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No I don't because people can change.They might have jsut gotten drawn into it and couldn't help themselves.
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Nope. Not true. Maybe for some people. But not all people. I kno this from experience.
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Not always, but I may have the thought in the back of my mind and have my eyes peeled just in case.
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i think people cheat for differant reasons,its not because they dont love who they are with per say, but maybe they arnt getting the attention that they need from their partner.word to the wise take time for your partner listen and be aware of their needs.then you wont have to worry about them cheating.
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You can't generalize on stuff like this. I know one guy, who has cheated on his wife several times. She forgives him because honesty he has some sort of mental problem. I even see he has some issues by the way he behaves, he is not normal. I think for most people, getting hit on the nose once with the rolled up paper is enough and it is a strong deterent to repeat history and deeply hurt a spouse.
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yes, if they do it once they'll do it again.
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Well if they love you they won't cheat,if they cheat that signifies lack of respect i say,so if they lose respect for you or them selfs katy bar the door..Love and rrspect go hand in hand..so figure!
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In a way I do, but in a different way than most, you see if a person cheats on me, they may never do it again, and even if I forgive them, there will always be the thought in the back of my head that they did in fact cheat, so yes, I believe in it, but more from the perspective of the one cheated on than the one doing the cheating.
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No. People can change, although past and present behaviour is a good indicator of future behavior. It takes will power and professional help many times, but if a person is wanting to change this behavior, most people can.
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Maybe not, but I no longer have reason to trust them.
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I think largely, yes. Unless the person really wants to understand and change themselves. This doesn't happen too often.
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in a way. unles the person absolutely regretss what they did and are willing to change for you. my bf cheated on his gf once and i stil think hes a good person. so far its going good..if you see anything to be suspicious about...then maybee somethings going on. but in my opinion it depends on the person and their outlook on their actions.
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people change but it takes a while, and a lot of work.
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No, people can change for the better.
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absolutely!
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I think it is possible for people to change, but I still can't say I'll really trust them as much later. Only after a long, long time.
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They may not be cheat always, but you loose the confidence in them and the credibility of their words.
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I think it really just depends on the person.
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i think it is a duplicate question,but i think once your a cheater you always will be convicted as one during a relationship.it will probably result in a break up.
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I'd revise the saying to "Once a cheater, the more likely to be a cheater again". Yes, people change, but you need to think of YOUR feelings first in a matter like this and not set yourself up.
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Not always, but usually. Guess it really depends on the person and the circumstances.
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pretty much if they convinced them selves they had enough reason to do it once they can convince themselves that they have a reason to do it again. and they have proven that if they do it you will take them back.
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I would like to think that statment is false, but unfortunatly, all the people I know who have cheated, did it repeatedly.
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Not always but it shows a lot about there character.
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I don't think so
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i hope not i think it just depends on the individual person though.
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Not necessarily,...but if you do it once youre much more likely to do it again.
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Depends on <i>why</i> the person cheated. Cheating says more about the person committing infidelity than his/her partner. Obviously, someone who <i>decides</i> to cheat has a few screws loose, and the person being cheated on can do much better.
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No, I do not. Unfortunately, the percentages of it happening again are astronomical. But I believe that people CAN change and change for the better. But I do agree with the person earlier who said it takes a lot of hard work. If you will sit back and examine a situation, sometimes things are happening in a relationship that cause people to look for attention, affection, etc., somewhere else. It's really weird how a lot of times, when this happens, someone else is right there offering exactly what you need. I'm not saying this is okay. It's NOT. But, I do believe people can change.
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no You can change with christ
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NO.
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nope, once a cheater, always a cheater! it seems to stay in them until they are like 40!
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In previous realtionships I "stepped out" occasionally- but have learned to control those urges. A cheater has to prove they can be trusted again, and that takes time.
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as what i always believe in.. there are no permanent thing in this world but change.. so everybody can change sooner or later..
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No I do not believe in that. It takes one to know one. And yes I used to cheat back in my high school days, but have changed my ways after high school. I was just around the wrong crowd and bad influences. So it is possible for people to change, but I don't think the percentage would be that great.
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I am living proof that one can change. It took me losing a lot of integrity, friends and trust for me to finally wake up and realize what I was doing. I also finally saw how dangerous my actions were. I almost look at it like it was my addiction. I know that sounds a little extreme but it's true. I eventually had to "give it to God" and 5 years later, I haven't been the same since. Although I had completely stopped cheating, it took me a long time to earn everyone's trust back. After 5 years, you'd think everyone would trust me by now but every once in a while, the past gets brought back up. A big part of everyone's healing is that I'm willing to be put under the microscope at times. I understand I did this to myself and I have no one to blame but me. If it means that I am questioned about where I was and what I was doing and I need to prove it... so be it. Now, when I think about all the dumb mistakes I made, I can't believe the person I used to be.
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Lets say some people may change but it is a thing that would be worrying me all the time so personally i would not take the chance.
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Everyone can change, from good to bad or bad to good. The only thing is, you can't undo what you've done. You will always live with the consequences. You will always have the guilt, and your spouse will always have the hurt. You can rebuild the trust, but it will never be the same as before it happened. It can't be, no matter how much you want it to be. I have friends who have gone through this, some never forgave and they aren't together, some forgave... multiple times... and are still together. It is a feeling that you have to decide on, can I live with it? Can I forgive it? Will I do it again? Why did I do it? What will I do to stop it from happening again? Without steps to change a cheater will always be a cheater. With change, they can overcome it and live with their past mistakes and learn from them.
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everyone is capable of changing through out their lives i was one who believe this before until i was in that situation where i became the cheater and wanted to prove to my loved one i can change. its really hard to change and i believe it would be even harder for a man but it is possible...may not happen right away, but it will happen unless the person doesnt want to.
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I wish that I had the answer to this, my wife cheated with a co-worker, I like to say that she will not do it again, but I dont know, the trust is gone, its a shame to say. It is day to day, I am holding my breath....I hope that "once a cheater always a cheater" is wrong...Just cant say right now.....
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99% of the time, I do. There are, of course always exceptions, but I do believe that once that line has been crossed, it's much easier to cross it again. Cheating is wrong, but then, so are a lot of things. Remember how hard it was to swear for the first time? Or smoke that first cigarette? All hard to do the first time, but easier the next. I think cheating is the same type of mindset.
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Definatelly yes.Like you said once a cheater always a cheater.
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I believe that with all my heart. People don't change their basest behaviors; they just learn to hide them better.
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I don't agree. I'm a born again straight shooter. But most of the time, yes people don't try to change as hard as I did.
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although there are recorded cases of people changing, it needs the power of God to achieve it. Without that, if they cheat once they will do it again, my friend.
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"Once a marine, always a marine" is a compliment. He/she has proven to be tough enough, so therefore is branded as a marine for life. "Once a murderer, always a murderer" is an insult, but true tmho. You cannot "unkill" a person. He/she has proven to be capable of commiting a murder, so therefore is branded as a murderer. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" He/she has proven to have this mindset. Instead of comming forward about having a new love and breaking up first before starting a new relationship, they cheat. Marines aren't capable of the same performance when senior citizens, and not every murderer commits a second one. So there's no guarantee a cheater will cheat again. But in my book, the disrespectful mindset/thinkingpattern is established, so I won't trust a cheater as much as I'd trust a non-cheater. In a relationship trust is the most important thing, so I can never have a relationship with a (ex?-)cheater.
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Unfortunately, the saying is kinda true...Once you've cheated on one person it is more likely that you will cheat again...But say you have cheated before with someone else that doesn't mean that you will cheat on person you are with NOW, Take it from someone whos been there...
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For me i believe that God can change ones behaviour. so i cant agree with that saying at all. But you have to understand that God changes the one who is ready to be changed.
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do you mean in the same relationship? what about people who cheated on their high school girlfriend cause they were really immature and new to dating? or hell even the first couple years of college? don't you think that once people fall in love it's different? at least for some ... it's just a part of growing up and maturing? i cheated on a boy when i was 14 (in like a kissing way)and haven't since ... am i always going to be a cheater?
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When I was 16, I cheated on my boyfriend with 4 guys. I was in a really bad state in my life, more like a state of crisis, and I made some bad decisions. I have never cheated since. I knew how much it hurt him when I finally broke it off with him becaus I was so messed up. I'm going to say that that statement is false. There is no true absoluteism as far as that goes. There's always an exception and I believe I am one of them.
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I AM A REFORMED CHEATER. I FOUND THE MAN I LOVE AND I COULD NEVER IMAGINE EVEN PUTTING MYSELF IN A SITUATION WHERE I MIGHT CHEAT AGAIN, LET ALONE LETTING ANOTHER MAN PUT HIS HANDS ON ME. SO..I THINK A PERSON CAN GROW OUT OF CHEATING. YOU LIVE AND LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES RIGHT?
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No i don't believe it to be totally true. People do cheat but I believe that one can learn from their mistakes and become better people. You may not be able to mend the relationship that the "incident" occured in but you can surely learn from your wrong doings and beome smarter and wiser for future realtionships.
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I think about 90 % of the time this is true.
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A leopard never changes its spots comes to mind.
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This applies to men AND women. And yes, I think it is true.
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Very true!!! My ex cheated on her bf to be with me..now cheated on me with some other guy..Been 3 months and Im still recovering.
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I dont think its true at all. People do change and mature.
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Well if a man or a women cheat once...they can be cured by seeing how much or they hurt the person they cheated on also if they have it happen to them...you know Karma. But if it happens more than once then it will probably will happen again and again.
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No. People change both suddenly with an eye-opening experience and slowly, over time. If change were not possible, I'd resign.
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true
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I think its true..once in awhile you may run across an isolated mistake that a person learns from...but most of the time I think its a personality trait...someone who doesnt give a thought to the consequences of their actions.
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Aye..Not unlike an alcoholic. Although he may never take another sip.
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General statements such as this are never false.
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I would say yes but I would never really find out because for me once would be one time too many. Once trust is broken it can never be repaired
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Only until he meets somebody who he falls for.
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No, as you get older and into a serious relationship with someone, you do mature and "grow out of it" in a way. You learn the importance of loving someone and staying true.
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I am female but I do not think so. I think people can grow out of things. Staying with the person though can be bad because your taking a risk that alot of people cannot seem to get over and when in a fight you know it will come up and hurt both people. People can forgive but its much more difficult to forget.
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Unfortunately, Calypso is just about right. For the most part, a cheater will cheat again. But, there are some cases where they learn their lesson, straighten up, and never hurt their spouse, (or bf/gf), again. But, no matter what, you have to live with it ALWAYS being there, if your mate decides to let you stay.
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never forgive a cheater ultimate betrayal
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I believe the tendancy is for a cheater to continue. People can change although it is hard. Remember the second time is always easier. My final answer. 90% true!
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I say no, sometimes it wouldn't hurt to forgive and forget. Now if they continue it, then you can totally bust them!
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Well... I believe in "once a cheater, never to be trusted."
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Yes I do believe it, absolutely.
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No I don't believe in that saying..I once did, but not anymore..until I cheated, and now know how much it hurt the other person...I will never do it again, there is no point, no gain, no happiness...just pure emtiness and lots of anger and self hate.
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No, not 100%. I cheated when I was 16 and have never done it again. I look down upon it highly, and consider that one of the worst things I have ever done. I will never cheat again. Sadly for most of the world, because they justify it to themselves, they still continue to do it. NOT EVERYONE, just IMO, the majority.
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THIS QUESTION IS A DUPLICATE.
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No. People can and do change. Then again, we all cheat occasionally in our lives, whether big or small, to others or ourselves.
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Yes and No. Some people never change, and then some people feel really guilty about cheating and then they never do it again. Also, someone may have cheated because they were with the wrong person, and then after they broke up they may have met someone who was their soulmate.
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People make mistakes. The majority of people will learn from it and mature into a better person.
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Once the bonds of trust are broken, it is incredibly more difficult not to suspect that that person would not try cheating some time down the road. It isn't realistic to naively assume that person wouldn't try it again. I don't think always a cheater. Some people are really sad that they strayed from their loved one's path and others aren't. It's a fifty / fifty guess really. It also depends upon how well you know each other.
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Yeah I believe it. I won't even date a guy who has cheated before.
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I sure do. I have yet to meet someone who cheated once who didn't do it again down the road. And with the same excuse. People who cheat are emmotional and mentally stunted and have no self-control, discipline, empathy, or concensce and are selfish and immature. You can't expect someone like that to change because they won't.
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Kinda goes without saying now does it not. Lack of moral fiber does not suddenly go away.
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G'day Anonymous, Thank you for your question. It depends on the circumstances. We are all human and can make mistakes. However, if it is part of a pattern of behaviour, it is less easy to forgive and you should start questioning the future of the relationship. Regards
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People make mistakes at times, but there made to be forgot if it wasnt that bad. i should know i have cheated and been cheated on in the past . but my boyfreind of a 1yr and 6 months took me back.
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A friend of mine has cheated in every relationship she's ever been in (quite a few). We were talking about it the other day, because I was cautious about forgiving my boyfriend for cheating at the beginning of our relationship, and she said that cheating is part of her nature. It's not a great excuse, but it's something she can't help doing. She needs to feel like people love and adore her and no relationship has given her enough attention to get that love from only one source. However, the advice she gave me was that cheaters CAN truly love the people they cheat on and they CAN get better. She's working very hard on it herself now that she's found the man she believes to be her soulmate. I say, in a relationship, people deserve second chances. If it's cheating, then only one second chance. And yeah, some people do regret cheating so much the first time they do it that they never do it again. There's no reason to completely give up hope on anyone.
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No, people change, not instantly, but they do.
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I think it depends on what definition of cheating you are talking about. If you talking about hard core physical cheating then the person who cheats will probably cheat because once you walk down that garden path I would assume it would be hard to turn back. But if a person has an affair then realizes that behavior is wrong, confesses and vows never to do it again. Who am I to judge? This is a very difficult question to answer with a few words, every relationship is different and until you walk in anothers shoes one can not judge.
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No, it's a load of rubbish. If you like somebody enough, then you simply have no desire for any other person and therefore, you do not cheat. Take note of what BlackKnight has said above, in particular the second sentence. If you don't you will rule out any sort of relationship with everybody you ever come into contact with. Why not adopt a different attitude such as "Take people as you find them and form your own opinions".
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Cheating on what?
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I do. :[
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i think if someone cheats then they are not happy with their relationship. if someone found the right person to be with then they wouldnt cheat. so someone who as cheated in past relationships could eventually find the one that they really love and want to be with and could stay faithful.
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yes i do. if they do it once they will do it again. and again,
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Yes, I'm a believer. For most people anyway, some people I think can prove otherwise.
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Yes, in much the same way that someone who commits murder is always a murderer even if they only do it once. As far as recidivism goes, I do believe that the chances are high that they will reoffend.
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No. Sometimes a NON-cheater will experiment with cheating, and feel so bad about it, they never do it again. Sometimes a Cheater will realize that they are actually cheating themselves, and change. It is not, repeat NOT, carved in stone.
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I feel it is situational but if you are with someone that cheats on someone over and over and you still stay with them then you are only cheating yourself cheat on me once shame on him cheat on me twice shame on me
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I tend to believe that once, always. Loyalty is either present or absent, it doesn't just appear.
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nothing is permanent in this world but CHANGE so yeah cheaters can change especially when they realized their mistakes and if they found their "match" and loyal people can become a cheaters for some reasons.. oh well changes rule the world..
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Definately situational. Take me for example. I ONLY cheat IF two conditions are met : 1) I must be sure I will not get caught and..2) She must be attractive enough for me to want to cheat. If these conditions do not exist in the situation I will NOT cheat.
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