My girlfriend has cheated on me 8 times when she has been drunk and she sends half naked pictures to other guys. she tells me she is going to change..i love her very much but i cant handle much more..should i dump her?
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YES! I don't even think I can elaborate more. YES! She obviously doesn't love or respect you or the relationship. Get rid of her ASAP.
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no! hang on tight, you got a real winner there!
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Dear Anonymous: Taking in account the issues of unfaithfulness, self-respect, and common sense my answer is a resounding: YES.
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I don't mean to be rude, but "DUH".
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Yep. She's taken 8 chances not only with your heart, but with your health. How many diseases has she brought back into your bed? She's cheated on you 8 times. How many is the cut off for you? 10, 12, 164? Why in the world is she sending half-naked pictures to other men? I know I'm answering your question with a bunch of other questions, but dude, think about it. Is this the way you want a woman that you're going to marry to act? That's the way you have to look at this thing. Like you're going to spend $30,000 marrying her in front of all your family and friends. And as you stand up at that alter, look out over the crowd and wonder how many guys sitting out there has she slept with? It's time to move on. It's painful, I know but she obviously doesn't respect you, or love you as much as you love her. Good luck. It'll be less pain in the long run if you split now. Don't wait, just do it.
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Righ smack dab in the ol' dumpster she goes.
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You need to dump her like the trash she is. She doesn't love you, she doesn't care about you, and she doesn't respect you. All this chick is doing is using you for a meal ticket, my little blue bag. Get out now and go see a doctor. I'll bet she's brought more then pain to your bed.
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there are more better woman for you.. don't let yourself stuck in a garbage... "fool me once, shame on you.. fool me twice, shame on me.." fool me 8 times(?)oh well...! its not love.. its stupidity..
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Kinda a no brainer darlin..8 times??? What..9 times the charm or what..dump her and find someone that loves you as much as you love them..she doesnt..stop letting someone hurt you.
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Loving her is great. But are you honoring yourself by maintaining a relationship with her? Is she honoring herself, and you, and the relationship between the two of you? Ask her where she wants the relationship to go and if the answer is satisfactory, ask if she is willing to get help. Sounds like she has a drinking problem and that calls for counseling. If she isn't willing to acknowledge her own issues, perhaps you might reconsider the relationship.
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It depends... Can we see the pictures? Sorry - That was uncalled for and I was kidding. The serious answer, is to separate yourself from the situation. Even if she magically becomes faithful, you will never be able to trust her in your heart, or head. Find a good one, brother. There are millions of them out there. It is the most wonderful thing to have a wife or GF that you love, and can trust to run with her friends. If you stay with this one, you will never have freedom from one another, because you will feel like you have to follow her every move, and be with her constantly.
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You should definitely dump her. She doesn't respect you because she sees that you allow her to keep behaving this way w/o there being any consequences. So there's no reason for her to change her behavior. You have to let her know that its not ok for her to continually cheat on you.
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come on, do you really need us to tell you what you already know?
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Nope, you were made for ech other. If you still love someone after they have walked all over you, lied to you, disrespected you, brought shame on your reputatin, too as one who lets this happen, I'd say she's found the perfect guy. If you don't KNOW if you should dump her, I've got a bridge I'd like to sell you.
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Pack up her emotional baggage and put her on a Greyhound bus!
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She clearly doesn't value the relationship as much as you do - it's time to cut your losses. RUN for your life to the nearest clinic and get tested for every known STD.
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Sounds like the other guys are having WAY more fun than you..wave bye bye.
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8 TIMES are you CRAZY... she should have been gone a long time ago ! She MUST be really SOMETHING for you to put up with that ! GET OUT before you get your heart broken even more. sorry ! ( you can not expect some one to change)
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I think you should let this nonsense come to an end. You love her, but obviously she doesn't love you enough to stop what she's doing. Yes, she's probably got some good attributes but you don't deserve this kind of treatment. She has a drinking problem obviously, and as a friend you can maybe convince her to get some help; maybe this will help her with her future relationship.
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As hard as it will seem mate, she's gotta hit road. It's not even one stupid mistake it's a whole string of them and sending half naked pics just shows she WILL do it again. Your only going to get hurt more and it'll get harder to end it the longer it goes on. Been there done that so to speak.....once i ''kicked her to the Kurb'' it was me who benifitted from it. lol my ex still messages to this day and its been 3 years. She still gets ZERO replies. All in all, you can do better. It's up to you to do it though.
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ASAP. what are you waiting for for? more abuse. she is not a girlfriend and you are a doormat. lose her number now.
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This is not even close. Doing the same thing 8 times is not a mistake, it's a life pattern. It appears she is 1) a slut, 2) a drunk, 3) a liar, and 4) cruel. Do yourself a favor and get away, far, far, far away, as quickly as possible.
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YES!!! Now
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what do you really feal about her? Love or care? You may care for her but if you are going to stay with her in a relationship then make sure what you feel is love and make sure that you can forgive her. I am actually going through that right now and the hardest part is understanding if we are willing to make the changes and sacrifices in the relationship we need to make to make it work. Good luck and be true to YOUR feelings.
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dump her and go get a STD test
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Yes dump her and run far far away...she's drunk not brain dead... if she didn't want to do it then she wouldn't....repetition shows no remorse
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I disagree with all of the others. I experienced a rather bad two years with my wife when we were married around 8 years. she found that getting high was fun on the weekends after working all week. Next thing I knew, I wasnt seeing her for the whole weekend at times. she started spending weekends with the guys giving her shit. She was a sexy looking woman. she had no trouble getting men. I loved her and we had children. I knew she needed help. she got it and we were married 32 years last Sept and she has been a model wife and mother since guaranteed, alcohol and drugs are many times the cause that needs a cure.
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If she hasn't stopped by this time, you are better off without her. She will NOT change, only get worse. Your life is worth so much more than that, and there are decent women in this world that want a man to love and cherish (to show much affection and hold in high esteem).
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why are you such a door mat. Leave her. Get tested for STD' get some psych help take up running buy a dog marry a good church girl
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There is no question, leave the whore, get tested for STDs, and fine a nice girl.
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Yes. She's not going to change.
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If your relationship is based upon fidelity, then dump her. She doesn't respect you. Don't you think that she has proven this to you yet? Wake-up and smell the roses (the pedals are yellow); end the relationship.
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End the relationship immediately. Sounds like it should have ended long before. Once maybe, but eight times ! no, leave now.
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If she loves you as much as you love her, maybe you could try to convince her to stop drinking... Then she wouldn't have an excuse to cheat. Otherwise, she'll probably not change.
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yeah!
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Yes. It seems to me like you could find a girl so much better. 8 times...cats only get 3 lives haha
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Yes. It seems to me like you could find a girl so much better. 8 times...cats only get 3 lives haha
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Yes. It seems to me like you could find a girl so much better. 8 times...cats only get 3 lives haha
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I'm amazed you haven't dumped her already. You deserve to be treated better. Move on and find someone who will be true to you.
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well, that depends! do you want a gf that cheats and sends nudie pics out to others? she isnt gonna change...this is the way she is.
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You should've dumped her after the first time. You keep giving in to her and taking her back so of course she gonna keep doing it and playing you.
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Sounds to me like she's already left you!!
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Are you SURE she's your girlfriend? How can you tell? Nothing much left to dump...
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Been there did that. I finally left her. She got married had 3 kids & still cheats. Is this what you want? Dump her and learn to forget her.
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Dump her, dump her hard.
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I'd dump her so fast she'd think it was yesterday...
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This might sound funny, but I am deadly serious. If you both live in a hous that YOU own, this is what you might wanna do, 1. Tell her to pack her bags and set them just outside your front door. 2. Stand her right in front of the door and stand a few feet behind her. 3. Take a running start and punt her arse right out the door. I got good yardage that way and no return.
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you sound like the type that loves being in love however I think you can and should find it with someone else life is to short to be living so miserable.You will be better off without her what do you have to lose other than heartache? Love yourself first and when your not looking for love you will find it or should I say it will find you.we all learn as we live and one thing is for sure what goes around comes around and when it does it kicks you right in the butt.
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No, definitely not. Marry her and she'll be all yours.
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Uh yeah I'd get rid of her! Sounds like she isn't going to change! Good luck!
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I would have after the 1st time. Obviously.
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If she does THAT, then she doesn't love you and she's likely a NUTCASE. Do you really need that much drama in your life?
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Dump her no offense but she sounds like a whore i've been drunk off my ass many times and never once cheated
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Yes i can't beleive your still in a relationship with her . get rid you diserve to be treated better than that.
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Dude consider this: It's up to you to choose the mother of your future children. Would YOU want to be born onto this woman?!? Stop being so stupid and sentimental and kick this piece of shit to the curb!!!!!!
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yes you should she aint right for you
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yes you should she aint right for you
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What you need to be asking yourself is WHY haven't you dumped her?
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I'm afraid to say this but yes if she is getting naked for other people other than you. It is wrong.
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Hell Yeah!!! First of all dude, don't let her hide behind a few drinks as an excuse to f*** somebody else. It had nothing to do with the drinking...she wanted to do that. Also, she isn't drunk when she sends those pics is she? No, so guess what...dump her ass. Get you someone that will love and respect you.
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slap yourself up side the head dude! Or get a friend to do it for ya. Her interest level in you has dropped below 40% which means she's just holding on to you for shits and giggles. Are you paying her bills? Do you cuddle a lot but no sex?..LOL. C'mon dump her ass, she has no integrity. Start dating other girls immediately and do not contact her in any way! If she calls you, she's just playing with your feelings. Just say sorry i have to go out and get some stuff for my big date on friday...click hang up. Have fun with a new single life there are so many nice woman out there that will treat you good
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Seriously?
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you need to dump her like...yesterday and it sounds like she REALLLLY needs to quit drinking!
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About 7 times ago.
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Yup.
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Yes. But keep screwing her until you find a replacement.
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DROP HER LIKE ITS HOT OR DO WHAT SHE DOES AND SHOW HER HOW THAT SHIT FEELS. NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS SHIT AND WILL NOT WORK OUT UNLESS YOU WANT TO BE CHEATED ON FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. & BE CAREFUL GET THAT GIRL TESTED.
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I once had a wife who did the same thing to me. I thought I had cut the tie, but stupidly I failed to file for divorce. When her then-current shack-up dumped HER [in Mallorca, no less], she showed up on my doorstep Stateside. "I've got no place to turn. At least let me stay with you until I can find a job." I took her back because I still loved her to near-distraction. I've said I was stupid. I could have spared myself and my kid five extra years of misery. YES. DUMP. Don't walk away, RUN. To the nearest doctor to be checked for venereal diseases, and then keep running.
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that is sad. good luck with that one
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DUMP HER! no one EVER deserves to be cheated on 8 time!? thats just not normal.. maybe if it hapend like once of twice it would be fine but 8 times!!? thats just ridiculous.... she sounds like a preeeetty big slut to me.
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um let me think about it YEEEEEESSSSSSSSSS, what are you retarded come on 8 times what is wrong with you shes not going to change she like cock
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Be patient and give her a chance.
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If she's not an alchoic then yes cuz she's not going to change.
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OF COURSE you should leave! No one should put up with that kind of shit! You deserve better leave her
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You should have dumped her after she cheated the first time....or at the very latest, the second time. To still consider her your gf after she cheated you EIGHT times is just ludicrous. Let her go and find someone that will respect you and want to be faithful to you.
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She obviously remembers that she slept with them so shw wasnt too drunk. This proves that you dont A: mean that much to her to stop drinking and B: when youre drunk, it doesnt make you into another person, it shows who you really are. I think you know who she is now. She may care about you but not enough to change her habits or not drink around guys if she knows herself. It should be easy to break up with her because you have many occasions to man. You've gotta have some pride. You can forgive someone, but you dont have to be with them.
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Yes- once or even twice-maybe-but 8 times-No Way. And what is this sending pictures to other guys. She has a chronic problem and will never change. You can do better and should ! DUMP HER !
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Pretend your best friend is asking you this question. What would you tell him?
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this is easy. Get ahold of the drunk picture. Post it on http://www.ithinkiamdrunk.com Put a funny or mean caption on it. Dont tell her it was you. Just tell her one of your friends saw her up there. I bet she stops sending pictures then.
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Dump her asap..she doesnt deserve to be in a relationship as she is immature and selfish..go find someone who will respect you and themselves.
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Just get even with her - Post all the pics on the internet like this guy did. http://lovedsex.com
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Well, yeah.
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dump her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you give her chance then she will think that it ok to do
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8 times and you are still with her?????? that says a lot more about you than it does about her.
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i always say three is more than enough "once a cheat always a cheat" get rid of her i'm sure you'll find someone who will treat you right
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dump her azz bro. its pretty apparent she doesnt feel like you do and you look like a chump believein her lies that she will change
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This can't be a real question?! Please let this question be a joke! Please God, please!
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This question is so old!!! Is he still with her?
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Hahahah ... OMG but this is an easy answer. Dump the bitch!
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dude...8 friggin times!!!! think about that...8 times! I have ended relationships for 1 cheat..I ended a marriage over 3 cheats, and over that time I learned that cheaters rarely change, I was at one time dumb enough to think that 1 "accident" was forgiveable and the person who cheated on me was sorry and they would never do it again...but you know what really happened? They thought they were off the hook and went and did it again...8 times!!! do you really reeeaaalllly think this person is gonna change? Have some self respect, dump her and find someone worht your time and attention, this chick is playing games and she is doing it because she thinks she will continue to get away with it.
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People need to have trust and mutual respect for one another and she has neither for you. Move on.
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If she's doing that she doesn't love you very much... You dump her??? I think she's already dumped you.
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a fooled man cant be fooled again. well dude, you obv aint got enough balls to be a man so that must explain how your gf is just taken the piss out of you. dump the cheating whore.
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