ANSWERS: 100
  • you could reamin friends and give her time to mature just a little more but its not totally bad
  • I think this is acceptable. The 17 year old girl will need some space to develop and maintain her friendships, as will the guy. As long as both let each other grow and develop, and be responsible toward sexual health issues should the relationship go sexual, then its fine.
  • I think it's ok but if you do stuff you shouldn't (because one is legal and one isn't) the legal person wil l go to jail and be labeled as a sex offender for life if caught!
  • 3 years!!!!!! OMG.................Go get the gun.
  • Both myself and the Florida Legislature agree this is perfectly acceptable.
  • Fine and dandy!
  • My last girfriend was 20 and i was 30, that was a generation gap. We didn't see eye to eye on most things and we broke up after 2 years. I don't see that being a problem for only 3 years.
  • When I was 18 I married my 40 year old teacher... THAT was not a good idea. 17 with 20? No big deal unless the 17 year old's parents would be likely to file charges (also depending on the state you are in).
  • My 18-year-old-sister is dating a 27-year-old. They act the same, maturity-wise. I think that as long as they are on the same level mentally, they're fine.
  • well when i was 15 I was dating a 20 years old guy. and no I didn't get sexed by him But I did get my heart broken. The 17 year old is playing with fire
  • i don't see any problem with that age different...at least not in my opinion
  • duplicate sorry
  • Not a thing wrong with that. My husband is 6 years older than me and we started dating when I was 16. We have been married for 11 years. I'm still more mature than him though. haha
  • I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as he isn't controlling, and you feel that you are both at a good point in your life. When I was 18 i dated a 26 year old, and that was fun for a while, but he had already gone through the parts in his life that I had yet to experience, so in the end he ended it, letting me know that he didn't want to hold me back, which was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. I didnt know it then, but I'm very glad it happened now, or I wouldn't have become the person I am today, or met the man I look forward to spending the rest of my life with :)
  • i was 17 dating a 23 year old, its no biggy.
  • Here in Florida, If the girl or a parent got upset and filed charges. The guy would be labeled a sex offender.
  • Here in Florida he better be carefull. If someone gets upset he can quickly be charged as a sex offender
  • depends on where you are, cause in some places 17 will get him 20.....(years in prison)
  • it depends on where you are, in some places 17 will get him 20....(years in prison)
  • sounds good to me :)
  • I'm 17 and am going out with a 20 year old. The three years is hardly an age gap, and you notice that most married adults are not the same age either. As long as he treats you well and doesnt ask for more than you're comfortable with, everything should be good. =)
  • I'm 17 and am going out with a 20 year old. The three years is hardly an age gap, and you notice that most married adults are not the same age either. As long as he treats you well and doesnt ask for more than you're comfortable with, everything should be good. =)
  • thats alittle to old
  • i think its ok +3
  • It's okay as long as it's healthy for them to be together.
  • My girlfriend is 17 and im 20 and we love one-another very much and have been involved for abou 15 month now. so i think its alright
  • It depends on the laws of your state whether it's statutory rape that can put him in the slammer, or whether it's okay. If it's legally okay, then it tells me that the 17 yo is mature for her age and/or the 20 yo is immature.
  • You're kidding right?
  • It's fine by me.
  • Hmmmm...MINOR dating a LEGAL ADULT. Is this wrong? I guess the way the "laws" are nowdays--sure, why not? Too bad Michael Jackson is dead now. (God rest his soul.) I'm sure HE would've been glad to hear that ADULTS "messing around" with CHILDREN has now become "acceptable"!!!!
  • It's fine I know Here in Ohio if the person underage is within a 5 year range than it is legal so I'd say it's fine
  • I don't think it's wrong. But just don't do anything too crazy just yet. ;)
  • Seems fine and not particularly unusual to me. Certainly in the UK it would not be illegal.
  • just no sex til you're 18! I think those laws are crap; my boyfriend is 18 and I'm 15 and we love each other!
  • My hubby and i have been togeather for 9 years, we got together when i was 17 and he 20. I think that age gap was perfect for us. the only problem we encountered was when he was 21 and we were unable to have a few coctails together. we over came that and still going strong!! Parents have to be supportive of the relationship, as most of us know that can be a deal breaker no matter what age or age gap.
  • Its perfectly fine as long as your both in the same place in life. Guys generally mature a bit slower than girls so he is probably about the same age as you emotionally.
  • There is no law that you have to date someone who is exactly your own age. That would be silly. Three years, especially if the guy is three years older, is fine. I dated a guy that was 23 when I was 17 and it lasted for 5 years and I outgrew him.
  • sounds fine to me
  • It looks fine to me age wise, as long as it isn't my daughter anyways. Does that make me a bad person?
  • It'd be a lot safer if it was an 18 yr old girl and a 21 year old guy. Seventeen will get you twenty, if you know what I mean...
  • I think that the age difference is close enough that it shouldn't pose a problem. Girls usually mature faster anyway, so a 17 year old girl dating a 17 year old guy might think that he is immature.
  • 3yrs apart isn't bad at all...my boyfriend and I are 4yrs apart. I'd be concerned about being with a 17yr old. Wouldn't want to get into trouble with the law.
  • I am 23 and my girlfriend is 17, so don't worry about it. Just make sure you know what the age of consent is in your area! Best of luck to you both!
  • It's still ok. My friend's dad is 8 years older then his/her mom.
  • I don't know that I'd call it 'wrong' per se but I could wish she was eighteen. . It may well be legal in your state.
  • That is ok. There is not much of an age difference.
  • Dating a 20 year old when you are 17 is a very grey area. If a 20-year-old man has sex with a 17-year-old girl technically he can be sent to jail on statutory rape charges. It is up to how the courts, and of course her parents, prosecute it. I would advise caution.
  • I was 17 and my now husband was 23 when we atrted dating....So i think it's fine.
  • Sure it is ok.
  • Age diff is not the issue. In most states the guy can be convicted of statutory rape...
  • Setting laws aside, I don't think age is the issue I think maturity is.
  • How much are your parents apart from each other? 17 and 20 are relative young, however someone I know was 17 when she dated a 34 year old. Now they are going to marry and are very happy together. Love has no limit, it just happens.
  • no not all, i do think if a guy is a few yrs older, he is alot more mature and he will treat her well....
  • My mom and dad are 9 years apart in age, so its not weird at all.
  • close enough...my wife and I are 3 1/2 years apart...so no biggie
  • Yeah, it perfectly fine.
  • my entire family has partners with big age differences. up to 10 years apart. the only difference, is that they were all grown and aged when they found someone that far apart. its okay. but its more acceptable when your grown
  • Where is this considered abnormal, pray tell? It's the 17 year old dating an 80 year old guy I am worried about or vice versa.
  • I don't think there is a problem with that at all. There are 3 years between my boyfriend and I. I started dating when I was that age to a guy that was 9 years older then me.
  • im 17 dating a 21 year old and weve been together for 3 years and a few months. Theres nothing wrong with it at all!
  • It's legal in most states for that age gap to have sex, and dating doesn't even necessarily include sex! I definitely think it's okay, since it's only a 3 year gap. I know a couple. She just turned 16. He's 19. They're perfectly happy together. They don't have sex, both think it's morally wrong to do so before marriage, but they're an adorable couple. I'm 16 myself and came close to dating a 20 year old not that long ago. The problem was more that I was more mentally mature than he was, not the other way around.
  • guys maturity level is 5 yrs below there actual age. im more mature then my bf and we're 5 years apart. would it matter if he was 83 and she was 80? no, so why should it matter now?
  • Thats nothing! 3 years in a small gap... Me and my boyfriend are 6 years but are working out fine.
  • my husband was 22 when I was 17, so no. i think it's perfectly fine.
  • Not only is this okay, but it's 100% legal in my state.
  • Why date at all? Get an education....If he's 20, he's not the little naive boy that you think. If you're not a naive little 17 year old, you might me a ho'.
  • seems fine to me(:
  • u are seventeen when you are young a large age difference is wrong. however you are 3yrs younger then him which means he is mentally suposed to be on your level, although he is 20 which can cause many legal issues if you do anything sexual even kiss. now if you later in life date someone that is 5 or more years older then you that in society is different. as you grow older you find who you are and once you have done that then i see it as or to date someone much older then you. whoever you are still young and he is still a guy so just remember: "a standing cock had no conscience" - someones grandfather
  • in my opinion this is wrong because the twenty year old is and adult who should be focusing on adults theres one reason he wants to be with a seventeen year old
  • Both are over the age of consent (at least in my country anyway) and three years is a small gap, so I don't see any problem with it.
  • ha I think that the three year difference isn't too big a deal..but i could understand that the difference in maturity would be some problem. it doesn't seem like it would be, but it does sometimes.
  • depending on the state, he can go to prison if anything happens and your parents press charges
  • old enough to choose to have sex = old enough to choose who you have sex with in my book.
  • Seems ok to me. I have a friend whose parents are 14 years apart in age and another friend's parents that are 8 years apart.
  • I think it's fine. When I was 17 I was dating a 20 year old and are maturity levels were about the same.
  • This age difference is okay. As long as the parents are okay with the relationship why should that be a problem.
  • theres no problem there, in a relationship age really shouldn't matter as long and yous love eachother and yous are happy, i mean my boyfriend is four years, two months older than me and were still both teens.. dont think about it its just a number (:
  • I don't know. Is it the same as a 17 yr old gal dating a 20 year old boy?
  • alright bro, i deffinetly see your point
  • Once you leave highschool, the rules change. It is no longer alright to date people in highschool, unless you were dating while you were still attending.
  • When i was 16 i was dating a 26 year old. Im now 20 and we've been together ever since. If your both on the same mental level theres no problem.
  • noooo not at all, im 17 years old dating a 28 year old. how does your mom feel about your relationship?
  • age is just a number...as long as ur happy..my boyfriend is 10 years older than me...but we dnt notice it
  • so long as your parents cant or have no desire to put him in jail. I personaly made a rule for myself at 23 not to date 17 year olds any more (before that I asked their fathers permission first) but I do not expect other people to maintain my code of conduct. so long as noone is forcing their will on anyone else it's all acceptable in my book... well, until you are 18 or emancipated, any potential BF should respect your parents wishes with respect to dating you.
  • its ok, but in some states she is still a minor so he better be careful or he could be charged with rape by her parents. best to wait this she is 18
  • Seems fine to me. Also, the difference is tiny if she is almost 18 and he is only just 20.
  • in my opinion, its close enough...both people involved should have similarities on ideas of a relationship, and the sexual involvement. and it can be legal depending on where you are from...but be wary of the states that it isnt.
  • im 17 and dating a 20 ear old we may fight all the time but we both love each other and everyone is ok with it
  • Age difference is okay as long as there is no sex involved...some states have a law for under 18yrs.
  • its not a big deal. its only three years.
  • It's ok. she's almost 18 and they are on three years apart.
  • i think its fine age is just a number but i think its not a big deal
  • I don't think there is a huge mental gap at that age. The 17 year old should be old enough to understand the pitfalls of sex (if that should come up) and be able to make adult decisions for themselves.
  • If they get sexually involved the guy could end up in prison, but other than that, no problem.
  • There is no problem with a three year age difference...except...you are underage legally until you reach 18. He is old enough to drink, smoke and have sex (legally) If he has sex in mind with a 17 year old girl he may be in big trouble if her parents find out...they could have him arrested....After you are 18 no one can complain about such a small age difference.
  • In legal terms, that relationship is wrong. I think most adult can understand that the difference between those ages are not very great, however, the principal behind the law is valid. I think that the 18yr rule is important, not because there is some natural difference between 17 and 18, but because we must draw a line somewhere about who is a minor, and who is an accountable adult. Accountable adults she stay the hell away from minors. I support the 18 yr rule simply because we need to have a standard to uphold. +3
  • There is nothing wrong with that at all
  • I was 20 and my wife was 17 when we got married and had our first child. That was 10 years and 2 more children ago. So I think it is fine.
  • Nah it's not wrong. I think the age difference is fine :) +5

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