I recently found out that my 12 yr old daughter has been kissing and touching another girl she said she is not gay but why woulkd she do this i dont know how to handle this the other girl is 15
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She's just trying things out. It's part of growing up.
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Time for a sex talk mom. Got to get the communication going and keep it going.
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Schools these days are filled with many unintellegent kids doing things they think is what ever.. It works pretty much like this.. Those types of girls dont have confidence of getting boys attention, but they think kissing other girls gets them that attention, thats why most of them do stuff like that.. I'm not saying your daughter is this way, she might just be curious why all the other girls are doing it at school, or maybe she just wanted to see what it was like. Lack of confidence goes for the 15 yr old though.. influencing younger ppl seems to be easier, as younger people look up to older kids as role models. Has anyone ever watched Idocracy, life is so on that way.
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Why is her sexuality your business? As long as she doesn't go any further until she is of age, & then practises safe sex, then you should be proud of her regardless of her sexuality. Keep communicating with her & let her feel like she can talk to you.
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maybe she is just experimenting. she is at the age where she will be concerned with who she is, who she likes and all that. i think you need to sit down and talk about it, but dont do it in an embarrassing "mum way" that way you wont get anything out of her. just let her know either way that you support whatever decision she decides to make in life. because you will have to.
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She is at the age where you start finding who you are. Sexual identity is part of the process. She will either discover she is gay, or that she is not. No big deal. I wouldn't interfere. Sexual experimentation is normal. Just make sure you talk to her about safe sex (to a 12 yr old level, of course). As a matter of fact, I didn't interfere with my daughter when she did the same. She found out she was hetero, and that is fine by me, as it would have been if she were gay. It's her life.
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Females (at any age) are far more likely than males to experiment in this regard without concern or feel the need to identify as gay or straight She's a kid and will probably be straight. I would, however, encourage her to hang out with girls (or guys) her own age because a 15 year old is far more likely to be sexually active and could potential.y be manipulative.
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just dont let the other girl come over then and talk to her parents about it
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The 15 year old is taking advantage of a 12 year old child. Girls experiement all the way up to and into college. She may have interest in females or she may have been responding to someone who heaped attention and whispered sweet words in her ear. Hard to say no to if she has feeling and she is examining them or if she is entering puberty and hormones are beginning to rage through her blood stream. No matter what it is, love her! You have every right to send the 15 year old packing if for nothing else than your child is 12 years old and that's 4 years too young to be dating. You might consider family counseling for the two of you to get the lines of communication open so she feels comfortable talking to you. Stay calm.
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i would just keep her away from her
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