ANSWERS: 100
  • Absolutely not. I've only one daughter & I'd be foolish to disown her for such an issue.
  • NO NEVER! I would talk to them about my feelings but I would never hate them or disown them.
  • Disown, no. Disagree strongly, yes. Put restrictions on them and partners if they come to our house, yes.
  • Why should I disown her? If she or he is happy then I am happy as well.
  • No. I feel there are far worse things a person could do, like murder and rape. Not saying I would disown them for that either, but I would have a harder time accepting that.
  • I would NEVER NEVER disown my son.
  • NO NO NO!!! absolutely NOT! My 19 year old daughter is gay. I love her very much and I love her partner too. I think if you love someone it is great. So many people go through life without ever finding their true love and that is a shame. Don't let what other people think bother you.You are the one that must live with your decsions. If you are gay and refuse to follow your heart you will never be happy. You will not make anyone else happy either. I think parents that make their kids hide the fact are asking for trouble maybe not for themselves but for their kids. Live-Love-Be Happy.
  • Never. I don't think being homosexual is anything to be ashamed of for any reason. While personally I don't like the idea of homosexual intercourse from a sheer personal preference point of view, I have absolutely no problem with gays and lesbians. David, one of my best friends, is gay and I've been his friend since year 4, and I've never felt any reason to be ashamed to be in his company or associated with him. Most prejudices against homosexuals is simple bigotry, and I personally can't stand bigots.
  • I would never disown anybody I love if they were gay. As long as they are happy that's all that matters.
  • Absolutely not. I'm not sure anything could cause me to disown one of my children.
  • No - To each his/her own
  • never, I'd accept and love them as always
  • No way! humans are either born gay or staright, you have to think about it logically, you are there parents and you are the ones who raise them, somewere along the line if you disagree with it you have to take responsibility. and you have no say in there relationships, you cannot change who they are inside, i would respect it!
  • Although I would disagree and be quesitoning myself as to what I did wrong. I would not disown them for it. I would try to get them help too.
  • No, only if they were atheist.
  • If I were to disown my child, I wouldn't consider myself fit enough to be called a parent. I would be their mum, not their dictator. I wouldn't want them to come to any harm, therefore I would accept them for who they are. Oppressing sexuality is not healthy for anyone, especially my child. Disowning a child, leaving them unloved and shunned is by far one of the cruelest things you can do. I wouldn't wish it on any child, let alone my own. I would support them if they were gay, straight, bi, anything. What kind of parent, no scrap that, person could I consider myself if I didn't?
  • No way. I have no problem with my kids being either way. I would be more then willing to except them for who they are and I would welcome their partner into the family. I'm more interested in wheather or not their happy, moral and productive members of socity then if they're gay or not.
  • absolutly not. if my son/daughter found someone he/she truley loves then why should that be punished?
  • Being gay has nothing to do with the way you are brought up. It seems to be an inherited characteristic. Many gay bashers are repressed homosexuals themselves.
  • My son died at 32 years of age of AIDS. I would want him back no matter what! He was the finest person in my life.
  • Absolutely NOT.. I would not banish my son/daughter if they were gay or lesbian. It's not as if they are disrespecting me or being dishonerable people. It's not as if they are hooked on drugs and robbing banks. They might have a sexual preference that is different from my own. I repeat again that I would not disown my child for being non-heterosexual. That is their preference not mine.
  • I don't have one yet, but I would never, EVER disown my child for something like that. They can choose whatever sexual preference, religion, style, et cetera that they want and I will always love them. Family is family no matter what.
  • What a thought! Never. Gayness is not a choice or a preference. It's the way people are born. When you see the awful treatment gay people take do you really think someone would sign up for that willingly? No way. Gay just happens and always has. As long as there have been people on this earth. I love my daughter and I would be very happy she knew her sexual identity and was comfortable telling me.
  • i would not disown them, instead i would tell them to be like George Takei.
  • Definitely not. I have a friend who severed all contact with his son when he discovered he was gay. 2 years later the son had a serious traffic accident which nearly cost him his life. Then my friend realised how valuable his son was to him and now they are friends. Even better the son's partner is the closest family friend.
  • There isn't a man on this planet good enough for my daughter, so if she came home and said she was gay, I'd say, "Whew!"
  • How could a parent disown their child for being gay? I Guess I could Understand a Parent being a little disappointed Maybe ... if they were hopeing on Grandchildren, But Disown them? No Way!
  • Their sexual orientation is not my business. There are violence and deception issues for which I may consider disowning a child, but not if they were gay! (Although I would be disappointed that there may not be more grandchildren!)
  • Never ever. My son is my son, and whoever he loves, male or female, i love too.
  • No. I can't disown my children for any reason and would not. They do not always please me, but they re their own people and make their own choices.
  • NEVER EVER EVER!!! I accept my children for who they are and they in turn have provided me with a lifetime of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE - how could one turn away from the joy of that? NO!
  • Of course not!
  • Absolutely not. The fact that their sexual preference would be different then my own would not matter to me. As a parent I would wish for them to be happy in their lives and enjoy a loving relationship with their life partner irregardless to what gender they choose.
  • hell no i wouldnt. i don't have a problem with it and it would be kind of hypocritical since i am bi.
  • No, never. It is a personal and individual decision that I would not attempt to dictate to any other person, especially a child of mine. I would hope that they could realize that life might be more difficult in some ways if they have this inclination, but it would totally be their call.
  • no but if they were deomocrats, to hell with them.
  • There is nothing that would make me disown one of my children. NOTHING.
  • no way, i also wouldn't disown them for their hair color, choice of clothing, handedness or any other trait they had.
  • no my child is my child no matter what his sexuality, i`d rather he be gay than a drug addict.
  • I could never disown my daughter. Although I would like the traditional Man and woman relationship for my daughter I would be just as happy in any relationship that she may be in.
  • Heck no! Why should I?
  • That is the worst thing a parent could do. I'm a christian and i don't agree with the lifestyle totally, but i do not agree the world should see them any differently then anyone else. I believe in unity at the end of the day. I know many people who are gay, and i adore them just like everyone else. It's important to understand in life that people have there own decisions, thats why we are allowed to have freedom of speech. I think if you disown your son/daughter you are acting upon evil.
  • I certainly hope not since I'm Bi.
  • my mom is ultra conservative when i came out to her...she cried It was horrible Making your mom cry, over something you cant control but it's 2 years later and shes alot more comfortable with it She even let my girlfriend live with us
  • Nope, not at all. I would encourage my children to be who they are. It would also be hypocritical of me.
  • No, but I think it is hard to come to terms with it. As you see your child grow, you envision "a happy ever after" life for them. When you discover your child is gay, you worry about his or her safety. You become concerned about how classmates, co-workers or teammates will treat them. You become sensitive to gay jokes. It's hard, extremely hard, to think your child will not have the same legal rights as straight people or that they will be judged solely because of their sexual preference. You think how much easier life would be if they were straight. You don't disown them, you simply go to bed each night and pray that they will have the strength to be who they are and that you will have the understanding and compassion that they need. You don't disown them, you love them even more because you've seen that scared look in their eye when they tell you they are gay as they hold their breathe to see if you can love them anyway.
  • they got a right to be what they went to be
  • The main desire I have for my children is that they lead fulfilled and happy lives. Those lives may or may not include a partner who may or may not be the same sex as them. They may or may not have children, live in this country, drive a car, get involved in politics, or any other thing that is for them to decide upon or feel about. I feel sure they would never intentionally cause damage or hurt anyone which is also important. Their life is theirs, as long as it's a fulfilled and happy one then mine will be too.
  • definitely not
  • All I want for my children is to be happy. I have no problems with anyone's sexuality, so no, I would not disown my children if they were gay. I would welcome their partners without any difficulty. After all, there is nothing wrong with being gay.
  • No, and anyone who would is on the low end of my respectability scale. Our offspring are not property, and we have no right to attempt to control their lives on any level, let alone trying to dictate to them who they are.
  • To be honest I don't know. I don't have a child and I am against being gay but don't know if I would disown a child because of it I just hope I never have to make that decision. Being gay is just one thing I will never understand what is the point? Well actually the gays that don't try anything I really don't have that much of a problem with its the ones that try to turn straights gay or try to pursue a straight when they have been told numerous times that they don't swing that way nor do they want to.
  • No, I would not. I am a gay woman. When I came out, my Southern Baptist mother thought that I was going to go to hell even though for 58 years she had accepted that I was a Christian on my way to Heaven. Eventually she accepted me as OK but is still listening to Southern Baptist pastor and members. Final words that led to her acceptance that I am ok and was born gay/homosexual/one who loves differently/a woman who romantical loves women/a lesbian lifetime partner who is in love with another lesbian who loves me and we have been together 8 ears, since I came out at 60. Those words were from my younger brother to her: Mom, if you think that gays CHOOSE to be gay, at what moment in time did you CHOOSE too be heterosexual? Her answers as others like her: "I didn't choose. I've always been straight. He then said: And, that's exactly the answer from gays/homosexuals. (Why would anyone come out as gay when they first have or decide that they should, be prepared to be disowned by parents, friends, siblings, church, employer, others, if in fact they have come to realize that they feel different from others, they may change their mind about coming out, however, they are and have always been gay and heart to heart love differently.
  • That would be being hypocritical for me. My mother is the most accepting person in the world. She's accepting of my religion, my friends (who are less than perfect), and my sexuality. To disown one of my own children.... That would be spitting on everything that my mother is and has taught me.
  • NO, would you disown your child if they robbed a bank, stold a car, did drugs? No, you teach them how to become a better person, teach them how to deal with life. As long as you have values, you treat people with respect and contribute to society.You are what you are! You need to believe in ourself.
  • No absolutely not! If my daughters are happy...I am happy! Life is FAR to short to concern myself about things like this....
  • My son could turn out to be a serial killer, and I will still love him very much. I suspect he may be gay, but he will tell me when he is ready. He realizes it is no big deal to me. I'm gay myself and he knows it. His father, however, would probably be very upset and may disown him. I think he might eventually come around a little bit, but it would never be totally pleasant. His father is going to be upset when he finds out his son is not a republican, also. My son has not told his dad the truth yet, but he is very much a democrat. I suspect that may bother his dad more, lol.
  • no i would not. it's their choise, just because i don't understand it, does not mean it's wrong.
  • No they would still be my baby and I'd just want them to do what makes them happy. They would still be the same person just likeing the same sex.
  • Nope. A parent loves their child no matter what.
  • I would not disown my son/daughter. But I must admit that I would be disappointed. It's not that I have a problem with gay people, it's just that I have certain dreams and goals for my children and being gay and having to go through that "coming out" stage and the hardships involved is not something I look forward to. I would never 'disown' my child, but I cannot help but admit there would be a little disappointment that my own image of my family was not fulfilled.
  • NO!!!!!!! NEVER I THINK THAT IS THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO AND TO USE THAT EXCUSE ITS JUST PLAIN AWFUL! AND IF THEY DO DISOWN THEIR KIDS WELL ITS THIER PROBLEM AS LONG AS THAT CHILD IS HAPPY THAT IS ALL DAT MATTERS
  • Well, Im only 17 so its a bit odd to think that far ahead. But here is my view on homosexuality... As far as Im concerned, being gay is like being tall. Im a very short person. Why in the world would I hate someone because they were tall? Plain and simple, its petty and ignorant to hate someone because they are tall or have brown hair or anything else like that. Its just as petty and ignorant as hating someone because they are gay. I leave everything else out of it, because really thats all it comes down to. I would accept my son/daughter as I would accept them if they were tall and I were short.
  • Though I would not want them to be gay, I would not disown them.
  • noooo.....i would never! thats upsetting im not going to lie! but no i wouldnt, i would repsect his/her dision.
  • no I wouldnt i would support them 100%
  • Wouldn't bother me at all.
  • No Way. I Love then unconditionally.
  • Not ever. My daughter had some exploration fun when she was coming of age and I loved her then as much as I always will. She's a great kid.
  • no, i would always have them know they are welcome home, whenever and whatever.
  • I have to admit, I would have a hard time with it... but that comes from a very strong religious background (Irish Catholics all the way back to St. Patrick...) But I am getting better. Never could I "Disown" my child. That would not only make me a terrible person, but a bad mother. And I never wish to be that. No, I would be supportive ofmy child, and love him or her with everything in me, just as always. In time, I am sure I would become more comfortable, but it would be difficult at first.
  • I don't have any children, but, If I did, I think that I would love them no matter what.
  • No Never!!! I love them unconditionally...which means no matter what they do, who they are now or become someday, my love for them will never change. That is the way it should be for every parent when it comes to their child.
  • No. It would freak me out, but how could I possibly disown my child? There is nothing more precious in this world than family, and friends that are family. We hurt those we care for most, but its against the rules to crush them. Families are for holding each other up, not for breaking each other, and to be disowned by someone you love...? I could not do that to my child.
  • Of course not. I know its not the ideal situation and not what you want for your child. But at the end of the day its your childs life.And i love my children and will accept what ever comes with them
  • Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you... -Kahlil Gibran
  • Without a doubt. I wouldn't want them carrying around my name. I'd still love them and pray for them but it would be better for both of us. I have a temper and a gay child would press my buttons everytime I see them. It would be for its safety until I calm down.
  • No. They are STILL MY CHILDREN..You cant stop a mothers Love.
  • Never, you love a child with everything you have, it would make no difference to me at all.
  • No, never. Disowning your child is like disowning yourself and denying yourself of a parent child relationship.
  • not at all,i love them for who and what they are
  • no, I would not. I would love them just the same. At times I think that my daughter is gay, by the crowd she is with, but I have not approached her with it. So no, I would not disown her or mim.
  • No I would not. That's just sad.
  • no i wouldnt.I am gay and i knew it from about 6 or 7 years old. I tried to be heterosexual all the way until i was 20. And if ur wondering (i dont LOOK gay ) I married my high school sweetheart and was with him until my boy was two years old. I didnt have an affair on my husband... i just devorced him and then i explored my homosexuality. I knew from when i was little. You know that about urself.And u carry it for a long way.( in the closet) Heterosexual people KNOW they like the opposite sex... they just do.I have a son that ...half his life was raise in a 2 mom household. He is a healthy hetersexual an he can care less about that stigma.My family didnt talk to me for a long time. Now after 13 years... they dont care about public opinion either. They just want me to be happy.2 out of 10 families has a gay person in it.Could be ur brother sister uncle aunt ect.. EVERONE HAS THIER GAYS. Its genetic if you asked me. Who would want to be GAY? and be ostrasized? People come out because they cant live a lie anymore.
  • Absolutely not! UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is one of the most important things to me in my life. I could never understand parents who would disown their child b/c of their sexual orientation. What if they have a beautiful heart and they are kind, loving, caring, compassionate...? A person's sexual orientation does not determine if they are a good person or not.Unconditional love is accepting and loving someone, no matter what.
  • no not at all...who cares its their lives.
  • No, of course not. I would be concerned that about the cruelty of some people towards gays, and would definitely worry about the health problems if he/she is promiscuous.
  • heck no there is a couple of people in my family that are gay and I think that is perfectly okay because its really no one elses business about their sex life so people would have to be cruel to do that to their own family well thats how I feel.
  • NEVER if you can't turn to your parents for ANYTHING, then who are you supposed to turn to? one should never have to think twice about telling their parents a thing...
  • I would never disown my children, but I would be very hurt and sad over there decision. I would feel like what they were taught went down the drain in some ways. Everything about there character I would still love. I would have to accept them for who they've become, but at the same time I would still speak truth to them.
  • No I would not. I would never disown my child for being who he or she is...not even if my child voted Republican. ;)
  • Nope. If I had children, I'd love them, No matter what their sexuality.
  • Hel* naw! In my opinion, any child can't afford to have that that type of deep scarring in their life. It's normal to not agree with your son/daughter's sexual preference. You NEVER have to agree with their choice(s) to love and accept them.
  • I DONT THINK I WOULD DISOWN HIM BUT OUR RELATIONSHIP WOULD NEVER BE THE SAME

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