Do you think it is abuse to the children to stay in the marriage, and have an affair?
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Most certainly yes. It is far better for the children to live with ONE happy parent than TWO unhappy parents. Children see and hear much more than we give them credit for.
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Self-abuse for the person who decides to stay and enable the person who is having the affair. The "victim" is responsible for his/her happiness as changing another is never a fruitful endeavor...
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Not particularly. It is abusive to the relationship though.
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No I don't believe it can be considered abusive to the children. It is obviously not good for the children though and I think s/he should leave the family home. I don't believe in staying in a bad and unhealthy relationship for the kids - they pick up on everything! Better their image of their parent, and memories of their childhood are not ruined by being around all that negativity.
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I wouldn't classify it as abuse. But I would say that the person having the affair is putting their wants above their children's needs. Because if they get caught, there is a good chance that the children's lives will be affected (i.e. parents split up, have to move, on top of all the emotional issues that come up). Someone who has an affair especially when they have kids, in my opinion, are extremely selfish and shortsighted.
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I wouldn't say abuse but if you're already having an affair I'm pretty sure the children already know mommy and daddy don't love each other via fights and arguements. don't stay for the kids thats just gonna ruin everyone.
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I think it can be under certain conditions. If the kids witness one parent being signifigantly injured y the other, then the children naturally suffer along with the suffering parent, so yes.
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Yes, unless that arrangement is OK with your spouse.
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I have recently been caught in my cheating and it has turned my life upside down. I love my wife and my kids, it's why leaving was never an option. But my wife and I were having problems, I tried asking her to get help with me, but I was weak and did not fight hard enough. So out of selfish spite and insecurity, I started cheating. The devastation I have caused is unforgivable. I am a smart man, how did I not see this coming? If I had it all to do over again, i would change it all!
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i don't know about abuse but its not fair for the children to grow up in a broken family. now depending on what they see and hear, chances are that they'll have disfunctional relationships as well.
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Cheating can carry mental abuse towards children in the long run and can affect their trusting others when they grow up , so with that , yes I think it is a form of abuse
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Come on,what do you think.
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I don't know if I would call it abuse. But it really is teaching your children poor behavior on your part. Do you really want to teach your children it is okay to cheat when you committed not to? You are teaching them lying and infidelity is okay. Better to divorce and show them that sometimes you fall out of love.
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