Maybe parents think that it is too early for them to do 'something' Parents want them to grow to a certain age to do things like that. A teen is still a parent's responsibility so if something goes wrong parents would be blamed. However if a person grows to an adult it is entirely his/her responsibility...

Most parents feel uncomfortable about the idea of their children having sex. They still see their offspring as their babies and the idea of them growing up and having sexual feelings is difficult for them. Add to this the worries and responsibilities associated with sex- pregnancy, STD's, more complex relationship problems- and its understandable why they might not just want to give the green light. Who wants to be a grandparent before they hit 40? Is it not understandable that parents worry about teenage sex. Would you want your daughter to face single parenthood at 15? Whilst parents take various different approaches to dealing with their teenagers sexualities I don't think any responsible parent would ever be justified in the "Yeh- go ahead, do what you like, what do I care?" approach. Sex does raise a whole load of other issues, its not as simple as "hey we fancy each other- what's the big deal?". Many parents would not want to open to accusations of irresponsibility if either the girl got pregnant or criminal charges were brought up by the courts/ neighbours/ parents of the boyfriend or girlfriend. I think most parents secretly accept that their teenagers are going to be having sex sooner or later, and there's not much they can do to stop it, but there's no reason why they should encourage it, at least not in such a haphazard "who gives a monkey's" way. Even those parents who do allow boyfriends and girlfriends in the same bed will usually have a lower age limit and will want to have a serious talk with their child about the various issues associated with sexual relationships, and perhaps make sure they have access to contraception, before they were to allow this.

well one reason is that u shouldnt be doin anything before marrige. because once u get marrried it tares you apart.

The fact that you dont know the answer to this tells me you arent old enough to sleep in the same bed with your boyfriend/girlfriend.

If you're asking then DON'T do it. Obviously you don't anything about that area. And you're not supposed to have sex before you're married. All I really have to say is "TRUE LOVE CAN WAIT" Which means WAIT until you're married. Then it will really count.

Sex is always more than just sex. I didn't understand it until I got older and saw how much it affects. MOST parents love their children and want the best for them. They aren't trying to be old fashioned farts. They understand the complexities of sex and are trying to help you make wise choices in a wise time frame. Trust them and talk to them more about sex so you can learn from them.

It has to do with respecting the rules of the house you live in. If you want to spend the night with your boyfriend/girlfriend then get your own place, pay your own bills, buy your own food, then you can live by your own rules.

I'm with Hemiman on this one. The fact that you would even think of posting this question is evidence enough that you are not ready for a relationship, much less sex. Parents don't let teenagers do this because we know better than those who want to. If you want an answer about your own parents, go talk to them. If they aren't willing to answer you, talk to any other adult you trust. Do NOT talk to other teenagers who are looking for freedom THEY aren't ready for.

WHY WON'T PARENTS LET THE TEENAGER'S DATE SLEEP IN THE SAME BED? TRY THE FACT THAT THESE PARENTS DON'T WANT TO BE GRANDPARENTS IN THEIR THIRTIES! TRY THE FACT THAT THEY DON'T WANT TO SPEND THOUSANDS RAISING THEIR TEENAGER'S BABY! TRY THE FACT THAT THEY DON'T WANT TO SPEND THOUSANDS TREATING THEIR TEENAGER AFTER THEY GET HIV AND AIDS! WHAT'S SO BAD IF THEY DO SOMETHING? TRY THE FACT THAT TEENAGERS HAVE THE HIGHEST RATE OF STDS OF ALL THE GROUPS STUDIED! TRY THE FACT THAT PARENTS DON'T WANT TO SUPPORT THE TEENAGERS AND THEIR BABY! THE THING ABOUT TEENAGERS IS THAT THEY CAN'T PREDICT THE CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR ACTIONS. THE PART OF THE BRAIN RESPONSIBLE FOR IT SIMPLY ISN'T DEVELOPED YET. BESIDES, IF THE PARENTS SAY THEY DON'T WANT THEM SLEEPING TOGETHER THEY SHOULD RESPECT IT.

Well because they know how teenage horomones are. I mean do you want your kids a parent at the age of 13-16?

Most parents don't want to take care of their teenagers kids.

In my opinion which is probably biased i would have to disagree with many of the people heres answers. I'm 17 and have never had sex but not because i was told i couldn't and i couldn't sleep in the same bed as a girl but because i chose to stay a v. I parents would and have since i was arround 15 allowed me to have girls round to sleep over not nessecarily share a bed but i mean share a room unsupervised with two beds lol. What i'm saying is given the freedom to do it but the knowledge that you dissapprove or that if they are going to that they will be wearing a condom and they will be safe about it then i can't see any harm. I wouldn't allow a girl to stop over a guys house until she was probably 15/16 thou and the same for a guy but i think you have to give them the freedom to do it under your rules else they'll do it hap-hazard under there own and thats when you get teenage pregnancy the spread of STI's etc... if you ban a child from something they'll just want it more.

I answered that way on purpose due to my outrage at the stupidity of the question, the sum of which says a lot about the intelligence of the idiot who asked it.

once u are mature enough and have enough money to get ur own place, do whatever u want. as long as ur parents are financially support you,you do as they say

Because those parents care about their children and don't want to see them hurt.

When you of age & living in your own house do as you will. Parents care for and try to protect their children as long as they can and this falls under bad news.

What's so bad is that most teenagers are not financially, emotionally, physically, or mentally ready to raise a child for the next 18 years. I don't care what type of protection they use the only guarunteed way to not get pregnant is to not have sex. Not only is pregnancy an issue but so are sexually transmitted diseases. A third reason is this. I am 35 years old and I would not take my boyfriend over to my mother's house to spend the night.

i don't have any children i did not have sex before marriage and if i had children, i would not encourage behavior that could result in sex before marriage my two bosses have been living together for several years, they got engaged last year and now the female is expecting a baby, they are 28 and 35 and can financially support their offspring... a teenager usually cannot

My mom and my ex's mom never used to let us sleep in the same bed when we went to each others houses. Even tho we were both 16 and had been together for around 4 months. That doesn't mean it stopped us though, one of us would just wake up really early and sneak back into our own rooms. Just because we wanted to share a bed didnt necessarily mean that we wanted to have sex, sharing a bed with someone makes you feel close to them, its nice I like it :) By allowing your children to share a bed with their partner shows your trust in them, it proves to your child that you feel there are responisible and mature. But in the case of me and my ex i can understand where our parents were coming from as we are neither :P

What's so bad? Gee, maybe a BABY arriving 9 months later. Maybe throat cancer from O-sex. Maybe any different kinds of STD's that will show up and change their life FOREVER. (herpes/AIDS/warts) Maybe becoming a burden to society when even one of these things happens. (will a teenager have health insurance as they are racking up medical bills to combat such issues) The fact that the author of this question hasn't considered this means they aren't mature enough to be having sex and sleeping in the same bed. SO...that's why GOOD parents don't let their teenagers sleep in the same bed and have sex.

Uh probably the 8 lb scrawny human that will later come to deplete the parents of their retirement savings and give their daughter herpes. I believe most parents consider that bad.

hahahah boy, I hope this is a joke. There's a reason I don't have kids and if I were to have one of my own brain damaged little heathen offspring there's no way in hell I'd let mine do that. The teenagers that work for me have hardly any common sense, no work ethic and no source of income except a part time job they sometimes show up for. Most of them at 18-22 still live at home, still don't cook or clean or know how to take care of themselves. Inevitably when one of them gets pregger their parents end up raising the kid and footing the bill....That on top of already having to raise a kid then having to raise their kids' kids...I think I might have to kill all parties involved if that happened in my home. My rule would be if you want to do adult things, then be an adult and get your own place.

I can't believe that this question is even here ... ONLY a mentally challenged person would ask such a thing .... To allow a teen age boy and a teen age girl to sleep in the same bed is inviting PREGNACY ... THEN; who is expected to PAY for all the pre natal care, post natal care , baby furniture, baby food, baby clothes etc etc .. What if one of the two had an STD and YOUR child caught it ? Just what we need ; kids having kids and TRYING to raise them with TAXPAYERS Supporting them ...

Because that just invites a teen pregnancy too occur.

Well the fact that you have to ask that question tells me that you are not ready to sleep with your bf/gf! Good lord the answers could take all day! But first and foremost the top 3: Pregnancy, STDs and mental overload.

Wow! You are a bright one! What is so bad hmmm....Obviously you are suffering from a slight brain-cell deficiency....Pregnancy, STDs, emotional issues, Sin, etc. - (Still Laughing)

They're as uncomfortable seeing their children fucking as their children are seeing their parents do it! :D

Because it changes your future in a bad way and adds burdens you don't even see coming because of your lack of life experience.

My parents never let me sleep with my boyfriends in the same bed. When I have kids I wont either.