I'm sorry you're still so heartbroken about this breakup. It's so hard sometimes, especially when it feels like you just can't move on. So my advice, and this is going to take alot of time, is to try and figure out WHY you're so attached. Figure out why you feel like you can't go on without this person. Either change that, and get back together, or try and tell yourself, this isn't the end of the world. You're going to be okay, and you will get over this- eventually. It's okay to be heartbroken, but please remember, you're the only one who defines you. You don't need ANYONE else to be happy. If you can't make yourself happy first, you're not going to be able to make anyone else happy either. You CAN do this alone, and then eventually, you'll be able to do this with someone else. You're worth it, and you deserve to be happy. At first, those words don't mean anything and it feels like, 'yeah right', I know. But you'll realize in your own time that things will get better, and being away from that one person isn't the most horrible thing ever. And remember, this too shall pass. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope your heart stops hurting you so much, very soon.

I had the same thing for about a year and a half. Everyone is different, and takes different times to heal. But you will, and you'll be more careful in whose hands you place your heart in the future. Good luck, and may you find someone more worthy of your trust, as I finally have. Life goes on,it's what happens when we are making other plans.

:( first of all... I am so so sorry. I know how intense emotions can be... Just be as healthy as you can while dealing with the pain. A good idea would be to talk about it with a therapist. (I know, it's awkward) But you really have to evaluate the reasons one by one of why you are hurting and deal with those feelings. :( I know it is easier said than done, and I am by no means a psychotherapist... good luck , take care of yourself :)

I think that after 2 years if you still find it as painful as yesterday then your first step would be to decide that you you do not want to feel as you do, that you want to feel differently. You see in 2 years, the edge should have come off the pain as time as passed. On one level or another, feeling like you do is working for you, you are getting something from it. You have to decide that you want to feel better instead of keeping the misery alive.

Ok, well I've still felt longing for my ex and its been a year but I kept waiting around like she would come running back into my arms. However, the truth remains that the relationship is over and there is no way that it will ever be the same. Sorry to sound crude but after I accepted that I did not want to be with somebody who did not want to be with me I became empowered because it was no longer me having my happiness depend on her, it was my choice, I was back in control. So what you need to do is possibly have a change of scenery, reinvent yourself and accept that there is no possible way for things to be with the same. There are so many other things to pre-occupy your time and so many other partners who would kill to have what you have. You are good enough to even have a partner and I know for a fact that there is someone out there who will appreciate it. I sought therapy and I've always had a problem with depression, but it was never my ex's fault. Your feelings and associations have always rested with you and that will never change. So do it for yourself and start loving yourself. There is nothing greater than feeling completely happy by yourself. Before you were together you were just you and your ex saw that. You are in control and if you want any support, I'm a user here so feel free to contact me. I'm just trying to help out someone else with information that could've saved me so much heartache in the beginning. Best of Luck to you!1 :) Smile & Count your blessings

I have been heartbroken over the same thing for 5 years now and I still haven't fully healed...though I am getting there. These kinds of things just take time. Mine wasn't really a break-up...it was more like this girl and I met and fell in love and had a great thing going, then I was torn away from her by other things in my life. I haven't seen her in five years, but I have never forgotten her and I am still very much in love with her... Healing just takes time.

I am also very sorry to hear you are hurting. To answer your question, can you answer this one: What upsets you most about it? Do you have a regret or were you badly hurt? And please explain.

You don't give any details but I can make a few general observations. There has to be some reason you have not moved on. Perhaps you enjoy seeing yourself as a victim because you are lazy and don't want to have to do anything. Perhaps you have low self-esteem which would mean you need to take a more pro-active approach to your life and get out and learn things and do things that will make a positive difference to the way you feel about yourself. Including meeting and spending time with others. Another exercise that can help is seeing yourself as the cause of your troubles - what could you have done (if anything) that could have prevented your heartbreak? Once you figure that out then you know at least you were not powerless to do anything. But by all means even if there were things you could have done - do not blame yourself. It might help take the attitude that this was the best thing that could have happened to you because _______ (of all the good things that are now available to you). One thing is certain: the more you dwell upon whatever happened the more you will be affected by it. So get your mind off it. Focus instead on all the possible options there are for you in life if you are willing to go for them.