Do you think marriages should be renewed every few years. For example every 4 years both parties have the option to not renew their license, which would end the marriage in a cleaner way than a divorce.
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No. Marriage is supposed to be for life, and divorce should be the very last resort. Doing something like that would undermine the institution of marriage even more than today's society already has. It's supposed to be a beautiful, lifelong commitment.
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no thats not what marriage is, its a life long commitment
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It's a clever thought but not practical especially when children are involved. + :o)
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What an interesting idea. I think it would be difficult when kids came around, though.
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Innovative but impracticable idea! Why get married in the first place?
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Maybe this could be an optional type of thing that you could sign up for (how optimistic)... That or there could be something else where you could agree to stay together for a certian amount of time for tax benifits and stuff like that.
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Marriage is just a piece of paper, the commitment you make to one another will involve pain and messiness when/if you split up no matter what method is used. Making a contract so you can end it easier doesn't remove the emotional feelings.
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i blv that a healthy marriage need no renewal every 4 years or so, a healthy marrige would stay healthy day after day as long both (husband and wife) are commited till the end to keep it that way. i have to note that even the healthiest marriage does have quarls and fights, why? i dont really know but that what keeps it healthy, just like a saying we have that says " a good marriage should have a few fights from now and then" and it's true... many fight would lead to divorce and no fights means a cold relationship and bitrayal could destroy this relationship easly.
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You don't usually make a contract with renewable extensions for something that you are planning to be involved heart and soul in for life.
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Nope
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On general principle, no. Marriage should be a life-time commitment. But I am so wishing that would be how it is right now. And I wish my four years would be up.
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Unfortunately, it would not end the marriage any cleaner, because ending a marriage involves so much more than just moving into different houses. There is still property to divide, and children to support. And if only one wants to renew the contract, and the other doesn't, you'd still have a mess on your hands.
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This is not how God arranged marriage. It was meant to be a lifelong union. It is for companionship and the rearing of offspring. I don't like this idea at all as it goes contrary the way God ordained it. My NYS Driver License is good for longer than 4 years.... Geez. If you don't feel that marriage is something that you can handle, please don't enter into it.
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i think this would be extremely useful in some cases and extremely pain ful in other cases. If both parties want it then it is useful, but if only one spouse wants to end the marriage, it besomes painful for the other spouse. i think if the marries couple has kids, this is helful because it is a lot less messy, even though child support will still be needed.
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No, it is for life. However, if there is a major fallout and separation, it should be done on coming back together, as a 'reminder'.
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No,You don't "lease"a spouse!LOL!
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i don't think it would. honestly i think communication just keeps a marriage [and it's end] a lot cleaner. if they keep close and evaluate the marriage on their own - which is what a responsible couple should do anyways - then there are fewer problems and there's less of a chance for an end of things. besides, it's so unorthodox i don't think many would choose that idea. but hey to each his/her own
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A marrige ending whether it is mutual or inspired by a single party is never a clean affair. Assests, housing, belongings and custodys are always equally desired by both parties. If a marrige is annulled instead of being a divorce the parties, regardless of situation, have different and conflicting interests and therefore a broken marrige is always a mess. Besides people are to quick to break a marrige these days. If your interests are ever changing then you shouldn't be married in the first place.
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Perfect! Yes , some do that
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No thats a terrible way! If you leave the option open: 1. You will be mor elikely to take it (which is why divorce is so hard) 2. It means you think there is a possibility that it might happen which is doubt right form the beginning.
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Sounds more like a business arrangement, very sterile, no emotion.
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I was just saying to my friend that after 20 years you should of that option to stay or go..Just think that is like a life sentence 20 years..
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i don't think you should compare marriage to a drivers license. Marriage is based on love and committment to one another, marriage would lose its meaning if you had a 4 year renewel option. What's the point??
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No. I personally believe that that makes a mockery out of marriage. When I get married, I really want it to be for life. I'm actually being very careful in who I choose to date and because of that I do know that I want to marry my current boyfriend since I chose him carefully and he wants to marry me, too. If we ever decide to get married, I don't want to have to renew our "marriage". It just doesn't make sense to me. To me, it's a mockery out of love. I don't think you should get married if you feel that you're going to need to renew your marriage every four years.
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No. It would make it too easy to quit on a marriage. I know that I'm very glad that my husband and I worked through the difficult times in our marriage. I believe that all marriages, no matter how well matched the partners are, suffer problems on occasion. Some people would not work through their problems if they could get out easily. Then they couldn't reap the rewards of having worked through their problems and being happier than ever.
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sorry but your dreaming ...if a marriage is going to end in a shit fight ...its going to end in a shit no matter the lengh of time
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I think this is an amazing idea, always have. This way, if after 4, 8, 12 years you both have the opportunity to sit down and decide if you want to stay together for a few more years. It's like running a marathon but only keeping your eyes on getting to the next curve in the road. Some couples can do it on their own, others need a boost, which this would provide.
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For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, or for the next four years, whichever comes first... ...?
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How would it make splitting the property and agreeing child care easier? The difficulty is splitting up a shared household and a shared life, un-sharing things which were intended to be shared. That would be no different whther there were some non-renewal option on the marriage or not. The difficulties of divorce come from splitting the houseold, not vice versa. What hardships would you expect your scheme to avoid?
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ummmm well I know that marriage is suppose to be forever but this seems like a good idea to me. its not like people are getting divorced left and right anyways. This way would make it easier for people who are unhappy to get out. Like if someone was in a abusive marriage they could just not renew it and get out clean. i dont see how it would ever really work though. marriage is just a trap anyways
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All other licenses have a time line and fees, marriage is the only exception. Maybe you pay that license with your life.
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Although marriage is supposed to be forever yes that sounds like an incredibly good and convienient idea! :)
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I`m too forgetful! Please don`t do this! When I do get married I`ll be lucky if I remember the umm...well, everything the bride needs to get married!
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no, it is a forever vow, doesnt need to be renewed! It wouoldnt simplify anything either. the property would still need dividing, the child custody would still need sorting, etc!
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Great idea. That way, I could tell her she better be on her best behavior or I'll trade her in when the lease expires. JK, can't live without her.
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That could possibly work but it might end up being more of a hassle for people who are staying together. What if you forget to renew?
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I think they have that option in Maryland! if you don't renew it becomes an automatic default and divorce!
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Hahaha! I'm not sure it would be any "cleaner" I like the "option to renew" part. It might get people to be on their best behavior.
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Oh, so on my 4th anniversary, while my wife is away at work, I could just load up a truck with all the valuables, hitch-up both halves of the manufactured home we live in, and head for Nevada- no fuss no mess! Sounds to cut and dried for me. Divorce should be messy so it is something to avoid! Marriage is suppose to be forever! I don't want to have to worry about renewing it like the tabs on my car!
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Best flipping idea that I have heard in a long time!!! I love it!
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wow thats the best idea i ever heard of!!!!!!
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Hmmm...good Idea for my penguin country in Antarctica, where, by law, all penguins must wear tuxedos!!! XD
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How would it be cleaner than an uncontested divorce? You still have the problem of splitting up the household, looking after the children, alimony or not. And suppose one side wants to renew and the the other doesn't - or pretends not to. What a weapon to wield - especially if the other partner is financially dependent. I think it would produce more breakups, because if it came at a bad (but possibly recoverable) time people would be hesitant to "sign up" to another four years. It would add "perforations" to marriages - natural weak points at which otherwise strong-enough marriages would tear apart.
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I don't even know where to begin.... that idea is terrible and genius at the same time. Marriage certainly isn't what it used to be... but to contractualize it like that? IDK... +2 for a very thought provoking question.
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