Why do some people think it is okay, to walk up to a skinny person and say, OMG you are so skinny? Would it offend you, if I walked up to you and said, OMG you are so fat?
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I am 5'10" & 130 lbs. My friends are all a little on the chubby side. They think that it's funny that they tell me to go to lunch with them because I need to eat since I am a skinny bitch. Joking around, I tell them "Well give me your sandwich...Lord knows you don't need another one." I tell them that just to give them the perspective of the other end. It is just as hurtful because a lot of skinny ppl cannot help it. It's all metabolism which will slow down eventually but I eat like a pig & still cannot gain any weight. It is very hurtful.
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I don't think its ok at all..It happens to me ALL THE TIME. That and "do you have an eating disorder??" don't these people have any tact or manners?? jeez!
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People have no problem offering me an extra piece of cake "because I need it"... but no one ever tells other people to put down the cake because they don't.
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well i would be offended if somebody said i was fat, and i wouldnt be offended if i was called skinny i would take it as a compliment, but that because i WANT to the slimmer i can see y people would bu hurt if you was called skinny because you WANT to be bigger i think when some1 sees a really skinny person they automaticly think its anorexic as they see a fat person and think lazy! i know being really skinny or really fat often it cant be helped but if people are saying that and smile because 1 day you may be on the otherside and i think that will hurt aswell! so just be proud of who you are skinny slim chubby or fat :D enjoy life its more important then size and to short to care
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It might be said in admiration..if a heavy gal said that to a slender gal, maybe it's because she wishes she were more slender. Sometimes people's choice of words leaves a lot to be desired...it's the underlying intent that's most important. I can't imagine anyone saying that for any reason other than a tinge of, well, if not envy, then at least longing! :)
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Why would I be offended?? I am fat!!
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Ugh... I get that all the time. One time I just got fed up and went on a "McDonald's diet" to shut people (especially my dad) up. Not recommended.
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i would just say could you not see that i am just a baby elephant and would you like to see my trunk? does not bother me i already know i am fat. actually i am pleasingly plump and i love myself just the way i am
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My flatmate sufferes from anorexia-nervosa. She has been getting better and on halloween 2007 built up the courage to come out, and when we were walking somewhere, she ran infront to meet some friends, and these girls passing said something REALLY cruel about seeing her bones. I flipped and started screaming at them!! It was such a cruel thing to say!!
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People never walk up to me and say "Gosh, you are so average sized". But if they did, I would find it odd. I don't say anything to anyone. I will look at some people and think "eat something, or cut back on the milkshakes", but I would not say anything to them. The only time I say something to someone is when they are trying to hard to be something they are not.
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Some people don't even have a hint of class or respect. That's why.
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99% of the people walking around today have no couth. It's like they leave common sense at home and replace it with boogers.
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It is true and i never understood that
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Some people just have no manners. I have complimented people who I know have lost weight, but I've never said "you're so skinny" or "you're so fat" to anyone. That's just rude! I have had a major weight problem in my late 30s/early 40s and joined Weight Watchers when I was 41. I've had to get used to being complimented on my weight loss (about 82 lbs)...and I'm one of those people who feel awkward when complimented. My former office manager left for a new position. She's always been someone who just says the most outrageous things without thinking. She came by the office when I was still losing and asked me "are you still doing Weight Watchers or have you been sick?" That certainly didn't sound like a compliment...
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I think that in society you are either skinny or fat, I think that we have lost that middle of the road on weight, for example... a few years ago I was in the post office and ran into a lady that I had not seen in years, and hugged me and said "Are you pregnant?" I knew I had put on a few pounds but Geez! Pregnant? Several months went by and I had cut out some things in my diet and lost about 30 pounds .. ran into the same lady again in the post office and what did she ask me ... "Are you sick Hun"? You cant win for losing, I tell ya.
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Oh I get that all the time!! It's more annoying than offensive. I also get "WOW you're sooo tall!" Yeah like I've never noticed before. Thanks for pointing that out for me... lol.
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Not really. You could tell me anything you want. Not a big deal. I've never walked up to anyone and said anything like that though. I was taught manners.
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I agree. In fact, I think you should DO that to the next person that says that to you. Much like, the next person that touches my belly uninvited it going to have one of THEIR reproductive organs grabbed in return. Oh? That's not okay?
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Hm.. I've never thought about it like that.. I used to be a little chubby when I was a kid, so now I'm always happy when people call me skinny.. never thought it could be a bad thing, at least not for a guy..
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In most parts of Asia calling someone fat is a compliment, as fat implies some level of prosperity (from what I have seen, the US is the only country where poor people are morbidly obese.) I was about 30 pounds overweight when I arrived here in Vietnam. I was always getting, "You look fat, Bill." And a few hours later, they would ask me to lend them a few hundred thousand dong. So I worked hard to get my weight down and tried to get rid of the "spare tire" around my stomach. It took about six months. When people began noticing that my stomach was almost gone (I still have the spare tire, but it's not as bad), people at work began asking me, "Need some money, Bill?"
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Well, it beats "it's a shame you're so skinny, you have such a pretty face". . .LOL. Or people who smirk and call you anorexic. That REALLY pisses me off.
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What makes the latter far more offensive has to do with society, and that the norm is to equate skinny to beauty. But the former can be offensive, to a sensitive person.
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People are so rude, crude, and obnoxious. Some people have no care what-so-ever if they hurt someone's feelings. Some people feel so bad about themselves that in order to make themselves feel better they have to be rude to others. I'm so sorry you are going through this, my buddy!
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i dont get offended. i know of people who say things like that because they're jealous.
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Yes, I would get a little ruffled, but not much. I AM fat!
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maybe it's meant as a compliment?
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Yes it would offend me if you walked up to me and said i was fat. But most likely you wouldnt. I know one time i was at a resturant and the waitress was talking to my parents. I got up to go to the bathroom and she thought I had gone to throw up and she actually had the nerve to ask my parents. My mom and dad just blew it off bc she had to be retarded anyway. She mentioned that she thought I looked anorexic.... two completly different eating disorders dumbass. I always have shit like that happen to me. I didnt even think of myself of being that skinny really. At one sad point though I lost down to 90 pounds and I looked awful. I had to force myself to eat bc i had gotten so used to eating nothing. Now i have finally put on weight to where I look healthy and no one has made anymore comments that Ive heard anyway. I look back at my old pics and realize i had no cheast to hold up my dress at all I was barely an a cup at the age of 18. I just looked so bad back then and I am happy that Ive finally been able to put on weight. I thought I was doomed to be the same size forever.
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uuuugggghhhh. it will only let you type so much b4 it deletes it all wouldve been good to know a few pages back...):< I knew some friends at school who had a disease that was hereditary and they couldnt gain weight. Everyone always made fun of them but no one knew there situation. I would always confront anyone who tried to act like an ass. Everyones response was always something ignorant like they should eat more.stupid ppl. now they are living with a diff family and they get all the special help they need. best of luck to you and I hope you succeed in every way possible.<3
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I'D KNOCK HIS BLOCK OFF. I DONT TAKE TO INSULTS AND FIND IT IRESPONSIBLE FOR OTHERS TO DO THAT.
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It wouldn't offend me. I'd just say "And your point is . . .?"
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People are rude assholes. Just avoid these kinds of people.
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