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  My name is Fabian. So there is this girl i have a big crush on, (not dating) I'm not ready to ask her out yet. But her name is Alyssa . I met her in middle school and me and her still text ALOT, like everyday. We sometimes hang out and chill. me and her care and love eachother alot, she loves me because i always been there for her, and i always made her feel better, she said she wouldn't know what she do without me. She said i am like one of the realest people out there. she said me and her will rock together forever. but these past 7 days i feel like me and her were getting dry, like if our bond wasn't the same , like if something was wrong with her. I miss texting her more, laughing and having funny and enjoyable convos, where we texted more and she replied faster. I noticed she has been sleeping in all day until 5 or 6pm , and she goes to bed earlier then usual, it made no sense to me. She also hasn't been texting anybody that much and she hasn't been on social media that much, i asked her and she "said You're the first person to actually notice. but idk, I've been sleeping a lot and idk why . Then i asked her what is causing all that and she said " I just got out of a really toxic friendship and it's been taking a huge toll on my emotions lately ". Turns out it was her bestfriend (Jony) they were really close. She really cared and trusted him. I asked what happened and she said "A lot of manipulation and mental abuse". What do you think she meant by that and what do you think might of happened? She said "We still talk a lil bit,, I just needed some space" But to be honest i don't know how to really help her, i need to find the right words to have her move on and whatever they have wasn't real anymore. I don't want her to think i am trying to talk her out her feelings, i also don't want to make her sound guilty or anything like that, i don't want to sound like An Asshole either. I am that type of person that is always going to be real with people and she knows that. I want her to be strong. Alot of people hurt
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  How do I get my ex girlfriend back? Hi so I’m in a situation where I know my ex still loves me and is in love with me. However the reason for this breakup (48 hrs ago) was for us to work on ourselves, to get the ball rolling on our careers and after we do that she said she promised we’d try things out again. She said she has no time for me rn because her mom just went through a kidney transplant and she needs to focus on her plus she said she doesn’t feel like she loves herself enough and before putting all 100% into me she wants to do that for herself. We took a 2 week break and she told me she felt awful because she wanted to give me attention it’s just she needs to be strong for herself and show herself that she can be responsible. So she broke things off so she doesn’t feel like I’m waiting on the sidelines for her. She also wants time for herself to do yoga and make new friends. Our breakup wasn’t bad. We talked and talked and even had sex and took a last picture of us kissing before going our separate ways. She contacted me the next morning telling me she hopes work went good and we talked for a bit then the conversation ended and restarted again at night while we were both at work. She told me during the breakup that she felt uncomfortable in the relationship because when we argue or fight I’d be an a**hole and yell and cuss at her. I told her I wanna change for myself but also for us because I realized that it’s not cool of me to be yelling over dumb things. She said she doesn’t know if things will workout in the future between us but we will try again and as long we work on ourselves rn then only good things will come. Any advice would be helpful as this time for me is hard because we told each other we’d work through anything and that our relationship could go to hell and back and we’d still love each other. I know this is hell rn I just want things to workout again.
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  Should I cut off this friend? I have this friend of mine that can be really selfish at times. It normally happens when hes drunk. He can drink on weekends and he drinks all weekend long. He just got a DUI a few weekends ago and he told me its his 2nd but I know hes still going to court for his 2nd DUI. So I think he lied to me there. His step dad died a couple weeks ago and he never even told me about it. He never told me when the funeral was. He came over the next day and asked me for gas money. I still helped him out because it was $10. Hes not the type of friend that would go out of his way for someone either. I remember I bought beer for us when we went to this party one weekend. Then the next day he didn't even give me a ride home. He excuss was hes too hung over so I took the bus. Also if he doesn't get what he wants from someone he can get mad at them. Hes done it to me and other people. I've been thinking about ignoring him from now on.
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  I was with my ex for 3 years, she was my first and I was her first. we've lived together for about 2 years and recently broke up in February. She dumped me because she had thought I was cheating on her but when she realized I wasn't wasn't things started slowly coming back together. Couple weeks later we got into a huge argument after our argument she started acting different and coming home late. It was unusual of her to come home late because she's a nurse and her schedule required her to work the 5-7 shift. I would stay up until she got home to talk about her why she's been coming home late, she would she grab whatever she needed and she would leave again and not come back home until about 2 or 3 am. One day she gets texted saying she needed her space and if I could stay at my parents, for the first week I disagreed to it but shortly after I changed my mind thinking it might be a good idea and that I should respect her space. Two days later I had found out she slept with her coworker by logging into her Snapchat. I asked her if she had done anything with anyone she kept telling me she had not done anything with anyone, so I pulled up her snapchat to show her that knew what had happen after I gave her space. We were officially done I grabbed my stuff and had completely moved out, couple weeks later she started texting me about how she had made a mistake so I went back to her. For about 5 months she was going back and forth between me and her coworker. Last week she broke down mentally and was calling and texting me non stop saying she wanted to hurt herself and she felt like a piece of shit for doing this to me, she wanted me to come over to help her out with her breakdown so I told her she needed to text her coworker and have him deal with it because I was really upset about the last few months. She continued to text me saying that he doesn't know how to deal with her when she's like this only I did so I agreed to help her out and comfort her, she asked me to be her boyfriend again but I refused because everyt
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  I had know this man 38 years ago, I thought of he and the people we knew throughout the years. We lived in the same state but not the city. I decided to look him up again on Facebook and this time I went inside his page to see if this was him , I sent him a message of familiarity, pertaining to things only he would know if this was the correct person. It was him and he was so very happy to hear from me,told me I always had and still have a special place in his heart, the feelings that he had for me over the years, dreams he had and I had similar dreams as well, mine did not include him only the words from the spirit. Looking for him was not for a relationship only friends until he kind of begged me to be with him in this long distance committed relationship and I ageed, he proceeded to tell me of his disabilities, he has spinal cord injury, can
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  My dad crossed the united states illegally about 19 years ago. He met my mother after being here for a couple of months. She is an american citizen. He and my mother had 3 children. I am almost 18 and my brother and sister are under 18. He payed taxes and he never got in trouble with police. He went back to mexico around 6 years ago. I was wondering if he has a chance coming over to the U.S.A but legally. If he can, how can we help him.
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  Greetings the issue that im about to talk about has been bothering me for sometime and i thought it would be best if i can get advice from people.I have strict parents and i think this has affected my social life negatively.The only time i could actually spend time with my friends was at school,and i was at a boarding school in high school.During the holidays my parents would never allow us to go for friends birthday parties,movies and just generally spending time with them as they believed having a social life was not important.we rarely used to have friends over because me and my siblings would always be afraid of bringing our friends home because of the fear of what our parents would say and do.The only time i had friendships that existed was when i was in school,the moment i went home for holidays my friendships were non existant.I am currently in University but im home on holiday and my parents have given me a curfew which is at 18:00 hrs.My parents barely let me have freedom.I now look at my life and ive realised that i barely have any friends.No one calls my phone to ask to do anything with me.My social life especially when im home is non existant.And ive stayed with not having really close friends for a very long time.What advice would you give me as i need to have a social life and friends with whom i can spend time with?
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  Help please. My friend is in trouble and I don’t know how to help her, she’s going through so much and she’s only 11. She’s an internet friend, so I just don’t know how I can help her over text. Here are her words, sorry it’s really long “It's not fair. I feel like I'm being neglected by my mom but I don't know. It's just.. Ugh. We're 11 and 12 and we haven't learned how to do laundry yet. Our mom doesn't do our laundry either. Yeah our washer is broken but there's a laundry mat not far at all from our house. But she still doesn't wash our clothes and she actually knows how to-- But like, she just lets our 61 year old grandma who is really weak and has asthma and lives in a hotel do our laundry?? When she can literally just take it to the laundry mat and do it herself Okay second off We're not getting an education since November. She pulled us out because we were being bullied but we never started any other type of school.. We haven't seen a doctor or dentist in TWO YEARS. Wtf. Make us an appointment mom A lot of times I overdosed on albuterol because..suicidal thoughts. Sadly I never died but, she didn't even take me anywhere to get help any of the times I overdosed? And she knew I overdosed? Like this has been going on for months and months. I can only have 4 puffs of albuterol in 24 hours-- I keep taking around 20-50 puffs of it in less than 5-10 minutes. Why haven't I died already?! Albuterol overdose can be fatal. It can lead to cardiac arrest or even death which is my goal. Next time I should use my whole fucking inhaler. Whenever I overdose I start feeling all shaky and weak and dizzy..and my head starts throbbing..and it gets hard to breathe and it feels like my heart is beating way too fast.. And I can't form coherent sentences and my vision gets all blurry.. I need help. She doesn't understand. All the times I overdosed, cried for no reason, yelled over nothing, felt sad and fatigued for hours and hours. She hasn't taken a fucking hint. The other day I told her I was having suicidal thoughts and t
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  The guy that I am currently seeing asks questions about my prior relationships. I have been honest with him about who I have been seriously involved with (relationships & sex) not provided him a list of every person I have ever talked to or kissed. I'm almost 30 years old, I don't even know if I could recall it all. He seems to be jealous of the idea of me being with other people in the past, which I cannot help because what's done is done. When I say jealous it's not like he does anything crazy but I can tell it bothers him, and I don't want him to be upset. Well recently, we were talking about a male friend of mine (who I'm not even close to) and he asked me whether or not I would ever date him and I told him no, which is true. I didn't tell him that friend had kinda tried to date me and that we kissed once way before me and him ever got together. Why did I not volunteer this information, because I know it will make him uneasy and there is no reason to. Well eventually he flat out asked if we had ever done anything, and I told him that we kissed, because that's the truth. I knew that it was going to upset him but I didn't want to lie. He asked how many times it happened and told him once, which is the truth, but he asked me that several times and seems to be skeptical of that. He asked several questions about it and it made me uncomfortable but I told him the truth. He then wanted to know if the kiss happened at my house or the friends, I'm not sure why that matters. It actually happened at my house, but I knew that would upset him and I really love him and don't want to upset him, but I also don't know if it's appropriate for him to be asking details of events that occurred before we started dating and then getting upset about it. I told him it happened at the friends house because if I didn't, his next question would have been,
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  My father was having girls over for the night because he recently was divorced so he wanted to get me out of the house he bribed me with his nice truck and 60 dollars to leave and go do something i crashed his truck into a fence and then got out of the truck called him and he came and pulled me out with his big rig truck we got into a fight at the house and his retaliation was calling the cops on me for a hit and run now i have court over it who is at fault me or him? His truck his insurance and i was under his insurance at the time