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  • Normal? Yes it is Normal. Just not very common.
  • I was the same. I just hated dancing and the sort of music thats' always on at parties. It's good that you get invites and have friends though, so you're not antisocial. You should organise a sort of themed fancy dress, maybe disguised, and you stay in character, I think it might suprise you how much you like it, and all your mates would come cos its unusual. Who wants to be 'normal' anyway?
  • No, it's very abnormal not to want to socialize with others. Although, it depends entirely on your reasons. If it's because you don't like drinking, smoking, or other immoral acts, then of course, it's perfectly normal! Be yourself and you'll find that if you like yourself, then others will like you, too!
  • I would like to think its normal because I'm the same exact way. Even though I know I would have fun hanging out with someone or going to a party 7 times out of ten I'll turn them down. I'm not anti-social, I just enjoy solitude. As long as there aren't any irrational reasons behind your wanting to be alone, it's perfectly OK.
  • Yea, I'm the same way...sometimes I just want to be by myself. But if it's all the time, you may have a problem...if you're a little depressed as well, you should talk to someone about it.
  • Yeah im only 18 and i do that all the time. But i do it so i can spend most my time with my girl or straightening out my life. In a perfect world i would probably be out with my friends mostly.
  • I think it's a personality type than anything else. There are those out there who do prefer their own company and whilst I'm not one of those people, I must say that given the quality of my associations recently I don't blame you and in fact am a little jealous. You have friends - that's a good thing. Just make sure that if you're going to be a solo artist that you won't end up regretting your choices when it causes you to lose friends. I think that you should be allowed to choose not to socialise with your friends when it requires group situations, however I urge you to think about your reasons for not wanting to socialise. Is it due to a fear of crowds or due to feeling anxious when out with others? I'm not saying this is what's going on for you but simply asking if this is causing you to make the choices that you do. However there is hope out there for you. My husband is similar to you - he doesn't like making new friends, tends to hate socialising, would rather pretend he's died than go to a social gathering and detests seeing my parents or his grandparents. Funnily enough though, he loves christmas. I've no idea why. I'm guessing that your friends will probably pester you into socialising with them. Hopefully though you will respond to them every so often and indulge in their desire to be in your company. Otherwise you could be in for a really lonely life. But that said, not everyone will find themselves actually getting lonely. I'm not sure if I've helped or made it worse. Good luck though.
  • i do that too and im 24 years old and a senior in college. i just feel like, although i have a fair number of friends, theyre all stoners or drunks or both and i often like to take a break from all that. plus i usually would rather practice playing the piano or guitar.
  • If you always crave aloneness and have an aversion of crowds, the outdoors etc., you might be agoraphobic and there is treatment for that. There are various degrees of this condition. From the total hermit with a fear of crowds to the reluctant and uncomfortable person in certain social situations. Maybe you should look into it.
  • I have been really worried (and upped my dosage of anti-depressant) for the past few months, because I don't want to do anything. I don't have a problem socializing with people at school or work and I have never had a problem making friends, but I just find myself not wanting to go out with people. Or if I do go out, I just find myself wishing I was at home. I'll even meet a guy that I really think I might like, but when he calls I can't even call him back. I'm in my early twenties, shouldn't this be the time that I would want to party?
  • I am 17 and I have been known to do that myself.
  • This is abnormal when it begins to affect your life in a negative way. That is, you become bothered by it and/or become destructive. If you are happy and live a functional life, I would say yes.
  • i'm the same as u but when pwople wont take no for an asnwer to going out i put on a brave face and act "normal"
  • Is there a reason why? I mean ya u could like being a lone...But u need friends so hang on to them...And find a girl with ur same interest.
  • It isn't abnormal if you are content being alone. I used to be a lone wolf at your age and I liked it. It was a time in my life that I grew spiritually.
  • you sound just like me..i've always preferred to be alone..i hang out once in awhile, but i'm usually alone.i don't think it's abnormal unless you never leave your house or never see anyone else.
  • Don't worry about "normal". Viva la idiosyncracy!
  • no nothing wrong with it at all - you have a right to pick and choose, who you see or spend time with, and what and when you choose to go anywhere? I think maybe youre quite intelligent, easily bored, and are selective of how you use your time and space?
  • I do that. It's probably not the best way to keep friends, but i think it's psychologically normal.
  • Me too. My friends always try to have me go out and do something, which most of the time I don't want to do in the first place. I'm not being antisocial, but the things they like to do usually end with police intervention. Thsi gets old after a while. They enjoy trying to embarrass me every way possible, and some of that stuff is too childish. Actualy, I hang out with a different sort of people becaue my good friends aren't really doing much with themselves, and although I'm not in a better position, I try to get out of it.
  • here's a book that REALLY helped me (and some friends surprisingly enough) with this topic: "creativity, insights for a new way of living" by osho
  • at times but if you do it all the time you will get very bored... there are some things you should want to avoid but avoiding everything is pretty dull
  • I used to be like that. Trust me, life is far more fun with your buddies.
  • You probably have some personality disorders. Most likely antisocial or avoidant personality disorders. Possibly both. I won't say that it is "normal", but it isn't uncommon.
  • Welcome to the world of introverts and extroverts. You're usually one or the other. The innies tend to be socially independent and like it that way. Exties like to hang and break bread together. It's a matter of choice but hanging out solo sounds lonely most of the time but then there's hobbies like reading, music etc. What ever floats everyone's boat works. If you have take drugs to cope with your lonliness, that's another problem best left to the pros.
  • QUESTION: I'm 27 years old, male, and I like to be alone. I make excuses to avoid hanging out with my friends or going to parties. Is this normal? ANSWER: Live your life exactly the way that you want to live it without wondering whether it is 'normal' or not. It does not matter if that is normal or not. Normal is not necessarily good or bad. So worrying about fitting in or being normal would appear to be a waste of time. Many people think that people who want to be alone is not normal but the people who think that simply do not have all the facts and they are judging. And all judging is wrong. In some cases, being alone can be good or great for a person. For example, if your friends have bad habits or do illegal things or if they do things that harm or bother you greatly, you certainly are better off alone than you are with those "friends". In other cases, you might be working towards your goals and dreams and or studying and or working. Any of these activities might make you need more alone or more rest time. Again, in that case, that's fine and perfectly normal. But then who is to say is normal good or bad? Bottom line is that no matter what your reason for wanting to be alone --it is your reason and you have a right to your reason. Do not listen to anyone judging you. LIve your life the way that you want to live it. If being alone is bothering you, that's a whole different story. If this is bothering you greatly that you feel lonely, then you can do things to change that for yourself--not for anyone else. You can join clubs or go to festivals. You can read your local papers and find out what is going on in your neighborhood. Or take a ride on Amtrak to another city and investigate a new town. In summary, do what you like, live life the way you want to live it, as long as that makes you happy. Normal does not count! You count. Life matters! Your happiness matters. Want to be really happy? Then just forget about what others think about you. THen you will be very happy. Glad you asked that question, because probably lots of people wonder the same thing, and now they can read all these answers. (oh, smiles, mine is the best answer). Have a nice week.
  • Yes, I am the same. You're normal, just a loner.
  • Some folks don't like the party and drinking scene. And that is a good thing. Too many get drunk, act stupid and get in accidents etc. The whole binge drinking thing is idiotic
  • I am a very sociable guy. There times though when I need alone time to get in touch with myself. Many people I know are drinkers and drug users. I do neither and many times feel that I don't fit in.Well I don't so, often I prefer to be alone! Hope this helps!
  • The first step of solving a problem is realizing that there is one in first place. So your question "Is this normal?" comes from a feeling deep inside of you that something is wrong and it's not how it should be. Of course everybody needs their privacy time, but you shouldn't turn that into your hobby.
  • Eh I would question the reason you are making the excuses, what is the underlying reason? I,myself, don't accept every invitation to go out cause I sometimes like to be alone and have alone time (I am an introvert) which to me is normal. But its also important to have time with others... Are you a happy person? do you have problems with depression? Just wondering..cause I know the times when I avoid people is when I am suffering a relapse of medical depression
  • maybe ur just depressed and u dont know it.
  • If you're happy - then, you're fine. If you're doing this, but are NOT happy - then something else is up. Seems like a silly question, but you don't always know when depression is creeping up on you. I'd suggest asking yourself some pretty major questions like why you're avoiding your fiends? Are you worried about being rejected by them? Do you actually LIKE them, or is it time to seek out different friends? Etc. For more info - go and seek out a counselor.
  • life can be crazy, wanting to be alone, to your self , is completly normal, be yourself if you dont want to go out than dont go out, and dont worry about what anyone thinks, cuase everyone has thier own issues
  • Dude, there is nothing wrong with being antisocial. I've been out of work for 1 year now. That's not the point, just a fact to be considered. I have absolutely no friends and I love it. No responsibilities, no birthday cards to send, no people to visit in the hospital, no peeps sayin' "Oh dude, poor you, how are you doing?", no pressure, no being politically correct. It's not that I am not a giver, I donate heavily to animal charities and volunteer when appropriate (during one of the recent hurricanes, even though I should have left my house, I went to where the human society had to relocate and walked abandoned dog and help feed and stuff). I, quite honesty, hate male bonding, and am uncomfortable around women other than my spousal unit. During the past year, no one from my last job has tried to contact me in any way, Sweet! I speak to no one except my spousal unit and clerks at stores (where, I am actually considered to ber a riot). I have no living relatives other than my spousal unit. I will find a job soon, but with or without that, my life is full. I am an artistic woodworker. I am a gamer. I am an ABer (at least until they throw me out because I'm not politcally correct). I study math. I love computer upgrading. I am fascinated with terran religions even though I think they are all full of crap. Don't worry about it. For those of us that can appreciate solitude, it is bliss. Oh and everyone that posted got 5 points!
  • No. Humans are social animals.
  • Yes. Only you know why you like and prefer to be alone at this time. For me even at 17 was content without a plan, play the guitar, read some like Krishnamurti
  • It is absolutely normal but your experiences, especially with other people are the the things that make a life. What are your most fond memories? Are they of you watching TV alone or reading? No, they usually include other people. Many times I have debated avoiding social events but I usually try and force myself to go and am virtually always very glad I did. You don't always have to participate in things with other people but your life will be far more rich the more you do. The apprehension is normal just push past it if you can.
  • It's normal for you. Aspergers or Schizoid Personality Disorder are possibilities, too.
  • Get out or you will fall into a deep depression.
  • It's normal if you think like a loner. lol

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