ANSWERS: 31
  • it would depend on the situation, lots of people have trouble seeing their children when a relationship breaks down but if it was just because he didnt care then i would think twice about it. i think id find it hard going out with anyone who had kids though. thats just my opinion i dont think its wrong
  • I would have your child.. but in regards to your question.. that kind of shows a huge amount of irresponsibility doesnt it? I dont think I would want to date that person
  • Probably not... especially if it was serious and we were talking marriage or kids, etc. How someone treats their kids is a good indicator of what kind of person they are, and how they will treat other people.
  • Someone that doesnt have their child doesnt mean alot, someone that doesnt care about their child means EVERYTHING! I wouldnt have anything to do with them, at all
  • No. I can't date someone I no longer respect.
  • I would ask why first..but never caring about a child probably could never have a good enough answer so I wouldn't be able to continue a relationship or even a friendship.
  • Absolutely not. That speaks to their respect level for other people and their responsibilities. I don't care what the situation is or what they make it out to be, if I found out something like that, it would be a wrap. I actually couldn't be friends with anyone like that either.....
  • No because i would always wonder why or how they could have just up and left their kids. And i would worry about their level of compassion after knowing that.
  • Do you know the whole story? If the person is guilty of neglecting the child probably he/she is not convenient to continue dating.
  • Well it depends on the situation, has he told you everything? Is there a reason why he doesnt speak to his child? I think if there were not any other reason than that he didnt want to be a father than yes I would probably have a hard time continuing to see him, but if there were other reasons I would try and give him the benefit of the doubt.
  • It depends: was the child taken from her/him, for example because her husband/his wife simply got away after they broke up making difficoult for her/him see her/him offspring? (Being a guy myself, I'll use "her" from now on) I would be quite angry, for a while, I'll ask her why she never told me anything... I'd feel hurt because of the mistrust, then I'll try to talk to her, help her into negotiating something with her ex-hubby for letting see her child more often, and befriend the kid. He (or she) would be the offspring of the gal I'm madly in love, so, a special one. If she just walked away, I'll ask her why. Hoping for a solution dictated by necessity and not egoism. I could help her, because I love her. But discovering her to be a selfcentered egoistic, could potentially kill the love I ever had for her...
  • No way man.... I would so lose total respect for that person
  • In that scenario, assuming non-adult kids, it would put a huge question mark about continuing the relationship. It's one thing to not have access to your kid(s), it's another not to have a single thought or care about them. I would listen to their thoughts and explanations about the situation. There might be circumstances which would make it understandable, I just can't think of one right now!
  • It takes respect to have a healthy relationship and I could in no way respect that.
  • I had an open mind until I read "never cared about" Sorry.. but no. I support people who give up their children for adoption and the like because maybe they feel it is best for the child..they are not ready.. etc.. which means they DO care.. but to have someone simply not care.. that is a bit scary and socio - moo
  • are you kidding...I could not have any respect for a person like that....let alone conmtinue a relationship with someone knowing that
  • No. I love kids and to think this person cared so little for one they already have would turn me off from him. (I'm saying him because I am a she). I have kids so if I was in a position where I was dating someone they would have to want to have kids be a part of our relationship. Having a child they never see and don't care about tells he wouldn't want kids in his life and therefore he would be out the door for good.
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  • Probably not... It would bother me terribly. You see my dad kinda became like that a few years after my parents got divorced. I never really visited... I couldn't understand how practically outta nowhere he just stopped coming around, calling... all that.
  • nope..i would see that as an indication of a crappy, faithless personality. this question describes my biological father, and he's a total creep.
  • Yeah, sure..long story, bla bla bla....
  • I have met a few people like this but not in a dating way. The truth is that I'm not attracted to them in the first place. Maybe there's something about them that stands out.
  • I wouldn't. I have left potential relationships for that very reason. When I was dating, my goal was to find somebody to share my life and start a family with. I would take their treatment of there other child(ren) as a sign that he isn't somebody I want a future with.
  • NO.....never. I couldn't or wouldn't even date a guy who doesn't pay child support..those things tell you alot about a person character. I want to date someone who cares about what THEY helped create, now some SCUM BAG LOSER, who makes babies but doesn't take care of them---that is not a MAN, he is just a boy who can't accept his responsiblities, and therefore he is not someone i would want to date, can you imagine if you got pregnaut?? he'd leave you and the baby!! Be careful. he is a loser and a dirt bag and you should not open your legs to him!
  • Well seeing how I am a guy doubtful I would find a woman like that. If I did however I don't think it would necessarily prevent me from continuing the relationship but I would have serious reservations about having a family with her.
  • If I found out that they had a child that they never saw? I would ask them about the circumstances and respond accordingly. If I found out that they had a child that they did not care about? I would run like hell and not look back.
  • No, I don't think so. Not unless there were some extenuating circumstances. (I've heard of men who didn't find out they were fathers until the child was 13, for instance. Even this would hinge on how long he'd known and what he'd done about it.) Children are important to me, and I require a partner who feels the same, especially about his own children.
  • noway.
  • No. A man who can't be responsible for the children he brings into world, he isn't worth my time.
  • Probably not.
  • There is no way I could have a relationship with a man who wasn't a part of his child's life. How could I expect him to care for me if he didn't want anything to do with his own flesh and blood?!

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