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  • It'll probably take more than 2 months to get over a 3-year relationship. Just give it time. And don't ever cheat again.
  • Sorry, you crossed the line. now, you have to suffer the consequences. the devil made you do it. the heat-of-the-moment, has ruined many marriages and relationships. if you cheated, while dating, you will cheat after marriage. this may have happened for a reason, on his part. You apparently were not that much in love with your boyfriend. Hope he has found someone else.
  • were you drunk or what?
  • I have advice to give because I'm in a very similar situation. I cheated on someone I was in a serious relationship with because I was stupid, young, careless, and impatient. I was with the guy for 4 years but on the fourth year, I cheated on him with this one other guy for 1 whole year. After that, I Couldnt handle it and broke it off with him. Im with the new guy now but I still miss the hell out of my ex bf because he really had some wonderful qualities. He found out I cheated on him recently because I told him I was seeing someone (we still kept in touch as friends). Now he wont talk to me at all. He claims he regrets being with me and wished he wasnt with me for those 4 years and I was evil. The most you can do is just pray to God for forgiveness and make a promise to yourself that you'll never cheat again!
  • guilt is the worst enemy you can have.. forgiving yourself and accepting the fact of consequences you made is a start on to move.. be strong and never do the things you did in the past.. goodluck..
  • You can't feel guilty about it forever. You've already paid a huge price for your stupidity, so no point in keeping on beating yourself up over it. Accept that that part of your life is over and find other challenges.
  • You can't undo your mistakes but you can learn from them, and use that learning to make yourself a better person.
  • well sweety you must move on theres plenty of fish in the sea just forgive yourself and move on
  • You have to learn by your mistakes. Some people give second chances but he's obviously one of the strong ones that dont. Try one last time to get back with him, expect the answer to be a no and prepare yourself for this telling yourself that you have tried everything and theres nothing more you can do then move on and concentrate on you for a while. You will find someone new and hopefully not make the same mistake again.
  • Don't do it again to ex or next.
  • That is something that you will have to deal with forever. You just have to find a way to pick yourself back up and learn from your mistakes. You have to let it go and you will when you are ready. Do not beat yourself up about it just remember the mistakes that you made and learn from it. Remember everything happens for a reason- stop living in the past, forgive yourself and move on. Learn from this experience and remember to take the time to stop and think about your actions because the things that you do directly effect everyone around you- just try to put yourself in the other persons shoes. Pain is only temporary and life will go on. You will find peace about this eventually, just dont make the same mistake twice. Good Luck
  • I did the same thing, only its been less than a week since we broke up...I know how you feel. I dont know, I mean I have been ashamed of myself. There is no excuse for what I did to him, he did not deserve it at all. What really sucks is that I screwed him so badly and now I cant be there to make it better. I just pray that he will give me another shot...although I doubt that I will ever get that priveldge ever again. I mean he looked me in the eye and told me that he dispised me. Further, he told me that he told his parents what I did....Sigh
  • 3 YEARS AND YOU DID THAT TO HIM??? MAN, UNLESS HE WAS DOING YOU WRONG IN SOME WAY THEN YOU ARE A F!@#$%^ SLUT!
  • That is f#@$ing lame! It's been 3 months since my girlfriend of 3 1/2 years cheated on me. All I can really say is: Don't cheat! It destroys! Love, trust, honor, loyalty, friendship, families.
  • Thats really messed up what you did. I been cheated on before and she was sorry but I wouldnt forgive her. I cried and was sad for a long time but it only made me stronger. Just like everyone else said learn from your mistakes and never do it again! Like that song that The All American Rejects made "Move along!"
  • Learn from it!!!!!
  • Don't cheat next time, dumbass. Lord, I hate cheaters. Most of the time, I'd give a well thought out answer, but this is just ridiculous. I hope you've learned your lesson. And if you haven't, I hope you're miserable for a lot longer than two months.
  • Let it go, you did NOTHING - and, certainly nothing wrong. To the degree that you hold yourself in contempt is equivalently the degree of your personal confusion. As for his reaction, that's his right, honor it, let it go. Be at ease....be yourself...and, without condemning the x-bf, know that you are totally fine and there others out there who would happily accept you as you are, not label you a cheater (as you appear to have done), and be genuinely happy for you when you find what you want - regardless of how it appears.... hint: You didn't lose your bf because he was never yours to begin with - thinking he was is delusional....
  • damn these people gave you no advice lol.. listen first of all i lost someone like that, you know what it is insecurity or being afraid if that was what you really wanted. so you tried something else, and found out that's not what you wanted..and that you do love him but ended up loosing him. that whole taking a break thing is bullshit too.. either you like someone or you don't its simple.(but complicated lol) now for getting him back, its gonna be hard.. talk to him about what i said, and don't wait to long thinking that time will make things better because it ll just make things worse. ask him to hang out with you, to see if there are any sparks.. but if it doesn't work out it just wasn't meant to be, and god has another plan in your life.. but the most important thing you need to get out of this is the lesson...cheating is the devils favorite weapon because it hurts and destroys, and that's what hes all about..i wish you good luck ill pray for u remember god is forgiving..
  • Keep yourself preoccupied with other activities..friends, school, jobs, volunteering.. anything to keep your mind off of your wrongdoings. I personally, feel the same as the rest of these people commenting. I tend to be biased as I've been cheated on as well and so has my mother. What you did was a terrible thing especially in a relationship of three long years. You know this and everyone knows this. I am absolutely certain, however, that you are going to become a much better, loyal, honest, and trustworthy partner. It's better to learn it the hard way then to never learn at all. I'm sure you'll succeed in making your next relationship a happy one. Good luck to you!
  • wow, the harshness. I understand how you're feeling. I cheated on my boyfriend, we're trying to work thru it, but i dont think its going to work. Ive been doing some reading about cheating and OVER half of the people in committed relationships cheat on thier partners. So its something to think about. if most people are doing it, then why is there so much hate for cheaters. I cant answer that question, and i can understand the hate, but sometimes people make mistakes, and sometimes those mistakes are big ones....and sometimes people deserve forgiveness. The only thing i can say is that you should try to forgive yourself, no one else will....cause cheaters are "evil". You know that things arent so black and white, and the people that look at things that way are wrong. So forgive yourself, and stop beating yourself up, just because the rest of the world sees fit to punish you doesnt mean you have to. At the end of the day, if the two of you couldnt make it through that (your action and his inability to forgive) then it probably wasnt ment to be. Sorry to hear you're suffering, but just remember you're not a bad person, you're a person that made a bad mistake.
  • Talk to him...if you are truly sorry and love him try and win back your man
  • There's so many fish in the sea. Is he really the world's best boyfriend in the world. Move on, don't worry, don't feel guilt because he could of done something bad...hope that helps
  • give it time hunni and try and live your life to the full.. try not to make that mistake again tho...
  • My ex n I broke up 2 months ago, and recently he confessed he cheated (which is completely out of character 4 him 2)...he's very remorseful and regrets ruining our chance at real love. I've forgiven him, and since we're still friends, I've encouraged him to forgive himself. I see how shameful it is for him and how weighed down by guilt he's been... and as pathetic as this may sound... it hurts me to see him hurt. Getting over a breakup is hard in itself... so just give it time. Let go of what you've done- don't let it become who you are. Good luck.
  • You should seek counseling to find out why. I think you know why, but you won't admit it. Its not a nice trait to have, you may want to get some help to change that about yourself.
  • i know how u feel ur dying inside every second of everyday. i can't provide a real answer cuz i need one too. all u can do is never cheat again and hope his love will still be there. i don't know why i made the same kind of mistakes you did but all i can say is all the bitter people out there have never felt real love.
  • My xbf cheated on me. It hurt like hell...Give HIM time and space. Maybe things will work out.
  • no ones perfect dear in this world. You need to tell him how much you care and how devastated you actually are about the breakup. You need to earn his trust again. This can be done. And you need to forgive yourself as you are a human being not a saint. We are all guilty of sin and you are no exception. You obviously care about this guy so get moving honney. It will take time so dont get discourged. k good luck and good love
  • In your heart, you were ready to move on and so that's what you should do.
  • Sorry, you won't get any solace from me. You learned a lesson, now move on. :) (Though this was from over 3 years ago...) lol
  • A good sign is you feel bad, but it's over. After 3 yrs. of a commitment to you he realizes if he can't earn your trust by that point he never could. Just accept you did something wrong, and if your truly sorry you will never do it again to anyone. As far what lies between you and your x in the future allow that to be up to him.
  • You might try and apologize to him for wasting three years of his life. I've been there and it really hurts to find out that when you think you have got it made, you really don't have anything, and the only one you know you can rely on doesn't give a care in the world about you.
  • you wanted to cheat. and it is in character for you. get therapy and avoid long term relationship until then.
  • sorry chick... no sympathy from me either. my wife ran away with BF#3 within 6 months. she started cheating a month before our 6 year anaversary. cheaters do not deserve a faithful SO so go find someone who cheated on one of your friends and date them. it is in your charactor. I had the PERFECT opportunity to cheat and NEVER be caught. the chick was HOT and that our only way to communicate was my limited spanish made her that much hotter. the drive to do it was so strong I was shaking like a parkinsens patient for hours after walking away. charactor is not the ideals you preach but the rules you follow even when you hunger for something in violation of them. and integrity is what you do when noone is looking. he already knows you lack charactor and integrity... yet rather than learn from this you decide it is not in your charactor as though that changes anything. the shoe fits girly. you are a cheater. stop pretending to be monogamous. just date the field. accept who you are so future lovers are not hurt by your true self comming out against the will of your denial.
  • well just think that you really not meant for each other and think also that you just borrowed your boyfriend from someone else and its time for u to return him........anyway its life you have to move on........

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