Yeah but usually I am the one who is great but then I go pyscho LOL

I asked this question because I got out of a relationship with a guy that seemed great a first, turned out not to be so great...when I broke it off he went nuts...all of a sudden I was important to him. Stalked me, it was scary. I tried on a few occasions to work it out or lately to just be his friend...but even after over 3 yrs he wiggs out if he thinks I won't BE with HIM. I'm alittle slow, but I've learned my lesson. I'll never speak to him again! It's sad to me because I've never had anything like this happen in my life.

Well sortof. I had met this girl when I was working at Blockbuster who seemed really nice, but then when I had invited her over she was talking about how she had a really bad relationship with her last girlfriend. Then it came out that they broke up because the last girlfriend would choke her. Not so crazy so far. But then she meets my sister (who is near my age) and decides to tell her "I dont like the size of my Cl*t, wanna see? It's really big" with my little brother and sister in the room (they were childrens). I didn't really talk to her much after that, and certainly didn't let her around my other family, but when I started dating this guy, she wouldn't leave me alone, and told me she would wait for me. She was really posessive. She made me a t-shirt that I love and still have to this day, but chick was crazy!

Exactly that. But the transformation from angel to demon was slow, about 18 months. She ADORED my three children at first, absolutely all over them. By the end it was total warfare with her trying to blackmail me into never even speaking to them on the phone, let alone them visiting our house, and trying to control every movement I made and even every thought I had. Her justification for all this was that she was so insanely, desperately in love with me that she just couldn't help the extremity of her feelings. She gave me endless endless words about this overpowering adoration she said she felt. When I finally walked it was as though a great weight had lifted from my back, though it was hugely difficult to do. Within six months she was adoring another guy just as insanely. He lasted about a year, poor guy. Now she's not quite so pretty, and very alone. Looking back I could see that there was a HUGE gap between what she said, and what she did , and she used the first to blind me from the second. There had been absolutely no loving ACTS in which she thought things through to identify a single wish or need of mine. Only her needs ever existed. I learned so much from this, in all subsequent relationships I have always looked for ACTIONS that show love and concern. WORDS of love I regard as nice, but ultimately mere froth, easily spouted. If you are in a relationship and are unsure, just close your ears for a month, and watch for ACTS that show true concern for you, and which involve putting your needs before their own, at least just now and again. If it is all about WORDS, you have your answer. Mine never loved me at all, poor thing. She didn't know how. But boy did she talk the talk.

i divorced him.

yea, shortly after my divorce, I dated a woman who seemed really great, then she talked me into moving in, then I found out / realized she was an alcoholic, a MEAN alchoholic. After the 3rd day of her comming home , getting stone drunk and picking a fight with me I decided to leave, (since I won t hit a woman / girl) I let her beat on me while I grabbed a few of my belongings and walked out. ( bloody fingernain cuts, scratches all over, the ol phone cord wrapped adound the neck while pulling my hair out routuine... It was hard not to beat the Bit@h after that but I just walked out..and left every thing else I briught over, (computer,tv, vcr, bedro set, living rm set...) learned my lesson well ! good question +5

Pssshhh, who hasn't had this happen? People can put on pretty good acts for a while, but eventually the real person comes out. We just have to pay attention to everything--even little things--that raise red flags. If at the time you aren't sure if its a serious red flag, make a mental note to remember it and re-evaluate in a couple months. Inuition is a marvelous thing if you pay attention to it.

That's totally me. :) The phsyco, that is. I'm a screwed up person, I'll readily admit that, I didn't even like the guy, but he approached me and... everyone wants love, you know? I knew it was a bad idea. I'd just end up hating him and making him unhappy. I dated him anyway. For 6 months, maybe. (We're in high school, that's awhile for us. ^_~) Eventually, not being a horrible person, and realizing I really did kind of like him, I broke up with him, because I wanted him to be happy, and I knew all my problems would just bring him down. Though, the break up line 'I'm dumping you because I like you.' Really didn't go over that well. :)

Oh, yes! I fell for a friend that I made and we dated on and off for three years. He is the one that dumped me. However, psycho as can be! Friday night he told me that he loved me and then Saturday he dumps me! He also refused to admit that he said he loved me! He had been saying it for awhile at the time he said it, so it wasn't a first. . . Then, later on, I don't know where he is, but I just want to be friends and see how he is doing. A day later I get an e-mail from him threatening me with a "restrainment order." Yeah, he meant "restraining," but he was never that smart - he spelled "scene" as "scean" and insisted it was correct. He told me that whether should be spelled weather. . . He was so obsessed with this girl that he told me was his ex, and really she was just a girl who used him! He kept talking about her and even met her for dinner and knew what she ate. . . Crazy psycho guy!

In ninth grade the only girlfreind I ever had was great, we had a lot of fun together, one night, she attempted suicide and later that week she broke up with me not explaining why. It's been four years, i just can't understand why I can't move past it, she's fine now, I guess I'm afraid to bring it up with her. So to fill the void, I'm obsessed with my work and I kinda hide from the world.

Lets see I just got out of this situation a week ago. I was with this guy for 3 months. He was really great in the beginning of the relationship. He did tell me he was bipolar and had ptsd. We started 2 weeks before valetines day and he bought me expensive jewlery. He called me all the time, hung out with me all the time. He told me he had a daughter in which I thought that wouldn't be too bad of a situation. Then a month later he tells me that he has another child by a different mother. So, then I didn't ditch him. I should have but didn't. When we went out in public he would check out other woman right infront of me. He would try to make me jealous. All the lovey dovey stuff he did in the first month of our relationship disappeared. By the second month, he stopped hanging out with me all the time and then just stopped calling all the time. He would never answer the phone hardly when I called. It got to the point where I was making more effort then him... In which, I never lied to him from the get go... So, I just ended it because to go on in that relationship would have made me more depressed then anything. Now, he wants a second chance and tells me he loves me and misses me. I don't know what I should do and something keeps telling me to move on.

Yes, I have. I met a guy who as 7 years younger then me and despite my better judgement we started dating. Then he started crying about how he was going to get evicted because he was so far behind on rent from his ex-fiancee who never paid bills and was so mean to him. So, I moved in to get out of myparents house (I'd been there for two years after my divorce). Big mistake. He then dumps me, but still wants me to be his roommate. And he's lost his job and hasn't paid one bill in two monthes. Then, he wants me back. That lasted till after New Years when he dumps me agian. And I'm finding numbers all over the place. The final straw was when he borrowed my car and didn't come back with it for 5 hours. And the stripper he was paying for sex while he was dating his ex-fiancee and then me called looking for him. Plus, he'd tried to hit me once before. All the while I had his friend telling me to get out and come stay with him no strings attached. So that's just what I did. You should have seen the look on his face when I told him. It was priceless. I also talked the ex-fiancee because she was still friends with the friend. She told me he used to hit her, never could keep a job, and spent all of his money on porn and strippers. Just a total nut case. Here's the weird part with this guy and the friend. My ex-bf thought this friend was his best friend and that they were like brothers. The friend thought he was a waste and was really only friends with the ex-fiancee and me. The ex even went so far as to tell me that if I came between them he'd "get me". After I moved in the friend stop answering his calls. And these went on every three months for three years till I finally had the friend's sister e-mail the kid and tell him to leave us alone.

Divorce

yea he walked with me everywhere, always holding my hand always kissing me But FREAKED out when i would talk to other guys, other guys would call me, even if it was like work stuff. He wouldnt let me walk down the hall alone, because he thought i was checkin other guys out He didnt even like me LOOKING at guys, *not even meaning to* i had to make sure i looked foward the whole time i walked to not be considered CHEATING SO yea, were over now. lol

Talkin about this, makes US a psycho. Peace<<<>>>

christ up until now thats pretty much been my dating history. all through middle school and the beginning of high school i was just a horny kid looking for attractive girls. i found hot girls but i never bothered to care about their personalities, turns out they were all broken in the head, i cant even explain it really, have you ever been in a room with someone and you can just tell by looking at their face "that persons ganna do something f**king crazy" thats been pretty much it

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I just came out of a relationship like that, the guy scared me, but lucky for me after 3 months I was able to walk away for the fact that he was married once and had a child I wanted to get married to him someday and have children with him, but he told me that he did not want to be a father again,(too expensive) so PHEW! that was the straw that broke the camels back. He was a thug, and he said some things that scared me.

Oh yes I have. They are just great actors. They do and say everything right...until they nab you. Then the real psycho crap comes out. Oh yeah....I relate to that very well.......

i am currently in a situation to where i was dating this girl before i leeft for the AF and while i was in AF i found out she was pregnant.. when i called about her being pregnant she yelled at me on the phone and said she had cheated on me and that she has another man she is getting married. 4 years later She contacts me saying the child is mine.. and that they are ok .. so we start talking again .. and she comes to my work crying about how much she wants to be a happy family and she wants to work things out... and i am hesitant to take her back .. but i do and things are great for the first month until i get her a bartending job.. she then starts distancing her self from yelling at me about calling her and asking her what she is doing saying i am upp her but all the time... and the she loves me but i am around to much.. but unfortunately she is working where i hang out and it is the only time i get to see her... becasue she wont make anytime other than that to hang out or bring my daughter out to see me... so she ends it because i am around to much .. now mind this is the girl that came to me after 4 years saying she is ready to be happy and settle down and be a family and i immediately drop my single life act and take her back.... just kind of curious what i should do and she starting flirting with guys right in front of me and giving them her number .... and yes we have been in fights for me going through her phone... but i had a reason to from the text messages that i have read... any input would be appreciated..

Yes, I've dated one psycho in my life when I was 18. He was 5 years older. Our relationship started the way most begin at this age...with us drinking together. After a few weeks of hanging out, he asked me to go away with him for the weekend. While we were away, he told me he loved me and wanted to marry me. At 18, this totally freaked me out. So, when we got back from our romantic weekend, I started to immaturely distance myself (ie, not return his calls). One day called me, at work, telling me that if I didn't agree to meet with him that night he'd come to my work and make a scene. I agreed to meet him. When I did, he looked insane and had crazy eyes. He proceeded to tell me that he had chlamydia and probably gave it to me. The next day, I went to the doctor and had nothing. He continued to harass me. Weeks later, I found out the whole chlamydia thing was a lie on his part too. Total psycho. I recently saw him (it's been 10 years) at a mutual friend's birthday party. He is still psycho.

Move on.She has commitment issues.You may want to get a paternity test to make sure the child is yours, before you start paying child support.If she is, set up regular visitation so you can have a solid relationship w/your child.Sorry you have to go through this you sound like one of the good ones.Good luck.

He became possessive, obsessive, abusive.

I saw a podiatrist who dumped me because I didn't have perfect tonails. :S (to the noral eye they're fine)

Were you watching me when I was dating???

yes, my ex! he seemed SO nice, but he turned out to be psycho. we were together for almost two years, but then the bullshit and headgames became old.