Have you ever pretended that everything is good just so you wont feel more depressed than you already are?
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ANSWERS: 46
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Yes I have. Fake it, till you make it.
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Many times, usually when things are really bad at work.
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Some of the time, that's what I do when the other ABers ask me how I'm doing. I hate to be a downer all the time and cause people to avoid me.
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Sure. We have to live to fight another day.
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Thats what I'm doing right now .How did you know?
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Yes, many times. It generally works!
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Yes I have. Sometimes it's your best coping tool.
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My thoughts are the only thing I have total control over in this life. And I really love the philosophy of "The Secret." It does work. Chemical imbalance is a horse of a different color.
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lately, more so than not.
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Have you ever considered that the depression might be the pretend state of mind? What if your natural state was joyful and at ease. While you are tricking yourself out of depression, you might pick some alternate ideas about you that give you complete freedom to relax and see the world you encounter as always and in all ways conspiring in your favor....
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yes, i do, It starts the day off better to pretend everythings good. when that wears off i have my zoloft lol
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Not pretended but just forced myself to be in a better place emotionally and mentally and I find that my mood does get elevated and soon I'm not forcing it anymore.
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Everyday... just some days more than others. :)
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No, I've found that pretending everything is just peachy does not help with depression. What DOES help is learning to appreciate the good things you have in life, no matter how trivial. Happy people tend to be glad that there's oxygen in the air just waiting to be breathed. I'm not saying that this is an easy process. Like almost any skill, it has to be learned and practiced. http://www.amazon.com/What-Happy-People-Know-Happiness/dp/0312321597/ . . .
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I've tried it but found looking for good stuff works better.
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Yes, because people generally become very concerned over someone who is depressed. Most psychologists also recommend thinking of the positive things in life, and being optimistic to the best of your ability. Sometimes being happy can help the depression go away.
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No, join the gym, get the hell out of the house..take long walks to clear your head eat better and take vitamins especially fish oils..
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Yep, been doing that for the last week. Trying my hardest not to lose it on anyone (has not worked well) Have to get my head straight before I can deal with anymore stress.
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Everything IS good. I always think about how much worse things can be, when I think things aren`t going well. Like the old adage, I was depressed because I had no shoes until I met someone that had no feet. We should all count our blessings a little more often. :)
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I just keep on thinking that every things coming up roses and the depression abates.
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Yes, but rarely. As a matter of fact, I just dealt with a question that made me feel utterly hopeless. SInce there is nothing I can do about it, I made a (weak) joke and moved on. No sense bringing anyone else down.
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Yes and this is a GREAT technique/tool used to not be as depressed! Take that thought and get out and take a walk to help your physiological chemicals to assist. If it's not a depression that lasts more than two weeks, you're doing okay. If it still lasts more than two weeks, keep doing this, but you should check with your doctor to see if meds are warranted as another helpful tool.
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Pretending, is a wonderful childhood skill that we learn at a very young age. It is actually the precursor for learning the life skill you actually need later on that enables the human psyche to change its circumstance in the mind first and then in your immediate surroundings later on, as a direct result. Of all the faculties with which we are given, we at first aquire the potentiality and only later effect its actualization." Aristotle. Im afraid that as we grow up, we become far less able then children are to change our circumstance through the art of pretending.
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Hahaha! Are you telling me that everything isn't just rosey? I can't believe it! [my rose-colored glasses slip from my hand and crash to the floor]
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Yes, most of my life. It is like living a "fake" existance. I push through each day acting like I'm okay when really there are a lot of times that I feel no joy in life. It's sad and I hate it. I just want to be happy yet I don't know how to truly be happy....and after years of fakeing I don't even know who I am or what I really want in life.
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I'm doing it right now and have been for a long, long time.
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I couldn't pretend that everything is good, I just don't know how. I'd be up for an Oscar if I could be that good at acting:(
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i just relized i was doing this a few days ago about my realtionship or lack there of with my ex.we have been acting like nothing has changed since we broke up and i have been pretending that he isn't just keeping me around for sex and we are happy still.coming to this conclusion has made me feel very foolish and the crazy thing is that i had been of my anti-depress meds for about a week when i had this reality hit.that only opens another can of worms.Are theses drugs causing me to pretended everything is ok when they are not and if so what the hell do i do now?
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Yep. Act as if, until it's real.
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Yeah I actually have done this, in a fake it till you make it attempt.
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Yes, and it is a system that does have merit. If depression is, as they think it is, chemical in nature, then you should be able to counter some of that by 'controlling' the chemistry in your own brain...It is rather like "smile and the world smiles with you; cry and you cry alone"....... not to say that this is a miracle cure for valid depression...but it does and can help tremendously to pretend that everything is good.
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Yes. For me, the more I think about being depressed, the more depressed I get, but it's hard to pretend that everything is okay when inside you're feeling so much pain that no one knows you're feeling.
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LMAO! That's pretty much how I live :)
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Denial is a sweet, sweet thing, and it can be very helpful if you can keep it up. Unfortunately, I am no longer able to fool myself into thinking something that is not true.
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Yup ofcoz! it works so why not :P well for a while anyways
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Pretended,maybe,but it didn't make it better,denial only goes so far!
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I've tried, sometimes the facade works and sometimes it doesn't
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Yes I have and the truth is it seems to help ! just like the saying pretend to be happy and it just might happen! If it gets too bad though I do just what you did ask someone else !
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Yes, I have always been the type of person to appear happy also in order to keep others from feeling down (for example, the financial problems my husband and I are facing, I act very happy in order to keep him from getting depressed). It is very draining.
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Yes; hoping to keep my mind occupied with something other than how depressed I felt.
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I pretend everyday but in reality I can't cope with life and just want to give up everything.
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I used to, but I soon realized that pretending everything was OK made it worse when I came back down to earth and realized that things weren't all that good. Now I try to look at what IS good and what isn't so great, and I work my way through helping what can be bettered. :)
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yeah, it doesnt work :(
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yea for 4 years but let me tell you drugs are not good and not medication ether. why not just tell your self when u go too bed and wake up that it will be a good day today and also tomorow. when i was depressed i liked to be locked it my house but thats bad as hell. it makes it worse.
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I pretend all the time. I lost a lot this year such as someone really I cared about dearly, a job, and probably a close friend. I also have been dealing with my parents ,which I may add are quite controlling and emotionally abusive for the most, for several years. It has been a harder year though so I have been diagnosed with depression. I soon found myself to pretend it was alright to get rid of those suicidal feelings. This worked somewhat until you are taken back to reality. I don't know of a way to help people who feel the same way as me but there is one thing that does help and that is hope. I do believe in karma or something like that so If you live your live being by all means a decent good person with no bad intentions I think there will be something good out there someday to reward you. Just try to be the best person you can and one day what you wanted might come knocking on your door.
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