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  • Pretty darn good if you're a male. Males do risker things than females and often die younger. Joining clubs for singles and mixing with people and singles freely will find you singles. If you don't want any children around, you may be out of luck.
  • Pretty good i hope, you just described me
  • it just takes looking and being open to meeting new people.
  • The same chance as a 20 year old would have a chance to find a partner.
  • I was 47 when I met my wife and she was 51 so the chances were 100% for both of us. :)
  • High! My stepmum met my dad when they were both 48 and they're now married. NEVER GIVE UP!!
  • I would say pretty decent. I was 44 when I married my wife.
  • If this old broad can do it, I'd say the chances are pretty good;)
  • I would have to say slim to none;) Your to set in your ways Thats where I am;)
  • With the divorce rate at something like one in two, I would say there are plenty of single people, a lot of whom having been married are looking for another stable, but better than they previously had, relationship.
  • Since the demographics dictate what happens, I would say the chances are good because at this time most of the population is over 40! The chances for a 20 year old is less because they are in the worst age segment!
  • First of all 40 isn't old; I've seen some handsome guys who were 40+ that I would date if they were available.
  • it's not too late until you die so if you can the fires of romance then have it.
  • You know what? Your chances are excellent!! Don't let anybody tell you any different. I married again at 55 after being alone for 20 years! Yes, he has his ways and I have mine, but "acceptance" is the name of the game. It works! We've been happily married now for nearly 15 years!!
  • Very good. As long as someone has the will, there's a way. The more you look, the better your chances----age is pretty irrelevant, unless you're in your 90s, and even then your chances are still okay. Lol.
  • Good 40 is still young.
  • Di niente, caro! You're welcome, Dear
  • Pretty good....I got divoced at 42 and actually had someone before the final paperwork was done(and no that wasn't the reason for the divorce)
  • For a woman: Not Easy For a man: A lot Easier
  • 1) You are the person who is going to have the most influence on how your chances are because you certainly do not want to find someone who is not appropriate. So forget the statistics. However, if you were a woman, it would certainly be somewhat tougher, except if you accept to date people under your age. 2) "I think it is a good thing that we find it hard to find a relationship when 45+. It means that we aren't dependant on being in a relationship, and aren't willing to waste time with people that we know won't make us want to be with them." "Demographics are the reason why it's so hard to find a relationship when one is middle-aged. Simply speaking, there are fewer fish in the pond. Let's start with a hypothetical population of 100 males and 100 females, all 20 years old. Statistically speaking, 15% of them will be homosexual, so we are down to 85 heterosexual males and 85 heterosexual females. A certain percentage of them won’t want to get married for whatever reason: abuse as children, careers, etc. So let’s knock off 5 males and 5 females for that – so we’re down to 70 each. Now, assume these 70 pair off, start to have children, and build their lives. We know that at least 50% of these marriages will end in divorce, so we are back up to 35 single males and 35 single females as they enter middle age. But there is a big difference now that they are no longer in their 20s. These people are sometimes wiser, and sometimes not. Among this group there will be a high percentage who will never want to get married again. Of those that do want to remarry, a high percentage will bring so much baggage from their first marriage into their second, about 75% of these second marriages will fail. Adding to the problem is that small issues – excessive drinking, drug use, eating, etc. – can spiral out of control as people enter into their middle ages, greatly reducing their chances of finding a partner. Not to mention that some of our original 100 people will die for a variety of reasons – disease, accidents and stuff. By the time our original population reaches the age of, say, 45, only about 10 men and ten women will be physically and emotionally healthy enough to develop a relationship that works. So the odds aren’t good, but they’re much better than winning the lottery." Source and further information: "Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?" http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts5671511.aspx 3) "Availability of partners is a fundamental factor affecting the possibilities and probabilities of intimate behavior between individuals. The disparity in gender ratio with age is well documented. Recent U.S. Census Bureau data report that among unmarried persons between 55 and 64, there are 1.7 women for every man (Fields & Casper, 2001). Over age 64, the figure jumps to 3.1 women per man (Michael, Gagnon, Laumann, & Kolata, 1994). Compounding this demographic imbalance, more women marry or cohabit with older men than with those their own age or younger. The declining male-to-female ratio limits the prospects that postmenopausal women have for finding a sexual partner (Michael et al., 1994)." Source and further information: http://www.athenainstitute.com/sciencelinks/bostonstudy.html 4) "Usenet Personals: Advice for Straights FAQ" http://devbox.mebeam.net/devzone/faqs/personals/straightfaq/part1/index.html 5) "According to a computer model developed by Dr. Peter Todd of the Max Planck Institute for Psychological Research in Munich, looking at a dozen possible mates gives a person enough information to make a rational choice. His conclusion shows that the strategy of assessing 12 potential partners, and then accepting the next person whose "attraction rating" meets the minimum criteria derived from your experience, gives you a 90% chance of settling for someone in the top 10% of people you will ever meet. Searching a lifetime for the perfect partner is not advisable; the law of diminishing returns implies that, after a point, your chances of improving your choice increase only slightly." Source and further information: http://www.dartmouth.edu/~chance/chance_news/recent_news/chance_news_6.06.html
  • The chances are great, it is a wonderful age for both men and women both mature, know what they want and have had life experience time to settle down. Regards.
  • They are as real as any other age, if not moreso. I was divorced at 38. Didn't find anyone until I WAS 40, and SHE found ME. That lasted around 2 years. THEN another lady found me. A few months later she moved in, a couple years later we were engaged, a couple years later we were married... That was December 24, 2004. Been together, no problems, ever since. Of course, if you are trying too hard, you seem desparate... If you don't try hard enough, it's as if you don't care. You have to hit that happy medium, as you do at all ages.
  • It's not the age so much as the personality and bank account.Jk-:)
  • Good, i hope
  • Fair to medium to partly cloudy. Seriously though depends on exactly what he or she is looking for in a partner.
  • Finding a partner isn't hard, it's finding one who is worth having that is the problem. Since I am 40, I hope the chances are pretty good.
  • by my calculations....72.563989741 % that you will find a match...
  • I would say there chances are great, with everyone getting divorced.
  • I would think that they are pretty good chances. I liked all of the answers you got to this question. So I don't think that I could add anything more to it.
  • Very good chances.
  • Even better than in their 20's as they have more assets and hopefully have made all their stupid mistakes by then.
  • My partner is over 40. He found me when he was 39 though but thats close enough. Chances are good :)
  • I'd say a pretty good chance, mate!
  • Extremely good chances if you are as kind, responsable and intelligent as my boyfriend is (he´s 45, I´m 25).
  • I would say excellent. I started dating again at the age of 40 and had many, many dates and met my now partner.
  • I would say they are excellent! I found my Vicky online a little over a year ago. We became best friends and then began to think of each other romantically. We got married last November. : ))
  • but but but...I am 44. meet men over 45 and under 40. the overs (mostly) are so nice but don't seem interested and the unders (mostly) are only interested in a night. don't know what to do. doesn't look good for me.
  • everyone can find a partner. I am 20 and I am dating a wonderful man who is 40.
  • Very good! I did it and I wasn't even looking.
  • I am about to find out. I am scared. I have never been single before. I was always in a long tern relationship. I never used the internet to meet anyone so this experience will be completely new to me. I am scared yet I know that this is the way the majority of people meet now. 39 year old female.
  • I've been dating the last almost five yrs since my wife died. It's amazing how many divorcee's and widow's there are under 40 and many times that many at 60. Problem is most have long ago given up finding someone later in life. Which is a real shame as there's a lot of us older guys out here looking for them and most of us have an open mind too. We're past the point of wanting to be single for the most part and are actively looking for someone to share the last of our lives with. Peaches, great for you!
  • Superb, great!!! If you want it you will find it.
  • Keithold: Thanks for the welcome, I'm having a ball so far. sometimes it's hard to find what I'm lookin for, but, I'm trying here and there and it's getting better. I like the interaction with the women mostly. Get some of their ideas, maybe I can learn something. Sure lost track being mar for nearly 30yrs. Catch you now and then. George
  • Your chances are excellent of meeting someone over 40. In fact one of the fastest growing single and dating groups in the world is the over 40's. They are in abundance globally on the online dating scene. Thousands of people over 40 are now connecting in this way - so, don't be discouraged - you have a lot of dating life in you yet!
  • i would say just as good as someone who is 18+
  • Very,very good it happens every day.
  • Pretty good I would guess. Or at least as good as anyones elses. Maybe even better, since you have more life experience! My last husband was 55 when we married, and I loved every minute we were together! I was only 31, but he could run circles around me when we first met. I have rarely met someone so interesting with such a passion and energy for life. I hope there is still hope after 40. I am 33 and alone now, not looking for another relationship any time soon, but I hope there may be something to look forward to eventually.
  • Thats a good frame of mind, means you still interested in the other sex and things. When you get to 60, thats another phase of life, instead of worrying about hooking-up with someone, your main topic of interest changes, you'll be thinking about your next operation, explaining to your friend about your knee surgery, and complaing about back pains and how much you have to pay for prescription pills, forgetting where you put your car keys, etc.. So, live it up young lady or young man, Live it up..
  • Maybe not 20 years ago, but now there are so many singles at all ages, you shouldn't have a problem. Get yourself out there. My parents broke up when they were in their 50's, Dad met a woman at the golfclub, lives with her and is a much happier man and my mother (very shy retiring woman) lives with a Welshman in Cyprus and is very happy (they met through online dating). It's easy - so GO GIRL! and good luck
  • No problem. There is a teacher at my school who is 50-ish... and I wouldn't reject him... except, he's married :-( so I had to settle for his friendship.
  • I found mine when I was 39 - so I guess I just made it! Seriously I think the chances are very good. There are plenty of singles over 40 - and probably more mature about relationships.
  • I'm not sure its great. At least not for finding that true love that you want to marry. Once we are over 40, I have dated toooo many men with far too much baggage. And the ones you meet without baggage....really have it, they just don't know it. So I think you can meet someone, but it will different from the passionate crazy love that we had when we were younger...it will be full of compromise from day 1.
  • Pretty good.I get asked out all the time,but my husband won't let me date ;)
  • Excellent! I found the man of dreams when I was in my 40's, we've been married for 5 years now.
  • I think 40+ is the new 30+. :-) I get hit on often, which sometimes upsets my bf. :-)
  • I married my wife at 52. My aunt married her third husband at 71, after she had buried the first two.
  • If god believes in 2nd chances, im sure you can find someone too.
  • No problem *Blushes a deep shade of crimson* Being 40-plus can be a plus. I'm not sure how old you are, but rest assured, if a 20-something girl can fancy a guy over 50 (and I'm not the only one I'm sure), then rest assured you can find a partner of your age. I'm sure you'll meet someone soon, and have the happiness you deserve. It won't be me, though because I have horrible taste in men. People tell me that quite often. Regarding said teacher, I've moved on, and only God knows about this *blushes* It never would have worked between us anyway. But, one of my good friends once told me that girls like me, who have loved older men, have father issues. It's just his theory. There are things more important than age... I've also loved a man who is a bit younger than me. (Thats another story, though) Im sure you'll find someone. :)
  • I don't Think your Chances get any lower.. its just we stop taking them.. my Grandma started seeing someone when she was 80 so there is no age difference..
  • Hmm. I have no idea. But I see a lot of people finding mates after 35.
  • Very good, but you have to really put yourself out there.
  • Good if your not picky, bad if your expecting conversation as well. Good if your rich. Bad if you don't at least own a Wide Screen TV that's paid for, and don't mind paying someones room and board. Good if your playing chess. Bad if your playing tennis. All Joking aside, I think "partner" takes on a different meaning around 40+. Before that time, people more than likley have already had a partner or two, some kids, and some time to get to know who they are and are comfortable with it. Those that are lucky enough to like the person they've become, or wise enough to tend to the reason why they don't, are usually not desperate to find a partner anyway, because they realize that a "partner" is more than a "mate", and more of a "investment" in yourself, the one you've come to know and like, and this is something of a enrichment, not entitlement, to the means of a happy life. 40 years is sufficiant time to learn how to amuse, love and enrich your own life all by yourself, and doesn't seem as crucial to happyness in and of itself, if it's done with a "mate" or not. Maybe it's just the way life rewards us through time. Leaving us all a little less dependant on others for the happyness we have always been capable of all on our own.
  • Full of possibilities!
  • Just like anybody else..... I believe life begins at 40!!!!
  • Nowadays 40 is like 25, 40 years ago. Many people around 40 are single and many between 20 and 60 too, which means there are heaps in the pot to choose from ;-)
  • I agree that it can be done! It is hard though when you work and are active. I have little time to go out and when I do I usually am with friends. Most of the time we all hang out at my place. I don't like going out alone anymore now that I am older. I am 48 but everyone tells me I look 10 or more years younger. My problem is I do get asked out some...but usually by much younger men. I guess one has to get out there...somehow... :)
  • well being 40 its not an obstacle,it depends on how you peronsally see yourself.There no age in love
  • Good! I am looking over 50,physically disabled with mobility issues,plenty of money.So I have joined internet clubs for disabled persons and have found some "normies" prefer us and say we are hot! In fact some seek us out so dont give up.
  • Im 38, he's 42 - never been happier...
  • Seems they're just the same as anyone at any age provided there are in social settings to get to know people.
  • hi. well my ex ex bf was 42 and im 17.... so i think age doesnt matter if u love someone or if u want to date someone ciaO.
  • It depends on what they have to offer. Nobody "deserves" a great partner, but if they are kind, considerate, interesting, generous, a good cook, and talented in meaningful ways, they're bound to find someone fairly quickly if they make themselves available.
  • I really don't know.... I'm still working on that.
  • Where do you meet nice people, I have found the internet and bar scene a bust?
  • 40 ..mmhhh that's the new 20. They usually are Hot. So they are attractive and sure there are chances.
  • Keep an open mind and stay in the game. There are chances! Definitely. Don't give up. Love can come at any time in your life.
  • Many are getting married later in life, or a second marriage in their 30's, 40's and 50's. Years ago , many, if one wasn't married and preg by 20, there was no hope. Times have changed, MANY can find love at 40,50 and 60. A lot of people got married to young , divorced, and then grew up, looking for a mature relationship now. I didn't get married until I was 30, and the hub 35.
  • Better then any other age, because your all divorced.
  • I think its all about if you sit at home or actually want to find someone yeah people run into each other every once in awhile but most of the time you have to go out and be active
  • I think 40... is the age when you realize that you are spent and no longer require one to be happy?
  • the same chances as anyone i think! It's not about how old you are, it's about you as a person, the places you socialise where you might find suitable partners and whether you and a potential partner are looking for the same thing. Forget your physical age - you really are as old as you feel!!
  • From what I hear, its not easy, because 50% of the gender your looking for is no longer available (due to marriage)
  • I think the chances are exceptionally good. I am 41 and just found my childhood sweetheart. What are the chances of that?
  • excellent
  • Dude?40? That is no where near over the hill. Try looking in different circles. Bowling, iceskating, bungie jumping, rock climbing, keep fit classes... the list goes on mate. It is limited by your own fears. See something - go for it. Good luck. Grab the moment........
  • It is never to late my friend I am near that age and I was dating 18-20 year old females.. for a couple of years... until I found the perfect partner in my fiance. I can already tell that you are lacking in the confidence department just by the question alone. After being in a longterm relationship for 9 years before I divorced I can appreciate how that feels. I have been there and trust me at first it was a very rocky road. Mostly because of my lack of confidence. But confidence is like any other skill in life it is something that can be learned, it is just experience multiplied by success. Truth is when you know the secrets dating becomes more easy and you can get very comfortable with sitting back and selecting the best partner out there for you. Instead of just settling for less. Trust me my friend I totally apppreciate where you are at, but there is lots of good support places for men to share their knowledge and experience. One of my favourites is seductionhalloffame.com good free advice.. but there are many more. Unfortunately for me I only discovered some of these gold mines after I had gone through 2 years of heavy defeat. Hopefully we can spare you some of that. Cheers
  • It depends on where you go and what you do, but there are hundreds of people over 40 that find new partners. My brother is 50 and his wife died about 5 years age oan now he is dating another and thinking about marrying her. My sister mother-in-law married at age 82 and is still married. See people do remarry sometimes.
  • That depends entirely on the person. I've seen widows and widowers that age and older who remarry within the year. Yes, I've seen the polls and statistics that make it look utterly hopeless. What I've never seen is one of those polls that breaks it down into what number of people polled have serious mental illness, what number have suffered abuse and don't really like the opposite sex, what number of respondents are gay and don't want traditional marriage, what number of respondents don't want to be married for other reasons, what number of respondents are too afraid to even try going out with someone, what number of respondents prefer to sit and grip about all the good ones being taken and wouldn't go out with someone even if asked. If you remove all those from the study, the remainder is probably pretty small.
  • better than a 20 yr old. people in their 40s are more mature and want more than sex.
  • Well this question and all the answers mad me a big hope.I am 40 and i was kind of disappointed of getting married but looks like every body says it is a good age.I hope i will find my special one soon.The one which i really love and cares for me and we wont have any huge problem together.That is my wish...............
  • very good i guess im nowhere near 40 but you can start with the younger guys lol
  • The chances are 100%. There is truly someone out there for everyone. I am 43 and just found the 2nd love of my life (I became a widow at 41). In both situations I had decided I am happy with my self and have a lot of good friends and always something to do then WHAM! along comes my Mr. Right I was not even looking. I believe too often we are looking for someone and end up just settling. When your time is right Ms. Right will just magically appear...really she will. Yes, it make take some time. Make sure all your friends, relatives, coworkers & church family know you would like to meet someone compatible. A good dating web site is plenty of fish.com. No fees and you can view every single lady in there, very easy to move around in this site. E mail a few times if it doesn't seem like a connection just politely tell them and move on. This way you are not wasting your time and money.
  • there is never an age limit to fall in love, just look for someone like you, dont try your chances with someone completely the opposite, it would only be hard and frustrating, there is plenty of peole out there feeling there is no one for them, truth is there is someone for everyone even if takes you time to find him or her, never give up the chances are for you to decide, if you stop trying, then its over.
  • The chances are very good. You can do it.
  • There are constantly new people becoming available due to break ups, divorce and death. I think when you are over 40, you know what you want and what you don't want. Don't give up hope Keith.
  • Just as good as they are any other time.
  • I think anything is possible. You can never predict when someone will find a partner. Most often though people tend to be too immature early in life to make relationships work so I feel the success rate goes up once ones becomes older.
  • No problem just go out more often after all you won't find a partner if your hanging around the house most of the time. It shouldn't be that hard.
  • No problem just go out more often after all you won't find a partner if your hanging around the house most of the time. It shouldn't be that hard.

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