ANSWERS: 46
  • An end of one life that is not working, and a beginning of another, that hopefully will be better :-) BTW, Its good to have you back after your break :-)
  • It's like getting a flu shot; it hurts at the time, but in the end, it's for your own good. Divorce seems like a bad thing, but staying in a painful marriage is worse.
  • For me it was a very sad thing on my end and also the end. Things haven't gotten better and I don't blame anyone else except myself. For some reason, it would kill me to know my ex is living it up on how that divorce came about.
  • That depends entirely on what kind of relationship that is ending and the reasons behind ending it. My divorce was a joyous occaision and the beginning of a life without a cheating, abusive husband.
  • Speaking from experience, it's a bit of both. For me, it was devastating, but a phoenix rose from the ashes and I'm better than ever. One thing to keep in mind, is to not allow yourself to wallow in guilt or self-pity. It only sucks you down deeper into despair. Friends and family can only do so much. It's up to you to pull yourself up and rebuild your life. In my case, I wasn't alone, but no one could do for me what I needed to do in order to make my life work again. It's hard, but the struggle was worth the self discovery. Although I'd change the fact that I ever married my ex, I learned a great deal about myself during the process. For me it was both an end and a beginning.
  • My divorce will, someday, be a happy thing. Neither a beginning or an end. I have already begun again. Just a load off.
  • I would say that divorce is a sad thing. There are divorced people who would say the opposite, though.
  • It's a little bit of both. At first you wonder why you failed and what could have been different. Then you start thinking that its all for the best as you two didn't really get along anyways. It's just kinda sad to see a once good marriage come to those terms. But some people marry young or for the wrong reasons and that creates problems in its own. .
  • Its the end of a beginning....or a beginning to an end. It all depends on your point of view. For my father it was a good thing....but bad because he had child support to pay. For my mother it was a bad thing...all around. You can find the good in any situation....and the opposite applies as well.
  • From the people I've known it's both, but mostly a sad new beginning. Yes they may find a new beginning a good thing and often find happiness afterward, most seem to keep that sadness about it, or anger and pain. So the sadness always stays in the long run.
  • Something of both. Sad that things have not worked out but probably a very happy time for those that have endured misery in a marriage.
  • My father says that when his mother and father divorced, it was a good thing. His father was not a nice guy and when his parents got divorced, he didn't have to see him anymore. My mother's mom approached her at age 12 and explained that she wanted to divorce her husband. My mother didn't like the stories she heard from other kids' whose parents were divorced and she pleaded with her mother not to divorce her father. They did not divorce, her mother died 13 years later. My husband's parents divorced. When his father was off the scene, his mother would not be beaten, verbally abused and his sister and him no longer lived in constant fear. Through the years I have seen a lot of people divorce and most of the time it's not due to infidelity or extreme abuse, it's usually because two people cannot or will not agree on certain things. I believe a lot of divorce could be prevented if people were less selfish.
  • A divorce is both in any combination you wish. I personally don't know as I have never been through one but I know people that have been there and done that. According to them the difficult part is to adapt to the new situation, it feels like you are missing something or have lost something no matter how bad the marriage/divorce was, there is a sense of loss. The ones that take the worst part are the children, they make their moms feel guilty and many times the kids take it on their mothers and blame them for the divorce. This I believe must be the most difficult part of the situation. Regards.
  • For me, it was the beginning of regaining who I was. My marriage sqished out my personality because my ex was so controlling. He didn't want me in public, didn't want me talking to people, and didn't want me to be around my family. He took wonderful care of me. Bought me anything I wanted, never drank, never went out, was at my beck and call, did everything for me... While he loved me completely, it was tainted with the fact that he didn't want anyone else in my world for fear they would somehow take me away from him. He was smothering me with a satin pillow, so to speak. It was very complicated. It got to the point where he didn't even want me participaing in forums or playing online games because there were people there as well, that might try to "drive a wedge between us." He would block the internet so I couldn't play. Whenever I got a new job, he would get a job in the same place so he could keep tabs on me. I didn't eat with anyone else for lunch for 18 years. Eventually, I couldn't stand being locked in a cage anymore. Being married since I was 19 and never having lived on my own, it was a VERY scarey thing at 37. Since he controlled all the bills and the money, I was frightened that I would forget something crucial and not be able to survive properly. But I learned, and I'm slowly becoming who I once was. I'm starting to like myself again.
  • hard and happy
  • It should be bittersweet.
  • I believe it's a very sad thing.
  • It all depends on how people look at it. If people go about it in a grown up mature way it doesn't have to be a sad time nor does it have to be the end especially when children are involved. Unfortunately though some people choose to resort to acting like vindictive spiteful little children during such a time in their lives and try to do all they can to destroy the reputation of their former spouse as a way of getting back at them for divorcing them. My own personal divorce was not a very happy time in my life. I realize I could have done so many things differently that could have prevented my marriage from ending but I guess I had my priorities all messed up at the time so I don't really blame my ex's cheating as the sole reason for the end of our marriage. I put being a dedicated employee and a dedicated church member ahead of being a dedicated husband and father so in many ways it's my own fault that my marriage fell apart. For me my divorce was a beginning in a way of an era of realizing what it was that I did wrong that could have been done differently and I made a comittment to myself not to ever let myself ever put my job or my faith ahead of my family ever again and the 2 other times I was fortunate enough to be in a relationshipo after that I pretty much did stick to that comittment.
  • Sad. It's the end of seeing your pessesions again and a beginning of debt consolidation and repayment.
  • well me my wife are getting there and i think its good and bad ,it bad if your kids have to go through it ,thats the olny thing about getting divorce,but the thing is when u been in a relationship and it get to the point that u just hate your wife then i think its good.WHY when a woman get kids on you she think she own u.My wife allways brings up that longs as i help her with the kids that all she want,i love my kids and will always stay in there lives but i just cant put up with a lazy always complaining never happy woman,and always tring to be everybody else relationship.I better stop before i write a whole book .
  • Divorce is a life altering learning experience. What you choose to learn from it is up to the individual. It is up to him or her to make it whatever they choose to make it.
  • That depends on the situation. If one partner is escaping from an abusive relationship, then it can be a breath of fresh air, an opportunity for independence.
  • It's a happy beginning. It's a relief thing. It's a what the **** was I thinking thing. It's a so glad to stop being miserable thing. It's a get her/him the *** away from me thing. It's a let me move on to get with who I really want to be with anyway thing.
  • if you hate them, you're happy. they'll be heartbroken that you let them go. it's the end of the relationship and the beginning of a new one. =P
  • It depends on whether you are the one doing the asking. For me it is somewhat akin to getting sick after a night of drinking. You know a good bit prior you are going to be sick. You put it off as long as you can because you know just how unpleasant it is going to be. Once you finally do go through it you feel a lot better after. Divorce was like that for me. You never get divorced immediately you put it off for months or years but once it is done is is a great relief.
  • My divorce was very happy! It was the end of being chained to a woman who did not love me and the beginning of a new life!
  • If you can remain friends and don't hate each other it's okay. Marriage is supposed to be forever, it doesn't always work out that way. It all depends on the circumstances of the divorce. It can be a end and a beginning.........it's a new chapter.
  • It can be any or all of the above. Sad - It's always sad when someone you loved enough to marry and you don't get along, to the point that one or both of you feel you MUST divorce. (NOTE: If abuse is part of it, it's even sadder, but necessary.) Happy - It may take some time, but after a while, you begin to fall into the routine of being alone again (or, for some, for the first time). You can come and go as you please, doing what you want when you want, etc. Divorce means that those people at work you enjoyed, but didn't get too close to because you were married, you can now get to know a lot better. End - It's the end of a marriage. This is why it is sad, but, if you can see how it's better for all concerned (I say that in case there are children involved - For example: They no longer have to hear the couple arguing, and blaming themselves), then it's worth it. (NOTE: In the cases where abuse is involved, in most cases, abuse ends, but in some, it escalates. Even so, it's best to end the marriage.) Beginning - It's the beginning of a new life for both. Becoming single, unattached, and available, again, is "freeing" for some. Others feel their "dating skills" are "rusty", since they haven't used them for some time. And, when married, the world continues to change, so they may not be comfortable, at least for a time, getting "out there". Even so, it's a new beginning.
  • divorce is a happy beginning. If you weren't sad you would never think of ending the marriage. The problem with most they ride it out until everyone involved hates one another. The moment you realize you hate one another is the time to move on. Once you take that step life is so much nicer.. easier.. happier.. and a lot healthier, for kids and parents!!
  • It's a little bit of both. At first it's sad because there's alot of questions, why, how, and what's next. But after you go through the grieving process and the depression process, acceptance eventually kicks in and life goes on. Good things will start to happen to you again and you'll recognize the good reasons for the divorce.
  • i belive it is both happy and sad and the end of something but the beggining of something new! :-) x
  • In my opinion divorce is a sad thing because you are ending a marriage that you both wanted. To thee other question i believe that it is a new beginning. It's like you shut the door to your past and the future door is slowly opening.(:
  • Its all 4. Divorce covers the Spectrum of emotions.
  • Its a really sad thing.... My parents got divorced 6 years ago and Im still feeling it,even though I am married with my own little one. Our family has beensplit in pieces... I never speak to my dad... I hear from my mom on the odd occation and my siblings feel like strangers... I still wonder WHY...
  • either and all the shades in between
  • If your partner was a sack of shit than it is a happy thing to be rid of them and a new beginning. If however they were really good and you lost them because you were a sack of shit then, it is sad for you and the end of you ever being redeemable.
  • Divorce is undoubtedly a new beginning. I was anxious to get out of a loveless marriage and I was pleasantly surprised at how quickly it became final. Thank God for divorce! Otherwise a bad marriage would be a life sentence.
  • It is a glorious thing. I am looking so forward to my divorce. I am enrolled in online college. I can buy whatever I want I can play golf ever how long I want I can watch an entire movie without having to get up, I can shower as long as I want to, I can even sleep in my recliner if I want to. I can sit in my whirlpool as long as I want to, I can ride my new motorcyle if I want to, I can cook what I want to, I can ride my four wheeler where I want to. I can go to the beach and stay as long as I want to. I can walk around in my drawers if I want to. I get to out to eat now and not feel guilty. I am going to take dance lessons now. Whew everybody should try this at least once. It is fun having a blast with your life and the whole time watching your ex just fade away.
  • a little bit of both
  • whatever it is look on the brighter side!!
  • It is a sad thing, no doubt about that, especially for your children. but here you must learn how to forget and get over it somehow. One should stand up to make a brand new start.
  • Definitely it is a sad thing. But if there is no understanding between the two and doesn't have faith on each other, then no way lefts there for them except divorce.
  • Whatever you make it.
  • Hmm! Indifferent actually

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