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both, because both are important. More of personality in the long run though, but I want a good looking old wife! :-P
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I don't go for anything. I wait for it to come to me. I might be waiting a long time....
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eyes...they tell me about the personality...
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The looks draw me in, but the personality will either send me running for the hills or setting up camp!
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Both, to be honest. But personality probably wins in a close one. A girl can have stunning, model looks but have a personality or attitude that removes any kind of desire from me. A girl right next to them may not be a Cleo Cover Girl but because of what is inside can send the blood-pressure soaring... Of course, finding one with both is like running into the Perfect Storm!
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both
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Looks first. But it also involves if you feel that there is a certain chemistry between that person and you. That's the point of dating someone in my opinion, only there you can find their "true colors".
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definitly the personality,the looks i don t even think about because as soon as i start falling for her she always becomes the most beautifull girl that i have ever met.
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Both, I like men with nice eyes and hands and a great sense of humour , as well as a kind loving heart
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I see it this way, if you have a crappy personality your looks mean nothing to me. A good looking person with a bad personality can turn out to be pretty ugly.
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Personality. What am I going to do with a good looking bore?
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"Beauty is fading, but dumb is forever." :D Looks might draw interest, but personality keeps it.
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initially people look for looks and as time goes by they discover personality that it doesnt matter how the person looks like :) "looks can kill" sometimes..
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Well, don't get me wrong. When I see someone who catches my eye, it's a plus. BUT Personality is pretty much all that matter for me. Why? Because no matter what the person looks like, if I like their personality it like shine through and I like think they are so good looking. JUST like ass's. If they are cute and are assholes, they seem ugly to me. inside and out. That's just how I am :)
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To be honest, personality. I don't really feel attracted to people just by looking at them - well, yes I suppose when there's someone that's incredibly fit I do, but I don't usually follow that attraction. It's usually after talking to a person (and arguing with them - I'm too confrontational for my own good, and I usually end up with people just as aggressive as I am) that I realise that I am attracted or at least whether I like or don't like them. If I feel comfortable with a person and they make me laugh and think, and don't make me feel stupid or treat me as if I'm silly, then that's when the attraction comes in.
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to much of either will cause problems and lack of content with the person....looks aren't everything, but nobody wants to be rolling around in bed with a 500lb bald amputee with three teeth
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ill date a girl with looks but ill love a girl with personality
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well yea people can say they are not going for someone just because of they way he or she looks, but your not going to look at a guy or girl who might be a little weird lookin and say "WOW! let me go see if they have a great personality!" nah, you know you are gonna go to someone who looks good then after you find out they have a good personality, THEN you say "it was thier personality that i was attracted to"
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I have become attracted to people who, at first, were not very good looking to me. Because we may have hung out or worked together, I got to know the other person and started liking the personality. Once I really like a person, the looks get better and better. Looks do play a part, however. If I see two people, one good looking, one not so hot, and I have time to talk to only one, I will probably go for the good looking one. I think it is natural to do so. Of course, I would like to be with someone who has both a good personality and looks that I find attractive from the start. Just a bit of a fantasy, I guess. Personality is more important, but I have seen some people sooooooo ugly, I wouldn't be able to get by it to have a relationship with that person, regardless of personality. We all have seen people like that (yes you have--don't lie).
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i'd notice the looks before the personality, but i'd "judge" (for lack of a better word) on personality
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i love men with hot personalities!!...but the guy has to look decent, and not like a hobo off the street! ha
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personality, you can only get so far on looks
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thats a hard question if you really get down to it. I would say personality though. A bad personality can make someone look bad too...
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personality without a doubt. looks dont last forever. Im lucky enough to have both with my girlfriend.
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personality of course
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personality, i have to have someone to talk to. the looks would just be a welcome plus.
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For myself? I already have the personality. I could use better looks. In others? I'd rather know a nicer person than a hot person.
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Right of the bat I was thinking looks, but then it dawned on me you can always change what you look like (it may be costly, but you can) however once a bitch always a bitch. So I'll go with personality..... and a big check please
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Initially, looks and not personality are what make you want to get to know the person and find out about their personality. If there's no initial attraction, there's no reason to conversate with the person at all. I'll have to say looks, shallow as I sound.
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Looks fade, but you're stuck with personality. So my choice: Personality.
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Personality. You can always shine from the inside if you don't from the outside. Looks fade with time and they don't tell people much about you. I wouldn't like the type of people who are attracted to only looks.
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Personality of course. It can look great but if thats all there is,what do you get out of it?
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Every person has an unique and interesting personality so that's out of question... so give me good looks ;)
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what can you get outta looks? like what if a good looking person had a no good personality? so for me, i go for their personality:):) its interesting, seeing different people hanging out together, then "seeing" their personality is more interesting
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I think that personality makes the person look good or bad. Bad personality, they're ugly. Good personality, they're beautiful.
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I first go for looks because that is the first thing I see, but then I go for personality.
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Looks are critical, the most important thing. A romantic relationship is nothing without sexual attraction. However, even though I'll always value looks very highly for dating, a decent personality will keep me around a little longer (maybe a couple of weeks or even months) and a truly horrible personality will make me duck out very early (after or even before the first time we have sex). A neutral or no-personality person is the norm, and I can deal with that happily for at least a few weeks, or even a month and a half, if she's cute and the sex is good.
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Personality, honest to god.
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I'll be honest. I go for looks first. But the personaity keeps my attention. However, I will state that people I've thought to be good looking, everyone else thought was ugly. So...:D
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I normally go for both,obviously you got to be attracted to the person in the first place. I used to go for looks when i was younger,but sadly most of them had no personalitys at all! I go more for personality now but you can still be fooled if they are good actors!
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Looks are nice and immediately attractive but they cannot hold interest where a persons personality can and will.
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Both, I am greedy, I know! lol
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Looks usually initially interest me, but it goes nowhere without the personality. It's greed, you always want both, just natural. However, you get a shot with me automatically if you're wearing Los Angeles Kings merch, have red hair, or look like a metal head :)
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Looks first - then Personality - if the personality is crappy the looks don't matter.
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I go for looks first but if there's no personality it won't even start. I can't go for personality if I don't like her phisically.
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Looks
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For some-one to look good to me, their personality (individuality!) needs to be explicit in their appearance. That would generally interest me to want to talk to them, get to know them better.... but it is not often if at all that my interest/affection moves into the realms of me wanting to touch them in a way that is beyond friendly/social.
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Personality. If you have a great personality, people tend to like you for who you are...say you have great looks but you're snobby and think you're all so good, people aren't going to like you so much. I'd rather be known as the "nice" person rather than the "good looking" person.
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99% personality to be honest with you.
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I'm very greedy, I want both. Lucky for me, I was able to find it, finally.
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Personality is what I look for when I'm looking for a long term relationship. Someone can look good and have the world's worst personality. What would be the point in that?
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Looks come first, but if they don't have a great personality then the looks don't matter and I'll just move on and find someone with both.
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Both but if they are cute and I like their personality then thats even better!!!!
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personality looks are not everything i want a guy that is fun to be around and makes me laugh
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I tend to care more about the personality because there is only so much staring you can do with a pretty person before boredom kicks in.
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Both at the same time lol
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I was attracted to him because of his looks. I stayed with him because of his personality. Good lookin sum bit*h was sweet too. :0)
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No one would say they want to be involved with an "ugly".....therefore, looks count in gthe first place. But at the same time, we are attracted to different personalities....some would tell you that they are intensely attracted to aggressive people...while others would go for the direct opposite......so personality also counts.
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Personality. For me, someone's personality changes someone's looks for the better.
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Both are important. I must be attracted to someone, but I also must enjoy their company.
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I don't care if she's dumb as a brick as long as she's hot.
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personality. looks is a plus i know this is a repeat answer. i saw it. but i'm saying what i like
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Everyone is brought into a relationship on looks even if the personality is right for you. It is the visual stimulus that pushes you to seek more of the person unless you are dating a person you have been around for a long time and know alot about.
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I married my first wife for looks. I married my second wife because she was my best friend and had a great personality. I like the second marriage a LOT better. Hope that helps. :))
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A likable personalty is essential.
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95% personality!!! He must be funny! :D
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I go for a little bit of both. There are certain physical criterias that have to be met, but beyond that, he has to be funny and truely like me for me and is all that matters.
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Both. I'm not attracted to stupid or mean people, but I'm not attracted to ugly people either.
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Looks are important to a degree, but what really makes me truely attracted to someone is their personality.
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bit of both - its got to be the right combination
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Looks first then personality
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Looks can attract me but personality is the decider! On the other hand, I may be attracted to someone purely for their charisma and happy personality, even If I don't find them all that attractive.
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Both.
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ok..... looks is what gets you started but the minute i feel there's no real spark thats it. if we dont have anything in common and we just couldnt be friends than there's really no point in tryinng to take it further
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Looks is the initial attraction and then the total package is complete with a great personality...
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both a 50/50..
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i cant date someone im not attracted to but i cant date someone just on looks but looks are a huge part of the relationship as well as my conection with them and their personality
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Personality and and numerous qualities and charecteristics are a must and immediately interests or eliminates a woman for me, however I would be a liar if I didnt say that looks have a significant part in the overall attraction. No mater how strong the personality is I am certain the relationship would ultimately fail if there wasnt a strong physical attraction as well.
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approachability
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Personality:)
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personality all the way :)
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Looks will first attract me and get my attention but personality is what will keep me.
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It would have to be looks first because you do not know anything about them personally
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looks, but only initially. I very quickly move on to personality.
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Both. I like inner and outer beauty :)
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So quick to forget about money, shame shame...
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i personally go for personality then looks
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I guess looks can be a big influence initially if you don't know that person. Then body language comes into play (eg does he/she act like an arrogant peacock or know-it-all etc...) Sometimes a person can grow on you over time and even though at first you don't think he/she was that good looking you realise he/she seems to be becoming more and more attractive - that's due to personality I guess.
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both are important in a way for me atleast
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I usually look for a heartbeat and go from there.
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i go for look at first, cuz thats what turns me on to them, in less i have class with them or some like that. well as long as there okay than i look to see what kinda of a person they r, trust me i been with a lot of Fine people, but that was the old me like 5 years back, im not in to dating people that i dont see my self being with forever. *by the wayand u can look good and be a good person to.
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i go for look at first, cuz thats what turns me on to them, in less i have class with them or some like that. well as long as there okay than i look to see what kinda of a person they r, trust me i been with a lot of Fine people, but that was the old me like 5 years back, im not in to dating people that i dont see my self being with forever. *by the wayand u can look good and be a good person to.
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inside out...
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Neither. I go for who he is.
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It is a total package deal...body, mind and soul.....when your younger the looks seem more important....the most important thing is really being on the same intellectual level...that's my opinion....
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Personality
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Deff personality AND sense of humor!
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Personality, by far!
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i have to be attracted to them both physically and mentally.dont mean to sound concided but i cant have a hot dumb chick and i cant have a ugly smart chick either. i like a good balace of the two. there are alot of other factors involved as well.
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Looks first as it is the first attraction for me and then personality as it is the most important :)
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