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  • I have learned to deal with it as time has passed, but I have not, nor will I, "get over it".
  • MY next door neighbor passed away Jan 15- 2007 and I know your Fiance passed away a couple of day's later - Bless you so much pasobrio -- This is how I started coping -- I wrote a poem to her Family - MY NEIGHBOR MY FRIEND I peered out my window - to see your porch light on Pain ran through my heart - just knowing that your gone I'll carry your word's of Wisdom - everywhere I go Your such an inspiration - that I truly know Thank you my neighbor - thank you my friend I pray this to you And With all my love I send My the Lord hold your hand Amen
  • I still haven't really. I had an ex-boyfriend die at the age of 15 (I was 13) and I treated him badly before he died. I suppose that I figure there's nothing I can do about it now, but it was about 10 years ago. You start to remember that there are other people you do still have, and not to dwell on the one you lost.
  • I haven't quite yet. He died 2 weeks ago, so it's still fresh on my mind. I imagine that with time I'll come to accept it. Everything happens for reason.
  • I lost my brother he just turned 20. You never get over it. Its going to be a year in june, and it feels like this morning.
  • You don't. My brother died at the age of 14 about a year and a half ago. His birthday is coming up, he would have been 16. He lives on in my heart everyday. You never want to get over it, but learn to deal. There isn't a set time frame you have to move on either, take all the time you need. God bless you.
  • i've never gotten over it, but it seems the pain does decrease with time. it never goes away, but at least it gets better.
  • You never get over it, only time can help ease the pain
  • Never, never got over it...
  • I lost both my sister and my best friend...I still miss them and always will. I have momentos from both of them that helps me if I get really sad.
  • You don't get over it, you learn to live without the loved one. My sister in law died aged 24 and my brother in law died aged 20.
  • You never go back to "normal" because normal is with them here. You learn how to live a different life without them physically here. I lost my 18 yr old daughter 2 years ago. God bless!
  • I lost my best friend just under 10 years ago. I quite often think about her, sometimes with a smile on my face and othertimes not which makes me feel a little sad. Truth is you can never get over the loss of somebody, but time is a healer and you do return to a life where there isn't the emotional pain that there is just after losing somebody. Everybody who is that close to us, no matter for how long leave permanent foot prints in our lives I wish you all the best :)
  • Honey.....You dont...You just find freinds like me to talk to and go on with life...The guys are togther and talking about how we talk about them ,But you will never forget or get over the soulmate you once had..He was perfect ... You will see him again...
  • Quite simply i didnt - but i rely on good friends who are always there when i need to talk, and my husband who is a tower of strength.
  • I hope things are getting a little better for you. I just visited the tribute site. it is a wonderful thing. Blessings.
  • I never did.
  • My daughter died 12 years ago and I never got over but I have learned to live without her. Everyone is different in their grief but I found keeping busy helped. Sitting around just made it worse. Of course I sat around for about 3 weeks but once I went back to work and such, I started to feel better. as long as people didn't continually come up to me and want to talk about it. After hearing "It's God's will" a dozen times, I wanted to give them some of my will right in the nose.
  • You never get over it. My friend died at the age of 23. I can't believe how young he was, it just makes it even harder to deal with.
  • You always seem to go through the 5 stages of grief: 1.Denial 2.Anger 3.Bargaining 4.Depression 5.Then finally Acceptance
  • Give it time. Talk about him/ her.
  • I have lost my 5 year old son and my husband in the last 3 years. You do not get over it. I just find ways of gettingthrough life one day at a time. We all develop our own coping mechanisms. I tend to close my mind to the fact they have gone, they are just not at home or with me at the moment. It is not the best way or the right way for everyone but at the moment it is keeping me sane. I know people will say you should face the truth head on , I just cannot accept it yet. Not much help to you Paso, sorry.
  • I didn't get over it - i don't think i ever will. I feel locked in a time span where the whole horrible thing just happens over and over again. I feel much empathy and sympathy for anyone feeling the way i do about losing someone they love. I wish you peace and love and strength and courage.
  • As many others have also shared, you probably won't ever get over it. When my first husband got killed in a car wreck shortly after after our baby was born, and our first anniversary, I was lucky, because I had the baby. I went back home to live with my parents, and took to reading the many self-help psychology books that were available in the early 1960's. I eventually got a college degree in psychology. Ten years later, when my second husband died of cancer, it was practically the same thing, but I met my current husband before the year was over, so I just shoved the loss down where it belongs, which is in my memory, right alongside my Mom and Dad.
  • I'll never get over it but talking about it seems to make it hurt less and farther away from me. If that makes sense.
  • Sometimes the pain's not as fresh, then other times it feels as if he'd just passed. I can't say that I'm over it, I just try not to think about it. But there are moments that remind me of him, I'll hear an expression he used, or a man's voice and I'll just start crying uncontrollably. I guess time will be the only thing to help me get over it.
  • 3 times in my life people have died who were much too young, and I wouldn't say I will ever get over it. I've finally accepted it, I think. Sometimes I get a pain so sharp it seems as though it just happened. At some point I decided to concentrate on the good memories of these beloved people, and that makes me smile when I think of them. Now at least I'm not blocking them out and I can live with it. I don't want to block them out, but remember the joy they brought me.
  • You never do, you just learn to deal with it the best you can.
  • I just lost a client, she was 18. So full of life and happy, its unbelievable, so unreal... I know that only time will help ease the pain, because I dont think you ever get over it...
  • Didnt get over it..just live with it..time eases things some but it never goes away :)
  • I don't think we ever "get over" the loss of our loved ones. Time seems to ease the pain that goes with the loss. It's so intense in the beginning that I don't think we are able to sustain that intense feeling of sadness and live ourselves.
  • I just always think that no matter how they died or where they were that it was just there time and that nothing could have changed it! I also think that they are in a better place...that's how I deal with it!
  • You won't get over it.. a good friend of mine just passed away 9/26/07.. I'm still struggling with hurt and strong emotion.. Only time can ease the pain but it's still there. My dad passed away 12/22/99 this year it will be 8 years.. I still can't get over it. I miss him very much, I was only 13 when he passed.. The pain is still strong, I have my moments but I can never stop thinking about either of them.
  • I don't think that I will ever get over the death of my 17 year old brother who shot himself 5 years ago. I am still angry that he never told me he was hurting, that he never left a note and that he made a choice to leave us. I had a hard time grieving because I felt he made a very selfish decision. I still find it hard not to be mad at him for inflicting so much pain on our family and for not allowing his family to have a future with him. I loved him and I wanted him to do great things with his life and I feel cheated. One month after his funeral I finely broke down and will never forget how I yelled at the sky begging for answers. Someday I hope to come to peace with all of this but for now I need to be angry, but if I could just see him one last time I would hug him and tell him that he was loved and will always be.
  • You never do I don't think. You just learn to accept that they are gone and there is nothing you can do or say to bring them back. You just try to do your best to cope with it. Hopefully as time passes things get a little easier to handle. It's been nearly 3 years since I lost my sweetheart at the young age of 28. There have been many days where I feel I just can't go on any longer. Then there are days that are fine and I barely give the fact that she is gone any thought. She was a truly amazing and beautiful person who loved me more than I deserved to be loved at times. I know in my heart I will never forget her. Even if I meet someone next week she will always have a large piece of my heart til the day I no longer breath myself.
  • I have learned to deal with it and move on with my life. But, for someone you really love you never really get over it. I think because it changes you sometimes a little and sometimes a lot but you are never the same.
  • A close friend of mine passed away on september 11 of this year. Everyday is a struggle to, not forget about it, but rather put myself in a position mentally to function normally. It may sound wrong, but sometimes i wish there was just a simple solution to being able to move on after a person passes away. since his death there hasn't been a week that goes by that i don't cry or think about him. I'm sorry i can't offer any good sound advice to cope with the loss of a loved one but reading all of your responses helped me to realize i'm not alone in the pain i feel on a daily basis. i suppose my only advice is that talking or even just writing down what i feel helps me to feel better because i don't have to hold all that inside me.
  • I don't know how that is why I am here. My brother was violently murdered just 4 weeks ago and I am angry, sad, and I feel very guilty. I don't know how to cope with the thoughts running through my mind daily. I especially think about him when I'm by myself. My family haven't really discussed his death thoroughly and there is alot of thick tension in the house. My brother was only 24 years old and he was older than me. I never experienced death before in my immediate family and I am having a hard time with this. I know eventually I will heal but for the mean time how do I go through my daily life. I am also dealing with anxiety and intense pressure to move on because time keeps going regardless of the tragedy.
  • you never get over it you just grow to except it as days n years go by! as you can assume its a very hard process n just takes time. it's like getting over a serious relationship!
  • You don't get over it. You take each day as it comes and know that the pain will lessen over time but will never completely leave. Then you will be able to look upon the memories of them with more fondness and less pain. I know how it is to lose a loved one who most, especially me, would could be considered much too young...my grandson passed away when he was 3 months, 11 days old.
  • My mom died 11 1/2 years ago at the age of 49. I was 14 at the time. I'm doing better with it now, but still not over it. I don't think you ever really get "over" it.
  • theres no answer my son was killed four years ago and some days are like it just happened and some days it seems so long ago but i try to keep going for my other kids but my way of coping is trying not to think to much christmas is abad time and birthdays and the date of the accident he was thirteen when he died and what helps is imaginings him growing up in heaven but time dousent take the pain away it numbs it my heart goes out to anyone whos lost a loved one god bless
  • You cant no matter how hard you try,my lil boy jesse was killed a year ago and it still feels like today.
  • You never really "get over" it you just learn to deal with it I lost my boyfriend of two years just this year and it's still really hard for me. I still love him very much and I think about him every day and somewhere in my mind I know he's still with me.
  • I had a son who was killed a the age of 13. I've heard people say there was a hole in the pit of you'r stomach but never understood it until I FELT it. so sorry.
  • Most likely you never will get totally over it. I know I never did.
  • thank you in july i should be preparing for his 18 birthday but im just dreading it
  • My first born passed at age 14. I came to terms with what had happened after 10 years, but I never got over it and believe I never will. The pain will always be there, it is like a a wound has has apparently closed, but when remembering it opens up again and the pain and grief are back. There is no end to it, we must learn to cope with it if we can. Regards.
  • My first born passed at age 14. I came to terms with what had happened after 10 years, but I never got over it and believe I never will. The pain will always be there, it is like a a wound has has apparently closed, but when remembering it opens up again and the pain and grief are back. There is no end to it, we must learn to cope with it if we can. Regards.
  • My mother passed away 23 years ago today. One minute she was here, the next gone. It seems to get harder. She was 37 when she passed away. I am now 36 and I only think of all the time that we missed together. I am at work now and the tears are just coming......... Never get over it.
  • I just lost my friend in a car accident on Friday, he was only 19 years old, i have been crying since then. I am so happy for the time i got to be with him, though it was a really short time. looking back i wish i had spent more time with him, and at least say goodbye.. but i guess thats what u always say... I wish you well, hopefully u will get to live with it. I was and am still getting over the loss of my grandpas who both died a few months ago. Blessings to you and all who have to struggle with the loss of a loved one.
  • I just lost my friend in a car accident on Friday, he was 19 years old, i have been crying since then. I am so happy for the time i got to be with him, though it was a really short time. looking back i wish i had spent more time with him, but i guess thats what u always say... I wish you well, hopefully u will get to live with it. I am still getting over the loss of my grandpas who both died a few months ago. Blessings to you and all who have to struggle with a loss of a loved one.
  • You just cant. Im a 11 year old girl and my grandmother passed away about a year ago. She was the only relative who under stood me. There is an empty hollow feelind inside. Its like a harry potter dementor floated pass. You feel as if you will never be happy again! But you do.
  • You Don't. You just learn to deal with it.
  • you just cant. im an 11 year old girl and my grandmother passed away about a year ago. She was my favorite relative, the only one who under stood me. there is an empty hollow feeling inside you and its like you can never be happy again. But you can be happy again and you will never forget the tragic event that happened in the past.
  • you just cant. im an 11 year old girl and my grandmother passed away about a year ago. She was my favorite relative, the only one who under stood me. there is an empty hollow feeling inside you and its like you can never be happy again. But you can be happy again and you will never forget the tragic event that happened in the past.
  • you just cant. im an 11 year old girl and my grandmother passed away about a year ago. She was my favorite relative, the only one who under stood me. there is an empty hollow feeling inside you and its like you can never be happy again. But you can be happy again and you will never forget the tragic event that happened in the past.
  • I think time heels. But it is difficult. I lost my mother the 24th of October 2006 in a car accident. She had a little doberman pincher which I cept and looked after and yesterday the dog was killed when a car went over it and now I relive the same pain. But time I hope would heal.
  • On 7 Aug 08, I lost my mother and my 17-years-old brother. Two at the same time. I have never thought that death was so close to my life. I still really cannot believe the fact. Everyday in the evening, I look at the photos as a ritual, so I refresh the memories. I feel comfortable in that way. It is a kind of therapy. The important thing, from my point of view, is "not to forget". As long as you do not forget them, you may feel peaceful.
  • Time and allowing oneself to grieve.
  • My friend died in November, November 8th. I had never been closer to anyone else in my life, until last July when he left to go to California. He told me that he’d never leave me if I didn’t want him to, but he did. Before he left he became addicted to cocaine, which was why he left, and he died in November. But, since I didn’t have any contact, and was too angry to try to make some, I didn’t know about his death, until a few weeks ago. I’m having a terrible time dealing with it. Mostly because he lied. At first I was completely astonished, I had already assumed, but when a friend actually said the words I couldn’t think, my mind went blank, and I spent several hours staring at the wall, until I was able to cry my self to sleep. Then I was so angry, not with him, just that he died, and he lied to me, so I didn’t want to be sad, so I tried to be mad at him. Eventually that wore off and I was sad again. I still haven’t gotten over it. So many things remind me of him, and I’ll randomly have memories of him and me. I’ve been so depressed about it; he’s practically all I think about. So I take too many pills, or smoke weed, and other stuff like that, and slowly his face slides out of my head for a bit. Only to return when I sober up. But, I think it’s getting better, like, over time.
  • We try to get on with our live the best we can,we cry,we remember,we cherish the memories of loved ones but we never truly get over the loss of a loved one,its an inherent powerful ,emotional spiritual virtue we hold within ourselves,with the bond for those gone.Some people may say that time heals,but for some it doesnt ?
  • I don't think you really get over it..you just learn to accept it with time, after you have gone through all the anger, grieving, sadness, etc...you go on with your life and live the way that person would have wanted you to! :)
  • My first love/bf/fiance died at the age of 19. that was many years ago. I haven't been in love since. You don't get over it..you just survive. Some days are harder than others: V day coming up, his birthday, etc. Some days you think your heart will come out cause you miss them so much. I often wonder why it was him and not me. He was the LAST person who deserved to die. Again you don't get over it, you learn to survive..with the bad days and the good.
  • Losing my 26 year old in dec of 08,due to a motorcycle accident, I know I will never get over it.I know they say time eases the pain.I have 2 other children left and that keeps me going.I do not know what I would do if I didnt have them. there is not a minute that goes by that I dont think about him I search out the lord and I know I will see my son again.The memories are what I have left.
  • You don't just get over something like that. It sticks with you throughout life.
  • I have lost all four of my brothers while they were all in their twenties, at different times. The grief has been so unbearable and I stopped feeling. I would drink alcohol so I could feel, so I could feel anger, feel sadness or just to feel anything. It destroyed relationships and turned me into someone I would not want to be friends with. I am taking everyday one day at a time. I keep them in my heart and I try to think of good memories when I start to cry. I hope everyone reading this finds some level of peace, as for me, I am desperately, waiting for it.
  • I haven't yet, my son died dec 18 2008 and every day i hurt , i feel sorry for his children he left behind. they will have to grow up without there dad. My son left a big hole in our lifes, and we feel so empty now
  • there isnt an anwser to it ilost my aunt two years ago and we were so close then one day she died and im still not over it i still cry here and there bt each day ets better and better and just rember stay close to relitives and take care of them always have faith and if one of yourlove one dies cry for a little bit but then each day gets and srry if one of youlove one dies but i beat gods with them. god bless all who have had a lost relitive

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