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  • With the help of my sisters, we finished the bullies off all those years ago. I live in a community of bully-bashers. Bullies enter here at their own risk.
    • DancesWithWolves
      Thanks, for your comment :)
    • Linda Joy
      Yeah her sister went to prison for it too.
  • The thing is DWW, they may have bullied you 35 years ago, but now you are carrying that on, and in doing so you have become the bully towards yourself. Resentment means to "re-feel", so 35 years ago, those bullies were nasty, and clearly got some power over making other people feel bad about themselves, however, that did come to an end, but you persistently re-feeling those moments, has then took on that bullying for a further 35 years, and so you need to put the stick down and realise that you are not living in today. And it might be worth noting that when a person bullies, rarely do they have any real friends themselves, because people who are friends with people like that, are often afraid, and in order to not be on the receiving end of the bullying they align themselves with the bully, but there is NO friendship, or trust, or loyalty going on there, so you may have been lonely, you may have felt hurt, but you maintained your integrity, where as a bully, is the loneliest person there can be, because they have no true friends because nobody actually likes them, they are afraid of them, rarely do they realise that. But if you do not put away your past, you will be doomed because it, you cannot move forward with your life, if you are still living in your past, stop imprisoning yourself there, you do not exist there anymore. You have an inner child within you, that will feel hurt by his past, but it is up to you to be a parent to that inner child, and comfort him, and say it's ok, that isn't happening anymore, and now I'm here to protect you. You must learn to positively parent yourself. This link may help... https://cptsdfoundation.org/2020/07/27/reparenting-to-heal-the-wounded-inner-child/ And DWW, if we can go back in time, I'd whoop there asses with you :) Now, if you want to feel better about it, any suggestions of what we could of done to them to bring them down a peg or two is welcome, sometimes just engaging in this can help....
    • DancesWithWolves
      Thanks, for being so kind and sharing your comment and encouragement with me :)
    • Creamcrackered
      You're welcome, for this short time on this planet, we're all in this together, and I know your past can affect your future, just sometimes we are not aware of it, it's like the shadow that follows us :)
  • I was molested repeatedly at home. I forgave them and put it in the past. There is no way I'm going to let any of them continue to hurt me in my own head because I give them that space and permission. Just push them out of your head every time they sneak back in. Don't let them! Most bullies end up nothings. They go about life talking about the glory days from high school because that's all they have. They're pathetic. You can let them go. You are the only one keeping them with you! Talk to your therapist about it. Get some books from the library.
    • DancesWithWolves
      Thanks for your comment :)

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