ANSWERS: 37
  • I agree completely.
  • That is how God intended it to be, unfortunately, mankind has other ideas.
  • I think the issue is that people expect a fairy land when they get married. For every up, there's a down, that's what makes the up's so good. That's exactly why they say you have to work at a marriage, because it is hard to spend so long with someone, and it is easy to remember bad times over good. I agree entirely with you, although I don't believe in marriage, I believe in long term relationships and working at them.
  • I think that values and morals have gone down the drain in society. Not saying with everyone, but with a lot of people.
  • I agree. THere should be very few reasons for divorce and most people do NOT want the marriage saved..they have 1 fight and file for divorce. It's because it's too hard to work on their problems and easier to just "move on" and find someone else. My grandparents have been married almost 60 years and NEVER have they even thought about divorce. They had problems they worked it out.
  • it means a lot to me, but i agree with your concerns. i wouldnt want to be 20 in this society!
  • I think people should take more care when choosing a partner. It has lost a bit of meaning now that people know they can always get divorced if they want to. I married my first husband knowing that I had an easy out and ended up taking it. I learned from that thankfully and now I know what a marriage is supposed to be about. You shouldn't promise forever if you have no intention of it being just that.
  • I agree 100%! It's sad
  • I also see marriage as a forever deal. The divorce rates are killer for sure, which is why I can't figure out why people say that same-sex marriage would be a threat to traditional marriage... Us married heterosexual couples are doing a pretty good job of screwing it up on our own. Another thought: I think a lor of it has to do with American upgrade thinking. What do we want? The bigger fries in our bigger car (SUV) on our way to close on our bigger house. People start thinking there's somethign bigger and better out there without taking care of what they have. Just my opinion.
  • People are less religious, lower moral standard, so they tend to be self-centered and always try to achieve happiness in instant way, through sex, drug, alcoholism, freedom, consequently marriage has keep them away from getting what they want.... instant happiness. This makes them can't stand the relationship problems which include economy, children etc etc. They are too lazy too to work on it.
  • Marriage is something that I hope to take very seriously if I ever get married.
  • There are still lots of us out there who value marriage. I was married to a wonderful man who died, and I married him for life...We worked through things no matter how hard they were. I am now with someone else and am also in it for the long haul. The problem is that a relationship takes two people to work. YOU may be in it for the long haul, but you'd better make sure you choose wisely in a partner.. because they have to have the same attitude as you do... Also, there are some things that are just not workable, no matter how much you want it. I like to call them deal breakers. Mine is cheating. If I caught my man cheating, it is OVER. People have different deal breakers, and sometimes your partner will break the deal... Bottom line is that it takes two to tango. Because of that, there is never any guarantee that your relationship will truly last. You just have to roll the dice and try your best...
  • The problem is when you have a gay person marrying a straight person for whatever they are trying to do, either have a child,or attempt to blend in with the majority! These marriages are for the gays convenience and will ultimately fail! There really should be a law against it!
  • We just celebrated our eleventh anniversay, if that answers your question. We are probably more in love that we were at the beginning.
  • That you should see how things look to you in about twenty or thirty years with maybe a little experience behind you instead of just theory. I can not speak for others but I can tell you I {we} have been working at it for over 20 years and I could not begin to tell you everything that we have been through. Myself I don't try to secound guess others because I have no inkling of what does or does not go on in their lifes or what marrige means to them.
  • I agree with you, marriage is taken extremely too lightly in today's society. Although there are still tons of people who take marriage for what it is really supposed to be, there are tons who take it lightly and don't view it as forever. I think people need to truly be ready to commit themselves for the rest of their lives to that person before they make the jump to marriage.
  • It's not everyone. I've been married 35 years and looking forward to being that way for the rest of my life. I know many people that treat marriage seriously and work at keeping it solid. But many people are too quick to choose or treat it as no different as living together. They choose someone they want to change or someone that they only lust after and not feel like committing to for life. But not everyone feels that way.
  • Realistically, marriage is a "relationship". So, look at the relationships you have formed during your 20 years. How many of them do you still have? Starting a relationship, a good one, is difficult. Maintaining a good relationship is tough. The majority of relationships, of any kind, do not last "FOREVER". Marriage is a social concept, not a religious one. The social purpose of marriage is valid...but note how different societies have differing social perceptions on the subject. Divorce is also a social concept, again with different perspectives in different societies. Certainly almost any relationship can be maintained, or even improved if the parties both want this. There's the secret.
  • You're 20 and unmarried. No offense but what do you really know about marriage? Wait until you're 35, married for ten years and he's cheating on you with your sister. Then I'll listen to your opinions on divorce.
  • In the bad old days it was all but impossible to leave a relationship so people HAD to make it work - or at least pretend to. . Later you could get divorced only if you could prove your spouse was a cheater or similar. Good for private detectives and tabloids, bad for society. . And now we have divorce-on-demand - and a lot of it. It's rough on kids. I only wish that there was some way for people to figure out it won't work before the kids appear. Otherwise, the damage is confined to the people who entered into the contract in the first place.
  • Things ain't perfect even in an ideal world; you'll find out given enough time. ;) ++++
  • I honestly believe in marriage and making it work. Not that I am the best person to ask considering I was divorced after 17 years of marriage. People change over time and it can become difficult. I tried to make it work but she just wanted out. Good luck to you. I love going to 50th wedding anniversary parties. Don't forget to invite me.:)
  • I admire people who can realize that they made a horrible mistake or that the marriage is dead before they spend the majority of their lives miserable.
  • I agree with you, people need to work harder to make compromises with each other and form a bases of healthy communication.Some seem to see divorce as just a piece of paper and an easy way out. However, sometimes two people come together only to realize that they're very different. My mother for example is remarried to an arrogant controlling egotist that verbally abuses, humiliates and degrades her everyday. Can you really blame her for wanting a divorce? If my child was being treated abusively by their spouse I would support their decision to file for separation and help them in any way I can. It's my child after all. I come from a country where divorce is illegal and there are a lot of abusive relationships.
  • People make mistakes. There is a lot of pressure for people to get married and they do it too young, before they really know who they are or what they want. It's a fact of life that many people are not compatible, and another fact of life that people do not realize that when they are young. Would you have them stay in loveless marriages because of a youthful mistake?
  • I am on my third marriage. The first was till death. We shared 17 years. The second... well... I am celebrating our 3 anniversary and even though we have problems, we are in love and loving it!
  • dont get married if you cant handle it
  • I agree with you. Ideally, marriage is a lifetime commitment.
  • I do not see marriage as forever, necessarily, but the principle behind marriage is a good one, though I also prefer handfasting. I see marriage as sexy. Something to be turned on by, something to enjoy the idea of. If marriage is to be the continued butt of jokes, precisely for the reasons in the question, then it is a failed "institution". The idea of spending of lifetime with someone is a commendable one, but, just as someone before me has said, "Death does not part; only lack of love". This is simply something you cannot control, so you should not condemn the act of divorce. I do believe you should work at it, though. I'm 21, for the record.
  • Amen honey! Lol I'm 22 and I was raised that when you get married you get married for good. Unfortunately we live in a world full of people with different views on marriage. I was married to someone and found out he had another wife in another state. Things are just so different now and its really sad. Your not alone lol
  • I think it means a lot to people still, ESPECIALLY since so many don't make it. I'm only slightly disheartened to half of marriages end in divorce now. I'd rather see a lot of people get divourced than a lot of people being married and miserable. People used to not get divourced not because they SHOULDN'T, but because society made it so shameful to go through with. It's good that people don't feel like they have to suffer through a marriage that will not work anymore.
  • If you ask them, they will tell you they did try. It's not easy and sometimes they figure out too late that they should never have gotten married in the first place. Plus, I question whether if there's adultery or some form of abuse (physical, emotional, mental, financial, etc.) a person under obligation to stay married.
  • I could not agree with you more. I think people do not take "til death do us part" seriously anymore. Marriage is WORK...and the fact that people give up so easily kills me. Now, if cheating is involved in the mix, then I understand. But seriously, other than that...you chose to be with that person for the rest of your life...WORK AT IT!!
  • In todays world, you are a rarity. a one of a kind. Morales in America have changed so dramatically, that if a small arguement ensues in a marriage, they just get a divorce. I am with you on working things out. i have been married to my wife for 43 years. we have had our ups and downs like everyone else. but, we did not give up on each other. its called love and respect as the anchor for a good marriage. Most marriages should be forever. the only problem is that people are human and humans make a lot of mistakes. greed and cheating are killers for a marriage. if a couple do not want a marriage to work, it will not work. and vice-versa. We constantly work at keeping our love and marriage fresh. its constant dedication to each other. Marriage is a second job. if you want it to work you have to dedicate time and effort into it.
  • FOREVER??? NOT!!!! Marriage these day is until somebody f*cks up or until one gets tired of the other.
  • Marriage is a covenant between a man, a woman and God. It is suppose to be forever. My marriage to my wife is the most important thing in the world to me. I would lay down my life for her. She is the most important person on the planet, to me- and I have two young sons whom I love very much. But, my wife, my woman, my partner in life, my other half, is the most important person in the whole world to me. Marriage, for those of us to take it as God intended, is VERY SERIOUS, and it pains me to see men and women shacking up together, sleeping around, lusting over others and then being unhappy. They have eyes but they cannot see! I wish I could make them see.
  • I think in our society people don't how to work together. But on the flip side people change over time. asking people to stay together for 50 yrs has got to be hard. I say to rush in to anything and don't be an idiot.

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