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  • Wow, i am very sorry about that. Maybe your kids dont ralize that it is your birthday because they are used to being told about it. And i am sorry to say that that is what is starting to happen a lot more nowadays. I am also in the military and 10 people i work with just got divorces in the past year because their wives couldnt handle the stress of moving around and/or them being deployed. Maybe you could get a hold of your first shirt and see if he/she can talk to your wife to see if there is any way to remedy the problem. Oh and Happy Birthday.
  • First: Happy birthday and many many many more! Second: Thanks for what you are doing for your country. That makes you a very special person. Third: Unfortunately, divorce happens. People grow apart emotionally and sometimes it cant be helped BUT is she willing to try counseling first???? Perhaps this is one of those marriages that can be helped with counseling. Speak to your chaplin- thats one of the reasons he is there. If your wife wants to divorce you, you can bet thats why you didnt hear from the kids and thats not right. What is between you and her is between you and her and has nothing to do with those kids, your flesh and blood. Perhaps you can contact your folks and let them know and they can talk to her about the kids issue. Good luck !
  • First Happy Birthday to you!! I am sorry that today wasn't what you hoped for and all that I can do from a computer is send xoxoxoxoxoxoxox your way:)
  • Happy, Happy, Birthday! Don't take what others choose to do as a reflection on you. I can relate.
  • I'm sorry to hear about your troubles and want to wish you all the best for resolving them happily and to wish you a happy birthday.....
  • Happy Birthday to you and thank you for protect our country. Sorry to hear that your wife wants to divorce Hopefully you will get a card from your children later today or tomarrow.
  • I'm so sorry for your present circumstances. But, I can tell you from experience, it's always darkest before the dawn. However the situation is resolved your future can be as bright as you're willing to work toward. In the meantime, I wish you as much peace as possible today.
  • I am so sorry about this. You are so right, this is so unforgettable. I will keep you in my prayers. If you would like to e-mail me any time. Please feel free to do so. Just click on luc and my e-mail will be there. I hope you get the balloons that I am attaching for you. Remember you have friends here on AB. Please keep in touch.
  • Have you been mean or neglectful to her?
  • HAPPY BIRTHDAY, I am really sorry for your troubles.
  • Well this will not stop me from wishing you had a Happier Birthday. It's an admirable thing for you to be in the military and it is too bad your wife could not wait until your away from home period ended before she would start pulling back. Still enjoy the day the best you can.
  • A VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU,im sorry your wife did this its not very nice of her or maybe she has sent you a card and pressie and just might of got lost in the post and arrive tomorrow for you...fingers crossed.
  • Happy Birthday! I too just got the "shocking" news in May that my husband wanted a divorce, so i know how you feel...never think it will happen to you. I promise you it gets easier and better with time. Stay strong.
  • Happy Birthday! I hope you can find some ray of sunshine in all this mess. That is very unkind of her not to have your kids call you on your birthday. She may have issues with you but you are the father to those children. I am very sad for you and heres a hug from me to you. Peace brother! {{{hug}}}}
  • HAPPY Belated BIRTHDAY!!!!!! Here is a hugh and kiss form me! Sorry for all the crap you're going thru I hope it all works out. If you want to hear from your kids you need to call them! If she won't let you talk to them you need to let your lawyer know!
  • H A P P Y B I R T H D A Y T O Y O U ! ! ! i know this is a tough one, but it'll all turn out ok... good luck
  • First of all Happy Birthday to you and thank you for your service. Second of all I want to tell you how sorry I am that your soon to be ex is so caluse and a Jodie. If this is the way she acts you're better off alone. As to the card just rememebr military mail is not the best when it come sto service. Hopefully those cards from the kids arrive soon. Just remember we're here if you need us. Here's a nice dinner to hopefully make you feel better.
  • I WOULD LIKE TO WISH YOU FIRST A HAPPY BIRTHDAY.ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD LIFE GOES ON.I KNOW ITS HARD.THERE WILL BE HAPPIER TIMES FOR YOU AHEAD.
  • I WOULD LIKE TO WISH YOU FIRST A HAPPY BIRTHDAY.ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD LIFE GOES ON.I KNOW ITS HARD.THERE WILL BE HAPPIER TIMES FOR YOU AHEAD.
  • I WOULD LIKE TO WISH YOU FIRST A HAPPY BIRTHDAY.ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD LIFE GOES ON.I KNOW ITS HARD.THERE WILL BE HAPPIER TIMES FOR YOU AHEAD.
  • this too shall pass...
  • Happy B-day first and foremost I want to say thank you for what you are doing for us all I to have someone in the military. Now don't blame the kids for not calling you or sending you a card it is your wife thats to blame your kids don't understand what is going on all they know is daddy is never home because of your job and they may wounder why daddy don't call them so call and talk to them. as for your wife well she give her the divorce and find someone new I know that it is easier said than done but you can do it live for the now and the future because tomorrow is another day and you never know what is around the corner until you look.I know you will be ok and you can find another mate. again thank you
  • Congrats on the Birthday; I'm sorry you don't feel much like celebrating. I can't comprehend why she's acting in this way. It's a bitch. Know that you are cared for and will always be loved by your kids. That's what I'd be concentrating on now. Be well and God bless.
  • Happy Birthday first and second I thank God every day for men and women like you who were brave enough to answer the call and volunteer their service in the interest of keeping their country free. I assume you are in the United States Military but ny words are the same no matter what free nation you represent. It takes alot of courage to serve in the military knowing that at any moment something terrible can happen and you can be called to respond to those who would want to take our freedom away. I wish you Godspeed and hope that God will watch over and protect you out there until a time when these two terrible conflicts in Iraq and Afghanastan are over. God bless and thanks again for protecting our freedom. This is one American citizen who is proud of the job you are all doing.
  • Happy belated birthday! I'm sorry that happened to you. I hope that you won't let her to continue to take your happiness away from you.
  • Happy Birthday and THANK YOU for serving our country! I hope things work out between you and your family! I will say a prayer for you! Good luck!
  • Pray. Try to be understanding. But as mentioned before, divorce happens and yes, people can be mean and selfish, even spouses. The sad part is when kids are involved. It's not their fault that parents don't get along or won't be able to stay married. Selfishness is the #1 cause of divorce. Some couples have a hard time sharing. Try counseling first. If that doesn't work. Move on before it becomes a nightmare for you and the kids. Always put the kids first. You can always find another wife, as hard as it sounds. People remarry all the time and live happy(ier) lives. Have faith and all will work out well for you. Your kids will always be YOURS no matter what. Just give them love and support. Try to understand your wife and if she persists on the divorce, do it with calm and class so that your kids aren't affected. If you can fight the war, you can overcome this. Don't drink, don't be depressed and avoid being angry. It will all work out at the end. Thanks for what you're doing in the military.
  • u what dont worrie u need to worrie about ur kids and spending time with them and how u will be in their lifes and someone women get a sick nice feeling by being mean they like to see others fall and them high up dont give her that
  • happy birthday x
  • hiya hunny..HAPPY BIRTHDAY...IM really sorry to hear about this...i hope that u keep strong through ur troubles....this,unforchunatly happens to many other people in this world,but however when it happens to yourself,it can feel like the end of the world... remember that AB can try help u as much as possible..i no i will be more than willing to try help u...stay strong my friend.. louise x
  • IMPORTANT>>>>>>10 years of marriage is an important legal time frame. MAKE A DECISION EITHER WAY BEFORE THE TEN YEAR POINT. I am emphasising this fact. It will involve money...YOURS! LTC Jeff
  • I know I'm late but Happy Birthday anyway. So sorry you're having so much bad luck. You're doing a hard job and then this happens, I will keep you in my thoughts and I hope your wife thinks a bit harder about what she is doing to you. Stay safe.
  • I feel for you. My husband is in Korea and called and said that he wnted a divorce, I was completely shocked and confused. I dont know what get's into people sometimes. Happy Birthday and I am deeply sorry you are going through this. Joncie
  • ((HUGS)) and thank you for being over there fighting for americans! I am so sorry your wife was so blinded by her own selfishness to inform you of her decision while you are there. I ache for you that you have not heard from your children..and again that is her selfishness. Please talk to the clergy. Military life is exceptionally hard on marriages. Happy belated birthday. Know that we Americans have you in our hearts.
  • I feel really bad for you, but why would she want a divorce? Has something been going on in your marriage to make her want out? I know that your job requires you to be away but she should understand that. Maybe you can talk things out before it ever comes to that. Happy Birthday to you and it is great that you are doing what you are for our country!
  • Happy BirthDay!!!
  • First I am sorry, second, Happy Birthday (mine is tomorrow)thirdly, THANK YOU for serving. I honestly don't know how she can be so mean, she is not worth the effort if she is going to treat you like this, she should have at least had your kids call you. She is cruel. Again I am sorry.
  • how do u espect a marige 2 work if ur not there
  • ** OH My, I am so sorry, say I know how that feels,, even my own mother forgets or just dont care when my b-day comes around I know how that feels, But say we care about you so I really wish U a HAPPy B DAY..... *** F E L I Z C U M P L E A N O S ********
  • If you are delpoyed overseas (in a war zone), I believe there is a new law that she can not file against you until you get back. Lots of marriages become strained when a service member is away. She may not realize how cruel she is being. Military spouses go through tremendous stress and strain during deployment and she may not be seeing things clearly right now. There may still be hope. In the meantime, take solace in the fact that her decision has little to do with you and more to do with the distance and time between you. Realize that mission accomplishment is your first priority and do what you need to do to keep yourself safe so you can come home to your kids (if not your wife). Your relationship with your kids will always be there. Keep in mind, too, that at ages 4 and 6, they have no clue they are missing your birthday. Be good to yourself. Take care of yourself. Don't give up yet :o)
  • That is not only cruel, but it is completely disrespectful. I know it's not the same but Happy Birthday, and thank you for all that you do to keep all of us safe back home.
  • A very happy birthday to you from me too!
  • Happy Birthday!! What you are doing is so admirable and I really appreciate your contribution to our country. It's hard enough to deal with problems like these when you are in the area let alone when you are so far away. I am sure that you are feeling like you are powerless right now. To me it's unbelievable that your wife would behave this way. She sounds very selfish to me. If you guys are having problems the right thing to do would be to wait for you to return home and address the issue then not while you are so far away. I know it's going to be hard but you are going to have to try to focus on right now and the things that you have to do right now. Good Luck and God Bless You!
  • Well yeah happy b-day and kick some butt ^.^ oh and the other part with your b-day and divorce, yeah sometimes woman have bad timing just gotta roll with it and maybe she will grow up someday and understand how badly she hurt you. The kids I know never forgot about you, when you get back you can explain your a yr older and you missed them while you were gone and find someone better or maybe things can be fixed.
  • So sorry to hear that... I really am sorry. My heart goes out to you... but unfortunately we cannot rule other's hearts... Chin up, you are now embarking in a new path with a new beginning... may you find your other half.
  • Hey - happy birthday from all of us on AB. That's mean, and undeserved. Cheers anyway man.
  • My husband is in the military and I just received divorce papers in the mail today. This past week, he stopped telling me he loves me before he hangs up the phone. I thought that was pretty chickenshit of him not even tell me about it. My birthday is in 10 days. Nice birthday present huh? I know how you're feeling. I am so sorry taht it happened to you.
  • HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! Thank you for serving our country. She's not doing things to you, she's doing things for herself even though it is you that feels the pain from that. Since there isn't much you can do right now, hang in there and know that your children are young and that you will take care of business as soon as you can when you return. You deserve better and someday you will realize you are worth more that what you lost. It will be ok, in time. Be patient.
  • my husbands birthday was the 12..last Saturday, he left the week before, I didn't get a card for him from my son because he left us, just like that...but all situations are different I guess. HAPPY BIRTHDAY none the less...
  • Hang it there and focus. First of all, what you're doing is important but your wife has seriously lost touch with that and has decided to move on. You can't control it from where you're at but wait until you can. She is obviously sending you mixed signals she wants out or has other intentions. Keep your sanity intact, talk to someone who understands. Listening to your peers advice is not going to help if it's destructive(If I was you I'd kill the *itch). Your number one priority is to make sure she is taking care of your kids and you need to get your family, brothers, sisters, in-laws, to find out what's going on. Separation did not help your marriage but it's time for you to look beyond it and work out what you want to do from this point on. You have 9 years...are you staying in the military longer or getting out. This will have a lot of impact on the outcome of taking care of your kids or getting back with your wife. I applaud your service and decision to ask for help but get professional help before things get out of hand. Again, keep your head on your shoulders and think this out clearly for a solution that will help you and your family. Best of luck and all of America is on your side.
  • Happy birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thankyou for what you do! sorry i dont have a answer to the question. all i can say is she will regret it, and is stupid to loose you. try find a bright side. thankyou x
  • She can be so mean, because she is choosing to be overwhelmingly SELFISH. Just remember, your children will grow up and they reach a point where they REMEMBER nasty behaviors like this. Most kids then choose to see the truth and dump or limit the amount of contact they choose to have with the parent who acted like an ass! Our Son did...at 13 he came to his Mom and I and said, "I don't like the way Dad acts, I don't really want to see him anymore." (His dad had drinking issues/DUI'S and had been physically abusive to his Mom...he traded custody for property settlement, although when little he did have his son every weekend almost and Mom had not spoken to a little boy about Dad's behaviors) The Son came to his own conclusions! You kids will too...and YOU will come out as the kind and rational parent here! I'm sorry this has been so hurtful...keep your chin up...STAY THE GOOD GUY...and your ex will end up being emotionally "kicked to the curb" as your kids figure out her bad behaviors! True, there is always three sides to every story, but there is NEVER any excuse (baring abuse) for a parent to play their children against the other parent. The Kids are supposed to come first...and what your wife is doing is WRONG!
  • HAPPY BIRTHDAY with lots of wonderful wishes for the future,fight because you have the right!they are your little one too.
  • happy b-day - dont let her get you down - just keep in contact with the kids
  • first...happy birthday,secondly...learn to write
  • Well when the married couple is away from each other a long time they start to grow apart from one another. but I don't understand why she is being so mean for not letting your children call you for your birthday.
  • Well happy Bday and she is a bitch that is all to it. I was married ten and a half years to a marine until he left our marriage for another woman. If you want the truth she may have someone else. Get a good lawyer before she does trust me I know on this one. being in the military and away from home alot or even a little is no excuse for anyone to act like this. I always sent my ex and his friends boxes of goodies no matter where they were and if a woman says i cant handle him being gone all the time they are full of it. Marriage and love shouldnt have any excuses.
  • I am so sorry for what you are going through. I read these great articles on how to get over past hurt and survive infidelity. You can read the articles here: www.MarriageFitness1.com Good luck!
  • Women.Ya cant live with 'em and ya cant shoot 'em. And they call men vindictive.
  • Happy Birthday!! Wow it sounds like you're going through a lot and I am so sorry about that. It sounds like you could definitely use help... But the thing about marriage counselors is that so many of them just want you to sit there and talk about all your past problems and you feel targeted during sessions. And even if you do accomplish anything, its usually how to "communicate effectively" which only makes you better roommates - NOT better spouses... I read a few articles about an ALTERNATIVE to marriage counseling at www.marriagefitness1.com and they were so much more helpful because instead of dealing with all of your problems, it deals with how to move forward. They were soooo helpful! Good luck with everything!
  • Women are incredibly emotional and non-rational. They accuse men of thinking with our dicks but they think with their hearts. She is alone, and mad that she is alone. Too bad she could not have gone with you. She can be mean because she is hurting so bad.

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