Is it pathetic to call myself a complete virgin, meaning I have never been kissed and gone past the crush phase, at almost 19 years old?
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No Of course not - There is nothing at all to be ashamed of - Be proud of yourself
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No, not pathetic at all.
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No. But since kissing and never dating has nothing to do with being a virgin you should realise that everyone can call themselves a "complete" virgin aslong as they haven't had sex.
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No, of course not. You're only nineteen - the average life expectancy is well into the eighties now, and will probably increase as you age - think about it, you've got a lot of time, no need to rush. And the fact that you're still a virgin says a lot about you and your character - it says that you haven't let yourself be pressured into anything, it says you don't do what everyone else does - you've kept yourself and your own values. So no, it's not pathetic. You've got all the time in the world - wait until you're ready and until you find someone you really like (I'm not saying neccessarily wait until marriage, but don't go out looking for sex with someone just to lose your virginity).
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NO! I'm 20 and I've only gone as far as you have. So don't stress. Your time will come and when you least expect it you might just bump into the love of your life and things will kick off from there :)
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1. Depends on what you want. 2. Shit happens. Best wishes and I hope you have better luck in the future. I was 18 before I got any and I wasn't happy about waiting so long. I'm just glad that is all so far behind me now.
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There isn't anything pathetic about it but, not even being kissed yet at age 19 is unusual. You might have some issues to deal with. Or, you might just be a late bloomer.
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Not really. But, here's some advice I got from a book called "zombie zen". Stop fantasizing about those brains and go get them, those brains aren't going to get themselves! (If you change brains to whatever you want then its really good advice.)
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Things will just fall into place, if not then be a priest
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Not pathetic at all. Don't compare yourself to others and their behavior of their values. There is no rush if you aren't feeling it, don't do it. If the opportunity hasn't come by you, then consider yourself lucky that you haven't been involved with the very possible heartache and pain that often comes with relationships that aren't right.
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no - not pathetic at all. Good things come to those who wait. xx
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Of course not. Mature as you might be, you're still very young. Good for you for waiting until you find the right person and time. Here's a truth most younger people don't realize: Sex isn't the be all and end all. And beleive me, you will someday find the person you want to have your first experience with and it will happen. When isn't nearly as important as making sure you're physically and emotionally ready for it. When it does happen, play carefully and use protection.
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It is not pathetic, it is only honest. But do not worry about it, it is not a major thing. Diffferenet people get into it at different times, it does not matter at all. I have a friend in the same postiton, and they are a fine noraml person, she is ok with her situation; it is nothing to worry about.
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LOL youre a looser
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I would only call it pathetic if it bothers you but yet you do nothing about it. If that's not the case, then I wouldn't consider you pathetic. That sux though, my best friend is in the same situation.
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i was 22, but then there is something that made me totally fear guys, i have to what!!!
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It's not pathetic, everyone has their own pace at things which they find comfortable. Maybe if you are worried about it, you are too worried about being around those that you are attracted to and you don't come off as availiable to others.
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I think it's cool! Keep your eye on the ball, kiddo. A lot of people don't attain their life's goals because they abandon them when they start having "relations" to distract them. While it is a great deal of fun, it really represents a very tiny percentage of time spent doing things in your life. Good luck. If I'd have waited until I was 25, I'd be driving a Jag, instead of an S-10. (I missed some great opportunities).
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Not at all
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Wait till you get to 44. THEN you can moan.
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Only pathetic if you really believe a kiss or sex is something that would define you.
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It's not pathetic and you aren't pathetic. You are well worth waiting for. Think of it this way. You can be like all those other girls anytime you want. They can never be like you again.
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No it's not pathetic at all :) And for the record there is nothing wrong with not having gone past the crush stage nor kissed. Good luck and don't beat yourself up too much! +5
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That is not pathetic at all. Are you a girl? You are PURE. That is a sublime quality, you should be proud.
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Nope, not at all pathetic. It's not a competition to see who gets past the winning line first. There are upsides and downsides to being a virgin. You already know the downsides. But the upsides are not being in danger from STDs or pregnancy (whether you are male or female) and you are not experiencing the emotional upsets that beset some of your contemporaries. Things happen in due course.
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Not at all.
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Not in the least. I was right with you up until age 34. But I've been happily married for a very long time and I don't have to worry about having brought a deadly disease into my family. I also don't have to compare my wonderful husband to those who have gone before.
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It only means that you're not ready yet. Don't beat yourself up about it. +5
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i didnt hace sex til 21. youre a teenager, and its not that uncommon to be a virgin. yeah sme of my friends did it at 14 too but some didnt. its not a thing to worry about. you ll have sex when its right.
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