I'm 27 and there's a 20 year old at work who likes me. He's nice and not horrible looking, but 20 seems so young. Would you date someone that much younger than you?
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I am 29 and were I single I would date as young as was willing to date me (and was legal) but I am a guy and we are typicaly more attracted to youth than women are.
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Well, at the mo if I did he'd be eleven so NO!! But I don't see any problem with your situation, why not just go for it?!
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Well girls mature alot faster then guys so keep that in mind with a 20yr. old male. Older women tend to be a sexual conquest for them. Being that he isn't 21 would be a real curve to me.
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Hey, you're back on AB!!:) Good to see you. To answer your question, seven years is not that big of a difference. The main question you have to ask yourself is if he acts maturally enough for you. He is still pretty young and could be playing you, but that's for you to decide.
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Date? I'd brag, too!
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Providing all is legal ... the age difference should not matter ... as is with mixed race relationships or gay relationships ... Love is love.
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if you study human development over the life span you would see how 7 years at 20 & 27 makes a bigger difference than 7 years at 40 & 47...it really depends on the two people involved...if the older is lagging developmentally and the younger advanced developmentally so that they meet in the middle, that would make those issues managable.
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I've dated women at twice that age range. You'll be fine.
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I don't know about that much younger. I have dated 2 years younger than me and that seemed ok. I usually date older. Most of my relationships have been with men 9-13 years older than myself, Men my own age seem somewhat immature.
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Toy boys are in!
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Yes my husband is 6 years younger than me and we do get along fine. If you like this guy why not go for it and see how you feel. Age is nothing compared to love.
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It's really according to how mature he acts.... I'm 56 and my BF is 49... we get alone great....:)
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It's not age, it's his maturity, does he act grown up or does he still act like a kid? What type of relationship are you looking for with him?
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If I was 27, I wouldn't date someone that young. I did once and she was far too immature for me.
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It isn't the age difference - it would be his age that would put me off. I wouldn't date a 20 year old...that is just me though. I am always more attracted to younger guys, but I think guys are mostly too young at 20.
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For me age is not an issue (within sane limits, of course). I dated younger, I dated older. Personality is the most important thing here. One can get totally self-sufficient by age 17, when another stays mommy's sissy boy even over his 50's.
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I'm 26, my b/f is 5 and a half years younger than me. If you get on well, the age won't seem important. The worst thing is the initial amused reaction from some friends and family but after they've had a little chuckle to themselves about it there has been no issues. It helps that we have a very similar outlook as to where we want our lives to go so there is no conflict going on e.g. the older one looking to settle when the younger one isn't. If you like him, go for it, get to know each other, have fun and find if you are right for one another. If you are, fabulous! If not, there are plenty more men out there.
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I wouldn't date him because you chose the words "nice" and "not horrible looking". Don't think that no one else likes you...just go out, have fun, and the right guy will come along. If you are just bored at work and settling you are looking for trouble.
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I have. I have dated guys older than me and younger than me. I have found that it really depends much more so on the person than on the age. I have dated younger guys who turned out to be very mature and older guys who needed to grow up. 7 years is not that big of a difference. If you like him you should at least take the chance to get to know him and see where it goes from there.
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Definitely not. I prefer my romantic choices to be older than I am. To be honest, I'm usually a little turned off if I know the person is just a year younger than I am. But that's just me. I have women friends who date younger men all the time, and they are perfectly happy. They're more into the youthful energy, I'm more into the sexy older man maturity.
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It can be fifty years and make no difference as long as you two love each other and are happy. If its meant to be, you will work it out together. This could be something that is meant to be. you will never know if you do not give it a chance. Just make sure you have many things in common. thats one of the main ingredients in a happy relationship.
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I dated a 20 year old lady when I was 26 or 27. She was immature could not get into bars and had dumb friends. but I did love her a lot and we dated for quite a while and I do not regret it. I actually tought her how to drive. Her parents thought she was a virgin when she always stayed at my house. It was better for her that for me I guess. And honestly I do like teaching people things and giving advice which is why I love this site I guess. But eventually I had to break it off because I wanted a person with a little more knowledge about things like wine and general things that people learn with age like resonsibility.
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Go do it. What the hell. Would you care if you were 77 and he was 70?
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Yes, go for it. If he seems young in personality, maturity, life goals, you can always say goodbye. But you may find out that he is the same "age" as you are in these more important ways and you could be in for a very nice time together. Also , remember that if you are in it for the long haul, the younger man is better because women outlive men by about 7 years.
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Yes and I have. I was 38 and she was 23.
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Yes, I would. I'm a female, and I've been with someone 9 years younger than me for 8 years. The age difference has not got in the way.
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My 31 year old friend met a 20 year old when she was 28 and they started dating. They are still together. I don't think it has been easy for her. 20 is young. He couldn't decide what he wanted, left her then came back a day later etc etc. But in the end they are in love and are trying to make a go of it. Be prepared for getting your heart broken though. No one can trample over your heart like someone that age. I know, when I was 20 I had started a relationship with a much older man and I know I trampled over his because I was too young to have a sense of responsibility or know what I wanted. Having seen it from the other side, I don't think I could put myself through it. I liked a 20 year old I worked with, but I couldn't go there. Depends how mature he is, I suppose.
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I'd consider it if I were 27 but at 41, 30 might be the lowest I'd consider. It will adjust as I age.
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No too young too dumb find someone else whos more grown up
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Age is nothing but a number! Don't put limits on your relationship possibilities! Although I would be a bit weary about the fact that he hasn't reached 21 yet. Many people drastically change once hitting that age.
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Even though i say I would... When it came right down to it, I don't think I could. It would have to be a VERY mature, intelligent younger person. Not just a cutie pie. Not nearly enough for me!
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to be honest, if you can avoid it i would.... at 20 they are pretty immature and it will be fun at the beginning but trust me it wont be in the long run, maybe if you both were 10 yrs older then the age difference would't matter as much...
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