ANSWERS: 42
  • Admit... cheating is sick, if someone's cheating, it's evdient they don't care for the realtionship.
  • Sounds like you are worried boyfriend will find out. Is the guy you screwed around with chasing after you? Does he wants more time with you in the sack. It would be better for you to break up with the boyfriend and not admit to the cheating, you will only break his heart. I have to ask you this. What did you gain by having sex with another guy aside from your boyfriend? Did your boyfriend not make you feel loved or special enough?
  • Do the right thing since you have already done the wrong thing by cheating. You can't have your cake and eat it to. Try not to do it to your next partner. You want to be with someone else just say so then go and do whatever you want but dont cheat.
  • PLease let him know the truth, if the relationship is strong than he may forgive you. I wish you the best!
  • Tell. Truth is the best policy, and its important to keep your partner updated on how committed... or not committed... you are to the relationship.
  • Do not admit to it. Keep it to yourself. Don't share it with any friends either. There is no way to keep a secret if more than one person (you) knows it. There is no reason not to have both women. Faithfulness is not a natural attribute of human beings. It is in swans and pigeons--we are neither.
  • you should tell,he will find out anyways. Plus you wont be able to hide the guilt
  • Tell the truth. They will know it anyway and not trust you if you don't and may beven end up doing it to you.
  • I think the best thing to do is admit to cheating even if it means separation.
  • It is best to be honest about cheating. Being honest about your wrongs shows courage. Being dishonest is another way of showing the person you love that you cheated on them is being a coward. Cheating is a sickness. It is always best to tell the truth instead of someone else telling your partner, for he / she will get far more upset coming from someone else and not you.
  • if u want him to be extremely hurt and never have the same trust again, then tell him. otherwise, don't. monogamy is overrated to some and great for others...its not unnatural to love someone and have sexual feelings for another...you're not a bad person, you're only human.
  • I recently had to deal with this issue. I had alot of alcohol one night and slept with a friend of mine even though I've been dating another girl for a couple months... So much alcohol to the point where I wasn't aware of everything going on at the moment, unfortunately, I did remember enough to realize it happened when I woke up. Now, I could tell my girlfriend everything, but i realized that it would only hurt her, and to dump my guilt on her would be the easy way out. She could ultimately break up with me or not, but the point is is that I promised myself the next day to drink less without her around and to never repeat this situation again in my life. Hopefully this promise to myself will help get rid of my guilt... Anyways for your situation, I believe if you cheated once and it was a genuine mistake and you immediately regreted it, that you should not tell. Why ruin a relationship that you know has potential, yet can be destroyed over one very regretable incident?
  • If it was just a stupid one off mistake and you know there's no way your partner will ever find out I think it's generally better to keep it to yourself. I think a lot of people who cheat try somehow to make it better by telling their partners so they can tell themselves "Well at least I was honest about it." - unfortunatly all this really does is transfer all your guilt and bad feeling to your partner, causing more hurt and trouble than if you'd just kept it to yourself. What you really need to do is admit to yourself that you've been a sh*t and deal with it, and make sure it doesn't happen again - don't try and pass your own idiocy onto other people to deal with. Work on salvaging the relationship you have, not throwing more crap at it. On the other hand, if there's an ongoing thing between you and someone else you need to deal with that in a different way - your partner deserves to know if you're carrying on with someone else repeatedly so they can decide whether it's time to get out of the relationship. Also, if you think that someone else may tell your partner about your cheating, it's probably best they hear it first from you.
  • keep quiet. Ive cheated myself and if its not a pattern I think its best that it be forgotten about and that you move on.
  • 'Fess up! Don't compound a mistake with another mistake. Sooner or later the truth will be revealed. Face the consequences of your own actions.
  • Wait til your married and then have make up sex. Hey, I saw it on t.v. I'm not married. But no you don't want to ruin the whole relationship thing you have going on. As long as you don't do it in the future with that someone. Keep quiet. Or tell them when their sleeping...it was only a dream. You like em' keep em'
  • The answer often lies in the reason why you did it in the first place... if it was a one night I got drunk and screwd up, that's one thing. If it was I'm not happy here, I should go somewhere else, that's something completely different. I know if I ever cheated the guilt would be too much for me... I would have to admit to it, no matter how much I suffered for it afterwards. I shouldn't have done it in the first place.
  • Admit it take the consiquinces. You will be a stronger person eventually and have integrity. Something you can never have when you hide a lie. It eventually will come out regardless but only after things in your relationship have gotten much worse. If your not willing to admit it then leave the relationship because they are deserving of better than that. If you lie and pretend it will go away Karma will eventually bite you HARD in the ass. I know cause I learned the hard way.
  • It depends if your able to live with that on your conscience.......
  • Aargh! This question makes me mad... Well, not at you... But just irritated in general. I was dating a wonderful guy, but I still had strong feelings for my ex and hence cheated on him. The best is my ex had a SERIOUS relationship that he didn't tell me about til after the fact. I felt bad and told the guy I was dating. He was done. I had to cause I felt too guilty to continue without telling him. But my ex still hasn't told his girlfriend and it eats me up. Especially when he tells me crap like he doesn't love her.
  • You need to admit it. If you cheated on them, they do not deserve you (no offense). If you cared about them and loved them so much, you wouldn't have done it in the first place. Those kinds of things scar people for life. Trust me, I'm one of them.
  • tell him. he might be a little mad and need time to think things over, but he will come around if his love for u is a strong one.
  • It's probably "BEST" to either: not cheat, or just go on and break up! (Because, you're not trustworthy enough to be in a relationship!!!)
  • Never admit it unless they can prove it. Keep it to yourself and your partner. Don;t tell your friends--not even if you trust him/her completely. Two can keep a secret only when one is dead.
  • Here's something from the Paris Review, Summer 2009. #107: Gay Talese on infidelity. "Here's what people don't get. Sex is not that important. It isn't the most important thing in any relationship. Marriage is never about sex, and yet in American fiction so many stories and novels present a sexual dalliance ans an unpardonable sin. (In real life) I never thought that should be true. Marriage is the main event. These other relationships bring me into worlds I would otherwise not know. These relationships have helped our marriage. ..I think of all these people who get divorced over minor matters...I don't see how people can live in conventional marriages. " Gay Talese has a fifty year marriage with a very accomplished,independent and fiscally successful wife.
  • Admit it, let the person come to there own decision whether to stay with you or not!!!
  • if you have the forethought now to prepare for it down the road, don't do it and then you won't have to be concerned about admitting, keeping quiet, or break-ups.
  • Definately confess! Your partner has a complete right to know what kind of partner they have. Keeping quiet because they may breakup with you is a very selfish reason. you are living a lie if you don't tell your partner. Then what is your relationship based on. surely not honesty and trust!
  • obviously if you cheated you dont care about your partner. You may not want to admit to it but how could you live with that guilt .. thats pretty horrible. You would be living a lie.
  • How about.. INSTEAD of cheating... you break it off! GROW A BACKBONE. Quit skulking around in the shadows! If you EVER loved this person, do the right thing and stop breaking their heart..
  • Admit. If someone told me, I'd just feel really sad that I invested in the person and would walk away and didn't want to have anything to do with the person. . If the person didn't admit it right away and kept me going in a lie for a long time and I wouldn't know (though I believe I WOULD know) then I'd be very tempted to do something really nasty to the person. Not nasty enough to go to jail, but nasty enough for the person to remember the lesson for a long long long time.
  • You dont know they will break up with you. You are assuming (probably a strong assumption, and you may be right). But! Yes, you need to tell them. Its worse if they find out and you didnt tell them, for starters. Also a relationship needs trust and honesty to survive. Its like asking 'If I cut Vitamin C out of my diet, will I be ok?' Sure, for a bit. But then when you get all sick (What, isnt that Malaria?) , that would be why-- you didnt take care of your body. Consequences come what may, but reap what you sow. Just try to redeem yourself or move on, but dont live a lie.
  • You know the three rules on this subject - deny deny deny
  • if you care so much about your partner and don t want him to break up with you then don t cheat in the first place
  • Quit being such a coward and just tell the truth
  • It would really depend on why you cheated and if you are going to continue, if it was a one time thing and it will break up a really good marriage, then keep it to yourself and ask yourself why it happend and dont let it happen again, if your going to continue to cheat, why are you with your partner to begin with, you obviously want this other person so fess up and leave, things will only get worse.
  • Good God what's with all the cheating questions...if you don't trust the one your with, why are you with them. Just thought it might save some time if you find someone you don't have to worry about so much, so you can enjoy each others company, not worry about the company they keep. Ok. Got that off my chest. I'm good to goo now. ;D
  • Cheating will never go for long time ,as the time will comes one will be caught cheating and then has to pay the price.
  • Why do you want to admit it? Because it will make you feel better? Because someone's health is at stake you must admit it and deal with the fallout.
  • Best to keep quiet unless you know they will find out. Just read all the judgmental answers given and you will understand the necessity of discretion and care if you are going to "cheat".. Really nothing to "admit" to and quite natural though of course we do feel guilty about it because others would be disappointed in us. But because we can't be open we need to be discreet.
  • It seems to me that people always have a inner voice that tells them when something is up even when we do not want to pay attention to it. When you are cheating, the other person may not KNOW for a fact but most likely they have a vibe. When you are dishonest in a relationship, it is not often that the other half doesn't know on some level that something is up.
  • I think you should admit ..... even if your partner decides to break up with you... you should never lie to the one you had loved.... because it will be wrong and a relationship should never lay on lies....This will also serve you a lesson for cheating .....

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