Do you think there's anything wrong with feeling as though you don't want to have kids?
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Ender
ANSWERS: 36
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No, not at all. I feel that way a lot. I don't that I have the patience for children and we have a population problem as it is. I'm not sure I want to contribute more to it.
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No. I think that's pretty normal for many people.
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nothing.growing up i hated kids.
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Of course not. There's also nothing wrong with feeling you do want to have kids. My problem is people who don't really care either way but figure everyone has kids so might as well. DUDE, LIFE-CHANGING DECISION and you're just going to do it because other folks do?
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Some people can't wait to be parents and others decide they would rather not. My husband and I never felt the urge to have a larger family than just the two of us. We felt complete as is, enjoyed each other's company and didn't want to change that. I don't think that's wrong. Strange maybe unusual but not wrong.
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. In fact, you definitely shouldn't feel compelled to have kids. I have seen instances where people ended up with kids and resented it for a long time- that is no environment for a child to be raised in. That being said- Keep in mind that your outlook and wishes might change and evolve as you grow older. Don't be surprised if you wake up one day and realize that you want children.
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I think having kids is an entirely personal choice. I would never agree that not having kids is wrong. See the child free by choice sites for support: http://www.childfree.net/ http://www.childfreebychoice.com/ http://happilychildfree.com/
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No not at all , it is as normal as wanting children + 5
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Humans are a diverse species Ender, we don't have to feel the same way as the others.
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No, not at all. Everybody's not meant for kids. I know I don't want them. I don't think I could handle more stress than I already have.
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no, I never wanted children...
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Not at all...unless you already gave birth to them!
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Not at all. If everyone wanted kids, the world would be a very crowded place. I'm actually thankful that some people choose not to breed.
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Nothing wrong at all. I love my kids and wouldn't change the fact of their birth but some days I could definitely picture a life without children... so I can say I even understand not wanting to raise children. Equally I have days where I think about having another child, lol.
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lol not at all. you might have some trouble with the catholics, but not wanting children is normal.
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CelesteLeeFKAC* Why Catholics? Nuns are celebate,and often don't have them. They are Catholics.
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no, not at all. A lot of people dont want to have children. My boyfriend never saw himself as wanting to have kids. he's still weirded out over the fact that we will one day wed and have kids. :) if you dont want kids, dont have em
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let it be your decision about that, let no one else influence you about such a serious matter. not everyone should marry. not everyone should have kids. and the way this miserable world is going I would say no kids is better than having them but thats purely personal.
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Absolutley not. There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. And if you don't want them, please don't have them. There are so many children in this country and world that are unwanted. Parenting is a full time job - 24/7.
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Not at all. I wish more people would think seriously about whether they really want kids or not. Children are a huge commitment and require a person to be totally selfless. If you don't want to have kids that's your decision to make. It doesn't make you anything other than a responsible adult!
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Some of us just aren't meant to be parents! Some of us can give our love and attention to other things that will better help our planet, rather than add children to this uncertain world we live in. That's just a personal opinion, but the older I get, the more I realize that. I love children, just not fulltime. Animals are much easier... most of the time no babysitter is required, and they love you unconditionally, and don't argue back! What more could you ask for?
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not at all... you want what you want... be careful though because if you do want kids someday it may be too late!
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How could there possibly be anything wrong with that? Humans are not in danger of extinction for lack of procreating. I think I would be a great parent if I had any desire for it, but I do not. I would rather live my own life.
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Absolutely not. If you don't want to have kids, please don't feel pressured into doing so just because other people think you should. At the end of the day, it's YOUR CHOICE.
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No. I don't want them myself, ever.
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no i don`t think there is,some people just don`t have maternal feelings..you may change your mind though.and also make sure its definately what you want beforeits too late in life.
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No! I would not want to bring a child into this world and I feel I would not be a good parent!
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Of course not. Many people are pushed into having kids by family members, and it is so sad. Everyone should have their own choice about it. Its your right.
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After watching SOME of the kids of this generation--it's a wonder ABORTION isn't the LAW!!!!
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CelesteLeeFKAC*
How about just don't fuck other people?
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i think it's perfectly normal. Some people just know they don't like dealing with all the tantrums and nagging, or just don't want the commitment.
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There are a lot of people who do not want children. I like kids if they are someone else's kids. I do not have the money or the patients for children. My lady does not want children either. We plan on getting married soon. The only way we will be parents is if it happens by accident. We are both too old. We have a dog and a cat and they are the closest creatures to children that we want. We just enjoy the pets. If we ever get lonely for children, we sometimes baby-sit for friends who have kids. After an evening of that, we usually leave knowing we do not want to reproduce. They are good kids but they still are kids.
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CelesteLeeFKAC*
That is awesome. Good luck to you and your partner. :)
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Well, forget about that source for borrowing money later on! ;-)
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To each their own. Kids should be born to people who are tickled pink to have them.
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Yes. It means you're insecure about your capabilities as a parent or making excuses for not being able to hold a stable relationship to make kids.
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No,because I've reached a point in my life where I don't feel it's necessary. I also understand that there is a strong feeling or desire to procreate for some of us in our youth.
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Absolutely not in this evil,sick world. Worse is having children when you're mentally unfit and unable to care for them without taxpayer's money.
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I never felt the urge to have children. For many reasons, and even though i happen to like kids, we held off from having them for a long time. It isn't about providing only materially. A child also has emotional and most important spiritual needs that parents must meet.
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