ANSWERS: 100
  • It does seem kinda suspicious, but nudists do this sort of thing all the time without harmful long term consequences. It's rather hard to say, but if you think it's going to give her issues later in life then by all means it's not a good thing.
  • As long as it isn't suss, then it's okay. I think there's a bit of a witch-hunt mentality with people who interact at all with children these days.
  • It's not appropriate.
  • notsamuch.
  • It's a bit weird....
  • Can anybody say rape?
  • Family units should not have to worry what other people think when they deal with what they are trying to do. Father and Daughter being close enough to take a bath together naked or not is a rare thing these days... At least they are being close, and he's not just ignoreing her. There are a whole lot of worse things out there than a family being... a family...
  • It's certainly behavior that bears watching, but no one needs to be lit on fire in the middle of town yet, so don't get antsy.
  • Some one on here is obviously very much in support of it! I noticed all the people who said it's strange got a negative rating...hmmm.
  • I dont see anything wrong with it. I wouldnt expect him to wear clothes to bathe. Why do we think it is so bad?
  • NONONONONONONO!!!!!!! I dont care what he says....somethings wrong!!!
  • I don't really know. I think 5 is pushing the limit of acceptability. but I think a father should defenatly partake in bathing their child and it should be fun with toys and splashing, but naked is necessarily sexual. I think when the child is 5 the parent should probably be outside of the tube but still interactive in the experience and the play time that makes it enjoyable for the child. personally I will have relations with my girlfriend any time any were, but leave me alone when I'm in the shower. so I don't see the bathroom as an intimate or sexual setting. I also know people that grew up in hippey communes that didn't ware cloths ever till they were 8-10 years old they aren't more damaged than than others that grew up in "normal" situations. So after skirting around the question I say (to sum)it is not bad up till now but it is time to stop it.
  • I dont see any problem with it.
  • I don't see any prob if the little kid is naked but the parent being naked is a little awkward for me if not that much.
  • I think it's fine for the little girl but to have dad in with you at age 5 is pretty weird. I'm not a parent myself, but I think age 5 is abit too old to be showering with parents. My mum used to help me wash my hair when i was about that age, but not come in the actual shower with me.
  • i have two boys one just turned 4 and the other is 5 i stopped taking a shower with them about a year ago. they got alittle too personal with the questions. i dont mind them knowing whats what its good for them to know,but i felt uncomfy with it so i thought it was time to stop showering with them. it all depends on the family.a parent will know when its time to stop taking a bath or shower with there child
  • sounds a bit perverted.
  • why doesnt the child bath with the mother instead of the father?? I honestly seem a lil odd. the child is 5 an probubly in kindergarden.. id say thats a lil to old. its probubly time for the father to maybe do monitored baths where he sits in the bathroom an lets the child be in the bath alone,an just make sure the child is safe.
  • lets think back to Cavemen times. Would it be wrong to bath in the rivers with your children, or anyone for that matter at all, naked? Not sure what has happened to society.. but i think everyone has been made to be afraid, and willing to throw accusations around.. hmm...
  • Um. Wrong if you put it in the wrong perspective. Personally I think the dad should stay outside the tub.
  • I would have him spend time with her outside the bath. If he complained, I personally would get scared and pissed off and I would be paranoid .. I may even get rid of him, it flips me out so much, unless I was positive that he wasn't a sick pervert
  • Child Protective Services may want to pay him a visit.
  • I don't see anything wrong with it. A lot of parents bath there children while they bath when the kids are young.
  • I wouldn't feel comfortable doing it myself. It could be an innocent activity and if I wasn't socially involved with the family it would fall into the category of NOMB. I think the most important thoughts regarding this are the mother's and the daughter's. I can understand how much easier it is to be in the bathtub with her as opposed to having to bathe her while the bather is outside and kneeling on that hard tile floor. I'd put on a pair of swimming trunks or have the girl's mother do it.
  • I think it is inappropriate. I wear my bathing suit when I give my daughter a shower. I would never get in the tub with her naked. She just turned 6.
  • Not right. I don't believe that it is right for a women having naked baths with any of her children. I think its not a female/male issue, its not private and can confuse a child to whats right or wrong when it comes to your body. I do believe that if you are brought up with an understanding of being naked and comfortable with your body you are less likely to be as sexually abusing to yourself. Families that grew up in a nudist family,etc. Overall, you need to be open with your children about their bodies, but not as you would be with your husband or wife.
  • wow i was on like two hours ago and this q is still going around, i personally think it is wrong once the child knows when its wrong and starts picking out the different parts on his body, i know when i was three i knew that that kind of stuff is wrong, i would say 4 for same sex baths for a cutoff and 2 for different sex baths cutoff
  • A little too much for me to handle!
  • I guess it's more efficient than taking clothed baths.
  • God, I'm sorry but your question makes me very angry, are you saying that a loving parent who baths his daughter at a young age is behaving inapropriatly? if the chils is scared of water and wants her father to bath with her , what circumstances? your question is I find repugnant,is the father a convicted paedophile? or what. I have a 9 yr old son who since his mothers deat from cancer ,(which he witnessed) cannot sleep a whole night alone, he screams in his sleep and wets the bed occasionaly , so he sleeps in my bed, do I not dare show him that I love and care for him and PROTECT him , by tellig him to sleep in hs bed because it may be misconstrued!!"!it is normal for parents to love their children but in this day and age we have to worry as to perception,be it social services or whatever, at what cost to the childs need for protection and love, in no way do I even consider paedophillia acceptable, it is vile and the worst crime, but these scum have created an enviorement that makes parents question perception sometimes above the need of our children, so your question is I feel just another example of this.
  • I've grown up without a mom since I was two years old. Since I was about three, I bathed myself with the shower curtain closed, but the bathroom door open. I would sing or play with some toys while I was bathing so my dad could hear that I was okay. He didn't bathe with me. And I closed the bathroom door all the way by the time I was five. I personally don't agree with the father having naked baths with a little girl, or a mom with her son. If the mom isn't around to give the girl her bath, then the father should be sitting outside the tub, at least wearing swim trunks, and the same goes in a mother/son situation.
  • I bathe my two girls, and I've never had to strip down and get in the bath with them. We wouldn't be able to all fit in the bathtub anyway.
  • I guess I'd be more concerned if he were having naked baths with his 20 year old daughter-unless they're from Arkansas or Mississippi. ;-P
  • I have heard of this occurring, & I can't say there's a problem with it, For me personally It's not appropriate, I say mother daughter okay...Father son okay...
  • WTF..??? I don’t think it is a good idée, put an end to it ASAP, mother and daughter is ok, but dad, she is getting older and will ask you questions about your willy and if you don’t feel embarrassed about that there is something wrong with you and you should not be allowed near little girls!!!
  • I never did it. It sounds pretty messed up.
  • I don't see a problem with it. Am I supposed to?
  • We used to take showers with our dad all the time growing up. There's nothing wrong with it and nor should any father who does it be looked at like a pedophile for it. Sure, there's the odd dad who gets a bit too much enjoyment out of it, but it's not fair to condemn them all.
  • I think it would be fine. It seems to me that everyone thinks everyone is a pervert these days.
  • Not a good idea.
  • Uh... I don't have thoughts of taking a naked bath with my 5 year old daughter. Sick, man. Just sick.
  • i dont think its a problem im sure a single father wouldnt see it as a problem either i had baths with my dad till i was like 7 maybe and nobody cared. not a big deal its the same as a mother bathing with her son nobody would batter an eyelid but people assume a father and daughter bathing means sexual abuse but not a mother and son...ther are female peodophiles out there 2! i would want my fiance 2 bathe both his dauther and son (when we have kids)as its part of the bonding process and kids love baths and would like to share that with both parents!
  • Personaly i never shared a bath with my dad but would with my mum when i was a todler.
  • I personally think that they shouldn't be naked while bathing her but i do think that they should bath her but just not in the nude.
  • I'm the father in question. I told my girlfriend about my bathing with my daughter naked. Quite honest and upfront about it. So here are the facts. I was the primary carer of my daughter since the day she was born as her mom went straight back to work and I was unemployed. I bathed her, tended to her needs, fed her, comforted her and all the things that you mothers do that us men weren't aware of. And for you sick perverts out there or people who are quick to judge, if she was sore down below, I was the one who applied ointment to ease her suffering, I changed her derrier everytime it was soiled. Unlike some men who can't be at home with their kids, I had the chance to bond with my daughter and wouldn't have swapped that experience for anything. I believe that our relationship now is so strong because of that time together. As to the bathing with her, yes we were both naked, she asked the question once when she was around 2yrs old 'what's that daddy', to which she was told it was my penis and that it needn't be discussed anymore, and it never was. Yes I was naked too, the bath was filled to over flowing with bubbles, usually so we could grab a handful and 'pie' each other, or wear white bubble beards. I dried her too, making sure her 'bits' were dry too, once again for her wellbeing. I don't think I was just being her dad, but a damn fine parent, and yes I'll say that again A DAMN FINE PARENT. I told my girlfriend (The asker of this question) openly and honestly, that I thought it was time I stopped taking baths with my daughter. I have nothing to be ashamed of nor anything to hide, I just felt that maybe she was getting too old for it now and it didn't feel right to me any more. I forgot to mention that my daughters mother had nothing to be worried about with this bathtime fun, sometimes she was there, sometimes she was in the kitchen. She knew I was just being a fun loving dad, bathing with his lil princess making happy memories for the both of us. If it was left down to my daughter, she'd say get naked get in and 'pie' me with a handful of bubbles, and not bat an eyelid.
  • thats so discusting how could u let that happen.stop it,now.eww thats so bad.unless u get turned on by a little child being molested,stop ,its so wrong
  • We are such prudes here in the states. We are ashamed of our bodies, and because of this,many people end up with sexual and self esteem problems.
  • When i was little I took a bath with my dad and a shower with my mom now you can't do that. It's a big no-no. I personally would be scared to do that now because you never know! Any accusation and you're being interrogated by the authorities
  • Well before my dad left me, i used to have baths with him until i was 3 and there was no problem apart from me having fun with my daddy, so i see nothing wrong with it, you sound like a very caring and fantastic father, sadly people in the world these days look upon things like that as wrong simply because there are bad people out there, not every man is a pervert or worse, maybe now she is 5 its time to not do it as she is getting older but i see nothing wrong with it at all
  • He needs to be stopped NOW, this is wrong.
  • As long as his periscope doesn't come up.
  • Sounds fine to me, as long as they're both okay with it. There comes a point where a child develops a sense of modesty... which should be respected. She shouldn't be taught to be embarrassed of her body, but can be encouraged to keep it properly clothed in public. And if the dad is being aroused by the daughter, that's an issue, but completely unrelated to the showering together... and would probably embarrass him at having to explain to the girl what was going on. I still allow my 4 year old daughter into my showers sometimes (just plugging up the water and dodging her toys) though we usually bathe separately at this point. My husband once in a while will still let her in if she begs enough and he has time to dry and dress her and still be on time for work. I prefer to bathe separately, but she LOVES having company and someone to play with her, and while she's very shy of showing her body in public, she seems to be developing a very healthy body-image in private.
  • if he's not doing anything bad to her then it is OK. But I don't think a father should be letting his 5 year old daughter see him naked. She will remember it which would be very awkward. I mean anything younger than 3 is ok but 5? i mean really...
  • personally......ewwwwwww!!!
  • I have to admit that when I first read the question my mind immediately jumped to some kind of conclusion. But thinking about it more before just answering, and after reading "anonymous'" post, I understand and I remember when I would shower with my father (who raised me single handedly) because I wanted to shower "like a big kid" but I was scared at first, so he would shower with me. It was never inappropriate and it made me feel safe. If his other actions don't necessarily point in "that" direction, I'm sure it's just fine.
  • I can't see why it would be necessary.
  • Go grandma!!! Is this supposed to be a problem?
  • This is not a problem it would be if he was 12
  • I see no problem with it at all. I often have a shower with my 3yo boy, admittedly I am his dad and not his grandmother, but so what?
  • In many European countries, this sort of thing is quite normal with all ages.
  • does the mom have a bath with her child? this is her mother? the grandmothers grandCHILD. they are a part of her. with out her ,there would be no mom no child.
  • I hate to go against popular opinion, but if my mother were to get in the tub with my 2 year old I would have a duck fit! I don't see the reasoning behind it at all. Boundaries people!Boundaries!
  • I find nothing wrong with this at all...he is 2 years old and really still a baby !!
  • Nothing wrong with it, hes a baby still.
  • Respect your decision. It's your thought. But I don't think it's too nice. The daughter might get very friendly with men and she don't even know when those pervertic men were taking advantage of her.
  • ...to the questioner: what are "your" thoughts about it? ...there are countless and varied opinions, but you have to live in your head, in your thoughts, what are they? are you scared, are you happy? why are you asking the question? within what evaluative criteria do you hope to find your own peace...? my suggestion to the questioner is that you take some time to examine your personal issues with this behavior...apart from AB... i say this without condemning you nor any other respondent....but, this matter is a perception within you that apparently warranted a question out here... you might consider that the very question is useful for you and you alone in an introspective way...
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  • I think a parent of either gender with a child of either gender should not be bathing or showering with a 5 year old. When my kids were babies (under 2), a couple of times I took them into the shower with me to save time. But 99.9% of the time, I sat outside the tub and handed them toys or washed their hair and that was it. I told/taught them how to dry their own private parts by age 4. I did still wash my daughter's hair for her until she was about 6 because it was waist long and I knew should wouldn't get it all.
  • Well as long as the father had swimming trunks on i surpose it would be okay.Personally though i wouldnt allow my ex to d this with my 5 year old daughter,i wouldnt feel comfortable,to be honest he wouldnt surgest it. But everyone is different and it sounds innocent enough but as i said above,with trunks!
  • Im all about a father spending quality time with his child but if she is now 5 years old, I'd say put some swimming trunks on b4 jumping in or bond in other ways. It's not solely an issue of mistrust but the same reason a woman shouldn't show her breasts or privates to a 5 yr old boy. There comes a point and time when the child is old enough that you need to start teaching that boys and girls don't need to see each other naked. I'm actually appalled that so many are in agreement with this father. Once again, I see NOTHING wrong with a loving father bathing with his child... but it should stop by 2 1/2 - 3 yrs, at the absolute latest.
  • I have read with interest every answer given to this question; the answers seem to be close to 50-50. Americans seem to have the biggest hang-up when it comes to nudity than any other country in the world. They also seem to be the most perverted because of it. There is nothing wrong with nudity. I have been a nudist for many years and I have seen many parents with their children of all ages, playing, swimming, and tanning together and yes, even bathing together. These children tend to be the most at ease and best adjusted children around. I am sure many of these children bath at home with their parents if they wish to do so even into their teen years and beyond. It does not mean anything wrong is happening. Americans in particular need to get over their religious based anti-nudity stance and maybe there would be less molestation in this country. Less child abuse. God created you nude and intended for us to be nude; He has no problems with us being nude. So to answer the question; there is nothing wrong with a father showering or bathing with his daughter or a mother with her son. It should be perfectly normal and would be except for those whose minds only see perversion.
  • That's a tough one. In all probability it is most probably quite innocent but you never know!!
  • I think 5 is a bit too old for sharing bathtime. When the child is younger and not quite so full of questions, it's okay.
  • Is it that she's not comfortable taking baths on her own or that this is an occasional thing? If it's the former, it may be understandable as an method of instructing the daughter how to take a bath on her own. But that should be the purpose, and honestly a father can do this fully clothed next to the bathtub. If it's the latter, meaning she already knows how to take a bath on her own, I would consider it inappropriate. I just don't understand the reason for the father to be in the bathtub with the child. Even when I was young I got bathed by my parents who sat next to the tub. Now, does all this mean I think the father is molesting his child? ABSOLUTELY NOT. I'm not a father, and never have been. But it's an easy assumption to make that it certainly is an awesome responsibility and a learning experience for anyone undertaking it. This father's habit may simply be borne from his desire to protect the child. If you could appeal to the father's logic that the child can be just as safe bathing on her own, with supervision from the mother and/or father or even an older sibling, the father can perhaps be taken from this habit, without appealing to the embarrassing nature of it.
  • I don't like to think of the idea. I was sexually assulted at 13 for 3 1/2 years. Father or not, I'm not impressed by the idea of it, and thats the honest truth from my end, my past STILL hunts me sometimes and I'm now pushing 28
  • Yuck, pedophile.
  • There's a line.........and you crossed it
  • I think it all depends on the culture to be honest :/ If you were in Japan, it's more acceptable. Here in America it would be considered somewhat odd. Even if it's not your intention, and you may be the best father in the world and just want to save water! It's kind of a shame that our society is the way it is sometimes...
  • well, it can be quite problematic to take a bath fully dressed, so it's probably best that he is naked
  • Inappropriate.
  • very bad! Dad's don't need to do that! he needs to stop it immediately!
  • I think it's inappropriate. A five year old child should always be supervised while bathing, but to have her unclothed father in the tub with her is questionable. While it is most likely totally innocent, the child shouldn't be subjected to seeing her daddy's parts! Kids remember stuff. Also, she might start asking questions, and who wants to explain that?
  • My thoughts are: Why? Why does a dad need to get in the bathtub naked with his daughter? Aren't there a thousand other ways to bond, teach, play, etc? So of course this behavior is easily misconstrued. Of course it is, and for good reason.
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  • Why would your husband wanna take a bath with his 5 yr old anyway?And I guess it is ok with you?That is just sick..
  • That is wrong,that's sooo nasty!Only somebody that's mentally sick would do that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • If it is a bonding and fun time....maybe you could wear a speedo or something....5 years old is about the age we remember things....Do you plan to teach your daughter that modesty is a good quality? My daughter started wanting privacy at about age 8 ....I am a single mom.
  • It is disgusting. She isn't an infant anymore. YUCK!!! Even if she wanted him too, he could wear swim trunks or something. Oh God that is making me sick. If the child really wanted him in there, he needs to say NO and sit OUTSIDE the tub with her. Something is definitely wrong with this family. Im sorry. Ewww!
  • I really never bathed with my daughter. Now at age 6, I wash her hair when she baths and dry her and dress her but dont acutally bath with her. I feel if its innocent its okay but I would never bath with my child at this stage as I dont see it as modest. Mine is old enough to bath herself anyhow.
  • iam not saying you are doing anything wrong, you actually sound like a very good father, but at five years old i think its about time she starts bathing on her own with your supervision only!
  • A father showering with a SON, when he is little is one thing, but a bath with a daughter is another. It may be innocent, but it is innapropriate. What if she goes to school and says something about it. DFACS will snatch that kid up quicker than you can blink.
  • My answer if you don't feel there is a problem then there is not would you say the same about a mother taking a bath with her daughter or son there is a time though you do stop about the time when they start asking questions is when i stopped, sometimes it was just easier and faster to let them take one with ya
  • Is water in such short supply at your house you have to double up. Bonding with a child doesn't have to take place in the bathtub.
  • unfortunitly because od the way things have changed i know as a mom i have a 5 year old son i feel he is getting to old to have baths with me.he has never said anything but i worrie as do other parents. my son loves bath time with me but now we where bathing siuts why not?? still bonding and getting clean lol.we have to be careful because of the chilren who are abused right so we just have to use judgement and decide when somethings have o stop just to be on the safe side.
  • Appropriate in some cases but not in others. This is not a topic one could place a definitive limit on, I think. That said, not too early to begin instilling the idea of modesty either.
  • no becasue then she wil grow up thinking that is ok and its not
  • what are you talking about
  • NOT TO BE RUDE BUT THATS JUST NOT A WAY TO BOND WITH YOUR KIDS TRUST ME AND ALSO ARE YOU SURE YOU DIDN'T WANT TO DO ANYTHING ELSE WITH THE CHILD?
  • I kinda of think it's weird but we also gotta understand that say if his parents took baths with him until he was five, or six and he thinks it is appropiate because his parents use to do it. I don't thik it automatically means you want to rape her or have raped her or molested or whatever but you are if your talking about your mate need to sit down with your signifcant other and discuss and I mean seriously discuss is it right.

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