes. Some men work under the table for years in order to avoid it, and learn how to dodge the law and the system, others just intimidate women into not enforcing it... Lots of ways... How can they live with themselves, or sleep at night? That is the thing that I will never understand!

My ex quit his job and got a really low paying one so the judge would give me hardly next to nothing. I got $62 a month for 2 kids back in the 70's...he was such an a##.

Well is there a way he can avoid paying child support if he is trying to become a very successful Executive Chef and well known with good salary?

Thats total bullshit! They should really reinforce them to pay. One way or another. My ex is now living with a girl who gets paid very well and he basically went to live with her for convenience. She already had a house, car, and all that he didnt have when we were together. Now he doesnt even bother with his almost 2yr old daughter. What a coward!!

VERY EASILY. Depending on your state it takes up to 90 days for an income execution to go through, which is plenty of time for them to quit several jobs before it starts. If you live in NY state, e mail me, I know all the phone #'s by heart

I always paid. I think the best thing is to ask the courts to have it held from his paycheck. I've heard of men moving to states that aren't too strict when it comes to child support laws. I also had a co-worker whose wife left him with four children. She was ordered to pay support, but never did. He was too poor to afford a lawyer to sue her.

I actually live in Illinois. Child support tells me that I can put an arrest warrant on him after he's gone over 1k dollars without paying. He is way over 3k. Yet nothing has been done and dont know exactly where he lives. I know the suburb and around where but not exact address. I know his SS though if that helps any. I dont know what to do. I'm a single mother with not the best job. He needs to pay what he deserves.

The same way women get away with it. I won custody of my kids from my ex-wife and the court ordered her to pay support. She never paid one red cent and when I went to the county for help in collecting it I was laughed at.

Im sorry to hear that Larry. I truely feel your pain. I just dont understand how a parent who supposedly loves their child can deny financial support. I believe its due to them thinking it will be spent on ourselves instead of our children.

child suport makes me sick i am a single father with three kids 2 girls and one boy my daughters are 10 and 9 and my son is 4 to i have no broblem taking care of them by myself and you dont see me going after their mom for any money I just wish that all the women in this world that cry about childsuport would buck up and take care of their kids no matter what afer all women consider them self as an equal and there not becouse if they were they would quit complaining about what they dont have and take care of their kids considering that any state will give medical cards and welfare to any mother with children under the age of 18 but whats the point for the mother to get ajob and actually take care of her kids when the father is paying $500.00 amonth in child suport or more. even with child suport from the man the women are still going to be on some kind of state assistance no matter what. all the while if men pay child suport the still cant see their child unless its on the mothers terms i belive if a man is paying and wants to see the kids it should be his right to do so with no hassel but it doesnt always work out that way all in all if you have kids and the other parent doesnt want to be a part of his or her life then let them be. stop all of this crying and feeling sorry for your self and do your job

yeah my ex just started working uder the table, so he wouldnt have any money taken from his paycheck, which that $10.00 and $20.00 check i received for only 3 months, didnt help at all, what a asshoe, I cant believe them $20.00 was too much for his own child, man please that aint even for no damn pamper and milk , and the worst part this is his first and only child, what the hell... what a jerkk..

My ex husband quit his job befroe our divorce proceedings in 1995 so that he would not have to pay much for our two kids. He was supposed to pay 35 a week. He has never paid a cent. He was also supposed to pay half of all insurance premiums. I have taken care of my kids by myself and with the help of my family when I ran a little short at times. I think that men or women who do not help support their children are sad excuses for human beings. Why would anyone let their children go without? Selfish people, I say. I tried a few times to catch him at different jobs, he always quit and I gave up and took care of them on my own, I had to. I don't want his d*mn money now. I wish he would just be there for my kids, he can't even do that. Just do it yourself and your kids will one day know who loves and cares for them.

interesting people but one thing was left out .. what about the little gold diggin sluts that get pregnet for the fun of it becaus there to dumb and cant do any thing better then destroys the guys life?? any one well??

What about the women who collect excessive child support and have no expenses. I pay my ex over 1400/month and she pays no rent, utilities or food for the children because she still lives with her parents. She has always lived with them and never has had to worry about expenses such as health care because i have always provided it. Now she drives around in a BMW and works a $10/hr job. I pay her more money then she takes makes from her job.

Ladies and Gents, I have been paying child support for 3 years now. I have 3 children that I see every other weekend. My folks, whom I live with now, are very supportive and help out with my kids. That allows me to see them more than just every other weekend. Sometimes I feel it is a bit much, here is why. I pay out over half of what I make every month. What I am left with is not enough to even pay rent. I love when I get to see my kids, what is there to do though when I cannot afford to bring them out and do things? This month they have been with me for 2 weeks straight. And you would think their Mom would appreciate this a bit. However, she called the day the child support was due asking for payment. I have never missed a payment to date. The situation I am in is super frustrating. At times I have thoughts of dissapering myself, yet I just cannot do that to my kids. On top of this, I am in the situation because I caught my ex cheating while we were married. Not very fair now is it? Perhaps this is why some men choose not to pay. It is not as easy as you think. Now, for my ex. She opened a succesful salon after we split with a loan from her folks. Another reason she has no problem turning them over to mine to be watched. Yet, when the support is due, there she is wanting her money. This may have been slightly off topic, though it does provide insight from the payee. Hope it helps.

They get away because MEN MADE THE RULES for child support. I really commend and applaud those men who support their children. You are the best of best and your child should know the difference when they grow up. Let them know you supported them if they don't know already. Let them know (if you know) what happens to families and children especially when child support is not paid. It takes a ignorant man not to support his own children just because he can't stand the mother. In fact, this needs to be put into a head check because that woman allowed herself to carry YOUR CHILD in her BODY! You need to HONOR that woman always.! If she is good, bad or what ever....HONOR THE MOTHER OF YOUR CHILDREN AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS! WOMEN....IF YOU DON'T HAVE A LAWYER GET ONE! MAKE HIM PAY!

Quite simple. move out of state, and hope the woman does not track you down. That's what my grandpa did, and apparently as long as he never came back into the state of missouri, he never had to pay child support on my mother, not a dime. Granted he lost precious time with his daughter and grandchildren, but whats time when you got money?

Simple, don't get anyone pregnant and you're golden!

Quite easily in Australia. He just submits an incorrect yearly income estimate to the child support agency and claims he will pay any amount owing at the end of the financial year, so no payment is required to be made to the mother throughout the year. When his end of financial year tax is about to be done and his gross annual income appears to be over the estimate he has previously provided to the child support agency, he submits any receipts he can forge or acquire from friends and family for the purpose of reducing his end of year income and therefore brings it back down to a level where any payment required to be made to the mother is so minimal it is of no help at all in supporting his child. If he is unable to do that and his income appears substantial, any refund he is likely to recieve is automatically deducted for the tax he has usually not paid throughout the year, leaving no amount available to forward to the mother of his child. Meanwhile the mothers government support payment has the amount he is supposed to be paying her deducted from it and she barely has enough to live on, let alone support their child. The government will then pay a child care centre to care for her child in order for her to return to the workforce. Crazy stupid system to pay strangers to care for someone's child when they could simply pay the mother to do so herself, or at least incorporate a system where parents are forced to pay child support first and foremost regardless of their income and other debts.

Heres one way...have a family memeber or a very good friend open a corporation, and a corporate bank account and when you fill out your employment IRS forms W9 for employment fill it out as the corporation so the employer pays the corporation not you, and then you pay yourseld out of the corporation a minimal amount.....(minimum wage) so your obligations are based of the minimum wage earnings works best if your job will be paying as a 1099 not W2... this also helps to estalish business credit..

look am sorry to all you women out there who been hard done by but am here to stick up for my partner.his ex wife refuses to let him have any kind of relationship with his daughter because he brought her back a day late last time he had her 3 years ago all because there was a storm and he had to drive over 100 miles to take hre home. she now constantly emails me and my partner threatning us and even to the point she wished our unborn baby dead!!!!!!!!! he brings home under 100 pound wk home as all he could get after gettin laid off is a p/t job. he payed her 10 wk as thats all we could afford, when he pays it late she txts shouting that she taking action n makes our life hell. she always says go get a better job to support her better yet this woman sits on her fat arse all day on income support, if she so hard done to her children, y dont she go get a bloomin job!!!!!!!!!! tjhis is the kind of women who dont deserve a penny cos it dont go on my step-daughter!!!!!!

i would like to know this too. im 19 years old and homeless. me and my ex had a good realationship and were living with my mother for the first 4 months of my daughters life. but she left me and same day i was thrown on the streets by my own mother. now left with nothing i myself need to eat. call me selfish for not wanting starve to death. but im supposed to pay 300 dollars a month to someone that lives without paying any bills and gets to go to school and refuses to even let me see my daughter for even 5 minutes. i have tried and tried to get a job but with no home and being extremely depressed its a bit hard. beleve me i love my daughter to death and would love to be there finanically and emotionally. but wheres the justice in that.

By not having any children

Keep it in your pants. Christ. WTF is wrong with men today?

Hire a lawyer, they make it go faster than going through the state. The state take 3 yrs. A lawyer 3 months. I have tried it both ways. In court a lawyer presses for contempt charges. It took 2 months for him to pay. It is going on almost 2 yrs. without a lawyer, he has NOT paid 8,000.00 and counting.

This world is disgusting - The system is a F**KEN Joke - My "Dyke" wife Anita kicked me out of my life after "Hooking" up with her new found lover "Trish" with a ficticious restraining order and the system has ME paying her more than half my paycheck leaving ME with nowhere to live - I love my kids to death and would Die for then, but you God Damn women seem to get everything - this B**CH has a college degree and doesn't even work - what a piecs of S**T gold digging freeloader - I am going to quit my job and disappear leaving behind the note that I didn't want to, for my kids sake, but if I'm going to be working my A** off for nothing, it's just not worth it.

move to africa and join a tribe

By keeping their penis out of other people's vaginas. It's that simple. If you don't want to pay child support, KEEP IT IN YOUR PANTS, or alternatively, USE A DAMN RUBBER. If you accidentally create a child, too bad. Once you've created a baby, you are responsible for it's care. If you don't earn enough to pay child support, too bad, get a better job. You really should have thought about this before impregnating a woman.

Easy they move out of state.its a fact that divorced mothers have a much lower standard of living after the divorce.The woman i babysit for gets $250 a month(for two kids) that is not enough too pay the rent.Her husband left her when her mother was dying of cancer.her child is disabled and she has therapy every week.employers dont want too hire someone that needs this much time off.her husband refuses too take there daughter too therapy even though he only worked part time by choice.he shacked up with his former boss and now hes made another baby.She works full time.she waits in line at the food bank.Her boss told her she just cant do her job anymore because she cant spend the hours.You cant leave this child with a regular sitter as she is unable too feed herself chokes easily mentally ,retarded, autistic etc.She was turned down for SSi for owning a trailer worth$ 2000 which the state says is worth 5000.she doesnt have money too get it reassed.and now they say she cant reapply for two years.

umm wear a damn condom.