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  • You should not let anyone pressure you into making this decision - I'm afraid it's one you have to make yourself for your reasons and not because it's what someone else wants you to do. I'm afraid I can't offer you any advice on what you consider is the right or wrong thing to do - there are far too many variables. I would suggest you may want to get some qualified counselling. Regardelss - it's YOUR choice and one you need to ponder for your child too. Sorry I can't help more.
  • as hard as it is to give advice on these situation (basically because from outside we always have a constrained view of the facts) I'd say, keep the child, you'll find later that the joy a child brings to your life is indescribable. You will certain face new and very tough times but you'll regret having an abortion.
  • google or look up a support hotline they have people unbius to talk to you and find out why you would do it and why you dont want to give you other options and in the end you and you alone can may a completly knowledgeble decsion
  • How old are you? If you are too yong (9-16) it may not be the right time and you may be too young to be a mom right now, dont you think? Or are you thinking about an option like putting it up for adoption? If you are older, and you want to keep it please think about life with baby - what will you do for a job, what happens when you cant get a sitter, what happens when you get called in from work because baby is ill or you need to take care of something. If you are well equipped mentally at any age, then more power to you. When faced with this decision at 18 and again at 20 I was not emotionally capable of handling it and while I wonder what if, I know that I would not have the life, the home and the man I have if I had made the other choice. Think about you and your life, not what dad says - you have to live with this forever, not him.
  • just stop and take a deep breath and think about what you are feeling at that moment. Therer are many options out there if you feel that getting an abortion is out of the question. talk to a counsler and go though all the optins of what are avaliable to you. You should never be pressured into making a decison.
  • Thank you all for your responses. It's good to hear some outside opinions. They've each helped in their different ways and has given me a lot to think out. Thank you again.
  • please dont have an abortioN! that baby will never have the chance to live...how sad
  • go with your heart....just remember your father CAN'T make you get an abortion. What's the best for you right now?
  • You need to first calm down. Ask everyone to give you a few days to think clearly. Do some research and soul-searching. Be honest with yourself. You have some time before you need to decide anything firmly. Give yourself the time to come to a decision that you are comfortable with.
  • you have to about the end of the first trimester to make a decision. go to your doctor, go to the family planning clinic, talk to your family. don't hold it inside you, talk it out then come to a decision. you have time to make a decision, use the time wisely.
  • Go with what you think, Don't have an abortion because someone else wants you to. If you think you will regret it now, you will most definitely regret it later.. If you cannot take care of the child, consider putting it up for adoption..
  • Hey, Honestly I think you should think about this over a million times. I was quick to have an abortion and I regret it sooo much. It has been 3 years and I still cant live with the feeling of not having my child around. Its a really hard thing to go through and I wish you all the luck in the world!
  • This is a big decision that is not to be made lightly. I do not believe in abortion personally, but it is your choice to make and live with. If you do not feel that you are ready to be a mother, adoption is a wonderful thing. I was adopted and had a wonderful childhood and parents. My brother and his wife just adopted a baby and it was an open adoption. That is where the birth mother gets to somewhat remain in the child's life. Please go talk to a counselor before you do anything. There are so many couples out there would love to give your child a loving home. Abortion is not the only choice. It is a hard and heart-wrenching decision to make I know, but as you said, you don't want to make the wrong one for you and end up regretting it. I wish you all the best in whatever you decided, but do not make the decision hastily. Even though I'm pro-life, tell the father that it is your choice and you need to be the one to make it after much thought and consideration. He's not the one that has to live with it the rest of his life. Also, just curious if you are getting any kind of support from your family. Take care and good luck.
  • You are the only one that can make that call dear. Do not let anyone even the father pressure you. But in making that decisions look at everything there is to look at. Your principals and morals are important, your beliefs of what is right and wrong. In doing all this thinking also think of the baby as seperate from you. When the child is born can you provide are you ready to raise a child ? Are you responsible for you and will you be for him/her. The father may be there he may not. Adoption is a great option, but no without concequence. You are the only one that knows you and you cannot lie to you. So think hard and good and take your time and the answer will be there. Good Luck!
  • They say "when in doubt DON'T"..As others have said, give it alot of thought first, talk to professionals and follow your heart. Its not an easy decision at all for a woman to make. Adoption is also another alternative. Sounds like you have your head on straight, and I have no doubt that you will make the right decision for you.
  • Wow, I'm impressed with all the wonderful advice you've received! Yes, some people have abortions and don't regret, some do. The only way to be SURE not to regret it is not to do it. I'm not a pro-lifer per se, but this makes logical sense. Yes, having a child is life-altering, but its not the end of the world, women all over the world do it all the time. Here's my advice: If you feel capable of taking care of a baby, then keep it. If not, then have the baby and give it up for adoption. That might seem really difficult to do, but its something you can feel GOOD about, knowing you did something positive for the child and the parents who wanted a child. The best advice is to call one of those adoption helplines, they will be nice, supportive and non-judmental, and its anonymous. Best of luck, and hooray for you being responsible and thinking this through!
  • Nobody should pressure you into making this decision. If you are not comfortable getting an abortion,then don't do it. If you are not ready to be a parent yet,you can always choose the adoption route. Take the time to think it through and think of what's best for you and your child.It's nobody's decision but yours hon. Good luck and best wishes. (hug) :)
  • It's your call honey, make sure whatever you decide you do not regret later in life. No one can decide that for you, including a dad.
  • I have to be brutally honest with this answer. Children are a big deal...you may think you are ready for them..but if you are young, kids could change your life in a way which you don't want it to. I have seen more than one girl throw her dreams away because she felt that an abortion was immoral...don't let someone pressure you to do it...but also don't let someone pressure out of it either for "immoral" reasons.
  • Its your choice, not the fathers. You have to know right from wrong when its listening to other people.
  • I have had an abortion, I've also had a baby. I do not regret either choice because They were my choice to make, and with every pregnancy I feel I made the right decision for me. In Your heart you know what you want to do, it's just a matter of listening to it.
  • This is your decision. Your baby. Yes the father has a say in it. but remember, the father sometimes leaves. I'm not sure your relationship with the father, but the decision is yours. Don't let anyone pressure to do anything. I've been in ur situation before. It stressed me out so much i had a miscarriage. So just relax and think about what you want.
  • Dont let the father of your child pressure you in to getting an abortion as that is a little life inside of you and could grow up to be the only other person you love. If he wants you to get rid of his child tell him no and have the baby he cant tell you what to do you have to decide yourself its your body not his.
  • You are the one who will go through months of discomfort, and all the anguish of pregnancy. You will be the one who gives birth and your life will be the most affected by the new born. It's your decision all the way. I don't know how old you are, but if you're a young woman, it can be an extremely stressful disruuption to your social life at a time when you were full of dreams and plans for the future. On the other hand, the joy of watching your own little friend grow up in front of your very eyes, and developing a relationship with them is something very special and wonderful. My sister had children at a young age and went through a time where she felt like life had passed her by, but now that her daughters are grown and capable of looking after themselves, she has her freedom again, she's still relatively young, has her daughters to enjoy that freedom with and she's just having a ball!! I myself have two kids and I love it! In the end all your friends mean nothing compared to your children!! They'll come and go from your life, but your kids will always be there for you.
  • No one can make you do anything to your body,if you want the baby have it.Will the dude be in your life most likely not.That's a chance that your have to take.
  • I don't think you are pregnant. I think you are a pro-life advocate who is trying to make a statement. Pregnant teen-agers don't phrase questions the way you did. You posted a question that you knew would stir up varied responses and then you rewarded the ones that supported your pre-existant opinion by pretending to learn from them.
  • There is real living life inside your stomach. this living life did not ask to be there. you made that choice. Now, the supossedly father, wants you to have an abortion? the father is thinking of himself and not you or the baby. you are the one to make this decision, if you two are not married. Here are some things to consider. can you afford to take care of a child? what is your age? will the father help you take care of the baby or will he skip town, like so many do? if you have an abortion, are you ready to accept the possible psychological effects that abortions can bring? Weigh all the facts. on a piece of paper, write down the good points and the bad points of having the baby versus an abortion. Tough choice here. Just remember, you are making a choice for yourself and another person that cannot speak for themself.........the baby.
  • I can't seem to "comment on this answer" for some reason,(my computer won't let me) but I'm adding a comment to "Valparaiso" and "Sarita1's" discussion - based on Sarita1's answer to the question. I too, am adopted, and I must say I agree with Sarita totally. There is no question anonymous has to decide for herself without making a choice to please her father. (DO NOT ALLOW HIM TO PRESSURE YOU - YOUR LIFE, YOU MAKE UP YOUR RULES NO MATTER HOW OLD YOU ARE WHEN IT COMES TO SOMETHING SO LIFE CHANGING) Not to mention, I feel, he has NO IDEA (nor will he ever) what being in that situation feels like - actually FEELS like. I believe, like Sarita1, that all options should be thouroughly pondered, even being adopted as I was, even abortion. Its hard to believe that adoptees would consider that option, and not that I would have rather been aborted, but the hole in my heart is there daily, and I know wherever my mom is - she has a matching one. Consider everything and know that when YOU decide, when you sit with it in silence and OWN YOUR decision, WHATEVER IT IS IT IS RIGHT. Don't ever let anyone tell you different, no matter who they are - as long as its YOURS, you've made the right choice. Good luck honey, you're so brave to think it through and ask for help.
  • you still have time to consult doctors and other clinic stuff related to it pregnacy control and stuff, but it's quite simple: see, if you think you're most likely to regret getting an abortion, don't do it unless it reaches some point that you'll have to, as in for your own health.
  • Who comes first, the baby, your boyfriend or yourself? you are now going to make a decision for a baby, that cannot defend itself. you control the baby's future and its life. Naturally your boyfriend wants you to have an abortion. he does not want to be responsible for your or the baby. Again, who comes first?
  • Talk to someone your age who has gone through the same problem, they may help you find the decision you seek
  • Don't let anyone make this decision for you, you have to make it yourself. It's your body, it's going to be coming from you, and you need to decide if your ready. Don't do anything you will regret either. Good luck and I hope you do what's good for you!
  • abort your pathetic boyfriend and keep the baby :) if there will be one sure person who will stay with you, its your offprings not your boyfriend or anyone..
  • A wise sage told me once about making decisions regarding children; he said to always ask, "Whose needs are being met?" It seems that many today consider their own needs paramount. Rarely are the needs of the child considered seriously. You are in a difficult position, to be sure. Recognise that you will live with this the rest of your life. Do you want the inevitable grief from destroying the life of a child you helped create? Can you think ahead far enough to imagine a happy child somewhere, living a life of promise? Adoption has many advocates and naysayers. But ask any adoptee if they would gladly relinquish that life, and I doubt you will find any that readily agree. Who can say that the life you carry within your womb will not one day advance the cure for cancer, or save a life, or simply have children of their own and live out a good life? Who are any of us to deny another that basic tenet? I urge you to prayerfully and thoughtfully consider before you act. For you it may well boil down to convenience versus inconvenience, as it does the majority in your situation. But for the littlest of ones, it is a matter of life and death.
  • i agree with mr Mc Clister that children are a big deal and you should do what you feel is right and not let anyone pressure you into anything. BUT i do believe you may always regret having an abortion but you will never regret having a child
  • I'm in the exact same dilema now, I don't believe in abortion unless for circumstancts of birth defects or for reasons of rape. My partner is trying to pressure me at this stage to abort, I have 1 child (6yo) from a previous relationship & he has 2 from previous (6yo & 20yo), we are in our 30's & although neither of us myself included wanted more children, it has happened & I have accepted the fact that I am to be a mother all over again. I know that if I was to terminate I would resent him to no ends & carry the guilt & regret with me always, on the other hand though as it stands right now he is the one resenting me. As I type this I find myself more assured in standing firm with my decision to carry this child regardless of his feelings, I need to follow my heart & do what is right by me.
  • If you were five weeks more than four weeks ago, you are getting close to the time when a decision has to be made. I agree with everyone who said you should make this decision yourself, and not let anyone pressure you into adoption, abortion, or keeping the infant yourself. However, I *do* think you should carefully consider what the (man? boy?) who started this pregnancy thinks. It is your body, and it is your life, and it is your decision -- but think carefully about how whatever you do will change his life, too. Legally, unless the child is adopted, he HAS to pay child support, or his parents have to pay it for him if he's under 18 until he turns 18. After 18, he must pay it himself. Since you talk about telling your mom, I assume you're both pre-college; trying to raise an infant now would almost certainly mean that both of you would have to give up on college, and THAT would mean that you two would be trying to support this child on whatever you can earn without it. Child support always goes to 18, and usually through college, too, so this (man? boy?) will have a twenty-year financial obligation, and you will have to interact with him every month for all of those years. Emotionally, if this pregnancy produces a child, it means he will always have a child somewhere, maybe a child he isn't allowed to see, and that any children he has later in life with the woman he eventually marries will have a mysterious, or even unknown, half-sibling. This part is true of you, too. You are the chooser. He can't force you. But since you started this together, you should give his feelings serious weight. Whatever your decision is, you'll both live with it the rest of your lives. You're not choosing just for yourself, or just for yourself and the fetus. You're also choosing for him, for his family, for your family, and for the children you may have in the future. You're making a choice that will affect your future husband, and this man's future wife. I'm not trying to be gloomy; I'm trying to give you a sense of long-term perspective, and of some of the emotional and financial issues that might not have gotten covered in other answers. My strongest sympathy on your difficulties.
  • I raised a child without a father and I have aborted a child without a father. I can say that each day is given more joy because of my son and no joy has ever come from killing my child. This is a tough choice and one that will follow you for the rest of your life, whichever you decide. Talk with friends, family, read books, keep asking questions on AB. You must be at peace with your choice when you make it and not feel pressured or rushed or you will forever be haunted.
  • Well I too was faced with the same decision about keeping the child... to me the baby was alive and i couldnt hurt it.... So I kept the child.. and told him if he wanted to be around her he could but if not i wouldnt get him for child support or anything... That i didnt need him... well we stayed together and fought alot... long story short.. my daughter is 19 months old and i dont know whered i'd be with out her.... Who needs that loser.. You need to think long and hard about this dont let him make it for you,,,,
  • Being totally unbiased if your first thought when pressured into making the abortion is no then go with that. Totally biased position: Don't get an abortion. It has so many bad ripple effects.
  • DONT GET AN ABORTION - it's your choice not his! it's killing a life - if it's that you dont want the baby then fine - you can just give it up for adoption - there are plenty of couples out there who really want to tart a family but cant for fertility reasons. but dont kill your baby - it's not your child's fault you were stupid enough not to use a condom - i know this sounds harsh :) :)
  • My advice to you is. Don't ever be alone with the father of this baby. Last summer in my community a 16 year old girl told her 21 year old boyfriend that she was pregnant and she was found two weeks later dead with her head caved in. He did it with a baseball bat. Everyone thinks that she told him that she would keep the baby and he was upset and enraged and killed her. She is dead and the 21 year old is going to jail for a long time. http://missing.puellula.com/Memoriam/Ebron.html
  • I would recommend getting an abortion if this is an extreme case, i.e. you & your family can't afford to care for a child, you are taking a drug/medication that may harm the child, etc. However, if it is not an extreme case I would advise you choose what you think is right, without regard of what the father wants you to do. Also do not get an abortion if you are in a poor mental or physical state, as abortion can have a damaging mental and/or physical effect on a female.
  • First thing you should ask yourself is if you have an abortion is could you live with that decision for the rest of your life,second now days getting pregant should not be an accident with the birth control options that are available. third if you decide you don't want to keep the baby, why don't you consider addoption. After all there are thousands of people in the world that desperatly want children that can't have them, I should know, my husband's one of them. Just remember it's a choice for YOU to make not your boyfriends, men come and go, children are forever.
  • If you are asking this question you already have your answer you obviously have doubts go with your gut it wont steer you wrong. You dont want to have to live with guilt for the rest of your life.
  • If the father didnt want a child maybe he should have thought about that before he had sex with you. You have that baby and be the best mom you can be. Dont go threw life Wondering what the child would have been like.
  • It is your choice.If you want to keep him/her, do.if you feel your not ready, then it is a your own moral preference on the situation as to what to do.there are other options other than abortion.just dont be pressured into it. I am a male.my girlfreind had an unplanned pregnancy when i was in my last year in school. I thought it was the end of the world.Life was extremely tough for a couple of years.But now i see my little girl as a blessing.I thank god for her everynight.Even though i am not with the mother(we are freinds)our little girl is growing up remarkably.She brings so much joy and happiness now its amazing. The first couple of years are very tough though.
  • if you are uncomfortable about getting an abortion DON'T. you will have to live with whatever you decide, he will not. its up to you.
  • You should take your time and do what YOU need to do. Don't be rushed or pushed into something you may regret. Good Luck.
  • That decision is totally up to you. If you really feel you want the baby, then don't listen to anyone else. DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT! When I found out I was pregnant, I wasn't sure if I wanted to keep it, but I did and now my baby is the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm so thankful for her everyday. If you have the abortion, you'll never know what you're missing, which isn't always a bad thing. However, if you decide to keep the baby, then I guarantee you won't regret it! Goodluck.
  • My opinion is that if you have an abortion, you will wind up regretting it. Your baby is a human being that -- if not killed -- will be born, just as you were. No one but God has the right to snuff out a life. Give it up for adoption as there are plenty of families out there looking to adore a newborn baby. Your baby deserves a chance. Personally? I would send the father to you know where! Let it be on his conscience that he didn't want his child - what a loser! Good luck hun.
  • You decide. It's your child. If you want this baby, keep it. Do not be afraid to stand up to the father. It's your life and you need to take control.
  • You might want to consider adoption or foster care if you don't feel ready to care for a baby. Than when you feel ready you could file to get the baby back.
  • If your not sure, Then I think you would regret doing it for the rest of your life
  • If your not sure, Then I think you would regret doing it for the rest of your life
  • do what you want its your body and it not his chose you should decide what you wanna do not what he wants to do.......try and make a decision you wont regret from j.girl
  • You can't be pushed into making this decision. Your partner should respect that. I was in a similar situation a fw years ago. I dealt with it by taking some time out from the world to make my own choices. 2 years later and my little girl is beautiful, she's made my life complete. It's up to you :)
  • I think you cannot let anyone influence your final choice but you. Remeber a child is a child permantley. If you do not wan't to abort, but don't want the child, consider adoption. :)
  • WARNING: DON'T view THE LINK BELOW if you don't want... It's Graphic... I don't want to offend, but I can't seem to find a site that doesn't show at least some pictures... This might help out giving you some info about abortion types and stuff... http://www.lifesite.net/abortiontypes/ I am against abortion, persoanlly for myself I'd never get it. BUT I respect EVERYONE Decision/Opinion. All I have to say, is go with your heart. What you feel is right for yourself. He can't make you do anything you don't want to...
  • Oh my...tell him to shut up, i'm sorry but that is so cruel on his part. That is your decision, you are the one carrying the baby. Some men don't realize the connection you already have, it's hard to grasp the fact that you are already connected to the baby growing inside of you. Please don't do what he wants and do what you think is best for you and your babies life. I hope you do give it life, you've been blessed with this child, and not everyone gets the opportunity. I am really anti abortion, as i think it is no ones decision what baby comes into the world and what baby does (There is the odd exception like a rape victim that i do agree with). But of course it is just my opinion and yours matters more as it is your own lives together. Take your time, and if you think you are going to regret you can always have it and if you need to give it up for adoption, at least you know it will have a life. I hope this didn't offend you at all, it is just my honest opinion. Good luck hun.
  • follow your heart and go with what is best for you evne if the father does not want you to have the baby it may be a blessing for you.
  • thinj it through hunny,... its ur baby and ur body too
  • Well let me tell you this there are millions of people who want to ahve babies but cant and they've been trying for years now...so maybe that'll give you something to think about...and i also think that you should keep the baby...
  • right the father wants you to get an abortion yeah ?? so he has told you what he wants now it is your turn to decide no one can or should force you into something that is going to stick with you for the rest of your life think things thru yourself,, i have been thru this i had just had a child caught on again when my child 2 n half months old after alot of thinking i chose to have a termination i was living in a bed sit with one newborn child i was scared me an the babys dad was on the verge of splitting i had no one to help with my child no income as such and alot of other things that was going on and i knew that it would be best to have a termination. i didnt think either physically emotionally or money wise that id cope having another child, but honestly what ever you decide its got to be what is right for you its not easy my child is now 4 year old oh and its great a real joy to be around but i always wonder about the other one aswel and what would have happened if id have gone thru with things yes i do regret doing it but i know that i made the right choice in life for myself do what you feel best dont let yourself be pressured
  • It soundz like u want the baby so keep it screw him n not literally :( tsk tsk shldve used protection!!
  • How old are you, first of all? I am 17, and at this point in time, I know what I would do if I were in your situation. I would keep MY baby and MY pride and not let anyone tell me how to live my life. Sometimes life happens out of order.
  • Listen to your heart
  • My answer has nothing to do with abortion/pregnancy but it does has to do with respect. If the father of the child really loves you, he will respect your answer as well, so instead of him making the decision for you to get an abortion, he should at least agree with what you think before a decision is clear. Seems to me like he doesn't want any responsibility for the child. I am not here to say abortion is good OR bad for you. My take is, if he loves you, and stays there for you, he should share with your advice also. If he doesn't even care, then yes, go for the abortion, since it's better to not have a child than have a fatherless child. Hope this helps!
  • i was in your exact position. i literally wrote out the pros and cons of abortion, adoption and having the baby. i knew in my heart the entire time that i was going to keep it, i just wasn't sure it that was such a good idea being 17 and all. no matter what you do, you are always going to think, where would my life be if i did this or that. i still think about how id be in college living the party life if i didn't have my son. but i will NEVER regret having him. i however would have most definatly regretted aborting him or adopting him (open or not)... this i guess in my eyes was the hardest road to take, having him, but i know through and through it was the RIGHT one for me.
  • You will regret it for the rest of your life.
  • It's not for him do decide. Whatever you do, make sure you can do it in good conscience. There's also 2 other factors to avoid, the pro life and pro abortion (often disguised as pro-choice) What you want to think about is how do YOU feel about this pregnancy.
  • This is your decision. Have the baby. If you decide to keep the baby, there are many options and places to help you raise the baby and help you have a decent life. If you choose not to keep the baby, you can give her/him to a family who needs one. Talk to your pastor or a qualified counselor for guidance before you make a decision that will-not can-change your life.
  • If you don't think its the right thing to do then don't do it.You shouldn't let anyone presser you into anything.Look in your heart and decide from there the way you feel is most important.But having a baby is one of the greatest gifts in the world.
  • Only do what you think you should!;>
  • Only do what you think you should!;>
  • All i have to say, that it's great for women to have a choice in regards to this matter. Consider your choices like, Do you want this child? Do you have support? Are you ficancially stable? It's not going to be an easy decision. You didn't include your age... Don't do just because he's pressuring you, do it because you want to.
  • My dear are you still alive? If your answer is 'yes' then it means that your mother did not abort you ,but she gave you life isn't it? Don't have an abortion because if you do you might find that in 8yrs time you want to have a baby and you'll be told that you can no longer have babies and your current boyfriend has moved on with his life and you are left with the burden and pain of not having kids. THINK ABOUT THIS CAREFULLY.
  • Getting pressured to end the life of a baby your carrying is so wrong... The dumb guy shoulda worn a condom when get gave you loving... Anyway.... I suggest you have the baby but put the child up for adoption instead of keeping & raising him or her... abortion isnt always the best choice... Keep your baby only if you can support him or her & yourself... Dont rely on the asshole father it sounds like he is a VERY stupid guy!
  • Go to planned parenthood. They will give you information on all of your options as well as the name of a counselor to help you make the decision that is right for you. Do not continue the pregnancy or terminate the pregnancy because of what others tell you is the best choice. If you continue the pregnancy do not keep the baby or give the baby up for adoption because of what others tell you is the best choice. Only you can make this decision, but a pregnancy choices counselor can help you detirmine what is the best choice for you.
  • Do not let this man convince you to get an abortion. This baby is growing inside of you, and this baby is a life and is very precious. When you see that baby, it's going to bring you joy. I would suggest you get away from this man if he cannot except this fact. He needs to consider your feelings, and understand that he made this baby to.
  • Just remember if you bring a life into the world it's a lifelong responsibility on your part as the mother. Mama's baby daddy's...maybe around to assist so it's all on you. You already know what you want to do. Make the right decision for you because ultimately you are the one who has to live with it.
  • i plead and beg you NOT to get an abortion thats one more life you are killing when he or she is born and you see her smiling face youll knoe you made the right desision
  • never get abortion
  • HAVING AN ABORTION HAS ITS UP AND DOWNS. WHATEVER YOU DO DONT WAIT UNTILL YOU HAVE TO HAVE A PERTIAL-BIRTH ABORTION. THAT IS WHEN THEY WILL STICK A ROD INTO YOUR VAGINA INTO THE BABYS BRAIN AND KILL IT. HAVE YOU THOUGHT OF PUTTING IT UP FOR ADOPTION? YOU CAN KEEP YOU FILES SEALED SO THE KID CANT FIND OR CONTACT YOU LATER IN LIFE.
  • How old are you? If you have your bachelors degree right now, you could probably do part time work and try to live with a friend or in your own apartment so you can take care of your baby. But to have abortion will make you always regret it. You'll always feel this little pain inside that won't go away. Try to finish high-school or college and get a part time job, and you should be able to take care of your baby.
  • I had gotten pregnant when I was 17 and I had to make the decision to have my baby aborted. Now, almost 7 years later, I still feel the loss. I know I made the right choice but it still hurts. Sometimes doing the right thing hurts. It's what's in the best interest of the baby. Can this baby be born without a doubt that it will be taken care of under any and all circumstances without any resentment to the child? Do what's best for the baby and you.
  • Don't let anyone tell you what to do especially a MAN lol...to me? abortion is totally wrong you laid down you got pregnant it's not the babys fault and no one should take a childs life if you have it and you don't wanna raise it put it up for adoption at least it will have chance! just thank about it all :-)
  • It is your prenancy not his and you should look at the situation in another light when the baby is born he may have a totally different attitude.(positive one)He would look at you as a strong woman for putting your foot down. And another thing if you was blessed with this child you shouldn't abort it to please the man because men come a dime a dozen but you may have the opportunity to be pregnant once. I wouldn't want a man that would want to abort his blessing any way.
  • Next time, think ahead of time. If you want a kid, then make sure that you're ready for it. to handle the long hard nights of feeding, and going everywhere with the baby... but you will have the joy of teaching your child, watching him/her grow, and if you sucuessfully teach the kid, then you feel good... at least i presume you will... I'm only 12 after all... It's all up to you... Think before you act...
  • I am around the same amount of time as you. I am also somewhat in the same situation. Though, the father told me "It is going to be very hard to have the baby in our current situation, though I know we could get support, though we would never be able to live our own life. Now, you have the choice of either keeping it, adoption, or abortion. I am not going to force either one on you, but you need to make the choice." He even got me to think of possible names if I choose to have the baby. So, I am very lucky. I have not told my friends, cause I know some of them are like the people here on this entry. I knew that if I told my friends, I would lose them. I have told some friends, but only those that I know would not judge me based on their beliefs. I have not even told my family, nor the father's family, because I know that some will be devistated, some will be angry that I got into the situation, and some will actually be happy to have another member to the family, and some would try to take away my freedom. I have had a person tell me that it is not my choice whether I have a child or not. I had to think long and hard of my decision. I had to think what I thought was best for me, and what is best for the child. My choice, was to ask my doctor about an abortion. The choice is still not easy for me. If you asked me when I was young if I would do this, I would have probably said no. Though, at the same time I would also say that I would never have children. I got some information from my doctor. I also did research online. Down where I am, there are two abortion clinics. She only gets 4 patients a year from them, when they do about 30 abortions a day. So, the clinic that she suggested do know what they are doing. What is basically done during the early weeks is they might give you a pill to take, which if successful, will cause a miscarriage. Though, the miscarriage could be unsuccessful. Abortions are not always as evil as people want to make them seem. Some people will tell you most of them are from quacks that perform them in the streets and won't care what happens after. Yes, there are underground abortion clinics that do that because of people who force their beliefs on others, and so they use people's despiration as a tool to get big money. Though there are legal clinics that are kept very clean, even make appointments for you to come for follow up visits even after the abortion so that way they can see if everything is fine and you can continue to have children if you choose to in the future. I say that you should take everyone's opinion of what you should do as just that, an opinion. Many people are closed minded for one side or the other. Many are open minded and will tell you that it is your choice. Never let other people make your choices for you. When they do that, then you feel like a puppet being pulled by strings. I think that you should look for research on all the possible choices, just sit down and read them all, talk to your doctor about your choice and ask for their opinion and the path you must take for those options. Everyone here is not the one that must carry the child for nine months and suffer. So, just do what you feel is right for you. I wish you much like, no matter what course of action you choose.
  • Dont let anyone pressure you into this kind of life changing decision. If you trust your family, ask for their help and guidance. If worse ABSOLUTELY comes to worse, give the child up for adoption. I have seen MANY women do this, and remain close friends with the adopting parents, thus enabling a glimpse into the child's life, and a relationship with the child similar to being an aunt, or god parent.
  • If you are feeling pressured into making a decison as permanant as this, and you are afraid that you are going to regret it, then please DO NOT DO IT!!!! Abortion is forever, and it is something you can not take back. I think if you are having second thoughts about it, then it is definately something that you should not do. If you have the baby, just remember, as scary as it may seem, things always have a way of working themselves out.
  • Please don't be hasty, think of all aspects, he SHOULD NOT be telling you to have an abortion, for one I'd say that says a lot about him and his respect for you, your feelings and your needs. If you decide to continue with the pregnancy and he doesn't stick around then it's no loss and you've had a lucky escape, he would have shown his true colours, there's no future in that kind of relationship. However if you do as he requests, you are the one (being the female)that's left with the guilt, regret and what ifs for the rest of your life, certain dates will become hard to deal with (this also applies for women who have miscarried). Personally, if there is even one bit of you questioning the decision, I'd say don't abort. You can manage with a baby and wouldn't be on your own for long, a decent guy who will take on anothers baby will come along (not one that doesn't want its own). Please don't rush or be falsed into anything. I'd like to hear how you are and what your future is looking like, if so please go back to this and comment at anytime, even if you need to ask anything. Good luck, be strong.
  • I've just answered your question regarding being 5 weeks pregnant because it was at the top of my questions list, but I've just noticed that you asked this question back in December! sorry. Hope you're well.
  • I can't really say much because I am not an adult, but I just happened to see your question and I just want to be of some help to you. What you do is your decision, but please don't get an abortion. It is murder. For the sake of that baby's life. I hope that this is helpful. -In the Master's service. Thank you and God bless you!
  • Pray my dear....just pray. Open your heart to the answer. You are not alone, even if the father of your child is not there. We can all make judgements when we are not faced with your decision. All I know is that you are NOT alone, and if you choose to keep your child, it may be hard, but you can do it. Pray, and listen.
  • Been through this before. Guy pressured for a abortion but so much stress form that i misscarried. Its your body, your choice. Not his. Obviousily he doesnt care what happens. My sister refused to get a abortion and the guy flew. Now only pays child support docked from pay and doesnt want to see the kid. If you want the kid or want it for adoption, do it. If you want a abortion, thats your choice. Sorry to be discret but all those 3 options have some sort of regret. Adoption you can have open or closed case, abortion who knows what that child could have done or been. Keeping it well youre looking at what am i missing out on. That is if you think about it. I like to look at the big picture. Mine began with im to young for a kid and this guys is being a dick i dont like anymore.
  • The mainstream media does a huge disservice to women by not informing them of the serious psychological and physical problems that can occur as a result of abortion. Not to mention the unregulated abortion clinics, i.e. they may not be up to normal health codes. This is all aside from the moral issue which is, that abortion is the taking of a life...forever. God will honor your decision to choose life by helping you to find a job, get a babysitter, have the money that you need, and you will find the right man. Don't believe the lie that says, "You will never find a job or a man, or have the things you want, if you have this baby." They are lies. God is truth and He will help you in every way. The medical truth is that you will be depressed if you are likely to be depressed and filled with regret if you do. You are more likely to miscarry future pregnancies, and have other female issues if you have an abortion. Women can and have died from having abortions. Some doctors sell the body parts from miscarriages, for money. Your baby will experience pain. A sodium chloride solution is used, that burns the baby. The baby's heart begins to beat at around 18 days after conception. The central nervous system is developed within the first trimester, so that pain can be felt. If it is after the first trimester, your baby will come out in pieces. I have seen actual pictures from an abortion. If it is in the last trimester it is called partial-birth abortion. This means that the baby is fully delivered out of the vagina except for the head. A sharp object is then thrust into the back of the scalp and the brain is vacuumed out. If you think I am lying, look it up on the internet. God loves you and He loves the life inside you. Ask Him for His help and guidance in this decision and see the miracles that happen. If you are not able to care for the baby, please, please, give it up for adoption. Every week in every paper in America in the classified section, prospective parents place ads looking for girls giving babies up for adoption. Call some. Check them out. But please, do not have an abortion.
  • DO NOT GET IT. dont let him make you get it he will not have to deal with it as much as you will. It is your baby and your body and you have to make the decsion on a sound mind and be absoulty sure about your dision. I would tell him no if you are having so mnay doubts now. Because if you decide to get it and you are not sure aftwards you are going to have so many doubts and you will be guilt ridden and it may not go away. IF U HAVE DOUBTS DONT DO IT. IF you guys both dont want the baby dont kill the baby put it up for adoption least then the baby will have a chance to live and live with a good family if you can not provide one. If you are doing bc he does not want the baby just keep the baby he may come around and if not then be a single mother there are programs the you can get finacial help. GOOD LUCK
  • There are center's out there that will give free counceling and information. You can check in your local phone book to find one near you. As an example the one in my town is called the Burleson Pregnacy Aid Center.

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