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  • Being 14 I commend you for treating girls and women with respect. However at your age, you are safer to just date and take your time. Anyone we meet in our teen years, changes in time, as do you, and it probably wont be long term. I would say you sound like a nice kid, so just be yourself and respectful and trust me, you will know when a good one comes along.
  • Only a small amount of relationships at 14 turn out to be lengthy ones. Usually they are the ones where the boy has true undying respect for the girl and vice-versa. So find a girl that you have things in common with, treat her with respect and you will get your wish.
  • don't treat women like crap every relation ship should be serious they all have there impact on what you will become as a husband, lover, father, and man.
  • No woman wants to be treated disrespectfully, and nobody is going to think you're "cool" for being disrespectful to anyone. If your friends want to be jerks, let them. It doesn't mean that you have to be a jerk, too. You're still young, though, and there's plenty of time for serious relationships later on so don't stress yourself about it. Be yourself and have fun doing it.
  • It shouldn't matter what your friends think. I went down this path and started to love a girl when I was fifteen so don't worry about it. But if I could give any advice it would be to always treat women with respect no matter what and take it slow and don't rush into everything all at once because it will be the down fall of you. Just find someone who will give you the respect that you deserve and in turn give it back. Good luck to you buddy and if your friends don't accept you for who you are then they are not your friends.
  • if you wanna get dates, i would treat them with respect, i mean i cannot stand when boys are obnoxious to girls, i mean to say oh man she is hot to your friends, fine, but to yell things out or somthing isn't.
  • dude, treat her like u treat ya mother, u never kno she might 1 day take care of u like ya mother does
  • I have the same problem. But it isnt a problem. Where i am, most boys just go around kissing one girl for a minute and most of the time they never see her again after that. And they think they are cool? Thats the biggest load of crap ive ever heard. But thats what its like. And before i was worried i wasnt cool but then one of my friends said the exact same thing to me about what i thought how its stupid and he was right. But perhaps you are a little bit young thinking bout long term relationships [Im only a bit older than you so im not criticizing you] . Just remember , dont get too attached to someone you like because at the age you are at relationships will come and go many times. At least you are sensible and you know how to treat women. Not many of my friends are like that and if anything, your friends should respect you for how you respect them. Good luck !
  • treat her with respect, but some girls like the jerkyness so let them have the jerks, keep being a nice guy, plenty of people want a serious relationship but if your going to go into one with expectations it would be like reading a script and it wouldnt be real at all, just let things happen,and dont worry about it when you screw up, just remeber not to do it again. good luck!
  • I am 14 and I have been in a relationship for 3 years and I think there is nothing wrong with a serious relationship.Im very much inlove with my boyfriend.of course you should treat woman with respect and ull find that you can probobaly find a great serious relationship with just being who you are!! and not woring about how your friend are and what the do or think.
  • I love how you want to respect women! There needs to be more guys like you. This is not wrong or weird, women want to be respected just like you want to be respected. You should respect women and they'll have a great relationship with you.
  • No, you're not wierd at all. In fact I find it very hopefull to see a boy your age wanting to treat girls with the respect they deserve. And keep doing it, you're on the right track. That's the best way to get a girl's interest. The way the other guys act just shows how imature and insecure they are. I would just ignore them. They're on the wrong path. But here's my downer, at fourteen you're too young to be worrying about having a seriouse relationship. Or even dating for that matter.You also have to understand that most of the girls your age are not as a mature as you are. So you'll more then likely be disappointed. Now's the time to be learning who you are and getting an education. And that won't happen if your dealing with the whole dating issue. So wait till you're older and more sure of yourself. You'll be happier in the long run.
  • its better to be repectfull to girls then it is to be a jerk some girls like that jerk shit others don't but be respectfull and slap the shit out of your friends for puting that in your head
  • I’d say that at any age you can be a person who believes in a serious relationship, but casual dating is the best way to find someone who you would deem worthy of sharing that with. I believe the natural instinct is to get with as many women as possible but then one day you find one who doesn’t annoy the piss out of you and then you stay with her until she cheats on you. Then you move on.
  • Treat women the way you want, because you are the one who is right. Dating at this point is about learning how to have a relationship, Like practice for when youre older. That DOES NOT mean its a game though. Dont ever become a jerk because you will only get a jerky girl. Im willing to bet that those friends will have some serious relationship problems and ask you for advice when you are all older.
  • Ah, you are wise beyond your years. Its good that you want a mature relationship with someone. The rest of your friends will learn that that kind of dating doesnt get you very far. Take it from a 16 year old, it is not weird or wrong to want more in a relationship. But dont go too overboard if you know what I mean.
  • I'm 14 too.. I wouldn't want to be treated like dirt. So treat girls with respect.
  • You should never be a jerk to any girl. It could have a lasting effect on her, or she might spread it around how you act, which would ruin any future relationships for you. Don't expect anything serious at your age, but still be responsible.
  • I do too. People seem to think that at our age we hug and hold hands and thats where u draw the line. I think you can really love at our age and i think u have every right to feel this way. Go for it just don't go too far.
  • I think a Mature Relationship with all that is normally associated with such a thing, includes many factors that you are not prepared to provide for at age 14..or even age 18 in many cases! (look around you...some adults age 25 to 50 aren't doing so all fired hot at it either!!!) The trick to successfully managing a Mature Relationship is to know how to read YOURSELF, and learn how to read OTHERS! Do not confuse Respect with maturity or with a mature relationship. You can be respectful of people, you can care very much for people...and still not be prepared to assume the responsibilities of a MATURE RELATIONSHIP. If you can't support yourself, without an adult's help, how can you maturely add to the support of another human being? or a Dog for that matter? You can't hold down a full time job with benefits to care for your needs, you can't get utilities in your own name, or rent a place to live, or drive a car, or support a baby that you planned for or didn't plan for! With some time to finish growing up, and some healthy and safe Life Experience...you can LEARN to do all of these (mature) things...then incorporate your abilities with your strong feelings that RESPECT is an important part of forming a relationship...AND your LOVING HEART...that you are ALREADY aware of..(you are ahead of the game already!) I don't think what you feel or want is WRONG OR WEIRD AT ALL! This is simply NOT YET the optimum time for you to successfully create such a relationship...nor would many of the people within your age group be READY to accept such a mature offering... Hang on to the good things, the healthy, strong VALUES you have in your heart! But, relax...learn some more, gain some skills that will allow you to be able to care for YOURSELF...Allow yourself to mature into a young adult who not only knows what he/she wants...but can attract someone who feels as you do about life..someone to become a real partner WITH YOU in the adventure of living! I think you must be a pretty incredible person, and you are only going to get better with age! (I don't think you would enjoy being a "Jerk" that's not part of your heart or personality)
  • Even if it's not going to be a long term or serious relationship, you should always treat a woman with respect.
  • I say why even think about a one on one realtionship with any girl at this age. Continue to treat women and girls with respect but do it in gorups of friends AS friends and nothing more. I hate to tell you this but the teenage years are really not ready to handle everything that comes with serious relationships. They simply do not have the experience of life or the maturity and most of the time get severely hurt or hurt others by their behavior when it wouldn't have happened if they had waited till they were more prepared. YOuth is the time to work on yourself, improve yourself, gain confidence in little ways, grow into a well balanced solid person. It's a time to form your personality, not always inflict it on others negatively. It's a time to form your foundations that will serve you well for th erest of your life. If it's spent in too soon relationships and the hurt and pressure from that, you may not have a good foundation for your future, only a walking wounded. Relationships ca really really hurt, both ways. Please don't rush into it. Think it out.
  • Wow, saying that just gained you 10 zillion respect points with me and I'm sure with every other girls here. Jerks may seem like they get the girls, but once girls wake up and realize that it's time to grow up and get serious, they'll go straight for guys like you.
  • No, wanting something real is great, but getting it is quite different. I was in a very long relationship at a very young age and it ended up getting too complicated for me. In the end I was stuck facing adult problems with the inexperience of how to handle them. I was glad I had someone of value in my life, but it was probably the wrong time to experience it. You can date around and still have respect for women, but you can't deny your age. Immaturity will be part of you for a while. But there's nothing wrong with that either.
  • you are not going to get or stay in a great relationship if you don't treat women with respect. your friends relationships won't last long if they don't treat their girlfriends with respect because they will get sick of it. Be yourself and try to get to know more people and who knows? Just wait and see :)
  • dont treat girls like crap. i think its pretty cool that u dont want to be a jerk like the other guys... =] its sweet
  • Your attitute is very admirable, but you are only 14. 1. You should never ever treat the girls you know like crap. If you treat them repect, listen to them (really listen) and truly treat them as if they matter, you will have friends for life. Women are different from men. If you respect them, they will remember forever. 2. Don't be in a hurry to enter a lifelong relationship. It sounds great, but very few people actually pull it off starting at your age. I was told a story just today. A man told his daughters AND sons that he would pay for their weddings, full boat, no expense spared, if they waited until they were 28. All of his children waited, none got divorced and grandchildren are all grown now. The story remeinded me that I was 28 when I got married. We've been together for 25 years now and I can't even envision what life would be without her. 3. You have high school to finish, then college, and then a career to establish. Don't rush it. Treat all of your friends with respect but remember you're still kids and life is suppose to be fun. Time enough to be serious after college.
  • Well I feel you're going on the right path, I personally feel that acting like a jerk will only land you girls with low self esteem and I'm sure nobody wants that.
  • if u want a serious relationship then go ahead and have one if your friends think what they are doing is cool dont follow. you want a relationship tehn treat the gurl wit respect.. there are gurls who want a serious relationship...
  • Don't you worry. You are on the right track. Though it may not come right away, there is going to be a girl who is going to want a serious relationship with you, because most girls hate it when they are liked just for their looks or for sex. We love guys with sensitivity, and look at us with love for whats on the inside.
  • You could be an asshole, to females, but then you're not gonna get no were with your girl. I guess you should look at it from this point of view, "We get our names from females, we are born because of females" so if you treat females like shit, then who's to say that you don't deserve to be dead?
  • I'm in the exact situation, kinda, because i do have a gf and she's great because thats the thing she love me the most about, is that i'm real. I believe that when you feel that you want a really relationship is because you're mature, because i'm only 17 and lots of people after talkin to me about life ans stuff they think i'm way older, so guess in a way, it's great that you want something real, but it'll just be a little hard to find someone that feels the same way.
  • I actually give you props for wanting to treat girls right because a lot of boys my age don't want to do that!!! So Kudos to you!!!!
  • i started my relationship when i was 14- now im 18 and still in it. u should go for a serious relationship-you never know!
  • I think you should be yourself and not care what your friends think.
  • If what you're saying is true, I think you're a sweetheart already. Stay the way you are. Don't listen to your "friends". They sound like jerks who only get into relationships to satisfy themselves.
  • you should never be a jerk to a lady. dont be disrespectful, and im sure when the time comes some girl will be very lucky to have you as a boyfriend. and your 14.. you shouldnt be worrying about these things.. i realize your probably in high school, and other people are in relationships and stuff. but really its not a big deal. be a gentlemen, and ladies will realize this and like you for it. and just a warning. call a woman beautiful or cute.. not sexy and hot. thats slightly degrading.. and we dont like that. and always open doors for them well hope this helps =)
  • Sounds like me twenty years ago, so I don't find it wrong. It IS a little weird because most 14 year olds are more interested in one-upsmanship and social standing than anything else. Little things like the feelings of others or their own long-term well-being are irrelevant comapred to what others think of them and how hard-core/manly they appear. I ALWAYS treated females with... well, no more disrespect than I give/gave to guys. Those that don't never get laid without paying cash for it.
  • Thats not weird, your just moving really fast for your age, just enjoy yourself and relax, the point of dating is to prepare you for future relationships. RELAX, high school is suppose to be fun. Just dont be stupid and put yourself in a situation with relationships
  • look, i would slap you if u ever treat me with less then the respect i deserved because your peers wanted oyu too, but thumbs up for wanting to treat us girls with a bit of respect. most blokes look for mature relaionships early which i tink is okay, as long as you realise what your getting into. Think about it and see what oyu think after you've looked over all the options. often as people what a mature realtionship is and what comes with it. it helped me find what i needed.
  • hell no that's not wierd. It's great that you're wanting something serious because it means that you have stopped seeing girls as something to be discarded after 2 or 3 weeks. Unfortunately, you probably won't get into a serious relationship just yet. But if you treat every girl with respect, then later on you will start to gain a rep as a responsible, respectful guy, and this is when the girls you want to keep start to show themselves.
  • im 14 too, and i have a very meaningfull relationship with a wonderfull girl called sophie (love her to bits) i would recommend that you always respect girls because if u treat them like a jerk then they will think you are one without looking deeper. just try to represent your own attitude and beliefs through how you act and the right girl will take notice. .
  • damn you are amazing for a 14 yr. old...i'm only 15 so i'm not really speaking from experience but girls love and commend respect so you'll have the girls beating down your door.
  • nope at 14 i had a real relationship and my friends mocked me but it made me a better man to treat a woman with respect then to b a dick to her and now that all the girls i know know who i really am they love me and hope that they find someone like me
  • I think it's awesome for you to want a real relationship and not an immature one. It's even more awesome for wanting to treat women with respect! :)

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