ANSWERS: 100
  • Because he probably doesn't seem like a jerk to her. He probably only seems like a jerk to you because he's competition, and she prefers him over you. And sometimes women make bad decisions, as do men, but I suppose you've got to let her figure that out for herself. If the guy she likes really is a jerk, then hopefully when she realises that, she'll go with the nice guy, if he's still around...
  • She prefers the jerk because he doesn't act like a puppy dog and a wuss, unlike "nice" guys. He's also a challenge to her. He's typically confident and doesn't really care what she thinks of him, making him in control of the relationship, which is what women prefer.
  • A lot of times the jerk is much more of a charmer and sweet talker--makes it easier for a woman to fall for him, not realizing he's lying.
  • Not all of us do. This is something that women grow out of, just as men grow out of the fascination with physical attractiveness only. Usually we (women and men) grow out of it. I went out with a lot of jerks. Jerks will come up to you and ask you out. The nice guys usually are more shy. The jerks brag about themselves, and when we are young, we are naive enough to believe what they say. We are looking for a guy that everyone else thinks is cool...for image. Women aren't so different from men.
  • I think it's sad when women have the oppertunity to have the nice guy, and choose the jerk. I wish I had the oppertunity of the nice guy, but every man in my life (Yes, EVERY MAN, including family and friends) is a jerk, and they hurt me all the time. I grew up around jerks, and seem to only attract jerks. Most jerks are very nice at the beginning, but get complacent. They hurt and hurt and hurt, but it's very hard to stop. But the worst thing is, you can bet your arse you'll probably fall for it again...
  • through lifes leasons, the boy next door, definately.
  • love bad boys married a good boy...I am smart!
  • I think bad boys.
  • as a teen...a bad boy is appealing..it's good to get that out of your system young...cause the older you get usually the bad boys will only break your heart...and you will be left with a broken heart
  • Im still bad.... good is far too much work
  • badbadbad.
  • Bad boys. But only the ones who are sweet when it's just the two of you.
  • Good boys who laugh a lot and don't take themselves too seriously.
  • those that do prefer the bad guys are out for the excitement and the unknown the unpredictable where as the nice guy is very typical u know what his going to be like what his into and there isnt much mystery to him. bad guys can make a chic feel like they are breaking free from the restraints thats holding them and can be refreshing to do different things that they wont normally do. however i prefer my men nice...ahhaah which isnt to say the bad boy rough guy cant be nice to me.....its always great to have some sort of mystery and excitment in a relationship keeps the passion going but i want a mant hat treats me with respect and has compassion too.
  • Well I don't like 'jerks', but I would guess that it is interpreted that the so-called jerks are unpredictable and hence their is a little more excitement (for lack of a better word). A relationship that is too predictable can get stale or boring. But there are certainly nice guys that can still be unpredictable, and I think that's the winning combination. That's just my 2c
  • The jerk is more racy or exciting to a female. A nice guy is just that, NICE. He colors inside the lines and doesn't break the rules. The jerk appeals to younger women, but its the nice guy who wins in the end. After years and years of mistreatment by the jerk, they older more experienced woman will flock to the nice guy. This obviously isn't the case in all situations, but it occurs alot.
  • I certainly do not prefer a jerk and I am sure most of my friends feel the same. I do have a sister that seems to pick jerks all the time. All nice guys do not come last. Some guys that may seem like a tough guy or jerk to others, may actually treat you very nicely. You cannot always read a book by its cover.
  • Not really bad boys as much as not the shy type. High Self esteem. It just so happens those are bad boys most the time
  • An article on MSN came out this week reporting the "Pill Goggles" effect; the hormones in birth-control pills can affect the way women view men. Those on the pill were more likely to select pictures of men with very strong, manly features; these features are the result of a lot of natural testosterone, which also results (more often than not) in "bad boys". The down side of this is that these testosterone-driven bad boys are also more likely to be violent, aggressive, and unfaithful.
  • Ok I understand what Jenniferx said so I agree. But further I think that I was only attracted to the boy that is bad when I was a child and immature.
  • Not all women would do that. Looks are not all that is important to everyone.
  • I don't think it's the looks it's the attitude, the whole 'bad boy' thing. "Girls just wanna have fun" and the bad boys are more fun. Plus it's human nature to take what you have/can get for granted and want what you can't have, so if they know they can have you they'll start looking to see if they can do 'better.' - one man's opinion
  • The more difficult the chase, the more valuable the prize?
  • why do men want a lady in the street and a freak in the sheets! I think nice guys don t portray the "mad mad monkey sex" additude that some women like. even though the nice quiet guys are sometimes the wildest in bed. ..
  • The biggest difference I see in situations like you describe, a sweet, sincere guy vs. hot jerk, is self-confidence. The nicest guy sometimes does not catch a woman's eye because they don't have confidence in themselves, and that is a veeery sexy trait. And let's face it, some women don't feel like they deserve a 'nice' guy. I'm married to a very nice man whom I've done my very best to run off... *sigh* Not that I don't think he's hot ;)
  • I think that girls are attracted to guys who are confident...the hot "jerk" is usually comfortable with himself so she feels more comfortable with him. That's how i see it...
  • i would never reject a sweet guy for a jerk.
  • Because they're little girls who are not mature enough to know any better, or grown women who don't believe they deserve any better.
  • My wife says that it is because girls like to "mold" their man, and the rougher start the better. Then they grow up and go for the sensible, confident polite man over the bad boy. Personally, I think it's because women are prewired to like the sexy, confident (and rude) risk takers, when they are at a younger age. They are inherently "nuttier than a pet squirrel". I remember feeling the same confusion you have now - So much so that it actually offends me when my wife or her friends say "what a nice guy" I am. They have no idea.
  • Bad boys is everyones answer, and i agree. Girls like the excitement on not knowing whats going to happen next, and they like to feel protected by someone that can do the job.
  • Bad boys that have a good side to them...
  • Good boys! I have had enough of the bad boys to last me a lifetime.
  • Honestly ... Bad Boys. I like knowing that the man I am with is able to protect me and keep me safe - emotionally, mentally and physically. That's why I also prefer tall, larger males. They're smokin' hot.
  • Men for me.
  • Good men!
  • Good boys who can be bad.
  • Good boy / Bad boy. A little of both. Someone who is strong, emotionally, strong physically to protect me and keep me safe. I had too many bad, bad boys to last me a life time. But, if I could really choose, it would have to be someone who has more good then bad inside of them.
  • I have always fallen for the bad boys! And its always bad! I'm tryin to find a good boy but its kinda hard...
  • A mix! LOL
  • I always liked bad boys growing up but I managed to marry a good boy. It's turned out bad...
  • Because some of us are just idiots! And I think that we get soo used to men treating us like crap that we look for guys like that!
  • Any woman who does that is a fool. There are many others of us who say what we mean. I don't want a guy to be a push over, that's for sure, he has to stand on his own two feet. In other words he has to want me, not need me and if anything that could be how, an "overly" sweet guy seems to appear. As needy. But anyone who switches from that to a jerk does not really want a serious relationship anyway, or has been mistreated in the past and does not know what a good relationship is. My boyfriend is a sweet sincere guy. I would never trade him for anything. But he didn't gush over me before we were dating, that is what can be creepy (as I have had guys who have had a crush on me before do).
  • good boys with an "edge"! Ha ha ha!! I don't like or need trouble-makers but a little "edge" is exhilerating!!
  • Not all women are like that. I'm definitely with the nice guy now. =)
  • I've seenthe same question asked about guys picking the wrong gals. The truth is we tend to select those who reflect how we feel about ourselves. So, if you feel good about yourself, you will select a partner who reflects that feeling. And, if you have trouble liking yourself, you will select a partner who is difficult.
  • because of murphys law. Everything that can go wrong, WILL go wrong. just keep this in mind, ad you will never go wrong, cause nothing can go wrong. this also applies to chooseing.
  • Ever heard the song, "Witchy Woman"? Find the song and listen to the words. You may learn something.
  • not every woman is like this. It does however seem that is the case. Different women go with guys like that for different reasons. for some they find bad boys exciting. For others they feel they don't deserve a decent guy. Yet for others it is because most of the nice decent guys are not their idea of hot and sexy and that is more important to them than how they are treated. I was lucky with my sweetheart. She was very pretty and could have had alot of men but she chose me because she was one of the ones who focused more on how a guy treats her than what they look like. I had the opportunity to be loved unconditionally by her for nearly 2 years and we almost got married. I miss her dearly and my heart aches for my loss. I know that I will never find another like her but hopefully one day I will find one with alot of her qualities.
  • Confident, strong women always go for the nice guy. Women who put up with a man who treats them with disrespect don't really believe they deserve respect, because of esteem problems or guilt or some other reason. Also, a lot of women can't handle being alone, so they'll put up with some jerk until the nice guy comes along - or they'll stay with the jerk and think they can turn him into a nice guy. It's more complex than that, but I think that gets to the heart of it.
  • i married the nice guy.
  • Hey! Not ALL women go for the bad guys... I went through that as more of a faze than any kind of real love... Now I'm more into finding someone who can understand me (that's enough of a challenge)!!!! I like guys that respect me, and heck, they're definitely more appealing than the guys that don't!!!!
  • Bad boys. Because I like a challenge. I like working hard to get something. The bad ones are always the ones we want more, whether we admit it or not.
  • I don't like 'bad boys'. What's to like? IF they are bad, what's to stop them being bad to me or to their parents or to animals? Why should they be nice? How good company can they be for a lifetime? Is a bad person someone I would like to spend a lot of time with? Not for me. I want someone who treats people with great respect. Someone who is kind and has integrity and self-worth. Someone who is courteous and generous to others. SOmeone who doesn't hurt people deliberately, someone who is humble and shows empathy, who can say they are sorry and mean it. Those are things "bad boys" don't do. I don't need that kind of challenge
  • I like nice people, what they are on the surface is not always what they are inside. Some people that look like bad boys are just soft and kind inside. I like polite kind people with a great sense of humour and personality to match. Thoughtfulness is a great factor.
  • i used to be attracted to bad guys, but i think good guys are special to find. either way be yourself.
  • I like my faithful and loving husband of 21 years.
  • I'm attracted initially to bad boys, but after having been with a certain number of them, they're getting old. I will settle down with the guy next door.
  • The good guy next door is sure to win my heart. These boys make my heart melt! :)
  • thats not always true i married a nice guy.
  • Not always true..I looooove nice guys. They are cutie patooties :)
  • Because they can't live alone. Look the jerk guy hurts them in certain ways...he lies, doesn't care about their feelings sleeps around. I know he does the most damage but they don't care about the jerk. They can't love him. I was dating this nice guy and I couldn't sleep with anyone else even if he never told me we were exclusive. Jerks are sleeze you only went to them in desperation and lonliness. The nice guy hurts women too but the nice guy is much better than the jerk. He won't kill you. I think the nice guy hurts women the most. He doesn't always give her affection but he'll pay for everything. Sometimes she won't even know that he loves her because he never says anything. Everything he talks about is unrelated to him and then he wants to say women are afraid of commitment pfft. No buddy you're the one who's afraid of intimacy.
  • because he appears more confident than the nice guy. she probably doesn't like the "jerk" part about him, but she does like the confidence. women go for confident men over anything else!
  • Thankfully, yes yo...:)=(
  • Most women who have matured a bit don't prefer the jerk. It's only those who are immature, who have little real life experience, or who have ... peculiar personalities who prefer the jerks. : )
  • Why do we assume that it's either one or the other??
  • I personally like the nice guy
  • not all women do... i'd deff prefre the nice guy.. some girls are just like extremly shallow and would rather be with jerks just cuase of there looks and the people they hang out which are supposily "cool".. lol me and my boyfriend laugh at girls like that thow.. cause there STUPID.
  • I don't.
  • Because neediness is a turn-off.
  • Because usually 'hot' guys turn out to be jerks in one way or another. ^..^
  • Having had both, I don't.
  • At first glance, yes the 'bum' is more mysterious,we also see it as more vulnerable and the 'mother-to-be' in all women jumps at the idea of 'saving' a soul of taking care. However, that being said, after those 10 seconds, a nice guys as more charm because is a well-rounded person. It takes more time to appreciate a nice guy than to ogle a 'rebel'. Don't give up nice guys! you might not be what we see first, but you are what we really need and want deep down!
  • because they have the drugs
  • This is not a fact. Most NICE girls want nice guys.. apparently, you are meeting the "player" girls. Keep looking... You'll find what's best for you in due time.
  • I dont think they do it on purpose. But Atleast it makes them Appreciate the Nice guys more thereafter.
  • Because it's the jerk that needs the most help?
  • Because it's in a girls nature to try and change the jerk into a nice guy.
  • jerks are more exciting?? haha, i dont know, i just am more attracted to guys who i know are crappy v. guys who would treat me well...
  • we dont its just the jerks pretend to be the nice guy.
  • To put it simply nice guys are boring... Yeah I know it sucks!
  • my s/o is a nice guy but he's mostly just nice to me. i think alot of 'nice guys' maybe dont have much of a back bone and arent as aggressive as other men so girls are less interested. thats only some though
  • I like nice guys! Well I like guys who are nice to girls but dont let people walk all over them either. No mama's boys!
  • Well those that are too nice can be seen as pushovers... Personally, I like niceness (or rather chivalry of sorts/nice to talk to.) But with passion and rebeliousness.
  • I would prefer nice, good guys. The women who like "bad boys" enjoy attention through drama, or the challenge of changing a guy or winning him over.
  • My guy is nice. He stops to help people broke down on the side of the road ALL of the time. We could be going somewhere and he cannot help himself. He goes out of his way to help others but he is not the nice and shy type of guy. He has a bit of roughness to him that I like. He is nice as in he does nice things but he will not let you walk all over him. He is bold, aggressive and a bit rugged but that is the type I like. I do not enjoy the company of the nice and shy guys. I like assertive and confident men. He does not open the door for me.. pull my chair out or anything like that but I trust his judgement, follow his lead proudly and know he will always look out for us. Everyone likes something different. I have friends who WANT a passive guy. .. who want nice, shy and quiet. I do not.
  • They come without risk and without risk they are not in the game.
  • Most Jerk are hot, and i used to always reject the nice, sweet guys, 'coz they were not good looking, i could't stand them, i always dated hot guys, and they were all jerks, used 2 go out with a guy that was so hot, he was the best looking guy in the club, we started going out, he was nice at first, but after a month he started changing, instead of he coming 2 see me, i had 2 travel miles 2 go and see him all the time, he bacame controling, i could not talk 2 any guys coz he was so jeallous, if he saw me talking 2 a guy he accussed me of cheating, he even pushed me once in the night club when he was drunk, and then he told me that he loves me, but i still wouldnt leave him, after 1 1/2 years together my friend took me to his place and i saw him in bed with one of my friends, and that's when he broke my heart and never spoke 2 him again, 1 year after that i kissed a guy that was not "Hot" he is not ugly but he is not built, sexy, not the type of guys i used 2 date, we've been together for almost 4 years now, he proposed we are engaged now, he is the sweetest thing, caring, loving, he knows how to treat a girl, if i ask him 2 get me the star from the sky, he'll go and get it for me, but i don't love him, he is not the Hot guy i want, why cant a guy have everything? be hot and sweet? i always went out with jerks 'coz you want to be proud of what you have, when all the girls look at you with that "HOT" guy everyone which to have, but with my actual boyfriend sometimes i think what people are gonna think about me, with a guy like that. I wish i could just be with any guy but i can't its something inside me that i can't control.
  • I've dated both. And both have their good points and bad points. It's who can take my challenge?
  • give me the good guy next door
  • ive given up on them all, the good guys are boring, and the bad guys cause too much grief and knock confidence
  • =D I think its a bit of both. Though I prefer the good guy..
  • Hmm that depends. In regards to bad boys...not if they're ignorantly arrogant. I love confidence in a guy, being very sure of himself (and on the contrary am turned off by insecurity, although I'm sensitive to it because hey we all have it, but I don't like when it interferes with being able to talk someone). If he's the kinda guy who will go around bad-mouthing a girl because she turned him down, then yuck I hate that; if he's the kind who will look at it and grin, see it as a challenge, then that can be hot. There's always something hot about the bad boy anyway hehe. As for the good guys, they can be interesting as well. Although I must say in this case, I would be attracted to it if I approached it as the more dominant person (think about the fantasy of the young poolboy and the older experienced housewife or something lol, the seduction of an innocent) ;)
  • I understand why you say don't ever lose faith. It has been 6-7 years single now. Debating on just being mean to all girls I meet. Just been told that I will find the one for me for so long it makes me want gouge my eyes out with a hot poker. My mother is a lesbian, and was brought up around women. Was raised to treat women with respect, and that didn't help me with datting them at all. Guess they thought I was a push over, but I am far from it.
  • The confidence is attractive. But if the "nice guy" is the quiet confident guy..I'd much prefer him.
  • More than a few women are turned on by that confidence, even or especially if it is excessive. It ends up in two basic scenarios. The jerk is great for a one nighter and the other might be the girl trying to take a bad guy and break him into who she wants him to be, whipped.
  • This one's easy. It's not a nice guy vs. bad guy thing. If given the option, I'm sure most women would prefer a nice guy. The real battle is between confidence vs. non-confidence. Nice guys rarely have confidence. They tend to shy away from firmly stating their beliefs and opinions, are often quite and passive, rarely go right up to women, and rarely stand up for themselves of their women. Jerks, sad to say, have confidence in abundance. They aren't afraid to approach women, they are very outspoken about their opinions, and they would never let someone step on them. THAT is why women prefer bad boys. If there's a nice guy out there who is confident, asserts his opinion, pats himself on the back and protects himself and the one he loves, he'll be getting laid right now.
  • women like a good challenge, as well as knowing how the man feels about the lady. Looks can be very important, the way a man treats a lady is more important
  • id much prefer the nice guy, just cant find anything but jerks. I think youre grossly outnumbered!
  • It depends on the girl you seek. You sound confused and I understand why. You like to jump to the conclusions, she is nice! Ohhh! She gave you a hug, right? That doesn't mean anything she is just your friend and what does it matter anyway? Honestly? You wasted so much time with this stupid crap. No offense.

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